I'm really struggling to cope with the sudden set back in what I thought was a great relationship.
Q. I need some love life advice even thought i am pretty sure i know the answer already. I have been seeing someone i love to bits for 5 months and he loves me too. Recently he bought a house a moved out of his parents, and to start with he said he like...
A. 27 July 2009: Yey!!
I'm really glad it worked out.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Is my LD boyfriend still in love with his ex or does he love me?
Q. Dear Cupid: I am a 30 year old woman in a long distance relationship for about 3 and 1/2 years. We planned to get together for the pasted year but it just hasn't happened. However, the fact of the matter is that I do want to move in with him...
A. 13 September 2008: The fact he is still friends with his ex isn't a huge thing but the fact he is refusing to cut ties is.
Tell him you will only move in with him if he cuts ties with his ex. Tell him to chose you or her.
If he cuts ties with her and proves he lo... (read in full...)
If she trusts me then why is she all over my cell phone?
Q. We Need to grow up! Am I Right? my gf and i seem to have trust issues were exactly the same except i show how i feel and what im thinking and she keeps it all in. She tells me she trust me but then she signs into my cell phone account... (not tru...
A. 13 September 2008: Yes you need to grow up, but you can't just tell her that and expect her to magically change over night.
Make a list of things you want to not happen, like "don't go through my phone."
She can make a list of things she wants not to happen, l... (read in full...)
I have a crush on my best friend, but he told me that he likes a different girl. Do I tell him my true feelings?
Q. I met this guy last year, and we've been best friends since then. Tonight..he suddenly started a conversation about our crushes. He used to say I'm special and cute and all those flirty stuff, and I flirt back, but we both know we're joking. But the ...
A. 13 September 2008: It's a gamble.
If you tell him your feelings then you risk losing his friendship but you could get more.
If you get more and go out with him then you break up, then you've lost a boyfriend and a best friend.
It's up to you whether you want ... (read in full...)
He is hurting and wants space but also feels alone. Should I call him more or less??
Q. I have a friend who I have very strong feelings for and his girlfriend has finished with him. He is devastated and tearful, still wants my company when he is in the country as he works abroad, but I am confused when it is OK to call him, increase ...
A. 13 September 2008: Call him and ask. Then tell him to call you when ever he wants to talk.
He needs a friend to take him down the pub, not to discuss his feelings with really.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
We live together but only get to see each other two afternoons per week, I'm so confused and embittered with the hectic life we are living! Any ideas?
Q. I have a huge dilemma. My fiance never has time for our relationship. He works nights I work days and on top that he has a crazy mother and an younger brother with a severe disability so he is constrained to spend much of his free time at his mum's ...
A. 13 September 2008: I don't think dumping him is the answer - it's just a last resort.
Start looking for day time jobs for him. If he switched jobs then he would have a much easier time spending evenings with you.
Jet onto the job centre and any specialist websi... (read in full...)
Why did he invite me at a party at his place when right after our break up he moved on to a new girlfriend?
Q. after breaking up and telling me it wasnt a gud time for me and him,he texted me the other day and said "party at place xxyz,. house xyz at xyz time" the house number he gave me was his,what i dont understand is y couldnt he just say he was ...
A. 13 September 2008: Sounds like he just sent out a mass text to everyone in his phone.
If he has your number then you will have got the text.
Ignore it and don't let a little text upset you.
You are better than that!
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Any experience of feelings changing to a friend, from platonic to more??
Q. Has anyone got any experience of two friends, one in an unrequited love position, where the other eventually feels more back? Have you ever not initially felt that attraction then changed? My friend has just been dumped by his partner. I am 7 ...
A. 13 September 2008: He's on the rebound.
I went out with someone who was my best friend, basically because all along he wanted more and eventually I gave in. It lasted 3 years and then ended and we haven't spoken since, which is a shame.
You can get together wit... (read in full...)
Do I have the right to feel hurt, used and angry or am I just being stupid??
Q. To summarise: (1) Met a guy through friends, 18 months ago. Fun, attractive, successful, gift of the gab but some issues as he'd been betrayed after long term relationship. (2) Fell head over heels in love with him and was pleased to hear ...
