He says he cares about me but keeps doing strange things.
Q. i have been talking to this guys for about a year, we do not have an official title because he is scared of commitment, but whenever i decide to talk or just hang out with someone else he does not necessarily confront me, but then he act strange ...
A. 8 November 2008: It sounds like he wants it both ways.
He's jealous when you see other people yet refuses to commit. And I think "going out of town" might involve other women so be careful.
You can only go so far trying to get a guy before it just becomes hop... (read in full...)
I dumped the love of my life and want him back more than anything!
Q. ok so i dumped the love of my life. i love him so much and im the one that got hurt really bad. i cried for four hours straight, so for awhile i was with another guy and trying to get over him didnt work so i dumped that guy to go out with the love ...
A. 8 November 2008: Well why did you dump him?
You'll just have to keep asking him back out and trying to show him that you are sorry for hurting him.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I've never had sex, but I'm not getting my period. Is this normal?
Q. Hi everyone. I am 14 and I got my first period in December. Most were on time but I haven't had a period in 4 months. Is this normal or should I be worried (I have no had any form of sex or sexual acts)?...
A. 8 November 2008: I'm going to slightly disagree with Bugs.
4 months could be perfectly normal but it could also be a sign that your body is missing something.
Girls often have their periods stop when they are underweight. Is that you?
Eat healthily and hav... (read in full...)
She hates when I touch her, she hates flowers and candy... what can I do?
Q. My girlfriend (of a year) hates it when I touched her breasts (she finds it disrespectful) or try and eat her out (she doesn't really like it). How can turn her on? She also doesn't like the traditional flowers and chocolate. She thinks its over ...
A. 8 November 2008: Kissing is the biggest turn on around.
Hold her close and look in her eyes and tell her how beautiful she is and then have a long passionate kiss.
She'll melt.
Also just ask her what she dreams about having done to her.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How can I repair my beyond broken family?
Q. hi everyone. My family is falling apart. My grandparents that are alive don't talk to each other (they divorced), my mom and aunt don't like each other, my eldest brother lives in Pennsylvania (we live in Maryland), my dad and other aunt don't talk ...
A. 8 November 2008: Sometimes you just have to admit that things are too broken to be fixed.
Family doesn't have to be the big thing in your life.
Send everyone a nice Christmas card and work on your own future away from your family.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I don't understand my boyfriend, please I need help
Q. hello I have a dilemma, my boyfriend is a very good guy, but very introverted and very close person. We have been together for almost 9 months. When we are together everything is perfect, he does everything to please me, he normally prefer to go to ...
A. 8 November 2008: Do you HAVE to speak to him every day?
If you are the kind of girl that has to have daily contact then I think you need to set a time that he has to call you on, or that you will call him.
Get a routine in place, work it out and stick to it.... (read in full...)
He's on a one year trip around the world and I worry he's forgetting me.
Q. Hi, Am feeling very sad. I got together with a guy had known from my group of friends in May. Suddenly just realised we really liked each other. Got together and it really has been the most amazing relationship I have ever had and he said too ...
A. 8 November 2008: Ok, I am the queen of the long distance as I am an army wife. It's coming up to 6 months since my husband left for Iraq.
You say you have sent him an email and he has not replied.
Do you have any idea how easy or hard it is to find reliable in... (read in full...)
He seems to just want companionship and not a sexual relationship at all!
Q. Am I being unfair or do I have unrealistic expecations? My boyfriend and I have been together for a year now- we are both in our late 20's (we're gay). You would think two guys in their 20's would be going at it all the time- wrong! We're bo...
A. 8 November 2008: Well you've spoken to him about it, but you didn't go far enough.
Ask him again and tell him you are not happy with the way things are.
You have to find a compromise here.
Keep talking about it. I am sure he'd rather open up and be honest th... (read in full...)
How can I can stay close to her, without seeming like I'm trying to steal her?
Q. Well, I've never really ever had a real girl friend. I've just never been able to make that final step in asking a girl out. The only one I've ever had asked me out, but it didn't last very long. Over the past few years, I've gotten close to many ...
