My boyfriend is not affectionate to me...
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for going on 4 years. I love him very much and i care for him deeply. I know that he knows my feelings for him. However, he rarely tells me that he loves me. The only time i hear it is when i say it first. And even then ...
A. 8 September 2008: Well if you only go back because you feel guilty then it's no wonder that he hasn't reacted when you told him it's over. He knows he can carry on like he is and you'll be back in a week.
I think you need to get some sef respect and ask yourself... (read in full...)
Cosmo says sex should last 45 minutes. What do you do all that time?
Q. Hi I have a question about sex. Basically, I just read in cosmopolitan that 34% of a poll of men thought the best length of time to spend having sex was 45 minutes. As a virgin, I was just wondering how you have sex for a length of tim eth...
A. 5 September 2008: 1. Seeing him looking cute doing something - 0 mins
2. going and kissing him - 2 mins
3. him getting up and kissing you back - 2 mins
4. heading upstairs - 1 min
5. kissing and groping and undressing - 7 mins
6. foreplay of various kinds - 15 m... (read in full...)
I'm disabled and can't date. Is it wrong to pay for sex?
Q. Im disabled for 3 years now, is it wrong to pay for sex ive never had to resort to this but now because of my disability i cant get out to meet women so i feel that is the only answer...
A. 5 September 2008: I have heard or organisations who get groups of guys like yourself together and head off on a boys trip to Spain. They use legal clean brothels over there.
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/magazine/7057929.stm
Just put "disabled men sex" into google... (read in full...)
Should I follow everyone's advice and just move on?
Q. Can you really just Fall out of Love? I was head over heels for this guy for over three years but the last few months my psych meds have changed and I see how he has been treating me - it has gotten to the point that I now realize what my friends ...
A. 5 September 2008: Yep, move on. You've hit that magic three year point and the initial love has faded. It happens to a lot of relationships, good and bad.
Walk away and learn not to put up with an idiot like this again.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is not affectionate to me...
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for going on 4 years. I love him very much and i care for him deeply. I know that he knows my feelings for him. However, he rarely tells me that he loves me. The only time i hear it is when i say it first. And even then ...
A. 5 September 2008: Well in my opinion this guy is with you because he's always been with you. You've got so used to being together through your teens that not you can't imagine actually surviving without each other, even if you aren't happy together.
I really d... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has a low sex-drive and it's beginning to worry me!
Q. I am in a very happy relationship were very much in love and having a great time with each other. were both 20 and this is my first and her 3rd serious relationship. Recently we have taken each others virginity and are making love, which was fun but ...
A. 5 September 2008: Well if you only just took eachother's virginity then I would say this is the first serious relationship either of you have had.
However if she has has had boyfriends where no sex was involved then she may just be in a pattern of not having s... (read in full...)
How do I get him back after I ended things?
Q. hi,i ended things with my boyf because what he wanted in our future scared me off but now ive had time to think about it i realise i want the same,i was just shocked cos i didnt think he was thinkin of a future with me.i want him back but how do i ...
A. 5 September 2008: See him, tell him you were wrong and that you miss him and love him and want to be with him.
Hope that he can forgive you for dumping him.
That's it!
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
My fiance wants us to live with his mother...what can I do?
Q. I have been with my partner for 3 years now and a few weeks ago, we become engaged and have started to plan a wedding in disney, florida in 2010. a few weeks/months before he proposed, we began thinking about seriously moving to florida. He is 27, ...
A. 5 September 2008: Didn't you ask this question last week?
I think the advice given then was:
If he is not sure about moving to the other side of the world and abandoning his mother then don't do it.
You need privacy as newly weds.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Could tick bites be causing my symptoms?
Q. okay so recently i went tree planting and i got bitten by some ticks. about 2 weeks later, the bites are still visible and itchy, and more inflamed. my best friend has been bitten by ticks and hers never got this bad. i have also noticed that my ...
A. 4 September 2008: Jamer 70 is right. Ticks carry some nasty crap around with them.
Go and see a doctor and get a blood test. It's best to get treated now rather than wait till you suddenly collapse.
