My girlfriend is starting to ask my help in paying her bills
Q. I have a girlfriend who i love very much and she says she loves me, she works nights in people care and exhausts herself doing it to pay her mortgage and bills and the money is not going far enough so shes started asking me for money to make up the ...
A. 28 October 2008: You could always agree to lend her the money if you don't see her as someone you'll be with forever.
Or could you perhaps buy a share of her house and give her a cash payment?
If she can't manage her mortgage then she should talk to her bank... (read in full...)
How can I help and support my friend in an abusive relationship?
Q. I think my friend is making the biggest mistake of her life. She has been seeing this guy she knew from work for just over a year now, and when they were together for 2 and a half months, she moved in with him in his MUMS house. We had a long ...
A. 28 October 2008: You have to get her to see that this guy is a dangerous psycho.
Try to keep telling her that normal men who actually care about their girlfriends don't treat them in the way that he is treating her.
Be there and keep telling her that she can... (read in full...)
He wont contribute finacially and I am drowing in bills!
Q. I am having a problem with my relationship, me and my boyfriend argue all the time. He got sacked from his job 4 months ago. We have been together for nearly a year but he used to work abroad so I only seen him for weeks at a time. Anyhows after ...
A. 28 October 2008: Wow, can you spell leach?
If you can spell it then why haven't you spotted it?
Tell him there is no more money. That if he doesn't pay you £x by the end of next week then he is going to have to move out.
You are right that it is your fa... (read in full...)
Ladies, how much does physical attractiveness, in a man, mean to you?
Q. I feel so insecure about my body these days, I know I'm not at the peek of physical fitness but I am an active person and feel like I shouldn't have to be the guy rippling with muscles and washboard abs. What I want to know is... Women how much...
A. 28 October 2008: Are you saying you would only go out with a woman with a flat tiny stomach and enormous boobs?
If you will consider some girls with a bit of chunk then you can accept that some girls will consider you.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I hate myself because I am bi sexual. Help!
Q. Ok this is my question to everyone, i am 17, and a senior in high school, and i hate myself because i am bi, it has gotten to the point where i cant stand looking at myself in the mirror, and all my relationships have become strained to no end ...
A. 28 October 2008: Chill out!! That's what you need to do.
Does it really matter if you find men attractive? No one is forcing you to wear pink shirts or marry one.
You can be bi your whole life and never act on it.
My friend is bi and she had a girlfriend for... (read in full...)
Why do people get jealous of other people?
Q. Why do people get jealous of other people?...
A. 28 October 2008: It's called human nature.
Is it something that God / The Devil put in us?
Or is it a tribal survival mechanism that it's a lot easier to go in, punch someone and take the food source they have, rather than going out and finding one of your own?... (read in full...)
Should I meet him at Easter when I'm 18?
Q. Hi all... I cant believe I am even thinking about this nor asking for peoples advice, it's totally not like me. I was wondering what I should do... On msn, I recently starting chatting to a man the age of 44, he seemed decent enough, funny and...
A. 28 October 2008: Yeah a real connection! I could make up a lot of sad stories about my ex girlfriends and how I'm really just looking for love and I'm not like other guys and listen to your problems and tell you that you're wonderful and beautiful.
That doesn't ... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend unattracted to me?
Q. my boyfriend and I have been dating for just over a year and i have just recently found out that he no longer finds me attractive sexually. At first i was devestaed as i am already quite self concious. However he explained that he was still in live ...
A. 28 October 2008: I don't think you should do anything new or kinky to try and lure him back.
I think the problem is not you here but him. He's probably watching these things BECAUSE he knows you'd never do them. You are his homely girlfriend who is all tied in ... (read in full...)
We're on a break but he keeps calling!
Q. My boyfriend of 2.5 years and I are now on a break. He was the one who suggested it. But when he suggested it he was crying and crying and told me he loved me and wanted to be with me be for some reason he wanted to be alone at the moment. He NEVER ...
