We always end up fighting because he doesn't believe ANYTHING I say...
Q. My boyfriend and I have been with each other for about 7 months. In a past relationship he was cheated on and never expected it. Now he won't trust me and says it will be a while before he does. We work together, and if I say one word to another ...
A. 26 October 2008: It sounds like there is nothing you can do to MAKE him trust you. He has to be open to the idea of it and he's not. He's still too hurt to trust any girlfriend and until he agrees to try and trust you then you are stuck.
Tell him that he has to a... (read in full...)
I'm stuck between two brothers. Please help!
Q. I know this may be a little messed up but I really need some advice!! I'm going crazy!!! I've been friends with this man for about 13yrs. We just recently crossed the line and did some freaky things together. WE ARE NOT OFFICIALLY together, but I fe...
A. 26 October 2008: Tell the younger brother that it's over and is never happening again.
Go out with the older brother, have him as your boyfriend.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I'm undesided on what kind of relationship I want with this guy...
Q. OK, so I don't know where I stand on this guy. He told me he liked me, we cuddled and got touchy at one point, but then this past weekend I pretty much gave him the idea that I wasn't really interested. Now I'm not so sure. He's like one of my guy ...
A. 26 October 2008: If he likes you then having a FWB relationship with him would basically be using him for sex. He doesn't want that. He wants you to be with him, but there is good chance that he would agree to FWB because he'll see it as a way in to a relationship ... (read in full...)
I feel I am nobody to her... what should I do?
Q. 2 weeks ago, I had a huge fight with my gf. She ended the relationship after few days. A week passed, I started to feel better. However, she called me. We talked a while on phone. The next day, she called again. For the first time, she called...
A. 26 October 2008: Send her a text saying "I guess you lied about wanting to be together again. That wasn't very nice. Have a nice life."
Then don't contact her again. Move on.
If she wants to be with you then let her do the chasing. But I think you shouldn't le... (read in full...)
Do I wait for this guy when we had such a wonderful relationship?
Q. Help! 4 months ago I met a guy who was in the process of breaking up with his girlfriend. He was very open about this, but also said he was very attracted to me and after he ended things with his girlfriend we began the most amazing relationship - ...
A. 26 October 2008: There is an old saying "hope for the best but expect the worst."
Hope that he comes back and wants to get back together by all means. But I think that you need to try and move on. Yes it was wonderful but the brightest flames burn for the shortest... (read in full...)
Nothing turns me on apart from my female foot fetish.
Q. hey, I sent a message earlier this month about my female foot fetish, I began to lose it but I am still worried because I can't get turned on by anything, any help or advice thanks for reading. later...
A. 26 October 2008: You are so young that you are going to be full of hormones, and you may go through phases like this.
Don't worry about what does or doesn't turn you on. Just enjoy your life and work hard at school.
Everything will balance itself out by th... (read in full...)
I didn't want him to to kiss me.... now I feel bad.
Q. hi, I'm confused and have a question for someone. Me and this guy are both 15 and have been best friends since we started high school together last year. we had a lot in common and was very comfortable telling each other things. we learned that ...
A. 26 October 2008: Get him alone and kiss him.
He's feeling used because he thought you were getting into a relationship. But now he just feels like you were using him for a cheap sexual thrill.
If you care about him and want to be with him as you were then ge... (read in full...)
He has a history of self harming... but I want to break up with him.
Q. I'm 16 and in my first real long term relationship. We've been together for just over a year, but for at least four of those 12 months, i have been wanting to get out of my relationship. I really care for this guy, but i don't love him. I understa...
A. 26 October 2008: There is no easy way to break up with him. You need to calmly explain that you are not happy with the relationship and you want to end it. DO NOT be wishy washy and say something that will give him any hope that this is not the end. Be clear that ... (read in full...)
I had sex with my boyfriend and didn't feel anything.
Q. Hey guys, Okay, so I'm going to get right to the point. I'm 14, and me and my boyfriend have been having unprotected sex with each other for 2 months. I know for a fact that I am not pregnant, and up until 3 days ago, the sex was normal but on ...
A. 26 October 2008: Perhaps you have some horrible disease. You have been stupid enough to have underage unprotected sex.
Did you think it was all magically going to be wonderful forever? Are you really that stupid?
Go and get checked out by a doctor and for e... (read in full...)
Good sex bad situation
Q. My sister got caught cheating on her husband recently. He is planning to divorce her. My sister is devastated. She had been having sex with her boss for 2 years. He knew something was going on but she never thought he would find it out, but he did. ...
A. 26 October 2008: Wow!
He's going to tell your sister because I think he only slept with you so he could hurt her like she hurt him.
He is going to throw it in her face with the divorce papers.
I think if you want a chance of forgiveness then you hav... (read in full...)
My husband left me for another woman but came back to work it out. Could he still be guilty?
