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writes:I need some love life advice even thought i am pretty sure i know the answer already.I have been seeing someone i love to bits for 5 months and he loves me too. Recently he bought a house a moved out of his parents, and to start with he said he liked it when i was there because he didn't like being there alone, so i made the effort to go and see him as often as possible.Yesterday he sat me down and told me everythign seems a bit too much and and that i need to stop going round so much. At the moment i have been staying about 3 nights a week roughly.He then went on to say how we both have our own friend and he wants to keep it that way. He says he still loves me and doesn't want to break up with me, but i am devastated by this - because all of a sudden i feel like i am losing him.I tried to call him tonight for a talk ad he has ignored my calls, but we are supposed to be going for dinner tomorrow night.I love him to bits and i want to give him his space so that i dont lose him, but i am really struggling to cope with sudden set back in what i thought was a great relationship.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (27 July 2009):
Yey!!
I'm really glad it worked out.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questiona long time since i have been on here but thought i would say that this was great advice! i gave him his space and in time everything has worked out perfectly.
it was all just moving too quickly for him and he was feeling like he had just got a new home and i was always there (even though i wasn't lol)
anyways we have now been together 15 months and he has asked me to move in with him!
everything is back to being wonderfull.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (12 September 2008):
Hmmm, 3 nights a week isn't exactly like you've moved yourself in.... but on the other hand after only 5 months it is a bit too soon to be moving in together and perhaps that is what he is scared is going to happen.
I'd have a really good talk to him about how you feel about this and get him to explain it to you more.
It could be that he suddenly isn't sure about whether you are "the one" even if he loves you deeply.
It could be that he didn't mean it like that at all and it's all a mis understanding.
Give him a bit of space but just keep an eye on things. If it gets to the point where he wants to see you less and less then he might just want to be single in his new bachelor pad and wander round and fart with his mates.
Good Luck!! xx
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