A. 28 October 2008: Advice from some "Euro Trash." Thanks for that.
I think you just need to be there for him. Why not re-define this Break as not a break.
Agree that you are back together and committed to eachother but just taking a bit of time apart to get all... (read in full...)
My Blackout Ruined Everything!
Q. I met the man of my dreams over a year ago and we became fast friends. We shared everything; our love of creating art, our personal politics, past relationship woes, our taste in music and... our love of alcohol. About a year after meeting, w...
A. 28 October 2008: I think that if you show him you are willing to never drink / take drugs again, then he may give you another chance.
Alcohol just turns some people nasty. A couple of people I know are t-total because their friends basically told them that if ... (read in full...)
I want to leave my husband but I can't bring myself to do it.
Q. My husband and I have been together 10 years and have 3 kids. I want to leave him but I can't bring myself to do it. We constantly fight, he curses me and even calls our kids names, I hate him for how he acts. I've asked him to go to counseling ...
A. 28 October 2008: Go into town and open a bank account in your name.
Find somewhere to stay for a few weeks like a friend or family member's house.
Pack bags, tell the kids, pack their bags.
Go!
Then once you are out you can arrange for him to either ge... (read in full...)
What do I do to break her out of the shy shell and to convince her to go to the same college as me?
Q. My girlfriend and me are heading off to college next school year. She just told me that it's probably best for her to not be in the same college as her. My girlfriend is very shy. She says that when I talk to people, she feels like she belongs to ...
A. 28 October 2008: I think she has put a lot of thought into this and I think she would probably want to be with you as much as she could so this decision is very hard for her.
I lived with my boyfriend in my first year of uni and even though he was doing a differen... (read in full...)
Daughter kicked out!
Q. My husband kicked out our 17 year old daughter for dating a 25 year for the last 6 months. This was his decision. I have 4 other kids, he says it is her or him, either he will leave or she can come back. What should I do? ...
A. 28 October 2008: Make sure she knows you are there if she wants to talk and will help her talk to her dad if she wants some support.
To be honest, kicking her out so she is forced to go and live with him was probably not the brightest move on your husband'... (read in full...)
Could I get pregnant if he cums on my stomach?
Q. I hope no one thinks this is a stupid question but can I get pregnant doing this? I've been messing around with this guy recently. We always use condoms during sex but he takes it off at the end and cums on my stomach area. I've never had a guy do ...
A. 27 October 2008: Sperm is not that clever. It does not have sat nav.
If he gets it on your vagina then there is a chance you could get pregnant but if it just stays on your stomach and then you wipe it off then you will be fine.
Just think of it like a parasi... (read in full...)
My new hubby is proven to be such a disappointment!
Q. My new hubby is proving to be such a disappointment. When we first met he was sexy and driven. He was flirty and dirty. He had boundless energy and thrilled me with his crazy plans and naughty antics. One night he drove me to a top hotel and p...
A. 27 October 2008: How long were you together before you married?
It sounds like money and ambition and material things are very important to you. There is nothing wrong with that - some one has to buy things at full price and not just in the sale like me!!
... (read in full...)
Jealousy is destroying me....
Q. Im so jealous of my ex's new gf its eatin me up inside. He split up with me for her 3 months ago now. At first I was really nasty to her, sednin her bithy emails etc and tryin 2 split them up. Ive stopped that now cos I realised it only makes u look ...
A. 27 October 2008: You are blaming her because you don't want to blame him.
But really this is his fault. He left you.
You are putting twice the blame on her so you don't feel the pain about him.
This is his fault. Stop blaming her and just try to accept the f... (read in full...)
Am I really worrying for nothing or is my vagina actually abnormal?
Q. okay, straight up I am 15 and really self conches about my vagina. iv talked to 2 a close friend about it and they describe there’s basically the same to each others, but mine isn’t the same. i have like 2 flaps of skin like around my vagina (really ...