A. 13 September 2008: He used you and I'm sorry he did that.
But you need to stop chasing him, it's beneath you to keep spending time on this guy.
Cut him out of your life. If he wanted to be friends then he wouldn't have hurt you twice.
You don't need a frie... (read in full...)
Do you think he doesn't want to know?? Should I text again??
Q. Hi all, Im 34 have 2 children and have been seperated from my husband for 3 months. i went out last weekend and met this guy there was instant physical attraction between us. We exchanged numbers and spent all evening together. he is 4 years young...
A. 13 September 2008: I think you made a bit of a mistake when you slept with him on the first night... guys lose respect for you after that, it's stupid but it's still a sexist world we live in where a man is cool for sleeping around but a woman is a slut.
I'd l... (read in full...)
He promised that we could have children together, so I married him. Now he's changed his mind! Should I stay or should I go?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been married to my husband now for 2 years. He has two children from a previous mirrage, a boy 9 and a girl 13. Prior to our mirrage, I made 100% sure he would want more children with me since he is 20 years my senior. He s...
A. 13 September 2008: I agree with sappy girl, it's not like you've just turned round and demanded kids - he knew this was coming.
If you stay with him until it's too late then you may always regret not having kids. You could grow to hate him if he takes that away fro... (read in full...)
We've been dating six months and he's never hugged or kissed me or even held hands!
Q. hiia i need help my boy friend doesnt seem interested in me we've been dating for 6 months and not once has he either kissed me, huggd and not even held hands , its soo annoying can you help please ? ...
A. 13 September 2008: Does he know that he is your boyfriend? He sounds like a male friend to me.
Hold his hand - it's not exactly jumping on him.
Either that or talk to him and ask him what your relationship is and if he says that you are his girlfriend then ... (read in full...)
How many sex partners is too many??
Q. I guess what I want to know is what is the average number of people someone my age (22) has been with? I know its different for everyone and Ill get answers saying whatever is right for me. Im just curious is all. I've been with 12, which I ...
A. 13 September 2008: It depends on you and your morals.
79 means he's had lots of one night stands and can't get a girlfriend - is that really such a good thing?
My number is 6, and I regret at least 2 of them.
Some people stay virgins till they are married, a... (read in full...)
It's not the size but how you use it that counts. Or is it?
Q. Ok then, so how are we supposed to use it? We men always keep hearing this whenever we ask for a straightforward question when asked about size. It seems women are afraid to burst bubbles/feelings - this immense beating around the bush more than a...
A. 13 September 2008: Dude... the thing is that women have different sized vaginas too!!!
So lets say 5 or 10 years ago, a 5 inch narrow gage guy would have been perfect. 7 inches would have been terrifying. In a few more years time once I've squeezed out a couple o... (read in full...)
How do we make him stop bringing us down?
Q. hey. so i have this friend. well he's one of my best friends actually. and he pretty much thinks he's so perfect and everyone else is a mess. like every day he tells me i look a mess and i'm so sensitive so it really gets to me and i get sad. and he ...
A. 13 September 2008: Make it clear that it is not cool.
He's probably only doing the bitchy gay thing because that is what gay guys are supposed to be like around girls. It's a stereotype and he's probably only trying to live up to it because he has low self esteem. ... (read in full...)
I need advice on how to get rid of ingrowing hairs.
Q. This is a bit gross, but I have ingrown hairs on my vagina as I shave down there, they look disgusting and I need to get rid of them. Any ideas?...
A. 13 September 2008: If you HAVE to shave down there rather than trim, then just have a quick shower down there every day and exfoliate with a scrubby thing, that will let the hairs break through the soft wet skin and stop dead skin getting thick and trapping them.
... (read in full...)
How do I tell my wife I don't want her to get a boob job?
Q. My wife wants a boob job. She really thought bigger is better. I don't like the idea, because they look so fake. How can I tell her I dont want her to get a boob job?...
A. 13 September 2008: Find out why she wants the surgery. She may think that you will like them more. Tell her you love them as they are.
