Does he want to break up with me but doesn't know how?
Q. ok...so im 17 about to turn 18 and i have been seeing this same guy on and off for two years. the thing is we have never met. i met him in a chat room and we instantly hit it off. we haven't broken up in over a year so im thinking things are goin...
A. 5 April 2009: But you still have no idea what's going on in 98% of his life.
This will happen again.
Are you sure you can cope with a relationship when you get so worried you come on problem page sites just because he hasn't called you for a week?
I still... (read in full...)
My boyfriend denies having a girlfriend to other girls. But always tells me he loves me. why?
Q. Hey! I'm 20 and my boyfriend is 24. This is our first ever serious relationship and didn't expect to turn out to be one either! We told each other we loved each other a couple of months ago and have recently just moved in together temporarily until ...
A. 5 April 2009: He thinks that by saying "ok I won't go on bebo again" will just shut you up and fix the problem.
I don't think he's quite understood that you weren't bothered that he was talking to girls you were bothered that he said you were "doing his tits... (read in full...)
Should I break up with him, give him space or try to talk it out?
Q. Aunts! I'm in desperate need of help, I don't know what to do and I'm making myself sick about it. I got in a huuuuuuge fight with my boyfriend last night. We were out at a club watching a friends band play, and he was acting like an asshole to me. ...
A. 4 April 2009: Well if you are determined that it's all your fault then just apologise and carry on the same.
Try not to get so hysterical in future.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Should I break up with him, give him space or try to talk it out?
Q. Aunts! I'm in desperate need of help, I don't know what to do and I'm making myself sick about it. I got in a huuuuuuge fight with my boyfriend last night. We were out at a club watching a friends band play, and he was acting like an asshole to me. ...
A. 4 April 2009: No, I'm sorry, he does not have an argument here.
You were upset because he was an arse. He can't just say "well it's pointless" and turn over and ignore you.
When he gets home say that you are sorry if you were not able to talk last night ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend denies having a girlfriend to other girls. But always tells me he loves me. why?
Q. Hey! I'm 20 and my boyfriend is 24. This is our first ever serious relationship and didn't expect to turn out to be one either! We told each other we loved each other a couple of months ago and have recently just moved in together temporarily until ...
A. 4 April 2009: I think it's very sad but you have found that he doesn't actually respect you and will never be the man he claimed to be.
Dump him.
Tell him that you logged onto bebo and it went onto his mailbox. I don't think you'll need to say any more tha... (read in full...)
Should I break up with him, give him space or try to talk it out?
Q. Aunts! I'm in desperate need of help, I don't know what to do and I'm making myself sick about it. I got in a huuuuuuge fight with my boyfriend last night. We were out at a club watching a friends band play, and he was acting like an asshole to me. ...
A. 4 April 2009: So you were crying and having anxiety attacks and he was more worried about his sleep.
Wow he obviously REALLY cares about you!
Dump him.
If he gave stuff about you then he would have stayed up all night to work things out, not just tho... (read in full...)
Does he want to break up with me but doesn't know how?
Q. ok...so im 17 about to turn 18 and i have been seeing this same guy on and off for two years. the thing is we have never met. i met him in a chat room and we instantly hit it off. we haven't broken up in over a year so im thinking things are goin...
A. 4 April 2009: Sorry hun, but if you have never met then there is a good chance that he could be up to anything.
He could be in Disneyland with his wife and 3 kids.
I think you need to ask yourself if a guy on the internet is all you really want in a boyfri... (read in full...)
He's perfect on paper but is this going anywhere?
Q. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. I am 42, he is 47. He is divorced and has residency of his child aged 15. I have residency of my 2 children aged 6 and 8. We say that we are made for each other and that we are ...
A. 4 April 2009: I think you need to set him a clear target.
Just tell him one night out of the blue, perhaps when you are watching a film with a wedding.
"I think I'd like us to be engaged by the end of he summer."
If no ring appears by September the... (read in full...)
I think I need more than just love.
Q. Is love enough? Or do I need more than just love? I'm dating a guy right now who is very loving towards me, both physically and emotionally. We are both in college. I will be graduating in May and will be moving to another state, and he will be i...
A. 4 April 2009: Well there is nothing wrong with having your priorities in order when it comes to marriage.
To be honest, his family problems wouldn't bother me as he could easily just stop talking to them and go his own way.
