My imagination is running riot...any advice??
Q. I was friends with him for the whole of last year and we are getting closer all the time, with our friendship turning into the beginnings of something else. He was married for a long time and has been single for two years now. I am slightly ...
A. 19 September 2008: Just ask him straight.
"where is this going?" tell him you are looking for a boyfriend and you really like him but you don't want to keep holding on forever if all he wants is friendship.
Once you know what he wants then you can say "ok we c... (read in full...)
How long should you wait before you tell someone you love them?
Q. hello, i just have a question really as you know i havestarted seeing a lad 1 year and 37 days younger than me. my question is how long in peoples opinion should you wait before you tell someone you love them? please give me some advice on ...
A. 18 September 2008: Tell them you love them once you know you are in love with them.
It's a risk so you may also want to wait and see if they are in love with you too.
You can't put a time frame on falling in love.
The trick is being able to recognise love f... (read in full...)
Can you get pregnant and still have your period?
Q. i was wondering if you could be pregnant. and still have ur period?...
A. 18 September 2008: I have heard that it can happen but it's less likely than winning the lottery.
Go and get a test to see if you are pregnant or not.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
After 2 dates with her, I kissed someone else and we weren't even a couple at that time. She found out and broke up with me. Ladies, your thoughts?
Q. Ok here is the deal.... I met a really great girl, took her out on a date, things went well, a week later took her out again things looked good, then the third week i went to another town where my parents stay went to a party had a blast and ended ...
A. 18 September 2008: I think that although you had only just begun dating, and even though she told you she didn't want anything serious... She still wanted you to have eyes only for her and to worship the ground she walked on. She wanted you to try and win her heart ... (read in full...)
I'm 15, I feel like I'm mentally ready for sex, just not physically, is this normal and what should I do?
Q. i am 15 years old, my boyfriend and i havent been together for a very long time but we'v been close for over a year. He is a year older then me and isnt a virgin. he knows i am and he respects it but i feel like im mentally ready, just not ...
A. 18 September 2008: You just haven't learned how to be mentally turned on yet. You need to figure out how you enjoy being touched elsewhere and that will make being touched "down there" much better.
You should be doing foreplay with your boyfriend for a long time bef... (read in full...)
How long should I wait for her to think about us having a future? Can a relationship work without the fireworks at the start?
Q. I have been going out with this girl for around 3 months now. We have had breaks with us both going on holidays. We went out last night following my return from my holiday and the date went well again. However towards the end of the date we begu...
A. 18 September 2008: Well by wanting fireworks at the start - that automatically implies that those fireworks will stop after a while... and then what?
Why not have a steady start and intermittant fireworks all the way through? It's more a question of whether you want... (read in full...)
Does he want me to show a sweet side or sumthing?please help me,i don't know what to think.?
Q. hi...this guy that ive been kinda talkn to keeps botherin me in da day time and like one thirty in da mornin.we mostly text each other.he kept asking me to apologize for snapping at him.I snapped at him through a text and he keeps asking me to ...
A. 18 September 2008: Wow what a fruit cake!
Next time he texts asking for an apology, just text back telling him that you are sorry that he keeps pestering you.
Either that or just stop replying to his texts at all.
Why do you keep talking to him if he's b... (read in full...)
I really like this girl, but I've been an ass to her... what do I do?
Q. I was with a girl for two years, i really love her, but sometimes i was rough on her... as in i was a bit of an a**hole. Just of recent we broke up, she has sex with other men right away... Heres the clincher, she still comes to me with advice, she ...
A. 18 September 2008: I'm going to (not disagree exactly) but give the opposite argument to Mandy.
I think you broke up and as a girl she is trying to do what all girls do and stay friends. So she is talking to you and asking you guy advice because she wants to keep ... (read in full...)
My younger sister hates my girlfriend, and I don't know what do to.
Q. I been with my girlfriend for awhile (almost a year.) But my sister (who's only 6) hates her. One day when she came over to my house. I couldn't answer the door so my sister answer it. And cover her with silly swing (I saw the whole thing.) She got ...