Also, when you next have sex pay extra attention to her boobs and tell her how gorgeous they are and how you will miss them whe... (read in full...)
I think he doesn't like me any more now that I'm not so shy! Please help!
Q. ok. i REALLLLLY like this guy. he and his g.f broke up and me and him are pretty good friends. i dont really know where to start. he told ppl he likes me. and he told me. heres the problem. hes the touchy kinda guy and im too shy for that. b ut now...
A. 13 September 2008: Well if you are giving off big "DON'T TOUCH ME!!!" signals he's not going to keep trying for ever or he'd be a pervert.
If you are ready for it then just go up and hug him. Ask him out to the cinema.
Let him know that you are ready to be touc... (read in full...)
Can I be pregnant if he didn't cum inside of me?
Q. had sex last night the 12 of september he didnt use condom but he didnt cum into my pusssy could i be still pregnant? please help thank you...
A. 13 September 2008: Yes you can still be pregnant. Go and get the morning after pill from your doctor or a sexual health clinic or family planning clinic.
You have 72 hours to take it after you had sex.
Always use a condom. Or just don't have sex while you are st... (read in full...)
How do birth control pills work and when can I have sex?
Q. so this may be a stupid question but yeah so i never used birth control before and im starting to use it, but how many times can you have sex after you take all the pills?! is it only effective once?! ...
A. 13 September 2008: Go back to the place where you got them and sit down with the nurse who will explain everything. There is also a leaflet in the pack that will explain a lot of things.
If you are taking the pills every day and you do it properly then you can have... (read in full...)
How can I stop sabotaging my relationships?
Q. Ok...I dated this guy for six weeeks but then just broke up with him...i didn't really have a reason and i had been slowly pulling away for about a week. I do this for all my relationships...i date them for a week or two and then i pull away....i ...
A. 13 September 2008: Perhaps you just need to be single for a while. If you have had this many boyfriends at 17 then you probably haven't had a chance to just be your self rather than "a girlfriend."
Get your head together for a bit, concentrate on who you are and ... (read in full...)
My ex is a completely different person now! What changed him?
Q. He did a lot of drugs and didn't care about school, politics, or anything else that was occurring outside of his small bubble of burned out friends. I was the exact opposite: overachiever, love to learn, politics buff, don't do drugs, involved in ...
A. 13 September 2008: Sounds like he realised that he was losing all the good things in his life (like you) and it made him get his act together.
He probably saw you (gorgeous and brilliant) waltz out of his life and then saw his friend's new stoner girl friend w... (read in full...)
Does he really want to marry me or is he just joking?
Q. My boyfriend recently asked me to move in with him and said "Who knows, we might get married, I'm very spontaneous" We have been together about 10 months if not a little more. The thing is I don't know whether he was being serious or not. Be...
A. 13 September 2008: Well it depends if you want to be spontaneous and get married in Vagas.
Move in if you want to and then start dropping hints about how you have always wanted a fairy tale wedding with your family around you... or a romantic elopement to Vagas.
... (read in full...)
Will my young mistress ever come back? I plan on getting divorced...
Q. ok so here it goes . We met @ work and still work together. we dated for about a year during the time i was and still am married with 2 kids. just last month she says she can`t do this anymore and the reasons she gave was all over the board, from ...
A. 13 September 2008: I think you have to leave her to have her space.
No one wants to be "the other woman" and this has been building up inside her. It's only fair that she wants to be a real girlfriend and not a dirty little secret.
Plus there is always the prove... (read in full...)
Is she legal or could I get in trouble?
Q. hallo ! i need some advice. so, please help me out here. i am 22 and my girl friend is 17 years and 9 months. she will be 18 next 3 months. we have been going out for 3 years. do you think it is illegal or I could be in trouble for it. just for...
A. 13 September 2008: I really don't think movies and shopping are illegal...
There is only going to be trouble if she or her parents accuses you of molesting her and goes to the police. And then she'd get examined and the doctor would say "no sex here!" and you'd be... (read in full...)
Is he metro or is he gay?