A. 8 November 2008: Look I'm going to be harsh here. Stop hanging round with other people's girlfriends.
You are obviously not good with women, and too immature to handle their affections in a close friendship.
Go away, find a single girl and ASK HER OUT!!!!
A... (read in full...)
Why is he lying about going out with me if we're just friends?
Q. Hey there, I have a slight problem: A friend of a friend has asked me to go out with him tomorrow night. I presume this means as friends (he already had a long distance gf), and we will only ever be friends. But, the guy in question hasn't told our...
A. 7 November 2008: Go out with your friend and just treat him as a friend.
If he makes a move then slap him and go home.
If he treats you as a mate then just mention that you were speaking to your other friend and ask why he lied.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Can you help me make some firm choices and improve my life?
Q. I don't want to sound selfish or moany but it's been such an awful year. My Mum is schizophrenic which is controlled by medication most fo the time but she started the year off with a bit of a bad spell. Then in April I was forced to move into a ...
A. 7 November 2008: It sounds like you are clinging to your boyfriend because he is the only good feeling you get. Moving him in is not a good idea, it will be a quick fix and nothing more.
You sound like you are getting depressed and since you have a family history ... (read in full...)
We started dating, but he's still logging on to the dating site.
Q. I have been seeing this guy for about 4 weeks now and all is going well. We met on a dating site and both still have our profiles on there. I think it is too soon to talk about taking them down. However, I haven't logged in for 3 weeks, mostly du...
A. 7 November 2008: Well you say you want to take it slowly and are not yet exclusive, but you are obviously upset about it so yes I think you need to have a talk before you get too deep and get hurt.
Tell him you want to be exclusive and want to both take your pro... (read in full...)
How do I know if my husband doesn't love me anymore?
Q. Me and my husband have been together for about a year now and we just had a baby boy. Sometimes I feel like we moved too fast. We got married after 6 months and in the beginning everything was great but now it's not all. I don't even feel like he ...
A. 7 November 2008: I think you are right, you got married and had a kid in a relationship that was only ever going to last a year.
Sit him down and ask him if he is serious about this marriage or if he wants out.
Then you can either go to counselling and ... (read in full...)
I've went through so much to be with her, now I don't think she loves me any more...
Q. I just don't know any more, I love this girl with all my heart but I don't think she loves me any more... The other night she called me by a guy's name and a guy she has been flurting with lateley, today she skipped school and hung out with him. I ...
A. 7 November 2008: It sounds like she's already moved on.
Pick up your dignity and walk away.
It sounds like this girl just wants drama. Now the drama is over with you she has moved on to the next "forbidden love"
Sorry hun.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Ex boyfriend has turned up again but I'm with someone else!
Q. My ex boyfriend with whom I was with for eight months, decided one day he would leave me without telling me and go back to his ex-wife. Since he left me I have met a really nice guy, the problem now is that my ex boyfriend has come back into the ...
A. 7 November 2008: You have not said who you want but I am going to assume you want to stay with your current boyfriend and get this creep of an ex out of your life.
He left you once without caring about how much he hurt. He'll do it again.
Tell your current boy... (read in full...)
Sex... or no sex?
Q. My girlfriend is trying to get me to have sex with her she said she is already frustrated with me and because we're together we should be doing that. What should I do? I already told her I wanted to take things slow and not rush into thing but it ...
A. 7 November 2008: I agree completely with everything Uncle Phil said.
Wait till you are ready and she won't then she's not worth it.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Why does he not want me anymore?
Q. I know this is stupid. I want to know how can I talk to my boyfriend after we got into a fight. I felt that we were serious enough to let him have my cell phone until we got our house phone back on. everything went fine that day-- and we even talked ...
A. 7 November 2008: You don't ask him. You leave and never go back.
He hit you. The fact that he called the police first suggests the violence was not all one way.
This was a serious assault. All you need to know is that any man who can do that to someone he is su... (read in full...)
She's going to a new school so we won't be able to see each other as much...