Haven't you seen House?
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Should I just 'go for it' so she'll know I'm interested?
Q. Hey there, I am really liking a girl at the moment- to the point where i can't stop thinking about her and am having trouble sleeping but i can't tell how she feels about me. I am very unexperienced in these situations so am feeling pretty lost. I'...
A. 4 September 2008: Well you don't have to lunge at her.
Next time you are out make sure you are sitting next to her, and move closer, put your arm around her. Or if you are sitting opposite her then give her a compliment and take her hand if it is on the table.
... (read in full...)
How can I avoid them without being offensive?
Q. Hi, My friend has 2 annoying children and a partner who is always out what he can get (freeloader). They always insist on meeting up or coming over to my house which i dread as the children always have tantrums and misbehave. Even when i go over t...
A. 4 September 2008: Ask her to come out for a girly afternoon with you. Ask if she can get the boyfriend to look after the kids.
If you see her that way when you can, and then find some other childless friends then you should be ok.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Don't want to give up on my current partner and then regret it but then again I want to give the other person a chance!...
Q. I don't know if I am with the right guy. Before I met my current partner I was set up on a blind date with Mr. D and we really hit it off although he was just out of a relationship and not looking for anything serious, which was fine with me. We ...
A. 4 September 2008: Well look, your current boyfriend obviously isn't doing it for you. You don't even say he's great or anything, just that you are not happy with him.
Accept that your current relationship has run its course. Talk to your boyfriend and tell him you ... (read in full...)
Why did he leave me for her when I was the only one who supported him and accepted his drinking problem? Will he ever come back?
Q. I have been with this man for two years. He lived with me for 9 months. He said that he loved me, but wasn't in love with me. His ex kept his clothes and wouldn't give them back until they talked. He goes over to talk and never comes back. He says...
A. 4 September 2008: Well it could be that although you are the logically better choice - he just loves her.
You are a wonderful woman and will make the right man SO happy as he will have been so lucky to have found someone as strong and caring as you.
But it ... (read in full...)
Are we too fussy sometimes when it comes to meeting a long term partner?
Q. Having read some of the posts on here, I am curious about something. IF you are happily single and open to meeting someone for a long term relationship at some point, Do you have a check list of things you look for in a guy/girl? Have you got a ty...
A. 4 September 2008: If asked to make a list of things the man I would marry must have, I would say:
6ft. (I'm 5'9'') A degree (I like intelligent men) and someone who can be with me and not long distance (been there done it, not interested)
Then I met Stu, who is ... (read in full...)
Dating both of us in parallel? Why would someone do somthing like this?
Q. I have been seeing someone for about 4 months and recently found out that he has been double dating - seeing me part of the week and the other lady the other part. He has shared the same restaurants, jokes, smooth talking lines and everything. He ...
A. 4 September 2008: Contact this other girl and tell her what you've found out. This guy is obviously a psycho with serious issues and I am sure he will only replace you so he can continue cheating on her.
Then walk away.
You were very unlucky to have found such ... (read in full...)
After his brother died, his parents have been extra protective of him and it's affecting our relationship!
Q. Hi everyone I have a gorgeous boyfriend of 7 months. We are both 19 and for the past 6 months i have been spending most nights living with him and his parents. We came to realise we both needed some nights apart to catch up with friends, do our ...
A. 4 September 2008: Well why are you lying to him about how you feel. Why sound happy when he calls.
Call him now and let it all out - cry aout how you miss him and how you are scared of the operation and how you feel his parents have taken the best thing in your lif... (read in full...)
When two guys are having sex, who exactly takes the role of the man?
Q. Picture this, one guy is getting penetrated helplessly and the other is DOING the penetration. Theyre both enjoying it, which guy is more masculine or "manly" and why? Now the guy who is being penetrated cums because he got penetrated for.....
A. 4 September 2008: Well when a woman and man have sex, she is the one getting penetrated but she is in charge. She tells him how fast or slow to go, she tells him to stop or start.
She is the boss.
I imagine it is the same for gay men. They both have power in th... (read in full...)