Q. I just recently started dating this guy hes very metro gets his eyebrows done which is fine! has to clean all the time he has ocd with cleaning the hous everyday.. he says hes a virgin and everygirl he dated broke up with him cuz he wouldnt have sex ...
A. 13 September 2008: Does he like musicals?
No I'm joking, people seem to think that once you decide you are gay you start lisping and wearing pink and loving small dogs.
You can be gay and be a rough tough guy, and you can be straight and wax your eyebrows and be ... (read in full...)
I cry in bed when my boyfriend has fallen asleep. Why does this happen?
Q. For the past few months I find myself crying in bed with my boyfriend. He does not know because I wait until he has fallen asleep. It is only when I am in bed with him, not when I'm alone. We have had no problems in our relationship and he has been ...
A. 13 September 2008: I have no idea!
It could be that you are just an emotional person and the rush of hormones of having him next to you is making you cry.
Is it a sad crying or a happy crying?
Is it that he snores and stops you from sleeping so you are frus... (read in full...)
I didn't mean to make him cum!
Q. I stayed at my mom's friends house, while my parents left town. Her son, whom is 24, has always picked on me, and He was tackling me and tickling me on the bed, so I rolled over ontop of him, and started tickling him, he moaned my name after a few ...
A. 12 September 2008: He's probably just embarrassed.
I think you should do the British thing and keep a stiff upper lip.
Don't bring it up. Act like it never happened. Never speak of it again. It will be easier and less embarrassing.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Do I have to live with this guy, or should I dump him? There's a baby involved...
Q. My boyfriend,is cheatiing on me with different girls, i tried to accept the fact that he is cheating. but the other time he wrote one of the girls im working with a love message. it real hurt me, i tried so hard to put it behind me and told him that ...
A. 12 September 2008: Well he obviously doesn't give a crap about you and your feelings so why stay with him?
If you are raising a child then you do not want it to grow up seeing that this is how a man should treat a woman.
Get out of there and dump him. He does not... (read in full...)
They'll only be able to see each other every other weekend, can this work?
Q. Hi just a quick question about distant relationships, iv got a friend who has met a really amazing girl who lives about 1 hours 30mins drive away, and they see each other like every other weekend, will this work? and can they work if any one is in ...
A. 12 September 2008: Yep it can work if they are a strong couple and keep it going in other ways like phone calls, emails, letters etc etc.
If she's worth it then he should take a chance with it.
They can always change jobs and move to the same place if it goes... (read in full...)
He is threatening to take away my child once it is born!
Q. What do i do my boyfriend physically and mentally abuses me. Im pregnant now with his kid and he is threatening to take my kid and leave me and get me for child support... weve been dating since i turned 16. i got pregnant about 8 weeks ago. i just ...
A. 12 September 2008: Get out of the house and move back in with your parents.
Do you really want a baby to be with a man like that? He'll abuse it too.
Get your family and friends around it. The only way he could take your baby is by kidnapping it and you have to ... (read in full...)
How can I get rid of the ugly stretch marks?
Q. I really need help. I went through a stage where I was very heavy. I lost the excess weight, and I have pretty nice abs, but I have terrible stretch marks. Is there anything besides surgery I can do to reduce or get rid of them? And would a guy ...
A. 12 September 2008: In the UK we have a product called Bio Oil. That is supposed to work. Put it into Google and see what comes up.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant with his baby, but he won't split up with his new girl! I'm confused and scared...
Q. Im 25 years old and this week found out im pregnant. Its by my ex, who Ive been with on and off for 3 years. Each time we got back together we would be happy for a few months then he would leave me for someone else. I would always be stupid and take ...
A. 12 September 2008: He doesn't have to do anything I'm afraid. Gone are the days when he would have to marry you to do the "honourable thing."
He can be a good father to the child while being with his new girlfriend.
I know you love him and want him back but I t... (read in full...)
How likely is it for the morning after pill to fail?
Q. I, regretably, had unprotected sex. It wasn't planned and I am absolutely terrified of becoming pregnant now. I got the morning after pill the next morning and took it within 10 hours of having sex. The lady told me I should be fine, however I ...