A. 27 October 2008: Go and get yourself a biology book and have a look at the diagrams of female genitalia.
Every girl is different and I am absolutely sure you are completely normal.
Don't go looking for porn because they all have freakishly perfect vaginas ... (read in full...)
I've to meet my ex as he badly needs a blowjob! Is he serious???
Q. Hiya, I've just got off the phone to my ex boyfriend, he dumped me to go back to his ex, anyway cut a long story short they're not together yet but spending all their spare time together as basically she doesn't trust him, he cheated on her (not ...
A. 27 October 2008: Why would you degrade yourself and meet him to be used as a cheap thrill?
You know if you do it he's going to say "right then, cheers, bye." and go back to her.
Do you really think that is all you are worth. Stop speaking to this slime ball ... (read in full...)
I'm HIV positive and I'm only 16!!!
Q. I'm 16 and I've been having sex since I was 11 I was always on the pill but never used condoms I recently found out that I have HIV and I don't know what to say to my mum, she will kill me! I thought I was pregnant but the results came back as that ...
A. 27 October 2008: This is why they call having sex without a condom "unsafe sex."
What did you think was going to happen when you didn't use condoms?
Yes your child could be at risk and yes you have to call all the guys you slept with and tell them to get test... (read in full...)
I am hurting so much right now...
Q. I have been with my boyfriend on and off for almost two years. In that time he has finished with me two times and cheated once. He got back in touch with me the last time swearing that he would never hurt me again, so i gave it another go as my ...
A. 27 October 2008: He's treated you like crap before and you've forgiven him. Why should he think it will be any different this time?
If he has not changed then don't wait around for him to hurt you again.
Dump him and stop letting him back.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How can I make my dad see sense?
Q. I have posted different questions on here over the last few weeks, about my gran being diagnosed with cancer and how do I cope. well next thing.. Today her house got put on the market.. Now I am very angry about this, she is only just dead 2 weeks ...
A. 27 October 2008: Well it seems that it's too late now it's been bought.
Tell him how angry you are and then leave him to it.
Maybe your dad didn't want to have to go there all the time and be reminded of his dead mum. Have you thought of that?
Rent a ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my very good friend's
Q. Okay, I'm in love with my very good friend's girlfriend. She and my friend have been going out off and on for more than two years. She loves him definetely (most of the time). However, I talk to her every day through text, and then im, and then on ...
A. 27 October 2008: Well first of all stop hanging around girls that are taken, and secondly stop waiting for so long to make a move.
Girls will stop seeing you as boyfriend potential after a while so be supportive and lovely by all means but flirt and touch at the s... (read in full...)
Should I believe him??
Q. I am in love with a man who is currently living with the mother of his child. She doesn't know about us but he says that he will tell her once they sell their house which is on the market right now. He says that he has never loved anyone the way he ...
A. 27 October 2008: Actions are important not words.
Don't get too involved till he is away from her and with you.
If the house sells and then it's the excuse of "I said I'd leave now but I can't because...." then you know he's full of it.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend unattracted to me?
Q. my boyfriend and I have been dating for just over a year and i have just recently found out that he no longer finds me attractive sexually. At first i was devestaed as i am already quite self concious. However he explained that he was still in live ...
A. 27 October 2008: Rug Monkey is right, if he's off women all together then he may have a problem.
But I have to say I still want to jump my husband and he still takes photos of me for when he goes away.
Worst case scinario is that it's a sign that the relatio... (read in full...)
I would love to sing and dance professionally, but is it too late...I'm 38...
Q. When I was younger, I dreamed of being a singer/dancer/actor. But this was back in the 70's and 80's and my parents considered it to be a poor career choice and wouldn't send me to drama school. I was told at my own school that I had talent but as t...
A. 27 October 2008: Go and audition for X Factor, they don't mind age there.
Write some songs and perform at open mic nights. Find out online about nights in big cities with talent scouts and go and sing.
If you have the talent and you work hard you will make it... (read in full...)
Why does he want to keep talking to me after breaking up?
