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writes:I stayed at my mom's friends house, while my parents left town. Her son, whom is 24, has always picked on me, and He was tackling me and tickling me on the bed, so I rolled over ontop of him, and started tickling him, he moaned my name after a few minutes, and told me dont do that..and I moaned his name back, and giggled cause he was tickling me too.. he told me not do that, and I'd regret it, I thought he meant tickling, so I didn't stop. His breathing got heavier, and I wasn't paying attention to the fact he was hard. I made him cum, panicing, I got up and left the room. He hasn't talked to me, he won't even look at me. I tried saying I was sorry later that night that I didn't mean to make him cum. He walked off. I think he's mad, or embarassed. I wish I knew how he felt, but I can't, until he stops ignoring me, and I don't understand how to get him to talk to me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2008): Try writing what you want to say in a letter or an email or something. At the end of it ask him to write you something back in response.
It sounds like the biggest problems would be gone if you two could just talk long enough to get a few things out in the open. Doing it on paper/screen will take his nervousness out of the picture.
He's embarrassed as hell because maybe he just doesn't want things to get sexual between you two. In a situation like that, guys really can orgasm with a girl that they don't really want to be sexual with.
Or another possibility is that he DOES want things to be sexual between you & him, but he's too embarrassed/uncomfortable about the way this whole thing happened in this case.
Or maybe he is attracted to you sexually, but he doesn't want to make things sexual because he fears long term issues if you & he hook up. I've been there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOf course I like him. However, I don't want to wind up losing our friendship of 14 years. That'd kinda suck. Plus in all the years we've known each other he's always said he'd never date one of his friends. That'd be just too weird.
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reader, hurtandbitter +, writes (13 September 2008):
Haha yea he's more offended by the fact that you panicked and walked out at that vulnerable moment for him than the actual cumming. It's clear that he has a huge crush on you. I'm not sure how you feel about him but at this point should tell him that you panicked that's why you left and either let him know if you want to go for more than just tickling or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2008): If he's 24 and embarrassed by that, then there is really something wrong with him.
Honestly... if an 18 year old girl was playing around like that with me... well, it would turn sexual pretty damn fast and it would be making out and not tickling.
If you like the guy, keep pressing until he buckles and gives in because a guy like needs to be pushed or else he won't do anything.
Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the advice. I was doing just that, giving him his space.
Until he came over to play games with my brother. Normally he'd sit beside me, and make faces, but he set clear across the room. He never spoke, and my brother noticed, and asked if we had a fight or something, and in a harsh, hateful voice he said 'Something alright.' Ugh, I got up and left the room, and when my brother had a phone call. He came in the backroom with me, and set down. I went to tell him I'm sorry, and he told me I needed to listen to him first. He told me that he can't believe what i done to him, and that i was a big tease for doing that to him, and how he can't understand how I just got up and walked out of the room like nothing happened, and then try to apologize later. I tried to tell him I didn't know it'd happen like that, he shook his head, and just looked so mad, like he'd punch someone. I felt like I was going to cry, I was so upset that he wouldn't listen to me, and for the fact he called me a tease. I guess he saw how upset I was, cause he told me just to forget it, and walked off.
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reader, hurtandbitter +, writes (12 September 2008):
I can see why the fact that you panicked and left the room has probably made him embarrassed and probably mad. The fact that he was so easily pleased by you shows that he has a huge attraction for you. Give him some space and time. Make him comfortable around you. There is nothing either of you should be ashamed about. Showing that you don't mind what happened will get his confidence back and who knows if you're both into each other maybe you two can even pursue it further. At least now you know of one thing that makes him get off. *wink wink*
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (12 September 2008):
 He's embarrassed that he came so easily. Just ignore it, dont mention it again and be nice to him when you see him. I dated a guy who ejaculated into his pants when I put my legs up on his knee but he was a lot older then your friend. I didnt mention it as he was embarrassed, its not the main reason I dumped him either, he was just too needy.
This guy has maybe fancied you for a long time which is why guys often pick on girls so that was probably why it happened not because he has a problem. x
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reader, SugarCookie +, writes (12 September 2008):
I think that he is just waiting and hoping you might forget. Dont say anything to him about it and give him the impression that you did forget. It will mean a lot to him. wait a short amount of time and then start randomly talking to him. Like hey did you see that movie or hey did you catch that game. Easy things to start talking about.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (12 September 2008):
 I like Emily's answer. I'm sure he's very embarrassed, so don't try to pursue it or talk about it. Follow Emily's advice and things will settle back to normal.
Take care.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (12 September 2008):
He's probably just embarrassed.
I think you should do the British thing and keep a stiff upper lip.
Don't bring it up. Act like it never happened. Never speak of it again. It will be easier and less embarrassing.
Good Luck!! xx
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