His kids are controlling and selfish, and pitch a fit whenever he mentions marriage. What do I do?
Q. if a man does not propose after dating for 3 years and9 months, should a person leave the relationship or just hang on and hope that it will happen soon? his grown children which are married pitch a fit when he mentions getting engaged or even ...
A. 17 September 2008: I think the anonymous reader is right.
You should do exactly that.
Remind him that he is their dad and should command respect from his kids.
They are probably only worried about their inheritance coming to you instead of them. And it'... (read in full...)
He abuses me - is it wrong for me to tell his disabled mother?
Q. I have locked myself in my dads car just to stop my boyfriend from abusing me. He also wants to go off at my mum over childish things that have nothing to do with him. Thats going to turn her against me. Is it wrong for me to tell his disabled mum ...
A. 17 September 2008: Tell your mum and dad that he is threatening your mum and hitting you.
Do you notice that he only ever threatens women? So if you go to his mother it won't help.
He's a stupid cowardly little boy and if he had to face up to a man like your da... (read in full...)
I really like this guy, and I want him to meet my father, so that we can see each other more, how do I approach my father about the two of them meeting?
Q. (: So.. I Have This Boyfriend and + He's Really Perfect. Our relationship is going really good. Very deep and Smooth and We are sure we love each other. He's not like other guys and i definetley can tell. AS far as im concerned he would meet ...
A. 17 September 2008: Why does your friend have to go to the cinema for you to see him? Is he not allowed out of the house to meet his friends by himself?
As for your dad, you just have to say that you've met this boy and you really like him. Your dad will want to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend texts another girl while he is out with me, I have told him it bothers me, but he won't stop, is he cheating on me or what?
Q. My boyfriend says he loves me still and wont break up with me and when i hang out with him or talk to him on the phone he keeps txting this one girl and when i tell him it brothers me he doesnt listen to me.... i dont know if he is doing something ...
A. 17 September 2008: The fact that he hasn't listened when he said it bothered you shows me that it is something more than a friend.
If it was a mate then he wouldn't be talking to her and testing her all the time.
He doesn't care about your feelings and you... (read in full...)
I want to focus on my marriage but how can I carry on with my life without feeling resentful towards the man I had an affair with?
Q. I am married and very stupidly had a brief relationship with another man a couple of months ago. We were going through a very rocky patch in our marriage and although that isn't an excuse, I feel it was a way of escaping it. The other man is now ...
A. 17 September 2008: Well I think he is probably feeling resentful and hurtful towards you.
You've gone back to your husband! You dumped him!
He's acting like this because he is as mixed up and confused as you are and is probably unsure whether to try again with h... (read in full...)
I am in charge of a woman at work, who I have grown fond of, she used to have lunch with me, now she doesn't and has become distant, I asked her out, she declined, and she appears irritated, whatever I do, please give me some insight into what I shou
Q. For the past few months I've grown to have feelings for a woman I work with. About the first five months, I didn't feel anything for her and simply went about my day. She's the very quiet type unless spoken to. She keeps her answers short and does ...
A. 17 September 2008: If you are her boss then tell her you need to talk to her and just ask what happened.
You need to be able to work together in a friendly and professional way so you need to get this sorted out.
Just talk to her and clear the air.
Good Luc... (read in full...)
I am dating a man, who is ten years my junior, he just got custody of his two undisciplined pre-school kids, I try to help him with them, he also wants me to pay some of his bills, I feel I am being taken advantage of, please give me some advice?
Q. Hi, please help, im dating a man that just got custody of his 2 kids, they are both preschoolers. The mom died. We had been dating almost 3 months when this happened. We were living in different cities and now he moved to my city. The kids are ...
A. 17 September 2008: The parenting thing - I can understand after all you are a woman and therefore supposed to have some kind of magical "mother DNA" meaning you will be great with his kids.
He has no idea what he is doing and thinks that you will help the situatio... (read in full...)
My ex-boyfriend and I agreed to repair our relationship, but he got angry and won't talk to me.after he broke a date,and I got uposet with him, I saw him, and he wouldn't even speak, why is he reacting this way?