A. 18 September 2008: She must have a reason for hating this girl. It could be that you haven't been spending any time with her so this new girl has "stolen" her big brother.
At 6, she thinks the world revolves around her and her tiny world.
I work in local radio a... (read in full...)
Am I crazy for being jealous of my boyfriend looking at younger women?
Q. Am I crazy for being jealous of my boyfriend looking at younger women?...
A. 18 September 2008: I would be jealous too.
Tell him to knock it off and show some respect when you are around.
If he wants to do it then he can go and gawp like a pervert when he's out with his mates.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
She says she didn't feel a 'spark'... I'm lost, what do I do?
Q. i work with this girl, we start going to break talking making out going well. so i ask her on a date she says yes then bails on me, she said she wasnt ready to date and i say no worries try to play it cool. so we finally go on a date to my place its ...
A. 18 September 2008: Well if the whole thing so far has basically been you two "messing around"and "making out" then it's just a physical thing for her.
If she went out with you again it would just be more physical stuff leading to sex. And perhaps she doesn't ... (read in full...)
I asked my husband if he had EVER cheated on me, he was defensive and denied it but my gut told me it is true...
Q. I asked my husband if he had ever cheated on me and his response was really different. He kept saying i cannot believe you do not trust me. He was defensive and after a while my gut told me this is true .. He said that if it was when we were youn...
A. 18 September 2008: Well if you are just looking for an excuse to justify dumping him then STOP IT!
You don't need an excuse to make it his fault.
Just own up and say you aren't happy and want to move on. Yes you will hurt him and the break up will be your fau... (read in full...)
Do I get back with my ex lover, as I always do, or do I stay with my new lover?!
Q. I have a girlfriend who ive been with for over 2-3 months. its good im happy. she made me straighter than i was before. but now my ex-girlfriend wants me back. she a very attractive and she wants to be with me again like it use to be. i might ev...
A. 18 September 2008: You may always go back to her but you keep splitting up with her as well.
Why can't you be single for a while?
You can't risk hurting your new girl if you are attracted more to someone else.
Go your own way and stop trying to pick a girl. ... (read in full...)
I have just started college and am working at the time so I am constantly tired and feel depressed!
Q. hey im really depressed in life at the moment i have just started college and am working so i am constantly tired. my boyfriend has just gone back to uni and i wont be seeing him in a while. also his best mate commented his facebook a coup...
A. 18 September 2008: I think your family will understand more than you think.
Plus it's getting cold and grey now so that will affect your mood.
Is there any way you can cut your hours at work? Or give it up? You are entitled to EMA £30 a week to cover lunch and ... (read in full...)
I befreiended a high end escort with whom I have casual sex, I am jealous of her dates, what is the right thing to do?
Q. I befriended an very beautiful high end escort that I saw three years ago, while i was going through a divorce. At the time she needed a place to move and I offered my spare room. At first we were just friends. It was like that for a year and half...
A. 18 September 2008: Well it sounds like you are just a room mate to her.
Is she paying you rent? Helping out with the bills?
She was your friend and then you two had casual sex. That's all it ever was, you even say so your self.
The fact she still has sex f... (read in full...)
My boyfriend enjoys getting period blood over him, is this normal?!
Q. Me and my boyfriend are both 16. Weve been going out for seven months and we both lost our virginty to each other around 4 months ago. I was just wondering if this is normal that my boyfriend likes to finger me whilst im on my period ( i only ever...
A. 17 September 2008: Well he may be a little kinky about wanting to go down there but as long as you are ok with it, who cares?
As long as he doesn't take the next step and tell you he wants to bite your neck and drink your blood, where is the harm? (I'm joking!)... (read in full...)
Will he judge me for being a 28 yr old virgin?
Q. I'm a 28 year old virgin, I've just started seeing a new guy but I am worried that he will judge me and will find it weird. ...
A. 17 September 2008: It is stranger in the UK than in America but it depends a bit on your reason. If you are planning to have no sex before marriage then you might want to tell him as he might not be expecting that.