The fact he has no ambition woul... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for asking her to stop talking to him?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been going out for almost a year. We recently broke up for like 3 weeks and then got back together. During the 3 weeks, she was seeing another guy quite frequently, hooking up with him several times. And now that we're back...
A. 4 April 2009: When you say "hooking up" what do you mean?
If you mean they just hung out then this could very easily be a friend and you need to give her some trust. However, you could tell her that it bothers you and then just pamper her and make her forget t... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin! Could I be pregnant by accident?
Q. can i be pregnant?? i was giving my bf a handjob last week and i didnt wash my hands and touch my vagina but from above my underwear i'm a fraid that a sperm might got inside me by acciendent ..and my period is late few days and i'm feeling dizz...
A. 4 April 2009: There is a very slim chance that you could be pregnant.
Take a test to be sure.
However, your other symptoms sound more like an infection and that can delay your period, as can stress.
Drink lots of water, give it a few days and hopefully y... (read in full...)
I want him to want me, I don't want pity sex!
Q. I have been with a man for over 3 and a half years. I am about 14 years younger than he is and that has always seemed to be a good thing. We have one child together and I have two from a previous marriage who consider him their father... Here's my ...
A. 4 April 2009: If he is on medication that has killed his sex drive then he does kind of have an excuse. My friend has medication that does the same for her. BUT she does at least try and do things for her boyfriend as she realises that he needs something to keep ... (read in full...)
Does seeing my friends bother my boyfriend?
Q. Is my enthusiasm for seeing my friends bothering my boyfriend? When we plan to spend time with our friends..separately I say things we're doing blah, blah and add an exclamation point! But that's just who I am..a positive gal! And he knows thi...
A. 4 April 2009: This is THE worst case of a girl trying to over-analyse meaning out of some poor guy that I have ever seen on dearcupid.
He said "Ok, have fun" and you are here asking us what he means by this and if you should change your personality and social l... (read in full...)
Why do we have to take a break after the breakup?
Q. why do we have to take a break after the breakup? if at all we have decided to remain friends after the breakup so what purpose does taking a break fulfill? i think it kills the affection addiction closeness and all the qualities for which we love ...
A. 4 April 2009: Sounds like she doesn't want to split up with you straight away, and by saying that you are taking a break and then reassessing the situation, she has the option of going back to you if there are no better offers.
Just tell her that you want to ... (read in full...)
Am I in any way tied to her after wearing that chain/necklace?
Q. i broke up with my gf recently ...we were committed for a year and were planning about convincing our parents for our marriage... but being only 17 always used to talk about our marriage and kids and was super excited which made me feel awkward ... ...
A. 4 April 2009: You don't make it clear over whether she is wearing the necklace you bought her, or you are wearing it...
If you are wearing it then take it off.
If she is wearing it then don't worry about it and move on. I still wear some things that my e... (read in full...)
I know right from wrong, but I choose to do wrong anyway. WHY?
Q. We started dating 2 years ago, as co-workers (and his uncle owns the company so we hid our relationship for the first 6 months). I looked and found another job about a year into our relationship so that our relationship could work. Six months late...
A. 4 April 2009: You're doing it because it's dramatic, and it gives you a momentary high when you have sex with him.
And you have too low self esteem or self value to see that you actually could do much better than this.
Ask yourself what you want from a rela... (read in full...)
Why does he ignore me for days?
Q. I met this guy recently. He is sixteen, I am fourteen, turning fifteen in about a week. We instantley connected on many levels. Since he is moving on April 20th, started talking in Feb. We decided not to take things any further, and just remain ...
A. 4 April 2009: It definitely seems like his feelings have started to fade.
But then he is going to move away from you in a couple of weeks so he could be trying to withdraw a bit ahead of time.
If it's not working any more then save yourself 2 weeks of furth... (read in full...)
HE keeps reminding me that I said we were just friends!
Q. I had been dating this guy for about 4 months; during that time things were ok, but never really felt he cared that much. so one day he had to leave to another state so we stopped talking. After a while he came back to stay here, so for sum reas...
A. 4 April 2009: Just tell him then!
Tell him you like him and want to be with him again.
Don't do any of the "with benefits" stuff as you'll end up feeling desperate and used.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
My g/f told me I was her first. Should I believe her?