Q. ok, I wrote a couple of months ago and said that my husband of 13 years left me for another woman. blah blah blah, for about a month he would promise I was what he wanted he just needed time for us to get along befor he came home and every time I ...
A. 26 October 2008: Well if you want him back and you are willing to forgive him lying and cheating on you then you have to do just that...
Forgive him.
Then you have to trust him, but he has to make this easier for you by being open and letting you know what is... (read in full...)
What can I do to get some line of communication open?
Q. My husband divorced me after 15 years. I tried everything to make him try again and not give up after so long but he didn't care. Since then things have been very bitter between us by him holding out on money and me being very difficult over him ...
A. 26 October 2008: I hate to use the kids in this but since they are both teens they may be old enough to try and help.
Get one of them to call him up and ask him to please tell them why he left.
If you are not comfortable with that (and I can easily understan... (read in full...)
I'm starting to fall for my ex school mate...
Q. Hello there. I just want to ask for your opinon. I am starting to fall for my ex school mate. I've known her for 6 years and I've always liked her. I even had a crush on her at some point. We came to be good friends, but the thing is I don't see her ...
A. 26 October 2008: You say such cases as though you are unique in some way.
You like a girl who you used to go to school with. Nothing wrong or right with that. Just normal: boy likes girl.
You don't see her very often. So this means your relationship wou... (read in full...)
He wants to throw it all away so that he can go and live back with his mum...
Q. Okay, I'm not even really sure where to begin this. I guess more than anything I just need a place to vent and have a little feedback. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost three years. I'm 21 and he's 27. We met online and lived 70 miles...
A. 26 October 2008: I commute 70 miles in the morning some times, and then 70 miles home again at night. He could stay where he is and then go back to see his mates any night they are going out, and go and stay with his family every weekend if he wanted.
70 miles is... (read in full...)
What are the ladies preference?
Q. A question 4 the ladys... I want 2 know what do you ladys more enjoy whilst having sex? Also when it comes to the guy's penis, do you like it thick or short, slim or long... x ...
A. 26 October 2008: I enjoy the fact that it is my husband.
If a girl is in love with you and you are in love with her it will be the best sex ever.
It's only boys who obsess over size and shape.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I cannot face intimacy with my husband - how do I decide what to do?
Q. I cannot face intimacy with my husband - kissing, hugging or full blown sex. My husband has been emotionally and physically abusive and I have tolerated it. In addition his family have also been emotionally abusive to me - again which I tolerated ...
A. 25 October 2008: I am not surprised that you are feeling this way. After 10 years of physical and emotional abuse I wouldn't want to kiss my man either.
But then I wouldn't have put up with 10 years of it. I would have left.
This is the 21st century. Marriag... (read in full...)
Does this mean I don't really love my fiance?
Q. Evening all, I have been with my fiance for 5 years (we have a long distance relationship) and the initial spark has gone for me.. he however is still loving and attentive as he was when we 1st got together. I do love him but I no longer get that ...
A. 25 October 2008: Love is different for everyone. Some people feel and want to feel that tingle when they are going to see their man, and some people want a deeper respect and friendship after a while and think the romance is silly.
The fact that you are only spe... (read in full...)
Should I alter my lifestyle slightly to allow me to meet more women?
Q. Hi I'm in my early 30s and struggle to find the right type of partner. I have been dating women I'm not really attracted to as sometimes I feel in need of female company. I've decided to stop that as it's just wasting mine and their time. I...
A. 25 October 2008: If you want a girlfriend then go looking for one. If you are happy being single then don't. There is no should or shouldn't. It all depends on what you actually want in life right now.
If you have decided you want to meet a girl for a serious ... (read in full...)
My sister is making my life a misery...
Q. 3 things happened today with my sister 5 year old lives with me and my girlfriend for personal reasons. 1) I got an angry call from my sister's teacher saying she call a dark skinned girl the and word. Her teacher said she went home in tears a...
A. 25 October 2008: Where has she learned these words?!
Do you say them? Or do you allow her to watch tv too late at night? There is no way that a 5 year old learns that kind of language and insults out of no where.
You need to sit her down and talk to her. Fin... (read in full...)
I married the wrong person and I just want her out of my life...
Q. Is there anyway to divorce without money? And also if the wife doesn't want to get divorced? I married the wrong person and I just want her out of my life, but because she gets so many benefits with me I guess she doesn't wanna go back to being ...
A. 25 October 2008: You'd have to speak to a legal expert. But since you signed a legal contract to love and provide for someone, if you break that contract then you are going to have to pay something.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Why insist on meeting me when you have nothing to say?
Q. Hi everyone! I need some advice on this situation - broken up for more than one year - he cheated and lied a lot. Kept in touch/contact. I was in his city with some friends this weekend and he insisted on meeting. So we did meet for dinner with ...