Q. My girlfriend and I have been going out for at least a year now and she is going to a new school. We can still see each other but not as much, we can really only go to the rec. Center in Fircrest. I Still like her and she still likes me that I know ...
A. 7 November 2008: You can still see each other just not every day. It's called a real relationship.
This is what adults do in all their relationships.
If you can cope it means your feelings are real and you aren't just together because it is convenient to be... (read in full...)
Why would she want to see me 3 days in a row having only just seen me again in 8 years??
Q. Hey guys I have a small question... well more that I need your opinion on something really. Back when I was in school 8 years ago me and this girl had a bit of a thing together, it wasn't that we went out but we flirted a lot and I found out th...
A. 7 November 2008: She's a "dancer" so I am guessing that she's quite openly sexual person and possibly naturally flirty.
She is also stuck in the house with a kid all day while her guy is away so she is going to be desperate for some new adult conversa... (read in full...)
Is my friend considered a slut?
Q. My friend just turned 18, had a party and made out with 3 people that night. Yes she was a little drunk but she was fully aware of what she was doing. She's still a virgin but isn't that slutty?...
A. 7 November 2008: I'd warn her that some people might consider kissing 3 guys in a night slutty behaviour.
Personally I think that since she is 18 and still a virgin and only kissing boys then she is in no way a slut, just a bit silly for leading 3 boys on. That... (read in full...)
I'm still waiting on him to text me...
Q. Hi, I was supposed to meet up with this guy last week but it didn't happen as it was supposed to. I did see him but there was a friend present and we didn't actually go to where we had planned. I saw him again at the beginning of this week and he...
A. 7 November 2008: Text him and say "do you still want to meet up?"
If he doesn't get back to you in a day and then he doesn't take you out on a date then just assume he's not interested and move on.
Sometimes you just have to have the attitude that "you snooze... (read in full...)
Do you think there's a chance for me and this muslim girl?
Q. Helppppp I really fancy this girl in my office. She's muslim and I'm not, I'm 16 and she's 20. She is so hot and her personality is amazing. She doesn't know I'm bi and I daren't tell her in case she thinks it's disgusting or sumthing. She asks ...
A. 7 November 2008: Just ask her out!
If she is strict and does not want a boyfriend or her family would not approve then she will tell you.
She may also be not very religious and say yes and you can live happily ever after.
She may also like you but think ... (read in full...)
I agreed just to be friends like he wanted... now he's not talking to me!
Q. I used to have my boy friend for a few months. We got along well but he limited our relationship and finally after 3 months being being togther, he asked me politely to stop being a bf and girl friend. I can guess some logical cultural reasons but ...
A. 7 November 2008: I think you have to accept this boy wants to have everything his own way.
The fact that you are are being strong is annoying him because he wants you to just do what he says.
Continue to just be civil to him at work but don't be his friend if... (read in full...)
Am I being too pushy in wanting him to talk to me almost every day?
Q. I need some advice - I met this guy about a month or so ago, at first I thought he just wanted to be friends, so we got to know each other mostly through online chat (its easy since we both have office jobs). Then about two weeks ago we started d...
A. 6 November 2008: I think you should start calling him.
Just do it! Call him and chat when ever you want to.
If after a while he hasn't cottoned on then you can just ask why he always waits for you to call? It doesn't have to be as accusation, just a gentle hi... (read in full...)
I can't stop loving a man who I know is probably just using me!!
Q. I can't stop loving a man who I know is probably just using me!! I keep in touch with a guy who knows I love him but he only rings when he wants money! - We hardly ever meet up as we both live quite a distance from each other - but I always liv...
A. 6 November 2008: What do you want us to say?
You know you are being an idiot and the only person who can stop you from being such an idiot is you.
Find something new in your life so that a nut job scum bag calling you for money is not the most exciting thing t... (read in full...)
Is he abusive or just throwing a tantrum?
Q. My boyfriend has shoved me, pulled my hair, held his hand over my mouth, and now he has choked me. I don't really think he was choking me with the intent on killing me, but more to scare me. He keeps telling me that I just need to know when to ...