Q. My ex-boyfriend and I are in the process of rebuilding our once really close friendship and had agreed to see each other Thursday. He cancelled on me Thursday and I got upset because I had rearranged my schedule around for him. So we stopped speak...
A. 17 September 2008: The problem with this is there are still too many feelings involved. If it was just a friend you were meeting, you would have said "sorry can't do Thursday" but you didn't, you re-arranged everything for him.
If you had arranged to meet a friend o... (read in full...)
Most of the time, we can only talk online. Then her replies are delayed and out of context. Also feel she is finding excuses to end the relationship. Your opinion?
Q. My gf has been very busy reading news and joining online discussion about election. When we met online, I need to wait a long time for her to reply the message. At least 10 minutes. The worse, the reply isn't actually a reply eg hahahahahaha or ...
A. 17 September 2008: So you are pretty much only online? This is a lot of pressure to put on a brief online friend.
Giving out your passwords was a stupid thing to do, she could have been anyone.
Get onto your accounts, change your passwords, send her an email and... (read in full...)
I know everyone is telling me get to know him before I do anything but I don't know. please help me!!!
Q. Im a bisexual girl and i kinda dated this girl once a little over a year ago but i broke up with her because i was not over my first girl friend to this day im still not but im moving on from her So... im kinda but not officially dating a girl...
A. 17 September 2008: Well you have to split up with your girlfriend before you do anything. Yes it will hurt her, but you can't keep leading her on just because you want to keep her around as a friend. That is selfish.
As for this guy, well get to know him, get clos... (read in full...)
I have no doubt we'll stay together forever, I just don't know how I can stand this hurt about his past sex life?
Q. I really need help, I don't know what I'm supposed to do. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, and I know he loves me more than anything in the world. He's the most wonderful person and I trust him completely. He's the first person I've sl...
A. 17 September 2008: It will only get easier if you try to stop thinking about it, and think about something else instead.
He can't change his past, so you can't let yourself get upset about it.
People can't all be virgins when you meet them. I know my hubbie w... (read in full...)
I think he is a psychotic. I have no escape from him. I tried to make him understand, but he cannot see any man touching me!
Q. I am a 41 year old divorcee, living with a 13 year old daughter. I got divorced 7 years back and had been having a relationship with a married person all these years. Even though he loved me so much, he had his limitations always and he could ...
A. 17 September 2008: I think you have to expose this man's behavior. Go to the police, go to your boss, tell everyone that he is threatening you and him self and will not leave you alone.
He has everything to lose here which is why he is being so threatening and horr... (read in full...)
My boyfriend did not call me on my birthday-Am I reading too much into the situation?
Q. Hi, My boyfriend did not call me on my birthday. I wouldn't want to say that he "forgot" because that just might not be the case. Me and my boyfriend are in this long-distance relationship, me being in NY and he being in London. I had my birthday ...
A. 17 September 2008: Well you can't go on torturing yourself.
Call him and simply say "Well I take it this is your childish way of dealing with your feelings. Since you do not have any balls then I will get some and tell you it's over. Don't contact me again. Bye Then... (read in full...)
Too embarassed to buy a std test thinking about stealing one next time I'm in the store!
Q. i think i might have a disease. i wont go to the doctor but somethings also make me believe i dont have one ill have a brownish color string stuff come out of me like when im fingering myself.. the usualy white stuff comes out along with a little ...
A. 17 September 2008: If you don't want to get caught, then DON'T STEAL IT!!
If you are this embarrassed and immature then you should not be sexually active as you are not ready.
Take a friend in and buy it with her, that way they won't know who it's for.
Jus... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is so immature, he pouts constantly like a child, I am at a point where I feel I want a MAN and not a boy! Help!
Q. I'm 20 years old and have been in a relationship w/ my bf for 2 years. Sometimes I feel like it's very serious. Sometimes I just want to leave. There are so many problems that I don't where to start. First of all, sometimes he is so immature I feel ...
A. 17 September 2008: There is only so much you can do until you are dragged down into his little world.
I would try one last thing.
Talk to your sister and tell her about everything and how his life just seems to be sinking ad you have just had enough and don't... (read in full...)
What classifies as an "active" sex life? Just curious?
