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writes:I'm 16 and I've been having sex since I was 11 I was always on the pill but never used condoms I recently found out that I have HIV and I don't know what to say to my mum, she will kill me! I thought I was pregnant but the results came back as that I was HIV positive also so far I've slept with around 60 guys and I'm afraid they might have it what do I do and should I get my little girl checked out too?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2008): look im only 12 and reading this and you should get checked out.because HIV is really bad and you could die.and you have a little girl and she needs a mummy like most other people.so please for the sake of your daughter get sorted out!xxx
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reader, extremityman  +, writes (28 October 2008):
 You poor thing- I don't have any problems this big. You're only a baby. You should tell your mom immediately and take whatever punishment she has for you. She'll find out anyway. Come clean to her. Your baby is probably fine. Upon birth doctors give a baby a blood test. There was a guy out here who held up retail stores with an HIV-infected needle. He was called the "AIDS Bandit." His wife gave birth to a baby, and the doctors came back and told her that her newborn baby was HIV-positive. That's how she found out he infected her.
You've beaten the odds. It's difficult to give or receive HIV through penile-vaginal sexual intercourse. Look up the rates of transmission per 10,000 exposures on the HIV article on Wikipedia. But all it takes is one.
You need to turn what's left of your life around. It's hard to change your way of life, but you can give "the big nasty" to these guys, just as some guy gave it to you, though according to that same Wikipedia article it's hard for a woman to give it to a man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2008): Think of your child and please do as everybody suggested to you. Your little girl will need her mommy for many years still, but yes, then you need to listen to the advice that was given to you.
Please update with the information as requested by the aunts or private messages them.
I am a very tame lioness, I am crying for you and people want to help you. Please don't be stubborn, then I will get unhappy and start roaring...brrrr(lol)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2008): Babylove, that's the problem, there is NO CURE for HIV.. you don't have an immune system and little things like colds, flu or infections could kill you. Sophie needs to get help and get help fast. Now they have drugs that can help you have a long and relatively healthy life, but they can't keep you alive forever. One day a little infection, a cold, or a harmless cut could kill you. HIV is no joke, that's why we aunts always advise everyone, to always use a CONDOM....
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reader, carebear +, writes (27 October 2008):
 Dear Sophie
I too am worried for you like the other aunts on this post!
I work in healthcare and wherever you got the test go back whenever you want they should give you help support and advice anytime, how did you get your results did they contact you to come back to see them or send a letter/phonecall?
When they told you did they ask for another test to be taken? have they refered you to a specialist centre in your area that can help you further and do further tests? Please get back to me I can try and help as much as I can within limits. Please get back in touch.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2008): I doubt your mom will "kill" you. I think she is going to be devastated by this and hopefully will support you. You need to join a support group NOW and get in touch with doctors to start medication regime. Yes get your child tested!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2008): Sophie babes, I'm worried about you, please update your post, or contact me directly by private mail. I need to know you have some support and are not alone. Looking at the THT website, I've found out that they will do everything for you, including contacting your previous partners. Our advice was wrong, they say it's your business, but they will help you with everything you need. Please update and us and tell us that you've talked to them, it's important that you have support from friendly people who know how it feels to be in your situation. Please give them a call or send me a letter if you need to talk.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2008): Also make sure you ask for another test. Sometimes you can have a "false positive", I've seen this happen before. You should take a least another two tests just to make sure. A guy had his life ruined because the test came back positive, when the doctor tested him again, there was nothing there. Contact the Terrance Higgins Trust and get another two test done before you do anything else.... sorry my advice is confusing, I'm not a doctor, the charity people know exactly what to do, and they will explain everything to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2008): Sophie, I don't think your taking this seriously enough. HIV can be a life threating illness, your mother won't kill you, because there may be no need. You must tell her, and you must go and get the support of your doctor. You may get very, very sick, and you might die, you need to have the support of your mother and doctor.
It is very important to contact your health visitor and tell them what has happened. They can arrange a test for your little girl, because you may have passed on this deadly disease. There are also things that you need to do to stop yourself from infecting other people. You must contact any man you have slept with (without a condom) and tell them the situation. They may be infected and they don't know, if they are having sex without protection, they could pass the disease to somebody else. Please do the right thing Sophie, this is not the time to play games and feel ashamed. HIV can be life threating, you need to prepare your mother in case you get sick, or you die before you should.
Whoever tested you should have told you all of this. Please contact your doctor and take your mother with you. The doctor will explain everything, and your mother will give you any support that you will need...
You can still have sex if you choose to, but never, ever, ever have sex without a condom again. If anyone catches this disease from you, you will go to prision, for a very long time.
Please contact the "Terrance Higgins Trust", http://www.tht.org.uk/ they are a registered charity for people that are HIV positive or who have aids. They are the biggest resource for support and information about HIV... There are many things they can help you with, so don't be frightened, please give them a call.. The scientist are working on new treatments as fast as they can. Contact the trust and find out more information from them.. Good luck babes, my thoughts are with you and your little girl...Blessings
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2008): I really wish people like you would come forward and share these types of stories more publicly - maybe make other silly girls think twice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2008): your mum might be a bit shocked, but you should still tell her, she is your mother and she cares!!
also, you need to tell everyone you have had sex with and should get your little girl checked out
maybe you should try getting in contact with a support group or something, they would be much more helpful
good luck
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (27 October 2008):
This is why they call having sex without a condom "unsafe sex."
What did you think was going to happen when you didn't use condoms?
Yes your child could be at risk and yes you have to call all the guys you slept with and tell them to get tested.
You are just going to have to tell your mum the truth. Did she know how you were behaving? If so then she shouldn't be too surprised that you caught something. It's just a shame you caught something so nasty.
I'm sorry to hear that you have got this but you were playing with fire and you have got burned.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2008): You get into contact with as many of the men you've slept with as possible, you get your little girl checked, and you never have unprotected sex again (and warn anyone you have sex with that you are HIV positive). I'm sorry to hear that you've contracted HIV, but these are things that must be done.
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