A. 5 November 2008: Yes that's right it's all YOUR fault.... this guy is a complete abuser.
He's actually putting his hands round your neck and you are trying to justify it by saying "well he wasn't actually trying to KILL me, just put me in FEAR of my life."
... (read in full...)
Am I being too aggressive in this new relationship?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have recently started dating a new woman (roughly 1 1/2 months). I have very strong feelings for her already and want to be with her all the time. I haven't felt this way about a woman in about 3 years. I've dated several women si...
A. 5 November 2008: Perhaps she just wants to go out with her friends this weekend. She can hardly have seen them if she is spending every second with you.
She'll want to update them on the new man in her life etc.
Why don't you go out for a guys night out this w... (read in full...)
My BOSS wants to sleep with me what do I do????
Q. ok so i had a job working at a coffee shop this guy use to come in every weekend and get coffee we always chatted very nice and good looking well than one day he asked me if i wanted to come work for him at a hotel and do like front dest work....i ...
A. 5 November 2008: Sweetheart this guy is a creep.
He spotted you in a cafe and offered you a job - he didn't hire you for your amazing phone manner and typing speed.
Once he's had sex with you he'll be looking for your replacement.
Don't do it and keep ... (read in full...)
Why do I love him so much?
Q. I lost my virginity to him and we were "together" for several months but didnt go out cause he said that he needed to focus on school. I told him I couldn't do it anymore, which is when he asked me to be his girlfriend. We went out for a week before ...
A. 5 November 2008: You'll get over him if you stop thinking about him all the time.
Stop drinking, that will only make things worse.
Give yourself a kick up the bum and get on with your life.
Some guys are liars and idiots. Accept that and move on.
Good Luc... (read in full...)
Am I right to think that she hasn't treated me right?
Q. I loved this girl and we went out for 7 months. Then we moved to opposite ends of the country. She joined a strange sales, marketing company thats bit like a cult. I went there to be with her and live and work with her, but we fell out about the ...
A. 5 November 2008: She sounds like she's lost it.
What a nutcase.
However I think you are over reacting about the whole thing.
You got thrown out and then you got a phone call. It wasn't nice but I think you were better off out of that life to be honest.
Ac... (read in full...)
I accidentally kicked him in his "family jewels" and now he won't talk to me.
Q. My boyfriend and me went a party together yesterday. We got separated during the party. I didn't feel so I texted him saying I'm home. On the home I felt someone grab behind and I thought someone trying was kidnap me. I kicked him in family jewels. ...
A. 5 November 2008: It's wasn't exactly clever to run up and grab a girl unannounced at night. I'm glad to know you can defend yourself.
However, you did hurt him and in front of his mates.
Even though it was an accident and a mis understanding I thin... (read in full...)
This guy is very annoying, but wants to go out with me, should I go?
Q. hi people. there's this guy that likes me but i dont like him. hes very annoying!!! i just want to know if i should give him a chance and go out with him. should i?...
A. 5 November 2008: No you shouldn't.
If you don't like him then don't go out with him.
Get some self respect.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Should I begin to distance myself?
Q. I have a problem. My best friend annoys me. She's a very kind person but she tries way too hard. She's always been kind of insecure because she's (I'm really not trying to be mean by saying this, but it's true) one of the dumbest people I know. ...
A. 5 November 2008: It's a normal friend who can be gentle and try and take a helpful softly softly approach.
It's a true friend that can be honest enough to say "look stop doing this or you are going to start losing friends. It's not big / clever so sort your lif... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a pack-rat...Help !!
Q. Hi I hope you can give me some good advise on this, I have been going out with my boyfriend for 2 years now and recently I have moved with him to a 2 bedroom flat in Chafford Hundred, I lived with him previously in hornchuch in a one bedroom which ...
A. 5 November 2008: If he asked you to buy it then I think it is fair to ask him to pay you back for it.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How come it took him so long to call me?
Q. I asked this guy i kind of like to call me whenever he could go out and he only asked me 3 weeks later! whats up with him?...
