I have lost my best friend by listening to lies other people told me, I am sad all the time over this, what can I do to feel better, and also not feel so insecure?
Q. it hurts me that an ex bestfriend didn't say happy birthday to me. We were best friends, almost like sisters for 5 years and every time on our birthdays we went out both our families together at this reasturant. This year nothing happened and I ...
A. 21 September 2008: Well if you are meeting new people then that is pretty good.
Not everyone is a sheep who will think what this girl tells them to think.
Make you new friends and ignore the sheep and be lovely and happy to everyone.
They'll realise that ... (read in full...)
Why do I run away every time a guy shows interest in me?
Q. What's my problem? I start to like a guy, and as soon as he starts liking me back, I run scared. It doesn't matter how sweet or genuine he is, I just don't like them anymore. It's as if I prefer the chase over the actual prize. This probably ...
A. 16 September 2008: Well you know and recognise what you are doing... so you have the power to choose not to do it.
Just try and stay with this guy for as long as you can.
Face your fear.
Tell yourself that you are not a slave to your instincts.
Good Luck!... (read in full...)
I'm aware being on the pill is meant to 'trick' your body into thinking it's pregnant, but....
Q. Hi, Just a quick question here. Might sound silly but I just wanted to know. I'm aware being on the pill is meant to 'trick' your body into thinking its pregnant as such. Does this mean any emotions you experience whilst on the pill, you will be ...
A. 16 September 2008: It depends entirely which pill you are on. They are all different for every different person.
Some give you bad symptoms and some make your life easier.
Give the one you are on 3 or 4 months to settle down and if you still don't like the s... (read in full...)
I'm just wondering what I can do to get my little sisters' head right without beating the holiness out of her.
Q. what's the charge if someone tries to get a person raped? i have 3 little sisters and the youngest invited a guy to our home while i was gone. my little sis who is 21 now, was raped by that same guy when she was 16. im just wondering what i can d...
A. 16 September 2008: Call the police and get them to sort it out.
You don't have the power to interrogate your sister.
Your parents could threaten her with throwing her out and the police could threaten her with charging her as an accessory to rape, but all yo... (read in full...)
Has anyone been to a clairvoiyant and what they told you helped you make a decision in life, or do you think it's a load of rubbish?
Q. Hi, just a quick question. I was on holiday a few weeks ago at a well known seaside resort and i went to see a clairvoiyant. I'd been to this area a couple of times and have always wanted a reading, and this time i plucked up the courage to go in. I...
A. 16 September 2008: I do a bit myself and I sense that you are quite a strong person for your age even if you can appear to be vulnerable.
You know what you want and what you don't like in life. You are quite intelligent, with a cynical side, although you are open mind... (read in full...)
How can I make my mum talk about masturbation?
Q. I'm 13 year old girl and I masturbate frequently. I don't know if my mum knows, I want to tell her, but I can't! alternatively, how can I make her talk to me about it, without letting her know that I masturbate?...
A. 16 September 2008: Well if she is a mother who is fine that her underage school girl is having sex then probably nothing will shock her. She already is fine with the fact you are easy with boys.
If you have to tell her about the fact that you enjoy sticking things i... (read in full...)
I don't want her to go with him, because I just know he's going hurt her and cheat like he did with me!
Q. Ok I'll start from the begining. Ummm.I meet this girl this school year call her Tay. Tay started going with..."Jay". Tay and Jay were such a pretty couple and so affectionet. They were together maybe for about 2 weeks. And about 3 times a week ...
A. 16 September 2008: You have to come clean with her and say that Rob has cheated on any girl he has ever been with, and that he will do the same to her.
After that you just have to let her go and do what she wants. You can't keep her from doing stupid things if she w... (read in full...)
My friend told me it's best to lose my virginity myself and not let my boyfriend do it....
Q. If been with my boyfriend for more that one year and i want to have sex with him (im a virgin)...so I told a friend about it and she told me that it was better that i would lose it with myself so he will not see the blood, and i wouldnt feel the ...
A. 16 September 2008: She seems to think that the most important thing about losing your virginity is making sure your boy is ok and happy.
NO!
The most important part about it is the fact you are losing your virginity!!
Yes there might be blood and there might... (read in full...)
The guy of my dreams dumped me because he said I was jealous!
