A
female
age
41-50,
*aeve
writes:My boyfriend,is cheatiing on me with different girls, i tried to accept the fact that he is cheating. but the other time he wrote one of the girls im working with a love message. it real hurt me, i tried so hard to put it behind me and told him that at least he must'nt cheat with the one im working with. last week he sent onother collegue of mine a message, telling her how much he loves her. he betrayed me big time, im so hurting and i just lost my ego over this.i don't now what to do. do i have to live with this guy or should i dump him, the thing is the is a baby involve. what should i do? Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, lotus mama808  +, writes (12 September 2008):
 Your child will be effected by his behavior. When he mistreats you that way, you become depressed which compromises your energy which is necessary when raising a child. It would be best for the baby if you left. Call family, tell them your situation. If you don't have family, call friends. They will understand, as we all do here. If you were my sister, daughter, or even friend, I would offer you and your baby a place to stay with me and all the help I could offer to see that you get on your feet. Of course, you would need to go to court to settle the issue of child support, which is entitled to your child. (that is, if he is the father). I made it on my own with my son after I left his abusive father. I had NOTHING. Literally, had not finished high school, didnt have my license, no car, no job, nothing. His dad never paid a cent for my son, and now, I've been through college, have a great car, and am living a great life. It is possable, it is hard, but with the support of the people that care for you, it is possable. There is no need to stick around with a partner that treats you that way. It will eventually start to effect your health and well being.
A
female
reader, michelleAKAmandi +, writes (12 September 2008):
 Daeve...
I should have asked your living arrangements first before telling you that you should leave.
It's not always easy for a mom and baby to just pick up and go, however; I've found it's easier to leave in some situations when the man refuses to leave.
So I'm saying if you are able to leave, then do so. If not then you should ask him if he will find another place because you are ending this game that he is playing.
Again... take care of you and that baby and let us know how things are going sweetie.
Michelle
...............................
A
female
reader, michelleAKAmandi +, writes (12 September 2008):
Hello Daeve,
You and your baby deserve so much more.
Get out of there to save yourself anymore heartache. Not only is he hurting you, he's disrespecting you and making you look like a fool to people.
You my sweet should pick up without a word and go. When you get to where you are going, you then call him and let him know that you won't live like that. He may ask you to go back and tell you he is sorry. That's when you should tell him that you will no go back.
Concentrate on you and the little one. As Emily said below, you DO NOT want your baby seeing how you are being treated. So if you don't think you can leave for yourself, do it for the baby. After all, that is the most important thing in your life... "the baby".
Let us know how you are doing and keep us updated.
Take care,
Michelle
...............................
A
female
reader, miss know it all  +, writes (12 September 2008):
you should dump this guy immediately because you have let it go already which means he thinks he will be able to do what the hell he wants and he will because he doesent care about hurting your feelings. This so called man does not deserve someone like you and you dont have to put up with it hunny, i only know that because ive been through it myself, dump him and get on with your life you dont deserve to be treat like this im sure you will have family that will be willing to help you through this. Good luck x
...............................
A
female
reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (12 September 2008):
Well he obviously doesn't give a crap about you and your feelings so why stay with him?
If you are raising a child then you do not want it to grow up seeing that this is how a man should treat a woman.
Get out of there and dump him. He does not deserve to be with you.
Good Luck!! xx
...............................
|