If you have just been waiting for the right gu... (read in full...)
Is it normal for my breasts to be itching me so much?
Q. I'm a teenage girl of 14 and I was wondering if it was normal to have my tits itchy... I never had sexual relations and I don't know why I've got this problem. Sometimes it's really itchy and I get some blotches. I use some cream and it makes me f...
A. 17 September 2008: They are probably just growing. I remember mine felt odd and tender when I was 13 for ages because my brother would throw things at me and it really hurt.
Keep using moisturiser if it makes them feel better but don't put anything too medical ... (read in full...)
Why do so many people believe in the 'no contact' rule after a bad relationship?
Q. Why do so many people believe in the no contact rule after a bad relationship? Or if they had just gotten their hearts broken? Why shouldn't we contact them? And if we were to contact them.. would that be such a bad thing?...
A. 17 September 2008: Because the girl always wants to be friends and takes them out shopping and is all chirpy, and the guy follows them round desperately hoping that they will get back together, because, hey! she keeps calling him and being nice! So she must still care ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend seems to have changed a lot, and not in a good way. Please help.
Q. Hello :) erm well i'm really worried about my boyfriend. We've been going out for 10 months but he seems to be changing a lot and NOT in a good way :( The thing is, since he started college he has been very quiet with me, very sarcastic and seem...
A. 17 September 2008: Tell him to knock it off if he doesn't want to lose you.
He may refuse to talk about it but if he come out and say "you are making me unhappy and I don't want to be in a relationship where I am made to feel unhappy" then he will have to come up ... (read in full...)
Baseball....I love you...
Q. When I first started dating my current boyfriend I found a baseball that had "I love you" written on it on his dresser. It wasn't obvious, I found it when I was dusting (I am a neat freak :)) I questioned him about it and he said that he gave it to ...
A. 17 September 2008: Dude, they were together 8 years, he is going to have thoughts feelings and memories about her.
That doesn't impact on you any more than the memories of your old tree house impact on him.
He put it away and explained calmly. He didn't blow up, ... (read in full...)
If my wife were to ever swallow my semen, would it get into our baby's system as she is still nursing?
Q. Hello, my wife and I have oral sex and she nurses our ten mouth old, I was wondering if she were to ever swallow would the semen get into our baby's system??...
A. 17 September 2008: OK, this is how digestion works with reference to breast feeding.
Your wife eats. Food gets chewed and saliva starts to break it down and make it in to mush.
It gets to the stomach acid and that dissolves it into goo. The acid is neutralised a... (read in full...)
He thinks this is not normal,is it true?
Q. I am a very happily married woman,both of us are still in mad,passionate love after 10 years.On a recent trip to a strip club which was my idea,my husband found out that he is not attracted to any of those beautiful and sexy women.This discovery has ...
A. 17 September 2008: I don't know what strip clubs you go to but most of the girls I see that are strippers and plastic and fake looking. They are not pretty, they have just been molded into this shape that men are suposed to find attractive.
Maybe he just doesn't ... (read in full...)
I asked my husband if he had EVER cheated on me, he was defensive and denied it but my gut told me it is true...
Q. I asked my husband if he had ever cheated on me and his response was really different. He kept saying i cannot believe you do not trust me. He was defensive and after a while my gut told me this is true .. He said that if it was when we were youn...
A. 17 September 2008: So you have been together since school?
Well would it matter if he kissed some other school girl behind your back when you were 16?
Plus of course he is going to be defensive! If my husband asked me that then I would be hurt and defensive be... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend about my debts? I would rather do some clean up before letting him know...
Q. I have really bad credit that I am working on. I don't want to tell my boyfriend but I think this is the one I will marry. I am sure we won't get married for well over a year, is it bad that I am keeping this information from him? I would rather ...
A. 17 September 2008: Don't tell him until you need to.
Unless you are going to sign for a loan together or something (which is not likely) then he doesn't need to know.
Keep paying off your debts as much as you can and don't get anything in your joint name till ... (read in full...)
Is playing hard to get a good strategy to get the person you want?
