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writes:Dear Cupid,I have been married to my husband now for 2 years. He has two children from a previous mirrage, a boy 9 and a girl 13. Prior to our mirrage, I made 100% sure he would want more children with me since he is 20 years my senior. He said yes that he would love nothing more than to have children with me.....he wanted to give me the miracle of motherhood! Now here we are 2 years later, I'm ready to have a baby and he has changed his mind and no longer wants any more children. I am very angry and unshure of what to do....please help? Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (13 September 2008):
I agree with sappy girl, it's not like you've just turned round and demanded kids - he knew this was coming.
If you stay with him until it's too late then you may always regret not having kids. You could grow to hate him if he takes that away from you and I don't think being in a bitter marriage is worth anything.
I think you need to tell him that you want a baby and if he has now changed his mind then he is not the man for you. I know it will be hard so it might help to ask him when he changed his mind about it... it could be that he was never sure about it but told you what you wanted to hear. That would make it easier if nothing else.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your kind words! It will break my heart to leave my husband , but I think your right its a dealbreaker. To top it off his kids aren't especially kind to me all the time and it drives me crazy watching him curl up and love on them knowing he does'nt want any children with me.
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (13 September 2008):
 To me, this is a dealbreaker.
Having children and being a mother is very important to you and he knew that before he married you.
If he took this away from you, he knows he is taking part of your happiness away. I believe he is being selfish in changing his mind, esp when you discussed this already.
He's hard, but he might not be the man for you if something like this is so important to you and not to him.
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