Q. my girlfriend told me she couldn't really feel something when i was inside her, but she told me i am her first time but before me there was a boy who just fingered her for a bit but didn't have proper sex, so she told me she never really have sex ...
A. 4 April 2009: Well why would she lie?
And why would you think she was lying?
Either there is something you aren't telling us, or you have serious paranoia.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Should I talk to her when she's drunk like this?
Q. I've been talking to this girl I met online for about a month now. She lives in the area, we've exchanged numbers but never talked over the phone. Only texted and IMed. She went to a party and started texting me saying she wants to talk to me, and ...
A. 4 April 2009: Talk to her as it'll be hilarious!
Then you can call her when she's sober again and have a real chat.
The poor girl obviously really wants to talk to you but is too nervous to call when sober, and you don't seem to be putting in any effort to... (read in full...)
Battling the temptation and the right.
Q. This is the follow up to the Co-Worker question. I've kissed my co-worker the past 3 times we've worked together. My boyfriend found out about the first time and almost left. I wish he would have. I don't want to hurt him, but I really want to be ...
A. 4 April 2009: There is no magic answer here that will solve your problems.
You just have to actually grow up, stop waiting for your problems to solve themselves and take control.
You do know that by messing around hoping your boyfriend will leave you and yo... (read in full...)
Has he been using me this whole time?
Q. I have asked lots of undetailed questions before on this site but now im going to really go into detail cuz i havent gotten help yet. Thanks to whoever answers! So me and my boyfriend have been dating for a long time now. And in the begginging e...
A. 4 April 2009: Do you honestly think this is normal in a relationship?
He doesn't trust you, doesn't respect you, and treats you like crap.
I think you know deep down that this is not right, and no, he can say what he wants but any man who acts in the way ... (read in full...)
I think I may have OCD
Q. I may just be dramaticizing this but i think i have OCD, i think this because i always pay attention to the smallest most pointless things such as writing the date for a lesson i write in pencil which i may rub out continuosly untill i decide it ...
A. 4 April 2009: I see a few people on here thinking they have OCD when really they are just a bit odd or a bit anal about things.
OCD means not just that things have to be right, but that you feel you HAVE to do these things or something terrible will happen. ... (read in full...)
How to I encourage him to come out?
Q. hi. well long story short i love my bf to pieces (yeah im gay if ur wonderin lol) and well im out and people r totally fine wiv it, but he's not and its really putting strain on our relationship. I mean i cant even look at him in a way which even a ...
A. 4 April 2009: Sorry hun, but you just have to be there and be supportive of him.
Coming out is a very personal thing. He has everything to lose at the moment and considering how young you are I can see why he just doesn't want to deal with it.
You also have... (read in full...)
Could going on birth control make her depressed for a week?
Q. I've been seeing this girl for about 3 months. Everything was wonderful up until about a week ago. She stopped texting me and whenever I see her she seems unhappy at the fact that I'm around and she doesn't show any affection to me at all. But ...
A. 3 April 2009: Hmmm, could swallowing enough hormones to stop her body from acting naturally every single day have ANY effect on her emotions?????
Well that's a toughie for sure!
OF COURSE THE FIRST 3 MONTHS OF BEING ON THE PILL IS GOING TO GIVE HER MEGA PM... (read in full...)
How do I get out of being naked at a sauna on a second date?
Q. I have just started seeing this guy and for our second date he wants us to go for a sauna. I have never been before and I am a little worried what do you wear, he says he wears nothing, I am not up for that on a second date, I am not that confident ...
A. 3 April 2009: He's either completely clueless, or doesn't want to put any effort in before he gets to see you naked.
Tell him you do not get naked on a second date.
If he's a decent guy he'll have no problem and will not mind.
If he's a jerk who wanted t... (read in full...)
Is her mind mature enough to deal with the breakup?
Q. i broke up with my 16 year old girlfriend today saying my feelings have changed and it has no future basically and we are wasting our time in it...she truly loves me and wanted me in her life by hook or by crook! so after frustrating arguments ...
A. 3 April 2009: She's 16 and this is the first time she's been in love. Of course she thinks she's going to keep a silent vigil and never ever get over you and never be able to even kiss another human being. We all feel like that with our first boyfriends.
You n... (read in full...)
After 33 years of marriage I am so hurt and now don't know what to think...
