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writes:I have a friend who I have very strong feelings for and his girlfriend has finished with him. He is devastated and tearful, still wants my company when he is in the country as he works abroad, but I am confused when it is OK to call him, increase the frequency or reduce it. Obviously he does not feel for me in the same way but when I want to call him to just chat and support him, part of me knows that I hope he will turn to me, yet I know this would be wrong and I resist it. But from his point of view, if I call him more, as I am his closest friend am I imposing or helping?Yes I have an agenda of my own, but hard as it is, his feelings come first and I know I want to respect him. Also, his love was much younger than he is, 15 years, and I am a little older by 7 years. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Emilyanswers, but he initiates talking about his feelings. Unusual in most guys I know, but we seem to have no secrets. he called me often, even when his relationship was working, but since it broke off, I find it even harder. I would really like the male point of view if anyone cares to give me their opinion.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (13 September 2008):
Call him and ask. Then tell him to call you when ever he wants to talk.
He needs a friend to take him down the pub, not to discuss his feelings with really.
Good Luck!! xx
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