Q. Hi all, This question has been around in my mind for quite some time. So I would like to know does doing that actually makes that person you want crave for you, like you more and wants to pursue you instead? 'Cos I am susceptible to becom...
A. 17 September 2008: The key is keeping the balance between looking desperate and at the other extreme looking like an ice queen.
You just have to keep an air of mystery about yourself.
Don't give it all away too soon. Let them do some of the work of getting to kn... (read in full...)
My boyfriend likes to tease me a lot, sometimes rudely. Or am I a nit pick?
Q. My boyfriend likes to tease me a lot. I understand sometimes it is funny but sometimes it really gets to me. For example, when I got home last night we were about to go to bed and he said I bet in your dream home you want a huge closet, I said yes ...
A. 17 September 2008: He meant that he is only joking when he says these things. He's trying (and failing) to be funny.
"I wouldn't call you ugly if you were actually ugly." He means that because you are beautiful, he can call you ugly and you'll know it's just a j... (read in full...)
My ex husband abused me and my children, I am still dealing with the after effects of his abuse and I finally want to confront him! Any ideas?
Q. i am going to do a very brave thing and confront my abuser. as from 2 weeks ago he is now my ex husband but i am still dealing with the after effects of what he put me and my our kids through. i feel so much anger as he abused me emotionally and ...
A. 17 September 2008: If you go round to see him and tell him that he's horrible and you hate him and the kids hate him, then what is to stop him getting a knife from the kitchen and stabbing you?
It's very dangerous to go and see him if he has been violent to you.
... (read in full...)
Should I tell my children I was abused by my dad?
Q. I was abused by my dad as a child. I have had counselling and I am now a mother. All the family know about it except the children. My daughter is now 9 and I think its time she knew. My husband disagrees and said she will become frightened of him. ...
A. 17 September 2008: I really don't understand why you are letting them have a relationship with their granddad at all if he is a paedophile.
There is no way you can explain that "granddad is a bad man, like the strangers we tell you not to speak to when you go out, ... (read in full...)
My brother has asked me not to get involved with his coworker, but we like each other!
Q. I have this huge crush and a guy at my local shooping centre, and he has one back problem, my brother is a work collegue of his. My brother has asked me not to do anything with this guy as he doesn't want me making his work life hard. But me and ...
A. 17 September 2008: Can this guy move departments so he is not working with your brother? Or get another job?
Talk to your brother again and say that you will never come to the work place and will make other compromises.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I'm still in love with my boyfriend, and I believe he's in love with me but the distance that is growing between us recently, drives me closer to another boy. Any advice?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for more than a year now, and I really believe we are in love. However, lately, he has been neglecting to call me much and when he does, he's usually watching TV or doing something online and barely pays attention. So a ...
A. 17 September 2008: If you are attracted to other men then you are not in love, you are just in a relationship. You care about your boyfriend and get on well with him but as soon as you are out of sight you are out of his mind.
if your boyfriend is doing other th... (read in full...)
What to do about my lying boyfriend? He blamed it on me that he created a dating account! Do I believe him?
Q. right so i'l try and make this short, basically me and my boyfriend nearly split up about 2 weeks ago and it was his choice he was saying he doesn't know wether he wants me or loves me anymore and we came to a decision that we were going to give it ...
A. 17 September 2008: Don't believe him, that is the biggest load of rubbish I have ever heard. Even if he clicked on single by mistake when setting up his profile, he would then have had to ACCIDENTALLY click "dating" as well and then ACCIDENTALLY accept friends ... (read in full...)
I made him move out and her's was the only place he could go, we're back together now but she's pregnant, how do I accept this?
Q. Me and my partner have been together eleven years. he recently had his head turned by someone at work. I made him move out and she was the only place he could go. After a few weeks he knew he had made a mistake and i accepted him back but now she ...
A. 17 September 2008: You can't blame her for getting pregnant.
She can't be the only person he knows who has a sofa, and you seem to have conveniently skipped over the bit where he had no where else to go, and then had un protected sex with this woman for a few week... (read in full...)
