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anonymous
writes:I'm a 21 year old male and I've very innocent. I'm on my first girlfriend and I'm a virgin. My girlfriend is very religious but has gone to 3rd base with previous boyfriends. One day when we were talking, she misinterpreted when I wanted her to tell me and she said that she's gone to 3rd base with her previous but she was drunk and it didn't count. The way she made it sound, she was only the recipient. It sounded like the guy took advantage of her. For me, this is very hard to get over. Then the other day, it came up again and she said that her drunken experience was actually a give and receive. This really bothers me because she says that it never happened and doesn't count because she was drunk. And she won't go to third base with me even though she claims that I'm the only one that she's ever loved. I'm the sort of person that doesn't forget anything so I need to cope with this. She says that she doesn't feel comfortable going there with me and I'm getting somewhat frustrated because I'm almost jealous of this other guy. I hate to think that all of her previous boyfriends treated her terribly yet she went further with all of them.What should I do or how can I cope with my dilemma?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2008): Honestly, I would take it as a compliment that your girlfriend wants to take it slowly with you. It's very probable that this is because she values you much more than these previous boyfriends. It's likely that it's BECAUSE she loves you that it'll mean more if you wait, as opposed to a meaningless drunken innuendo. It's natural to feel jelous of previous partners, but this will lessen as your trust in each other grows.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (27 October 2008):
The reason she is taking her time with you rather than just giving you what you want is because she wants it to be differnt with you and not just another guy that she's done stuff with because he wanted it.
I've had one night stands with guys before but I took things really slowly when I met my husband because I wanted everything to be perfect with him.
Take it as a compliment and get over yourself. She is with you. Nothing else matters.
Good Luck!! xx
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