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writes:Hi all...I cant believe I am even thinking about this nor asking for peoples advice, it's totally not like me. I was wondering what I should do...On msn, I recently starting chatting to a man the age of 44, he seemed decent enough, funny and a genuine guy, so I lied about my age and said I was 21 :/ when in actual fact I'm 17 :S:SWe got on pretty well, but I kept telling him that he couldn't have my number nor know where I worked or lived, so I kept chatting to him, but I found myself, liking this guy, I gave him my mobile and whenever I text him and tell him to fone me, he does and we chat on the fone for hours about anything.I know quite a lot about him, about his Ex's and I think he is fairly decent. He has mentioned coming over to Glasgow (he lives in Belfast) but I was quite annoyed about this and kept telling him No, however, I want to meet up with this man. I've always wanted to see Belfast and he has said that he would show me around and he would be my guide, only if I wanted, so I have agreed. I'm going to speak to my friend and see if she would come over with me, then sneak off at night or something... I really want to meet this guy, next year I will be 18 and that is why I want to meet in easter, what should I do?We have a real connection, and I think he is great, he thinks the same about me, should I meet up with him?I really want to.
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reader, Creative +, writes (28 October 2008):
Have you cammed yet? Probably a good idea and the next logical step. You need to see what each other look like.
If you do meet, make sure it is in a public place in the day time, and tell one of your friends so they know where you are.
He is probably just after sex, but he might not be. You need to be prepared for that.
The age difference might or might not work. It depends how open and honest you both are. And obviously how compatible.
Good luck!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (28 October 2008):
Yeah a real connection! I could make up a lot of sad stories about my ex girlfriends and how I'm really just looking for love and I'm not like other guys and listen to your problems and tell you that you're wonderful and beautiful.
That doesn't make me a 44 year old man you should trust.
In fact it doesn't make me a 44 year old man at all.
People lie on the internet. People make up stuff to get what they want and they know it is pretty easy to manipulate a teenage girl, even when she's saying she's 21.
Notice how he said "I'm coming to visit your city" rather than bringing up the subject of meeting. This is a deliberate play to make you think "Oh well he's coming anyway, it would be rude not to meet him."
He's coming here for one thing and that is to get into your pants.
For your sake I hope he is planning to do it by the romantic method rather than with rohypnol or force.
Be very very very wary of any man who's old enough to be your dad and who says he genuinely wants your personality. Sorry hun, but I think it's far far far too dangerous.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2008): He is 44 and you are 17.
I'm not saying this can't work, but do step back and take a good look at where you think it is going. And, for the love of god...if you do decide to meet this man please take someone with you, or at least tell someone (doesn't have to be your parents, could be a friend you trust) where you are going and how to find this man if anything were to happen to you.
PLEASE be careful!!
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