Hubby disregards counsellors' recommendations and I continue to feel unwanted despite of my efforts!
Q. Hi everyone, I have been struggling with a problem for the last 3 years and wondered if anyone could help. My husband has gone off sex completely, after years of counseling etc, he says he's just not interested at all with anyone including me! ...
A. 17 September 2008: Well he says he doesn't want to lose you but I think in his mind he knows you'll just stay and put up with it so the problem will just go away in the end.
I think you need to scare him into putting in some effort. You have tried everythi... (read in full...)
Do I end it or wait for him?
Q. hey I really need some help here... Okay about a week n a half ago I broke up with my on off bf of a year. He said he was done working things out but I tried anyways to get him back (I love him and shouldn't have ended it) He stopped talking ...
A. 17 September 2008: I think your habit of dumping him every time he misses a call shows that you are too young to be in a serious relationship.
The guy is ill! Send him an email to see if he is ok. The world doesn't revolve around you and when you want his attentio... (read in full...)
What can we do about our friend who is harming herself? Should we tell?
Q. Hi, my ex - best friend has been cutting herself for about a year now, and me and my other friends don't know what to do. I've been reading stuff about telling, but were too afraid. So, please tell me anything i can do to get her the help she need...
A. 17 September 2008: Write a note to a teacher you trust and leave it on their desk. That way you can stay anonymous. Or you could get someone to deliver it to the teacher's office if they have one.
You need to tell someone as she only has to slip and hit an artery a... (read in full...)
I'm worried about my girlfriend's health, she's just not eating properly. Please help.
Q. I have been in a relationship with a girl i met at university for 8 months now. I feel that she does not look after herself properly and is very lazy in her approach to life. Eg. she wont eat three meals a day and wont cook for herself. Instead she ...
A. 17 September 2008: I did this at uni.
I just didn't bother because buying stuff for meals cost too much money and the kitchen was really cold so I just hid in my warm room and snacked.
Plus the fact that I would just forget to eat! I nibbled at snacks all day s... (read in full...)
Is it true you can get pregnant if a guy gets too close to you?
Q. I've missed my period, but i've missed it before i don't know why, but i wasnt pregnant cause i didnt have sex. But now im worried because i've heard that u can get pregnant if a guys gets close 2 u, if he touches u, and thats what happened, and now ...
A. 17 September 2008: I think you need to ask your parents why you never got any sex education!
You should really know more than this by your age.
It's dangerous that you could be risking pregnancy by being so ignorant.
Talk to your school or parents about ... (read in full...)
I just don't know if I could be happy forever without ever experiencing being alone.
Q. I'm in college right now, and in a long distance relationship. ive pretty much been in a relationship since i was very young (different long term relationships, one after another) my boyfriend just finished school and is getting really serious about ...
A. 17 September 2008: Talk to him about your dreams and what you want to do in life.
Do you want a career? Do you want to travel for a couple of years and see the world? Do you know what country / state / city you want to live in?
Don't let him think that you a... (read in full...)
I don't know what to talk about with my boyfriend. What do I say to keep it interesting?
Q. my boyfriend and me have been goin out for about four weeks now i think and when we end up talking/txting i dont know what to say or talk about except "what are you doing?" or "what are you doing for the rest of the day/tomorrow?" he works ...
A. 17 September 2008: If you've run out of things to talk about after 4 weeks then you are in trouble.
Talk about the news, there is an election on so get him to talk about all the issues and his views on the world.
It's all part of getting to know eachother.
Go... (read in full...)
His kids are controlling and selfish, and pitch a fit whenever he mentions marriage. What do I do?
Q. if a man does not propose after dating for 3 years and9 months, should a person leave the relationship or just hang on and hope that it will happen soon? his grown children which are married pitch a fit when he mentions getting engaged or even ...
A. 17 September 2008: I think the anonymous reader is right.
You should do exactly that.
Remind him that he is their dad and should command respect from his kids.
They are probably only worried about their inheritance coming to you instead of them. And it'... (read in full...)
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