Q. Why does my ex still want me to talk to him?, He also tells me the problams he has with his new gf and how he thinks it may not work between them, Like yesterday evening he rang me and said could not talk for long as shes going round her house,...
A. 27 October 2008: Firstly because he thinks you are ready to be his friend and give him advice, secondly he could be keeping you as a back up plan to come running back to if it goes wrong and thirdly, because you have not told him not to.
Next time he brings h... (read in full...)
How can I be less shallow?
Q. And now I find myself seeking the advice of strangers over the internet... I love my girlfriend very much and have been dating her for a little over a year now. Most of that time we have been long distance. My girlfriend is on the heavier side o...
A. 27 October 2008: Of course you aren't attracted to her when you think of her as an old lady!
You are not that old yet so you can't visualise it. It's the same as saying I'm not attracted to 12 yearolds.... but I was when I was 12. Do you think she is attracte... (read in full...)
How do I sell myself?
Q. Just turned 18. Thinking about applying for a Apprenticeship. Problem is I'm a shy person and I get really nervous. I've also found out that I may need to take some kind of math's and english assessment which I really hate to do partly because I ...
A. 27 October 2008: They are going to understand you are nervous.
But what you need to do is believe in yourself a bit.
Find out about what the training will be and think to yourself: why am I going to be good at this?
Once you can convince yourself then y... (read in full...)
Having trouble with girlfriend's past experiences.
Q. I'm a 21 year old male and I've very innocent. I'm on my first girlfriend and I'm a virgin. My girlfriend is very religious but has gone to 3rd base with previous boyfriends. One day when we were talking, she misinterpreted when I wanted he...
A. 27 October 2008: The reason she is taking her time with you rather than just giving you what you want is because she wants it to be differnt with you and not just another guy that she's done stuff with because he wanted it.
I've had one night stands with guys bef... (read in full...)
Gay or bi or neither?
Q. I am 30 years old and gay! I have a friend who is 20 years old and claims he is totally straight. We live states apart but every time he visits which is a few times a year I always perform oral sex on him sometimes a couple of times a day. Yhe most ...
A. 27 October 2008: He's getting blow jobs. That's all that matters to him.
If you are going to let him use you then he can close his eyes and think of who ever he wants.
I really don't think you are ever going to get what you want from him, but he may go furthe... (read in full...)
Please help, I cant figure it out... am I being weird?
Q. I'm pregnant, I have been with my boyfriend for a year, he wants me to get rid of it, but I'm against abortion, and have even protested against it, it will go against everything I've stood for, but I am only 17. Should I give up what I stand for ...
A. 27 October 2008: If you are against abortion then do not get one.
You will regret doing it forever if you go thought with it for some boy.
Are there any other alternatives like adoption that you would consider?
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
My friend flirts with my boyfriend!!
Q. Ok so i have this friend that i think likes my boyfriend. she denies liking him but behind my back she texts him and stuff. she tells him how good he looks and flirts with him. my boyfriend says he does not like her either. but he talks to...
A. 26 October 2008: Tell your friend that you know she has been talking to him and flirting with him and if she doesn't stop doing it then you don't want to be her friend any more.
Then try and set her up with someone of her own.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Could he be using my best friend to make me jealous?? How can he fancy her but still love me??
Q. Hiya, well i split up with my boyfriend nearly a week ago now, and at first he asked for me back and i answerd no, then he told me he still loved me for a few days then, today my best friend told me he said he fancied her. I was fine with that, bu...
A. 26 October 2008: Since you do not want to be with him it doesn't matter what he does.
Stop speaking to him. Don't let him tell you he loves you, and don't be so nice to him and chat to him. You are leading him on.
Go your own way and leave him to do what ever ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my parents I'm in love with a girl?
Q. im bi curious. im in love with this girl. we are dating secretly and we also have boyfriends. i dont know how to tell my parents cuz every time i tell them they dont believe me but they dont see how i am with her! they think im boy crazy but im in ...