Q. How much times do you have to have sex in a week to have an active sexual life??...
A. 17 September 2008: It is entirely based on the couple and the circumstances.
If you are 86 then once a week is pretty active.
If like me your husband is never home, we'll have no sex for 4 months then a week together an do it 98 times (I may be exaggerating the... (read in full...)
After hearing bad news, my boyfriend put his foot through the TV set. It scared me and I don't know what to do now.
Q. Hi. I have been dating this boy for a while. I live with him in this cute little apartment in suburban Ohio. Recently he found out his little sister has cancer and when he found out he got so upset he put his foot through our TV. I love him ver...
A. 17 September 2008: I think if I found out my little sister had cancer then I would smash something too.
I am always one to warn people about potentially violent men, but I think in this case he was upset enough to want to hit out at something with a valid excuse. ... (read in full...)
I'm sick of his behaviour and I want to break up with him, but how do I end it?
Q. My boyfriend has been ignoring me constantly recently, acting like hes mad at me and being either distant, or sarcastic and patronising when we do talk. Even though i still care about him, his behaviour is making me miserable every day, i'm getting ...
A. 16 September 2008: Call him and tell him that you are sick of his behaviour.
Tell him that if it continues then you don't want to be with him any more.
That way he has a choice and can either grow up and stop acting like a spoiled 2 year old, or if he doesn't th... (read in full...)
Are all Turkish men this jealous? He said he's the only guy I should look at. Should I talk to him?
Q. I have been in a long distance relationship for around 2 months now with a turkish guy 4 years older. I really like him, but when we talk on the phone and he knows i have been out, he asks if i went out with boys. and when he says love you at the ...
A. 16 September 2008: Yeah all turkish men fit into a neat little stereotype.
You can't blame his nationality for the fact that he's a possessive pushy idiot.
If you don't like it then tell him that you will look at who you please and he should trust you more. ... (read in full...)
I understand that parents are a bit wary of letting me go over to Ireland to see someone they'd barely met, but they're being unreasonable about it!!
Q. Hey Aunts. It started like this, I met a guy online and we liked each other loads, so I gathered as much proof as I could that he was who he said he was, and arranged to meet up with him. We'd known each other for over a year and a half over msn ...
A. 16 September 2008: Sorry sweetie but you have to follow your parents' rules.
They don't want you to go and stay at some boy's house who they don't know.
I wouldn't want my 16 yearold daughter sleeping over at a boy's house if he lived next door, let alone in a f... (read in full...)
How do I handle my possessive boyfriend ?
Q. hey all , i would like to ask for your advice about my problem. i really don't know who else i should ask .. well , i have a boyfriend who is younger than me. he's 2 years younger than my age now . now , i'm 17 years old . i love him very much...
A. 16 September 2008: If you are not prepared to break up with him then why should he change? He has no reason to change.
You are weak enough now that he has actually given you a bed time to be in by!! As though he is a parent and you are the child!!
He will not c... (read in full...)
I am really getting confused what does the look he gave me mean?
Q. hello PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!! i would really like some advice on my sutuation. theres this boy who i have a big crush.he does have a girlfreind but yesterday i saw him with her i kind treid to ignore them so i turned away and spoke to my fr...
A. 16 September 2008: You asked this 2 days ago.
My answer is the same now as it was then.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
My boyfriend pouts, holds on to tiny arguments and gives me the silent treatment for hours! What can I do?
Q. My boyfriend pouts. He give the silent treatment and will hold on to TINY arguments for hours. If I say the wrong word he completely gets bent out of shape and gives me the silent treatment. I can be sarcastic at times, as well as him. If he is ...
A. 16 September 2008: He's a spoiled brat.
I bet he is exactly the same with his mother.
If you choose to stay with a brat then he is going to continue to be a brat.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
What exactly does "love" mean to you?
Q. heya, A friend of me asked me this, and i want to get some of your opinions on it... but can you tell me...? What exactly is love? I know... kinnda a big question... but i want to see what other people think it is :) And i dont really want the d...
A. 16 September 2008: That although we have been together 5 years, when I go to pick him up at the air port next week I will be as nervous as I was when I was 15 and going on my first date.
That he can look at me in a certain way and my entire body reacts.