I have disapointed people too many times. What can I do to ammend all of this?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am 26 years old and for the first time in my life I have hit rock bottom. I use to be a caring, and honest person but for the last year I don't even know who I am. I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 years and 3 months. We h...
A. 4 September 2008: Oh flipping heck. It's not like you killed someone.
You felt pressured in to marriage - but like you say, your mum wasn't really asking you to get married. She never brought it up. I honestly don't feel like she would have wanted to see you marr... (read in full...)
Do you think he will start wanting me if I suddenly disappear from his life?
Q. Theres this guy .we have sex every now and then but i really fancy him. I feel an connection. Im a confident sexy woman who knows her self. He knows shes all these things but he doesnt want 2 show it.if i walked away do u think he would realiyze ...
A. 4 September 2008: Well you can give it a try but it might not work.
If he just wants you for sex then he may just think of you as a great mate, but not girlfriend material.
Try it and if it doesn't work then you just have to move on.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
She dumped me because I lied about my virginity! What do I do now?
Q. ok i told my good friend that i wasnt a virgin and told her to not to tell anyone... then i started dating this girl i really like and care for... and one day she asked if i was a virgin and i told her yes and she said ok.. then today my good ...
A. 4 September 2008: You can beg. You can explain why you lied and bring flowers and tell her how sorry you are and that you will never lie to her about anything ever again.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Is it good for the relationship if they hang out every day?
Q. should a boyfriend and a girlfriend hang out everyday is it good for there replashionship????...
A. 4 September 2008: No, it means you lose contact with all your friends.
It also means that you stop making effort for each other since you just sit hanging out day after day.
You'll get into the boring rut of doing nothing and not talking about anything and the... (read in full...)
I failed again in a relaionship and I feel like one because of that...
Q. I hate myself so much most of the time. I am not happy with myself. I feel like a failaure 'cause for the second time that I try a relationship it is not working. I've been crying a lot lately... I don't know what to do... I am depress 'cause my ...
A. 4 September 2008: Lots and lots of relationships will be rubbish.
That's why you have to get out of them when it is not working.
If you are feeling depressed then get medical help. Or if you can't get that then go out with your girlfriends and get them to chee... (read in full...)
Why did he change his attitude after visiting me?
Q. I was in a situation with a boy I had just met.I didn't know much about him and he didn't know much about me.But we did talk on the phone and I was thinking like maybe he did care if he came over to see me. We were inside of my home and we were rel...
A. 4 September 2008: He either has a girlfriend already and is freaking out that he's cheating on her.... or he's just a psycho.
Why bother with someone like this?
There are plenty of non-psycho guys out there who will never be mean on the phone and will be that... (read in full...)
Are these the symptoms of premature ejaculation?
Q. Dear Cupid, i have an embaressing issue with my sex life, im a 24 year old male an i think i have premature ejaculation. During fore play im constantly trying to not ejaculate, intercoure (if i make it) is even worse. Im with my third long ...
A. 4 September 2008: It sounds like it could be.
Check this website for help....
http://www.bbc.co.uk/relationships/sex_and_sexual_health/probs_prematureejaculation.shtml
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Is a four year age gap acceptable in a relationship?
Q. Is 17 and 21 an ok age difference? My cuson is nearly 17 and she likes a guy whos 21, is 4 years an ok age differnce? we live in the UK so its legal...
A. 4 September 2008: That's no too bad an age gap.
She would be doing A-levels and he would be at uni. Or if they were not in education then they would both be working.
The only problem they are going to have is if they go out and she gets IDed then it's not go... (read in full...)
She's off to uni and I am over anylising everything!
Q. Hi all, Ive recently started going out with someone, its been a little over 3 weeks now. She is a great person and im really happy were seeing each other now as she simply makes my day. To the problem: She will soon be starting Uni in a weeks ...
A. 4 September 2008: She has to pack her entire life away into a couple of boxes, plus deal with endless relatives who try and give "helpful" advice and piles of old mouldy bed clothes.
It's no wonder she hasn't got time to spend the whole day on her phone.
Chill o... (read in full...)
I picked the wrong guy! What do I do?
