What do I do to break her out of the shy shell and to convince her to go to the same college as me?

A male age 36-40, anonymous writes:

My girlfriend and me are heading off to college next school year. She just told me that it's probably best for her to not be in the same college as her. My girlfriend is very shy. She says that when I talk to people, she feels like she belongs to me. She says that because she doesnt really talk much around new people that she havent had sufficient time to warm up to. (It takes my girlfriend a few weeks to warm up to a new person.) It's not like I don't try to include my girlfriend in conversations with people. I do. I invite her to join in, even adding a few comments here and there that I know my girlfriend can talk about in a conversation. But anyways, back to the point. She believes that she is not that good at making friends. She believes in the first few weeks of college, when she doesnt make any friends (that she is comfortable with), she will come to me. She says that that is not good for her, since I am her comfort-zone. My opinion is different. I believe that since we are studying different things, we probably won't be in the same class environments. We will make different sets of friends, so she wouldn't feel like she belongs to me. I can understand why my girlfriend feels this way. We are quite different people. She is very shy, but I am semi-outgoing and talkative to random people. I believe she is very capable of making friends. It's just her very shy personality. I want her to go the same college as me. She want's to break out of her shy shell. What do I do to break her out of the shy shell and to convince her to go to the same college as me?

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