A. 5 November 2008: A hippo came through the window and ate the bit of paper with your number on. He's been waiting 3 weeks for it to appear at the other end.
You give no information so it could be absolutely any reason whatsoever from being on holiday to finalisin... (read in full...)
A rock and a hard place, need some advice PLEASE!
Q. I recently wrote about being miserable in my relationship and wanting to be with another woman... well my girlfriend just had a death in the family and her brother just got 130yrs in prison so.... I feel like she really needs me in her life right ...
A. 4 November 2008: Wow, so she's horribly traumatised and you are finding it "boring" because she doesn't want sex? And you'd dump her but you haven't yet had a better offer?
To be honest I think she is better off with out you.
Yes it will be a kick while she i... (read in full...)
When will puberty end??
Q. Just wondering for people possibly older than me but if not feel free to give advice, when will my development be complete, like puberty and when will I fully grow up as a 'man'. Just wondering, thank you!...
A. 4 November 2008: I'd say 21.
That's generally when you look at a man and wouldn't say look at that lad, you'd say look at that man.
By 21 a guy is finishing his degree and in a position to think about doing serious grown up things.
Getting a mortgage, g... (read in full...)
Is it weird to have sex for the first time when on your period?
Q. my boyfriend is coming round tomorrow, and seeing as this is the only day we have my house to ourselves, we were planning to sleep together. this would have been my first time, but I was happy with this, and we've had it planned ever since i knew ...
A. 4 November 2008: To be honest I would wait till next time to have sex.
Periods are not nice and smelly and the average boy is not used to dealing with blood like we girls are so it may put him off.
It's hardly the romantic first time you want.
It's ju... (read in full...)
She is lying to her parents about my age! Should I tell them and if so, when would be a good time?
Q. ok i like this girl and she really likes me, but she is lying about my age to her parents. what can i do? i am 18 and she is 15. do i have to know her parents first and tell them later? ...
A. 4 November 2008: You have to accept that her parents would not want you seeing their under age daughter.
I would just deal with it.
If in 5 years time you are still together then perhaps tell them then.
But if not then just see where it goes. You can't have ... (read in full...)
Would he love me even if we wanted different things, or is he only looking for any homely girl to settle down with?
Q. hey guys just wondering something and was wanted some help coming to a conclusion... ive been with my guy for about a year now and we always talk about what we want in the future and where we want to be in 5years time... we both want similar things ...
A. 4 November 2008: Well if he wanted to settle down and you wanted to pursue a pole dancing career in Vagas then he may compromise for a few years or he may say that no he couldn't wait and look for someone else.
The fact that you want the same things is just ici... (read in full...)
I truly want a child and am willing to try anything
Q. For two months now my husband and I have been trying to get pregnant. Everytime I think I'm pregnant I find out I'm not. For some reason my menstraul cycles are much longer than the normal 28 days. I went from having my period start on the 30th of ...
A. 4 November 2008: Eat healthily, quit smoking and drinking, take folic acid suppliaments. Get one of those test kits which tell you when you are at your most fertile. Go to a doctor and get them to check you and your husband's fertility and talk about your ir... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a pack-rat...Help !!
Q. Hi I hope you can give me some good advise on this, I have been going out with my boyfriend for 2 years now and recently I have moved with him to a 2 bedroom flat in Chafford Hundred, I lived with him previously in hornchuch in a one bedroom which ...
A. 2 November 2008: Well then you just have to go and rent your own place and move all your furniture out and not live with him.
If he's not going to get rid of his stuff and you can't then you are not going to be able to live with him without having a mental b... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a pack-rat...Help !!
Q. Hi I hope you can give me some good advise on this, I have been going out with my boyfriend for 2 years now and recently I have moved with him to a 2 bedroom flat in Chafford Hundred, I lived with him previously in hornchuch in a one bedroom which ...
A. 2 November 2008: Telling him to do it or you're not coming back it clearly not a good plan as he is on a winner with the furniture.
So my suggestion is this....
Accept he's a hoarder and tell him you will move back in but he MUST keep the flat clean and tidy a... (read in full...)
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