That I ... (read in full...)
Are we ready to take the next step?
Q. I am 26 and my partner is 20 are we ready to get engaged??? We have been seeing each other for about 5 months now, and i have never felt as strongly for someone as i do her, we have been living together for about 3 months now and over come jealou...
A. 16 September 2008: You could talk about engagement and marriage but I agree with you about not getting engaged and then staying that way for years and years. What is the point?
Also you should definitely ask her dad's permission. My hubbie did that and it meant so... (read in full...)
I asked him to be gentle but he focused on himself during sex and wouldn't mind my objections. Should I believe him that it won't happen again?
Q. Hi, So I need some serious advice again. Ive been with my boyfriend a little over 4 months and for our anniversary, i booked a hotel to make our 'first time' special. I had told him I wanted to take it slow with lots of foreplay and candle...
A. 16 September 2008: He said he's sorry and it won't happen again, but he also said he knew about your past and promised he wouldn't be rough and would be romantic.
It's crap and it should never have happened in the first place. I am so sorry that you found out too ... (read in full...)
We'll be meeting this coming Saturday, after texting each other. How do I make him want me the way I do?
Q. Dear cupid, there's a guy i want to be with. we met through the phone mistakenly, when he mistyped a digit and dilled my number instead. we got talking, then we realised we visit the same club every saturday. we arranged to meet but it failed last ...
A. 16 September 2008: Dress up and flirt and get him drunk!
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
We only have sex infrequently and he lets everything else come between our sex life. How can I get him to see how much I need sex?
Q. My boyfriend used to have a really high sex drive and now seems to have none. We have gone weeks without sex and I seem to be the only one who cares. When I said something to him about it he actually said to me "Well, I have a lot on my mind and ...
A. 16 September 2008: Sounds like he could be depressed.
Find out what is on his mind and help him fix it. If you can't then make sure that when he gets home you pamper him and do something different to completely take his mind off his work worries.
My hubbie got... (read in full...)
Being cheated for 3 years, want out now. What type of financial support can I get from my husband for me and my child?
Q. I found out my husband cheated on my when our son BeBe was just 4 weeks, he is going to be 3 this Oct. The other woman just gave birth to my husband child 3 month ago. After almost three years of sharing my husband with the other woman, there is n...
A. 16 September 2008: You'd have to ask a lawyer in your state.
Perhaps one of the aunts is from your area and will know so keep trying!
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
He's depressed and won't seek help, I feel all I do is take care of what he needs while he neglects me. I think I want to end it but how?
Q. I'm a divorced 48 yr old in a four year relationship. My boyfriend is 50 and he is depressed constantly and won't tell the Dr or get on medication for it. He seems so up and down, you never know how he'll be. He never remembers my birthday (not in 4 ...
A. 16 September 2008: Well if he wants to move in then you can fix this but you have to be tough.
At the moment you are slowly sliding towards being his mental health nurse and not his girlfriend.
Tell him that you love him and want him to move in but ONLY after h... (read in full...)
My online boyfriend can't seem to move on from past offences.
Q. Hi I would like to hear some opinion from anyone here. I have my long distance bf from US whom I been with for 2 yrs, we haven't meet yet but soon. As a normal couples we do have our arguments even to the smallest things. I normally send an email...
A. 16 September 2008: This is a common problem. It will only get worse if you get together.
If you are already having to apologise for things you don't think you need to then stop.
If he is being arrogant and stubborn then tell him and tell him it has to stop beca... (read in full...)
On top of struggling financially, I discovered that my husband has been sleeping with our neighbour. I don't know what to do.
Q. I need help. I am in a very very bad place. I work in an industry that is taking massive hits and lay offs everywhere. I am responsible for 2 children (from my husbands 1st relationship)and my husband, He also works but we rely on my wage ( I earn m...
A. 16 September 2008: Wow you have it bad, I am very sorry this has happened to you.
However, now that she has gone, some of the pressure will be off you as those thousands of dollars that he has been spending can be spent on the kids and bills instead.
Right n... (read in full...)
What is the difference between loving someone and being in love?