Q. hi, about six or eight months ago i went out with honestly the guy of my dreams but like he dumped me about two months after that because he said i was jealous and OK maybe i was but he kept on flirting with this girl he asked out before me she was ...
A. 16 September 2008: I would move on from this guy that you like. He's playing games and dumped you for a reason that sounds suspiciously like "I can get an easier ride elsewhere."
If you don't like your new boyfriend then don't go out with him but don't try and get ... (read in full...)
How should I break the news to my gf about her increased financial commitment without upsetting her?...
Q. I'm in a bit of a pickle. I have been dating my gf for over five years and we have 2 kids together. I also have a child from a previous relationship and still occassionally have sex with the ex. Last month, I had a one-night-stand with a 23 yr old I ...
A. 15 September 2008: I think there is no way not to upset her.
You risked her health and her life by going off and cheating and having unprotected sex with random girls in bars. You are cheating on her with your ex.
If you are worried about child support then do ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is scared of intimacy, he stops in the middle and goes to the bathroom to masturbate. How to get him to behave like a man?
Q. I'm at my wits end. Please help me. My boyfriend, who I've been with for 9 months, is very caring and we get on really well together. We spend a lot of our free time together and I would say that I'm definitely in love with him. The problem is that ...
A. 15 September 2008: I think salt water is being a bit harsh.
But I do think you have to be a little bit understanding.
If you can't get him to see a therapist then why not take it in stages? Agree with him that when he disappears off to the bathroom, you wi... (read in full...)
Should I get my dolls out of the dumpster and break my promise or leave them?...
Q. I am a serious packrat and can never get rid of anything. At my old apartment I had the spare bedroom full of Cabbage Patch Dolls and stuffed animals that I had accumulated. When I moved in with my boyfriend I agreed to downsize once we had settled ...
A. 15 September 2008: I think you need to accept they have gone.
But first check ebay and see if they are worth anything. If they are then fish them out and sell them. Put the money towards something nice for yourself.
You can't keep your dolls forever. You hav... (read in full...)
He stared at me while he was with his girlfriend, what does this mean?
Q. i like a boy who goes to a school close to mine (he has a girfreind).i have liked him for a while but he doesnt know (but he knows who i am).i get very nervouse when i see him and i pretend i dont notice him.i saw him with his gf by school and i get ...
A. 15 September 2008: It means he's seen you acting strangely and looking at him to he smiled.
It means nothing other than he is a nice guy and smiles at people.
I smile at lots of people.
Sorry sweetie but you just have to wait and get on with life. Once he ha... (read in full...)
I have tried thousands of times talking to my fiance about how his mom and sister treat me, but he doesn't see it like I do! I'm out of ideas!
Q. Hi, I am wondering what I should do about a real tough situation I'm in. My fiance and I are very much in love, we just had our first baby... he is 2 months old... and we have been struggling w/ our finances and stuff. We have had to move into his ...
A. 15 September 2008: Tell him that if he doesn't start believing you and standing up for you to his family then you are moving home with your parents.
Yes it would be better for the baby to have his dad around but at 2 months he is probably going to be obliviou... (read in full...)
Why doesn't she care where her husband is?!
Q. I am dating a man who has filed for divorce and is just waiting for his court date.He showed me the papers etc.. as I wanted to be sure before our relationship progressed. problem is they have to share their house until it sells so they can both ...
A. 15 September 2008: Well of course she doesn't care where he is! If she cared, she probably wouldn't be divorcing him. She probably treats him like a housemate now so doesn't monitor his comings and goings.
As for waiting for him to move out, yes, setting him a de... (read in full...)
I can't seem to find other girls that even compare to my ex! It's depressing...
Q. A couple of months back I met MY perfect girl, it was an utter freak to find such a match. Her age, rare interests, personality and passions were also mine. We are both known to be extremely thoughtful and nice people, though me being pretty damn ...
A. 15 September 2008: Just read your follow up....
When moderating we quite often phrase the title in a certain way because we know what the answer is going to be.
I think in this case, if she dumped you with out warning, you've rung up and begged, and she's now ev... (read in full...)
Is he losing interest in me? He has trouble staying erect...
Q. I am 23 years old and engaged to a man who is 30. We have been together for 4 years and have had a good sex life until recently. About a month ago we start having problems, where my sex drive is a lot higher than his and he is not satisfying me. ...