Q. I break up with my boyfriend of 4years for somebody else. well, i thought i wasn't happy with him anymore. Then i got married with this second guy and now i just cant seem to forget my first boyfriend. i always think of him nowadays. i am actually ...
A. 4 September 2008: I think to be honest here you have made your bed and have to lay in it for a while.
You didn't just leave this guy and then realise it was a mistake, you left him, met someone else, got engaged, planned a wedding and are now married.... that tak... (read in full...)
Desperate for parenting advice when should one mom tell the other mom her dauighter is sleeping around
Q. my daughters best friend is 15 and she recently lost her virginity. after missing her period, my daughter asked me to buy a pregnacie test so I did. Well thank god she wasnt pregnant!! I did not tell her mom I gave her the mom lecture about what I ...
A. 4 September 2008: I'd threaten her one last time. Tell her that you know she is having sex after she promised that she wouldn't and that if you hear one more RUMOUR about it from anywhere, true or not, then you are going to her mother.
If you do find out anything... (read in full...)
The woman he cheated on me with got pregnant but we're not sure that they are his!
Q. Well my story started inJan. 2008 when my husband told me he had cheated on me once in Dec 15th 2007.. I was just devasted. I have been with him for 9 yrs. we have a 7 yr old son together and i just love my family so much.. Well, he said he only ...
A. 4 September 2008: You took him back. You are forgiving him so YOU get what you want, and if that involves a swab being taken from the inside of his mouth then he better damn well do it.
This girl will probably also be happy to get the baby / babies tested as it wi... (read in full...)
What are some ideas regarding exercise if you enjoy being active but the gym bores you to death?
Q. I would like to lose weight because although people don't think of me as fat, I am very self conscious about my appearance. I would like to have a nice figure, but I'm afraid that I'm nearing that age where it's impossible to lose weight. My ...
A. 4 September 2008: I hit 25 this year.... not a happy birthday.
I've taken to just parking the car further down the street so I have to walk 100 yards in the morning.
Cut out the chocolate except for special treats.
And also just to little exercises like st... (read in full...)
I fear that if I say "no" to his advances that he will leave me!
Q. Ok so, I've been going out with this amazing guy for almost 7 months. He is my first real boyfriend. I love him more than anything. But, I just found out a few months ago that he wants to..."explore the south" as in the sexual kind of way if you ...
A. 4 September 2008: If he won't keep waiting then he is no good as a boyfriend and he is doing you a favour by showing you he's a jerk now, rather than after you give yourself to him.
At your age, you have to make them wait as long as you want because it's your fir... (read in full...)
Is it normal to fantasize about other men when you're in a healthy relationship?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for 3 1/2 years and he treats me really well. Im 21 and he is 25. The only problem is that i sometimes dream and think about having sex with other men, i really dont know why this is. We have a healthy sex life so its not ...
A. 4 September 2008: Nah!
You just need some variety in your head. You dream up all kinds of things that would never ever happen in real life because in pretend fantasy land they are sexy.
If you are just dreaming about them for fun while on your own then you are... (read in full...)
Do you think my friend and I should confront him about him going red etc.?
Q. I'm 14 and i really like this guy who is 15 and is in the year above at school. I've known him since we were in primary school. I've liked him for a few years now and i think i love him. ( Do not say that because im 14 i can't be in love) Last S...
A. 4 September 2008: Haha, what are you going to do? Tie him to a chair and slap him about until he confesses?
I think you need to take a bit of a deep breath and calm down. This poor guy is probably mixed up in his head. Why do you have to know what he is thinking... (read in full...)
Do guys care how a vagina looks like?
Q. okay so ive just been watchin this documentry called the perfect vagina and baslicly its a woman makin a documenntry goin round and explorin vaginas lol, shes been askin men if the way a vagina looks puts them off sex and the amount that have said ...
A. 4 September 2008: I just watched that!!
Psy cookie, she meant exactly as she said, getting your labia, lips and other bits either plumped up or chopped off.
As for my opinion, I think that it's varied... some guys are going to be picky about it and some won't. ... (read in full...)