Q. I have been married for 33 years and a couple of years ago when I was doing the laundry his underwear was full of c--- and I know that it wasn't from us at that moment in time, so I confronted him and he just kept saying I don't know and at ...
A. 3 April 2009: Well it's perfectly natural for men to do that in their sleep without dreaming about it. It just his body's natural maintenance check.
But it is very odd for him to just not tell you it was a dream for 2 years.
I would still be very suspicious,... (read in full...)
What's going on? He says he's over but he's still on my sofa!
Q. I have a major boy friend problem and need help. I've been with my partner for 4 years. On Saturday night we had a massive row and on Sunday morning we discussed it and in temper I told him it was over. He said fine. I didn't mean and I tried to ...
A. 3 April 2009: You've said you want him back and he's said no.
Give it one last try, sit him down and tell him you really want to work things out with him and get back together.
If he's still not interested then you just have to accept it's over and tell hi... (read in full...)
I'm young but fall for older boys!
Q. So, im im still a teen, and i tend to only fall for older guys. k im 16, and a perfects age to me would be 17 to 23. i always fall for older men, and obviously they all eventually come to the conclusion that im too young, but it always takes time ...
A. 3 April 2009: When you say "It takes them a while to decide...." do you actually mean it takes them a while to find out your real age?
If that is the case then you may find it's the fact you are lying to them that's putting them off.
Other than that you ju... (read in full...)
Was he avoiding saying I love you back
Q. I have been with my boyfriend 6 years in january we had an argument lots of shouting and things said i didn't mean. A few days later he said he wanted to end it cuz after the row his feelings towards me had changed he wanted to be with me but just ...
A. 3 April 2009: If he didn't love you he wouldn't have got back with you.
You said "Do you love me?" and he said "I do."
Just because he didn't use the EXACT phrasing you wanted to hear means nothing.
Now go and make him see why he did love you and show hi... (read in full...)
I lost my fiancee AND my best friend
Q. Two days ago was my wedding day. I had been with my supposed-to-be husband for a year and two months but there was a conflict. You see, my best guy friend of nearly a decade stood up from his seat in the third row at my wedding and called out, 'I ...
A. 3 April 2009: Look at it from your poor finance's point of view.
You are standing at the alter, happy as anything, when a girl he is REALLY close to stands up says "I object" and bursts into tears and runs off.
He then looks at you, and runs off after her. A... (read in full...)
How do I tell a classmate I have a crush on her?
Q. Ok so I'm obsessed about a girl. I don't know her that well because I can't keep a conversation for very long. I gaze into her big warm eyes and I loose what I was going to say next or I say something stupid. I often think and pray about her and ...
A. 3 April 2009: Unless you are 13 or under I don't think the "My friend fancies you!" method will impress any girl.
This is one of those situations in life where you just have to be a man and get on with it.
Next time you are talking about something with h... (read in full...)
She wants me to stop smoking. Should I change for her?
Q. Ok I have a dilemma. Me and my girl have been going out for 7 months now. About everything is wonderful, but like every couple we have our issues. (not sure if the post is allowed, but it is a serious relationship problem i need help with) Plain ...
A. 3 April 2009: Ok first, that serenity you talk about etc that IS getting high. That is what Pot does. You can try and make it sound like a medical supplement all you want but you are still getting high on a regular basis and lying to your girl about it. Also, ... (read in full...)
Why does he pretend he hates me in front of his friends?
Q. Robert has been a lot nicer to me lately. He stares at me and likes to make me laugh. He makes it sound like he's not close to me but he is. I know that I'm getting closer to him and I don't know how he's taking it. I like him a lot and I enjoy ...
A. 2 April 2009: The reason he does this is because he's a little boy and he's too immature to be dating.
If you take this behaviour and put up with it like it's normal for a boy to be horrible to you then you are learning a bad lesson and you are teaching... (read in full...)
Am I just waiting for Mr Right?
Q. Argh! i am 20 years young and single this really bugs me! i've not had a relationship for a long time i've liked guys but you know things happen like they don't like me so on so forth. anyways when it does come to guys liking me! i never seem ...
A. 2 April 2009: I'm 25 and I haven't found a tenner on the floor in AGES.
What you are describing here is a run of bad luck.
Damn right you should hold out for your perfect guy. Never ever settle.
The best advice I can give is just to make sure you have a ... (read in full...)
How to learn to drink in moderation?