A. 15 September 2008: Only twice a day - my god how do you cope!!?!?!?!?!!?
Haha, honestly, perhaps he's just TIRED!!
He's hitting 30, he's not like he is going to be a physically fit as he was when he was 19.
If you want him to have the energy and hormone level... (read in full...)
It turns me on to think of my girlfriend having sex with other guys! What do you think?
Q. hello cupid site. i am 19 a male and i have been dating my gf for a good amount of time now. i dont know what to say but i have a really odd question. we broke up before and got back together but for some reason it turned me on so bad to think about ...
A. 15 September 2008: Wow, you should have a look through this site and read the hundreds of "I can't get over the fact my girlfriend had ex boyfriends!" You are a lucky lucky man to be the opposite of all these insecure guys.
You are a voyeur. You like to watch / ... (read in full...)
I can't seem to find other girls that even compare to my ex! It's depressing...
Q. A couple of months back I met MY perfect girl, it was an utter freak to find such a match. Her age, rare interests, personality and passions were also mine. We are both known to be extremely thoughtful and nice people, though me being pretty damn ...
A. 14 September 2008: First you need to take her down from that high pedestal you've put her on.
You say she was perfect, but she wasn't even able to talk to you about problems or feelings. If you'd had a real connection surely she would have been able to talk to you. ... (read in full...)
My desire for a relationship is strong but I think my size is an issue! How can I overcome this?
Q. I have posted questions previously about how I worry about how my appearance will affect my relationships in the future. Quick reminder - I am nineteen years old, six foot dark hair blue eyes. My close female friends say I'm sweet and kind and love...
A. 14 September 2008: Get on Freecycle.org and find your local site. They have rowing machines and exercise bikes on there fairly regularly.
Just because it's raining doesn't mean you can do crunches etc. I do them in the adverts while watching TV.
Yes you are l... (read in full...)
Am I being selfish for wanting him to pleasure me? Should he always use a condom?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for 7 months. We have taken it slow and respect each other sexually; we are still virgins as well but I am on birth control and we are working on sex (he's too be for me). When we fool around though, ...
A. 14 September 2008: No you shouldn't have to ask but teenage boys are generally stupid because all the blood goes from their brain and into their pants.
Do your usual thing of kissing him, kissing down his tummy, getting ALMOST there and then roll off lie back and... (read in full...)
Scared to tell him I love him in case he doesn't say it back, and I don't know how to tell him either.
Q. Hiya, You'll probably think me silly for writing about this but i feel so miserable. Been with my boyfriend for a while now, i am so so happy we've both met each others family and all that stuff the problem is im falling in love with him and it s...
A. 14 September 2008: I said it by accident to my husband after we'd been going out a couple of months. And then thought "shit shit shit TOO SOON!!!!!" and there was an awful silence of about 5 seconds where I was hugging him with my eyes closed silently swearing.
... (read in full...)
He golfs every weekend and I am tired of feeling lonely at the end of the week!
Q. I have a live in boyfriend of 2 years who golfs every weekend without any thought of me. If I ask what's up, he becomes irate and tells me I am a control freak and he doesn't need permission. I am tired of being lonely, any suggestions?...
A. 14 September 2008: Plan in advance to go out on the evening. You can't golf in the dark.
If you want to do something together then make it happen, don't just tell him not to do something without offering an alternative.
He can have hours on the course during th... (read in full...)
Am I too old for him?
Q. help i like a lad who i have known for over a year who is 14, he has told my best friend that he likes me but i am 19 what shall i do am i too old!?...
A. 14 September 2008: I think you should think carefully about this... do you just want to be young again?
I know it's tough being 19 but this lad can't even buy a lottery ticket or see a 15 cert film with you, let alone take you for a drink.
Your feeling may have... (read in full...)
He's been using his ex for sex and cheating on me - should I forgive him?
Q. can i move on and trust my boyfriend again? before i started dating my boyfriend he was in a two year relationship with another girl who goes to my 6th form( me, my boyfriend and his ex all go to the same very small school). when they broke up sh...
A. 14 September 2008: Wow, so he has it in him, not only to cheat on you... but to coldly use and BADLY hurt a girl, purely because he ENJOYED using her and knowing he can cause her huge pain.
Does he go out at night and torture cats too? Have there been any unexplai... (read in full...)