How can I explain that I want to move there for me and not for him?
Q. I'm in a bit of a pickle and I don't know if its because I'm over analyzing or not. I have a friend who I absolutly love to peices as a mate but we fancy the hell out of each other. we sleep together when we get drunk and were both ok with it. For a ...
A. 3 September 2008: Well just tell him that you are sick of living at home and need a new job. Tell him you are thinking of following his example and move away some where.
If he doesn't say "well you should move here, it's great!" then just ask him how he would fe... (read in full...)
When I finally gathered the courage to ask her on a date, I learned that she found someone else, have I waited too long?
Q. Well basically I have a friend, we used to work together and we talk to each other a lot. I always wanted to ask her out, but I was nervous. You see every girl I have ever had any involvement with has ended in disaster, usually really really ...
A. 3 September 2008: It sounds like when you went to the movie together, she thought it was a date. But you didn't and she felt stupid.
Yes you waited too long. If she splits up with her boyfriend you could try asking her out again, but she may have already got over... (read in full...)
If a guy that you like a lot, calls you sheltered, is that a good or a bad thing?
Q. If a guy thinks you are sheltered is that a good thing or a bad thing especially if he is Mr Outgoing and Mr Active and you really like him....
A. 3 September 2008: Sheltered usually means "has been protected from the world."
So he might have meant it as a good thing that you are innocent.
Or he might have meant it as a bad thing in that you know nothing about how the world works.
How did he say it? Wh... (read in full...)
My relationship with my boyfriend has been shaky, his brother was recently sentenced, to two to three years in jail, what do I say to my boyfriend when I call him?
Q. me and my bf r 20. our relationship has been shakey. his brother went to court today n sentenced for 2-3 yrs...when i call my bf what should i say?...
A. 3 September 2008: Say:
Hi, how are you? How is your brother?
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
When a guy's dad says, "has gone soft on her," what does that mean and why would he say that?
Q. hmmm ok when someone says like for example a lads dad says "hes gone soft on her" to his son or something what does it actually mean and what would make him say this? just curious...
A. 3 September 2008: Up in the North of England if you say someone has "gone soft" on someone it means they fancy them.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How can I help my hypochondriac boyfriend?
Q. how do i cope? how do i cope my boyfriend is a hypochondriac. For example he has a bump on his head... he thinks its a tumor. He has a cyst in his cheek ... he thinks its a tumor. He has a bowel problem and thought he had cancer. When i g...
A. 3 September 2008: Well that might be the cause of his problems but it's not an excuse to let them continue.
Lots of people's grandparents die. It's part of life.
Tell him to suck it up or you are off.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How do you find out if a woman has had anal before?
Q. I would like to know if there is a way to find out if the woman had had anal sex before ? Well, lets say you can find out if she had vaginal intercourse by asking doctor to check her vagina. Now, I want to know if there's any way to find out i...
A. 3 September 2008: I think that if you get any girl to see a doctor to PROVE her virginity to you then you have serious problems.
If you will throw away a beautiful intelligent girl simply because she has broken her hymen (and remember that you can do that riding h... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and my boyfriend wants a DNA test, what should I do?!
Q. im 5months pregnant in and i cheated on my boyfriend in i dont now what to do? I know if its not my boyfriend than im on my own and its going to be over because he already thinks its not his because i use to work in the strip club.and he wants a dna ...
A. 3 September 2008: Well if you do not know who the father is then you will just have to wait till after it is born and do a DNA test.
You may be a single mum, but it's not impossible.
Unfortunately if you cheat and have unprotected sex then you have to face the... (read in full...)
How can I help my hypochondriac boyfriend?
Q. how do i cope? how do i cope my boyfriend is a hypochondriac. For example he has a bump on his head... he thinks its a tumor. He has a cyst in his cheek ... he thinks its a tumor. He has a bowel problem and thought he had cancer. When i g...
A. 28 August 2008: I think he needs to get some help. There are plenty of hypochondriac help websites online, or he could speak to a councillor.
The thing is that you have to be tough with him or you are just helping him to cement his pattern of behaviour. Tell him... (read in full...)
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