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writes: My wife wants a boob job. She really thought bigger is better. I don't like the idea, because they look so fake. How can I tell her I dont want her to get a boob job? Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (13 September 2008):
Find out why she wants the surgery. She may think that you will like them more. Tell her you love them as they are.
Also, when you next have sex pay extra attention to her boobs and tell her how gorgeous they are and how you will miss them when they are gone.
Let her know that you really like her as she is. It's her surgery at the end of the day and her choice to take the risk, but you have to tell her how you feel sooner rather than later.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, MissWendlemoot  +, writes (13 September 2008):
 What are the reasons you don't want her to get one?
I had one a couple of years ago and nobody can tell they are fake. The bf loves them. He loved them before though too.
I'm glad I got them.
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reader, hurtandbitter  +, writes (13 September 2008):
Let her know about it. For most guys nice looking fake boobs are a big turn on...for the first 2-3 minutes. Then we start to realize the flaws and how unnatural they are and realize what a big turn-off it is.
Take some time and politely and calmly tell get how you feel. If she cares about you and your feelings she will understand and even get a compliment out of it since it essentially is a compliment.
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reader, Sugarbuns +, writes (13 September 2008):
 Say, "honey I love your breasts just the way they are right now, don't change a thing!".....She'd be a fool to put her health at risk for a pair of boobs when you're happy with what she has.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2008): If your wife remains adamant on getting fake breasts, perhaps it will help you to understand why. I am a women studies major at my university, and I have learned that one of the main reasons for women to want to have breast implants are matters of femininity.
Make sure to try to fully understand why your wife wants to have the procedure done. If you have already told her that you prefer natural breasts, then it is probably not a matter of looking better or more attractive to you or other males, but rather improving her own self image or being seen as a powerful aka feminine women. Or, depending on the breast size she desires, maybe she just wants to look "normal".
Make sure to ask her if she will still be happy with her choice in ten, twenty, thirty years.
Make sure she knows that her choice will affect you as well as herself, that you review the pros and cons of the procedure together, and continue to stress that you love her the way she is. Perhaps this time will dissuade her.
Suggest waiting to making a final decision until a time or date that you can both agree on. Although this may be obvious, if she still decides that she want to have implants, I will remind you to not don't get upset, but support her.
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reader, Replacement  +, writes (13 September 2008):
 How unfortunate. I'm with you on the boob issue, I hate the way fake breasts look and feel. Her decision will impact you as well as her, in that you won't get the same pleasure out of them that you once did. But if she really, really wants it, it is her body and therefore her decision. Try to explain to her that you like her real ones 100000x more than you'd ever like fake ones. Ultimately it's her opinion of her body that really counts, and yours will always be second to that. If she is dissatisfied with her appearance then it is her right to rectify that however she chooses. Advice her to mull it over for at least a year before taking the plunge, though, because it is a painful and expensive procedure that often has complications... and a few years after she has them, she may need secondary operations to maintain them. Getting fake boobs isn't a matter of just popping them in it's something that requires tweaking over time, and additional payments over the years for these extra procedures. There are websites that detail the complications associated with fake breasts, not the least of which is reduced sensation in the breasts, difficulty breastfeeding in the future, extreme physical pain and financial cost. It's not something to rush into. Tell her to really think it over and while she's mulling it over, enjoy your time with her natural breasts and make sure to compliment her often so she feels better about herself. Maybe she will change her mind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2008): The answer to that lies in the reason to why she wants implants in the first place. Why does she feel she needs these? Why does she not think she is enough just as she is? When you figure that out, you'll be able to convince her not to go through with it.
I suspect it has to do with what she sees in the media ....we as women are constantly getting messages about what great tits look like, she probably thinks she doesn't measure up. If you say anything about other women's bodies in front of her, it exasperates the problem. Has she had babies?
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