I caught my boyfriend looking at VERY young girls online!
Q. so here's my problem I am 22 and my boyfriend 26 have been together for almost a year and we recently moved in together. I was on the computer the other day and I saw that he had been looking at sites such as veryounggirls.com and others related....
A. 14 September 2008: I think you need to confront your boyfriend and get him to seek help.
It's not his fault and he can't help feeling this way but he needs to not act on it - not to look at sites or have fantasies.
There may be counselling available for hi... (read in full...)
Does anyone have advice regarding job seekers allowance?
Q. I am claiming Job seekers Allowance. In April, i moved out my moms an moved into my girlfriends, however my girlfriend is in a relationship with her husband. I haven't told the Job centre that iv moved in with my girlfriend, i have told the h...
A. 14 September 2008: Haven't you seen all those adverts on bus shelters? YES! This is exactly the kind of thing you HAVE to tell them about, or they will prosecute you.
Tell them you have moved in with your girlfriend.
They will probably cut your benefits because... (read in full...)
This guy won't break up with his girlfriend because of his obligations to her! What now?
Q. hi. i am in a fix. i love this guy and well..he has this gf who loves him as well,and he cant really leave her because she helped him out of a real tight situation and then asked him out.he feels obliged to be with her. me and they guy's families ...
A. 14 September 2008: You have to butt out and leave them to it. You are going to read things into messages that are not there, and subconsciously you are going to be pushing for a break up, even if you try not to.
At the moment, if he breaks up with this girl and then... (read in full...)
Should I ask him if he's seeing other girls? He said he's not ready for a commitment.
Q. I've been seeing this guy for awhile now but he's long distance and we only see each other about once a month. He told me at the beginning that he's not in a place in his life to commit to anyone and I said ok but we still go out and things have ...
A. 14 September 2008: I think you are setting yourself up for hurt here. You want more from this relationship than fun.
If you are just having fun then don't worry about looking bad and just ask him.
When he gives you a compliment just say "I bet you say that to ... (read in full...)
How do I tell him about my weight? He needs to know before he meets me.
Q. Hello everyone, Sorry if my question is a tad cheesy and confusing but I could really use your help. I was on one of those chat lines tonight and met a wonderful guy who lives an hour away from me. He's the sweetest guy I've talked to in a long tim...
A. 14 September 2008: Well if you are working up to meeting then you can describe yourselves to each other and you can drop in that you are "curvy" and see how he reacts.
The work up to swapping photos.
He may want a stick insect for a girlfriend, or he may think ... (read in full...)
She's against me going down on her or fingering her. How can I boost her confidence?
Q. Hi, really needing some advice, I've been with my girlfriend for 3 months now and she is happy to give me head and says she will have sex soon if i want it but she is very against me giving her head and/or fingering her and won't tell me why. We ...
A. 14 September 2008: Well it's very unlikely she will be ready for sex if she won't do any foreplay.
As you say, this is probably a self esteem issue.
All you can do is keep telling her how beautiful she is and how you want to make her happy.
Don't have sex ... (read in full...)
How do I lose weight quickly to stop my friends from making hurtful comments?
Q. I'm 13 and one of my best friends has suddenly gone off with her old best friend. Me and a few of my other friends do something called Body Combat and my old best friend was there watching and taking the mick out of us with her two new best friends. ...
A. 13 September 2008: Ok so first of all you don't have to have these people saying things to you on MSN. Right click and then block her. So that is that problem solved.
Secondly you don't have to sit with them early in the mornings. You are not a sheep, you don't ne... (read in full...)
I have lost faith in love....
Q. I'm afraid to fall in love. 2 reasons. One, my boyfriend of 3 years passed away last year. But I still can't get over him. I think of him everyday, even when I'm out with other guys. Another reason is that I have no more faith in love anymore. C...
A. 13 September 2008: I don't think you are really 18 so I will assume you are older.
Losing your boyfriend is a terrible thing to happen and no one is asking you to forget him, or the love you had. But you do have to accept it is over and you are not cheating on him i... (read in full...)
Why be in this relationship if I just feel single? He never has time...
Q. Hi everyone, i have been goin out with my boyfriend for 12months. I have known him very well since school so 9 years...Finally we got togther after months of him chasing me cause i had a bf for 4years. He promised he would treat me better than my ...