Q. When I go to bars, I sometimes drink too much. Usually when I am with certain friends or when I am bored. Can anybody give me some advice on how to learn to drink in moderation? ...
A. 2 April 2009: You just have to learn when you are a fun happy drunk, and then when you are a leering vomiting drunk and don't cross that line.
Never do shots, never mix your drinks, stick to the stuff you know your body gets on with. (I can drink vodka all nigh... (read in full...)
Advice needed... I don't know what to do, should I stay or get out of this stressful relationship?
Q. My girlfriend of almost 11 months now treats me like shit. She's controlling, demanding and takes me for granted... did I mention disrespectful... she insults me all the time and smacks me in the face or butt when she get's angry. Now I love her ...
A. 2 April 2009: I agree that she is in the wrong here and you are wrong for putting up with it.
If you take it then she'll carry on doing it so tell her you are sick of it and you want to break up.
One other thing...
You NEVER have a "right" to touch a g... (read in full...)
How can I get in touch with him???
Q. My boyfriend is in the navy and is currently away at sea! The only form on contact we have is through emails, and he only gets a chance to check his emails once a day. He doesn't have a phone with him. Does anyone have any idea how I would be ...
A. 2 April 2009: He should have told you about this.
Are you not in touch with his mum? She will know about this too. Call her and check.
My hubbie is in the army and when he is away we get given a card with the emergency number for the Joint Casualty and Com... (read in full...)
I feel like I ruined my life and disappointed everyone
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend on and off for 4 years. I THOUGHT we had a great relationship until a few months ago. We had alot of unprotective sex (he knew I wasn't on the pill but said sex felt beter with out a condom) I'm now 18 weeks ...
A. 2 April 2009: I don't get how either of you didn't see this coming. The pill and the morning after pill is so easy to get hold of.
It looks like you are on your own though.
Everyone else has given you the "it wasn't your fault" stuff so I'm going to be prac... (read in full...)
She has just lost it!
Q. PLEASE BEAR WITH ME PEOPLE ...IT IS A BIT LONG STUFF i have badly messed it up !! i broke up with my girlfriend 2 days ago telling her that our marriage is not possible because of our family problems. she called me yesterday and cried a lot sayi...
A. 2 April 2009: Well if you say you love her you can at least talk to your family about it.
See how they will feel.
You have been very cruel to her by leading her on and then saying that it was basically all lies and will never happen.
If it truly cannot wo... (read in full...)
Do normal couples have private social networking profiles? (Facebook, myspace)
Q. Privacy or secrecy?? Just wondering in a normal relationship (married or long-term) do partners have private or secret emails or profiles? I have been with my partner for almost three years and he is adament that it is okay for him to have a ...
A. 2 April 2009: Both my husband and I have accounts but we both know about each other's stuff.
I don't think my husband has ever seen my myspace but knows it exists. We are friends on facebook and he reads the public entries on my livejournal sometime... (read in full...)
Age ain't nothing but a number?
Q. I'm 42 and my new girlfriend is only 17. We both really like each other and are happy when we are together and talk on the phone a lot. The problem is, she's my step-sister and we don't know what the reaction would be were our parents to find out. ...
A. 2 April 2009: Unfortunately, yes, both age and "incest" will be a problem.
Society is still not very happy with men in their 40's dating girls who are within months of the age of consent. It'll be tough but if you really love each other then you will get thro... (read in full...)
I call him sometimes up to 16 times in an hour or send 60 text message...could I lose him because of this?
Q. Hi, this is my short story... I have been seeing this guy for about 11 months now, we get along and like being with each other, we spend a lot time together, even in his busy schedule he puts time a side for me, he has his own business and is ...
A. 2 April 2009: Yes you will lose him.
You just have to accept that he is a big boy and he can look after himself.
Millions of people wander round with nothing happening to them so the chances of it being him are very small.
Keep your phone on but just t... (read in full...)
Circumcision issues.
Q. I love my penis in every way, except that I wish that I still had a foreskin.. Unfortunately I was circumcised at a young age (4), partly because of cultural reasons and partly because I had a tight foreskin which made it difficult to retract all ...
A. 1 April 2009: If it'll make you feel better then they do say circumcised men last longer in bed as it's not as sensitive.
But I think you need a man's perspective on this.
As a woman I will never understand why you all get so excited and put so much pride in... (read in full...)
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