A. 26 October 2008: Well, the first question anyone will ask if "but you have a boyfriend???"
Why are you lying and cheating on your boyfriend?
But anyway - on to your parents.
I think announcing that you are in love with a girl that you are cheating on your... (read in full...)
I had sex saturday night and the condom split.
Q. I had sex saturday night and the condom split. I took the morning after pill on the sunday morning then sunday night had sex and the condom split again! what should i do ?...
A. 26 October 2008: Morning after pill again.
Go to the family planning clinic and explain and they will sort you out. Most of them open early so you could go before work.
Then you have to figure out why they are splitting.
Is it 2 condoms from the same bo... (read in full...)
He was teasing - I had a go at him? Did I do the right thing or was I being paranoid?
Q. In the last year, I've had occassions where I've gotten very upset over something which I'm not even certain happened or whether I've got the right end of the stick. The situations both involve other people, who I've felt have been getting at me ...
A. 26 October 2008: He was pissing you off, you picked him up on it, he stopped.
End of.
It's all fine. Stop over analysing and go out and have a good time with your mate.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Trouble with his ex, but it's none of my business!
Q. Hi aunts and uncles, This could be long and complicated! A few months ago my friend and I realised we had feelings for each other. Over several months we grew closer and then we began seeing each other. Unfortunately at the time we both had...
A. 26 October 2008: I think your main problem here is that you feel alone and so you want him to yourself.
Go out and get some friends.
He's ashamed of telling the truth to people because lets face it, he cheated on his ex and he will lose all those friends he... (read in full...)
Why do guys think boobs are sexy?
Q. Why do guys think that boobs are so sexy? I've always wondered that. And stop with the whole mates-that-support-children-and-produce-better-milk crap. Do you honestly think that when a guy looks at a girl with big boobs he is thinking "Wow I bet ...
A. 26 October 2008: It's because guys don't have them... they are a girl thing and then are hidden from view so they are naughty.
You don't get it in the same way that men don't get why we want to see their chests.
It's just part of the whole curvey soft girl... (read in full...)
Am I being selfish shen I make love to him?
Q. I don't like being on top. I feel vulnerable and I'm very self concious. But my boyfriend always asks me to. I feel bad if I don't do it. Am I being selfish?...
A. 26 October 2008: You are not being selfish but there are ways for you to compromise.
Would you feel better if you were on top but wearing a bra, or even a bra and vest or a nightie?
Our house is very cold so I have been known to stop and pull on one of my hus... (read in full...)
My relationship with my teacher has destroyed all other relationships
Q. Hi, I have a problem that is really getting to me. I am 17 and in a school sixth form. I have a male teacher, quite a bit older. We have grown very very close - although we have done nothing physical, I would constitue what we have as an emoti...
A. 26 October 2008: Wow this teacher is not only breaking the law with you but he is abusing his power by interrogating your friend.
He sounds controlling and manipulative. I wouldn't advise you went out with a boy like this if he was in your year... let alone th... (read in full...)
Horrified to wake up to his best mate giving me oral
Q. A few days ago, I woke up to my boyfriend giving me oral underneath the bed sheets (which we ocasionally do) but was horrified to find out after it was over that it was his best mate!! Since his best mate has told me I have to keep giving him what ...
A. 26 October 2008: This is harassment and blackmail, and sexual assault.
Tell him you are keeping a diary of everything he says and if he says ONE MORE thing to you about it then you are going to the police. That should shut him up.
Do you have any threatening ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my very good friend's
Q. Okay, I'm in love with my very good friend's girlfriend. She and my friend have been going out off and on for more than two years. She loves him definetely (most of the time). However, I talk to her every day through text, and then im, and then on ...
A. 26 October 2008: She led you on. She probably didn't mean to but she was flattered by your attentions so she let you carry on seeing her as more than a friend.
You know now that she is never going to leave her boyfriend. She is just going to let you cheer her up a... (read in full...)
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