A. 12 September 2008: As long as you take the morning after pill properly then you are almost gaurunteed not to be pregnant.
The fail rate is extremely low.
The chances of you being pregnant are next to nothing.
Yes it is scary and yes you might want to take a... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to give me oral without actually asking him outright?
Q. iv been with my boyfriend for 4 months now, and we have a great sex life. the only problem is the fact that no matter how many hints i make, he will not give me oral sex. Iv tried everything i can think of except asking. I dont want to ask him ...
A. 12 September 2008: Stop giving him oral.
When he asks for it tell him that it's your turn first. He can have some after you've had yours.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Am I being used by the justice system?
Q. Hi everyone, I need an advice from people who don't know me as none of my friend or family know what's happening to me for some time now. I'm a normal citysen with a good career, what has happened to me I would never of dreamed of in my worst ...
A. 12 September 2008: Woah there, don't listen to the anonymous male, he sounds like an american.
Until the case has been through court, you CANNOT publish anything or you are in contempt of court. Trust me on this I am a journalist.
After an arrest has been made, y... (read in full...)
I'm really struggling to cope with the sudden set back in what I thought was a great relationship.
Q. I need some love life advice even thought i am pretty sure i know the answer already. I have been seeing someone i love to bits for 5 months and he loves me too. Recently he bought a house a moved out of his parents, and to start with he said he like...
A. 12 September 2008: Hmmm, 3 nights a week isn't exactly like you've moved yourself in.... but on the other hand after only 5 months it is a bit too soon to be moving in together and perhaps that is what he is scared is going to happen.
I'd have a really good talk to ... (read in full...)
Do you think her brother will harm me after I pushed her too far?
Q. My girlfriend(my best friends sister) is a shy qutie around me, we were sitting at in my room yesterday, just softly kissing each other on the mouth and I started getting rough with her, kissing her all over and fast and I kinda forced her to do it ...
A. 12 September 2008: She told you to stop and you didn't.
So damn right she's upset. If she was here asking what she should do, EVERY SINGLE aunt would tell her to dump your arse.
You may get a beating and you'll deserve it. Hopefully it will teach you NEVER to for... (read in full...)
I am the other girl and I want him to get caught cheating because I hate his girlfriend! How do I get caught on purpose?
Q. I am the other girl. Slowly i'm realizing that he's a complete jerk and this all might not be worth it. I do enjoy being the other girl because I hate his girlfriend. How can i GET caught on purpose?? I want her to know, I want him to get caught. I ...
A. 12 September 2008: I can't give advice on playing stupid games with people's emotions because I don't do that because I have a life.
I suggest you get one too.
Stuff both of them.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
She won't return my calls after I had to cancel our date for a valid reason!
Q. About 3 weeks ago, a girl that I liked and liked me sort of "asked me on a date." She wanted to go boating with me, and I said I'd do it, and we agreed on a date to meet. She was thrilled about going with me. Well, turns out, the boat rental ...
A. 11 September 2008: Call her by phone!!
Her computer may have broken.
It's not hard to dial a number, we did survive before the internet.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Am I being used by the justice system?
Q. Hi everyone, I need an advice from people who don't know me as none of my friend or family know what's happening to me for some time now. I'm a normal citysen with a good career, what has happened to me I would never of dreamed of in my worst ...
A. 11 September 2008: The police can charge you but if the Crown Prosecution Service sees there is no evidence then they will not take you to court.
I think you need to get on to the person who committed the crimes and get him to own up to it and get you out of this.... (read in full...)
Before we marry he wants me to sign a prenuptial contract, my heart says yes but my pride says no!
Q. Im in my early twenties, my partner is in his thirties. basically we are getting married next year but before we do he wants me to sign a pre nup, i am quite offended by this as now i believe he doesnt trust me. his not a millionaire but has his own ...
A. 11 September 2008: Sign it - but only after you make sure that YOUR interests are covered... He has to know that you have stuff you want to protect too.
Pre-nups are not that common in the UK, and personally I would be quite insulted. I am not sure what I would do... (read in full...)
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