A. 25 October 2008: Stop seeing him.
If he still is holding a grudge, or is not over you then just don't see him. You can't stay friends with them all.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Was this an innocent flirt? Or should I follow up on it?
Q. Hi About 4 months ago I ended things with a guy because he just seemed too casual, I'd see him for an evening and then I wouldn't hear anything for a week or two. I really liked him but I couldn't cope with not seing him as often as I wanted.It e...
A. 25 October 2008: Talk to some people at work and tell them the full story. I think you need practical help now from real people, not internet advice.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I personally don't believe in breaks, only break-ups. Please help.
Q. My boyfriend wants to take a break and have his space. I personally don't believe in breaks, only break-ups. He keeps texting me saying he loves me. Do I ignore or respond? Please help...
A. 24 October 2008: If he texts you telling you he loves you then ask him if he is ready to get back together and commit to you.
If he says yes then hey presto. If he says no then tell him not to contact you again.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I cried on my 18th because I wasn't 17 anymore! So how can I get over my fear of growing older?
Q. On my 18th birthday I cried because I wasn't seven anymore. I've always been scared of getting older, one - 'cause it means I'll have less life, and two - 'cause I'm scared of losing my abilities. I work hard and I've heard that when you become fort...
A. 24 October 2008: I hit 25 this year. I was DISTRAUGHT.
But this year I have come forward in my career, travelled to a warzone to report from there, and next week I am off to a film premiere.
It's scary getting older but it does get better as you do.
Good ... (read in full...)
Is it possible that we could end up bi or lesbians if we keep doing this?
Q. hi, i have a question that is too awkward to ask anybody that i know. it involves me and my bestfriend. we are both girls, 15 years old and have been best friends since we were small. some in our family say we are cousins, but we aren't really. ...
A. 24 October 2008: That last answer is a load of rubbish.
Nothing you do will TURN you bi or lesbian. At your age it's perfectly normal to be curious about your sexuality.
If you are enjoying it then there is nothing wrong with it.
You may go off it in another... (read in full...)
I would kill to be with her but she isn't attracted to me.
Q. I met a girl a few months back and I have always felt a deep admiration for and care for her more than anyone. I consider her my best friend although I'm aware she has a lot of great friends and unfortunately I would not appear at the very top of ...
A. 24 October 2008: If you can't tell her then email her.
You can't just make up some reason to stop talking to her as it will make her feel like she's done something wrong and she will try even harder to get back in touch.
Could you tell a friend and then get the... (read in full...)
I think my cousin may have feelings for me. What's the best way to handle this?
Q. I'm 19 yrs old and I have a bit of an extended family. Pretty close to my mother's side of the family and all their children, we consider ourselves as brothers and sisters us cousins (there's a lot of us). In fact I'm the oldest, and I feel I kin...
A. 24 October 2008: Yep, you know what the right thing to do is here. Stay away.
Your mum has seen it and knows it would be a bad idea for you to get together.
She is taking the teasing as a way of getting closer to her, even though it upsets her.
Just be ... (read in full...)
Good man...Bad woman....if I go will it hurt her kids?
Q. I have a girlfriend with 3 kids who are not my own. I provide for them in every way, even paying for her school but I don't get any respect from her. The kids respect me more than she does. I really want to leave her but knowing that the kids will ...
A. 24 October 2008: Ask her why she has so little respect for you and tell her that if it wasn't for the kids you would consider leaving.
This may shock her into talking about the relationship and trying to fix things.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I feel we should split up before University. Good idea???
Q. I'm having a huge problem right now about my relationship with my bf. We were together for almost 2 years but split up for 5 monthS. We got back together about a month and a half ago and things have been ok. Hes deffinetly more loving and carring in ...
A. 24 October 2008: You don't like him as much, you are very hurt about him having sex with that girl and you do not want sex with him.
That is more than enough reason to split up with him now.
The whole uni and not living together thing doesn't even have to com... (read in full...)
Should I Break Up With Her Before Or After The Holidays??
Q. Sadly, I think I need to break up with my girlfriend. We have been dating over a year and have been close friends for three years prior to that. I love her to death, and she thinks I am the one. Even though I still love her, I feel a break up is ...
A. 24 October 2008: If you are not going to be in the same room alone as her for a few weeks then I think you need to call her up on the phone and give her a heads up that you are not happy with the relationship and think it is not working.
You can talk about it... (read in full...)
Can casual turn into an exclusive relationship?
Q. I've recently got together with this guy - I knew him a long time ago when I was a teenager, just as a name and a face. Got talking recently and we got on really well. Then he instigated flirting and it kinda went from there and he invited himself ...
A. 24 October 2008: If you want more from him then you are going to get hurt.
By putting all the effort in, you are going to be really hurt when he turns you down or cancels last minute because you are low priority.