Q. What is the difference between just loving someone and being in love?...
A. 16 September 2008: If you love someone then you care about them and want to be very close to them and know them very well. But you can move on and love others too.
If you are in love with them then you are obsessed and don't find anyone else attractive and want to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend suddenly became abusive and now won't contact me. Help?
Q. i met my boyfriend during xmas at my home in 2006. for quite sometime, we were so much in love especially i love him too much. but to my suprised sudently he changed his attitute towards me, and started abusing me everyday, still i told him that i ...
A. 16 September 2008: I don't know what has changed but I think it is his problem and not yours.
Leave him to it and move on.
He should be chasing you and apologising. If he does not then he is not worthy of you.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I really love gothic, black metal music. Does everyone go through this phase?
Q. i am a gothik girl but don't wear a lot of black.. but love the music.. black metal .. death metal..because of the state of war i lived in... anyways,i just wanted to ask if this a normal phase?i mean does everyone get threw with it?because it is ...
A. 16 September 2008: You like a certain type of music! Big deal.
It doesn't have anything to do with boys you like or your family. It's only music.
People seem to think that if you like certain music then you should dress a certain way and be into other similar th... (read in full...)
I am unsure about my sexuality, how do I tell my boyfriend?
Q. i am 17, female...and i am very confused! i have a boyfriend who i love but i cant stop looking at or thinking about girls!!! before i met him i considered myself bisexual...but i never knew for sure...i find women way more attractive than ...
A. 16 September 2008: At 17 NO ONE is ready to settle down.
You don't have to tell him if it doesn't affect him. If you want to stay with him then he doesn't have to know. Your relationship may not last forever and once it is over then you can go out and meet a girl i... (read in full...)
I'm getting restless with my girlfriend of over a year. Help!
Q. ok, i dont know if im in love! ive been wit the same girl for 1 yr and 1 month and been faithful but ive been thinking about cheating on her! some days i wanna be with her and some days i wanna be single and be out meeting new girls! we fight alot ...
A. 16 September 2008: Sounds like your feelings are fading.
You moved in together pretty quickly so I think you need to make a decision about what you want to do.
I can't tell you if you love her or not but if you are dreaming of freedom then it may show that you ju... (read in full...)
I gained a lot of weight through depression, any advice?
Q. I really have a weight problem...am 5 10 and weighs 178. I gain weight because I went trough a depression....now I want to lose it but I find mysel depressed everytime I look in the mirror.....it becoming an obssession......and I don't know what to ...
A. 16 September 2008: If you are throwing up your food then you have an eating disorder. Get help for it. It won't help you lose weight, it is simply a disease of your mind. if you want proof that it won't help then put "John Prescott" into google. He's a British ... (read in full...)
This guy tries too hard to impress me. How do I tell him to chill out?
Q. I recently started dating this guy. Hes great and sweet but the problem is he seems to be trying too hard impress me. I think part of the problem is I have very strict standards for him I really like him but I wish just he relex a bit. Hes acting ...
A. 16 September 2008: Why not lower your standards for him so he doesn't feel so much pressure to be this image of perfection that you demand.
If you chill out then so will he.
Talk to him and tell him to just be with you and that will be enough to impress you.
... (read in full...)
An old affair contacted me, then blew me off. I'm crushed, how do I get over this?
Q. 5am and the pain is still there. Its 5am and the pain is still there. I did manage to sleep but have woke at 5am and the feelings are still so ripe. The contact ended yesterday with a final text saying "it was for the best it ended". I insti...
A. 16 September 2008: Well you just have to carry on. Throw yourself into your family and fill your time. You know that the pain will fade after a while, as it did last time.
Yes this guy was an idiot, or perhaps he got a conscience about breaking up families... (read in full...)
Why do I run away every time a guy shows interest in me?
Q. What's my problem? I start to like a guy, and as soon as he starts liking me back, I run scared. It doesn't matter how sweet or genuine he is, I just don't like them anymore. It's as if I prefer the chase over the actual prize. This probably ...
A. 16 September 2008: Well you know and recognise what you are doing... so you have the power to choose not to do it.
Just try and stay with this guy for as long as you can.
Face your fear.
Tell yourself that you are not a slave to your instincts.
Good Luck!... (read in full...)
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