A. 13 September 2008: I'd give him a final warning first.
Tell him you can't cope and are going to split up with him unless he starts working normal hours.
Tell him to be home so you have evenings together. His football is important (and keeps him fit and sexy) so... (read in full...)
How can I help my friend that is suffering from anorexia?
Q. Right, a really good guy friend of mine is suffering anorexia, and i really want to help him, any tips on how to get him to start eating again or any people i could get him to call for advice? I would be very grateful for your help, tasha x...
A. 13 September 2008: Here is website with lots of helpful advice,
http://www.b-eat.co.uk/Home
You just need to be his friend and listen to his problems and taking him out shopping and telling him he's gorgeous.
Do his parents know about it? I think you need to ... (read in full...)
Should I cut off contact completely and never see my ex again? I realised I missed him terribly while on the phone.
Q. My boyfriend and I split up 7 months ago after 4 years because he didn't want to get married or have children, plus he moved out of my flat so we only saw each other at the weekends which didn't suit me. We have kept in touch and have met up with ...
A. 13 September 2008: I think you need to. You obviously aren't at a stage where you cope with talking to him yet. Tell him not to ring you again.
You did well last time so just do the same thing. But try and go out more, work on meeting new people, make new friends.... (read in full...)
How can I avoid being so clingy? It's annoying to my boyfriend!
Q. i love my boyfriend so much.. but i cnt stop bein clingy which is kinda annoying him. what can i do to myself to stop me doing tht? HELP SOS!...
A. 13 September 2008: Give him space! Limit the number of texts you send to him every day, and get a life of your own.
Go out with your friends and let him go out with his.
Without you telling us what you do that is clingy, we can't tell you to stop it.
Good Luck... (read in full...)
I hate my dad! What can I do?
Q. i used to be a daddys girl when i was younger and said id never be lyk my older sister who seemed to hate him so much. but now i understand hwo she felt. when i was 10 my dad hit me and hit me and hit me untill my mum pulled him off me. Recen...
A. 13 September 2008: When people ask you why you don't like him tell them that he hit you.
Tell your mum that you don't want him to come over any more.
You are old enough now to refuse to have contact with him.
Don't let him get to you. Talk to your sister abou... (read in full...)
Trapped! If I stay, I'm miserable, but if I leave, he hurts himself. What do I do??
Q. Hi everyone. Normally I wouldn't put myself out there like this, but I am in a pretty desperate situation, I think. I've been in a serious relationship for almost three years, and my boyfriend is wonderful to me. He is respectful, sweet, and he ...
A. 13 September 2008: Yeah this happened to me. My first long term serious boyfriend, who was lovely but I out grew once I went to uni.
I wanted a break just to get my head together and he started talking about how depressed he was and how he was going to kill himself ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend treats me horribly now he's in New Zealand. Should I move out there?
Q. Hi I need some advice on the actions of my boyfriend. He has gone to New Zealand to work for at least a year (emphasis on 'at least'). I knew he was going off to do this when we got together and about 2 years later he left and said he really ...
A. 13 September 2008: Considering he wants you to move to the other side of the world, you'd think he'd be giving to respect and love.
He's not, he's treating you like crap.
Dump him. Even when you made the effort to go and visit, it didn't go well. What makes you t... (read in full...)
I have lost my best friend by listening to lies other people told me, I am sad all the time over this, what can I do to feel better, and also not feel so insecure?
Q. it hurts me that an ex bestfriend didn't say happy birthday to me. We were best friends, almost like sisters for 5 years and every time on our birthdays we went out both our families together at this reasturant. This year nothing happened and I ...
A. 13 September 2008: Have you appologised for the things you did and explained what happened with the lies?
Send her an email explaining it all and tell her you don't want to throw away your friendship over this row.
That's all you can do really.
Try and make so... (read in full...)
Is my LD boyfriend still in love with his ex or does he love me?
Q. Dear Cupid: I am a 30 year old woman in a long distance relationship for about 3 and 1/2 years. We planned to get together for the pasted year but it just hasn't happened. However, the fact of the matter is that I do want to move in with him...
A. 13 September 2008: The fact he is still friends with his ex isn't a huge thing but the fact he is refusing to cut ties is.
Tell him you will only move in with him if he cuts ties with his ex. Tell him to chose you or her.
If he cuts ties with her and proves he lo... (read in full...)
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