Casual means casual and if this guy doesn't want... (read in full...)
I would kill to be with her but she isn't attracted to me.
Q. I met a girl a few months back and I have always felt a deep admiration for and care for her more than anyone. I consider her my best friend although I'm aware she has a lot of great friends and unfortunately I would not appear at the very top of ...
A. 24 October 2008: If you really think she only sees you as a friend then I think you need to back off and stay away from her for your own mental health.
But before you do that you need to tell her why you are backing off or as you say, she will be upset and call... (read in full...)
Is it okay for girls to make themselves orgasm?
Q. Ok, well this is very embarrassing to be asking about but is it ok for girls, at my age (14) to make themselves... orgasm? Becacause I have this thing I do where if I imagine certain things (no need to go into that though) and rub against my... you ...
A. 24 October 2008: It's called masterbation and is perfectly normal for someone your age.
In fact it is good in a way that you are doing it as
a) you are got going out trying to get a guy to do it
b) you are not discovering that 14 year old boys have no idea how... (read in full...)
Was this an innocent flirt? Or should I follow up on it?
Q. Hi About 4 months ago I ended things with a guy because he just seemed too casual, I'd see him for an evening and then I wouldn't hear anything for a week or two. I really liked him but I couldn't cope with not seing him as often as I wanted.It e...
A. 24 October 2008: It was an innocent flirt with you, a quick ego boost on a Sunday afternoon.
I know you like this guy and are looking for signs that he wants to get back and be differnt, but he's not going to be.
Move on, and find a guy who can give you what yo... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he understand that I don't desire sex?
Q. How do I make my husband understand that my desire in sex just isn't what it used to be? When we met quite a few years ago the sex was absolutely great! We practically had sex every day and I even looked forward to it. I must mention here that I am ...
A. 24 October 2008: I think he does understand, but I don't think you understand that his desires are JUST as much as they used to be.
You have to compromise on this.
You can't expect him to have no sex so you need to figure out what will make sex more enjoyable f... (read in full...)
Why did he suddenly change? He seemed to be really in to me!
Q. Im currently 19 and 38 weeks pregnant. Me and the babys father are not together, he doesnt want anything to do with the baby. About a month ago, me and a boy (also 19) i have known for about 3 years and met twice before started SMS texting each...
A. 24 October 2008: So shockingly, he had all the time in the world on the weekend, and then he was busy through the week?
I think you are in danger of over reacting here. For someone who is taking things slowly you are being very needy in your text messagin... (read in full...)
I am very upset by the amount of women that cheat in the world...
Q. I'm surprised to find out that women do cheat more than men in a relationship! Men do cheat more technically but in general these are men who don't get themselves into a stong relationship. I'm talking about mature couples in mature relatio...
A. 24 October 2008: What research have you done on this? I would be interested to know. Is it just reading Dear Cupid problems?
Because bear in mind that women tend to have a much wider support network and will get advice from friends and family... where as men will... (read in full...)
Live separate sexual lives and get married or leave now?
Q. I have been dating my current boyfriend for almost 7 months. I am very pleased with the intimacy in our relationship but he says that it is missing something for him. He (28 years old) has been with five times as many women as I (24 years old) ...
A. 24 October 2008: I think Daniel Pew is completely right. If he's not ready to settle down then he doesn't get to marry you.
Break up and tell him that when he's ready to grow up and be a real man and commit then he can give you a call.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Should I Break Up With Her Before Or After The Holidays??
Q. Sadly, I think I need to break up with my girlfriend. We have been dating over a year and have been close friends for three years prior to that. I love her to death, and she thinks I am the one. Even though I still love her, I feel a break up is ...
A. 24 October 2008: It's only October... it's hardly like you are going to dump her on Christmas Eve.
Do it now if you no longer want to be with her and then move out asap, but continue to pay your half of the rent till after xmas so she is not made homeless... (read in full...)
Pregnant at 14 and in care. What do I do?
Q. I am 14 years old.I was recently put into the care system but i have just found out im pregnant. I want to keep the baby but i have no support from my family or anyone else to be hounest.the father isnt in the picture either.i also have no where to ...
A. 24 October 2008: Well you need to get on to your care worker and they will have to find you some where new to live.
Do you want to raise it alone in care? Or would you consider letting someone adopt it so you can get on with your life and make a future for your... (read in full...)
How can I find a boyfriend?
Q. Ok i am a girl and i have not had a real relationship ever. My sister try to help me find a guy but he liked her so he used me. My things is i feel like i my never find a guy because when i try it ends up blowing up in my face i cry at night now so ...
A. 24 October 2008: I think you need to relax first of all. Guys can smell desperation on a girl from a mile and it will either scare them away or give them an easy way to use you.
Go out and make new friends, join a local club or volunteer somewhere. The more you... (read in full...)
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