Can our relationship work if he cares but doesn't love me?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for nearly two years and asked him about his views on marriage and children, he gave me answers but also told me that since a situation in his past he has never been able to love anyone since and although he cares for ...
A. 1 November 2008: Well it'll be a big risk to commit to that.
He could stay caring about you and get married and have kids and you could love him with all your heart and then suddenly he meets a girl who he falls in love for and you are left alone.
Alternatively... (read in full...)
His friend told him I like him but it seems he only likes me as a friend!
Q. Okay, so I'm liking this boy, but he only likes me as a friend. The bad thing is I don't really know him. So I have no reason to like him. I just think he is adorable. Anyway I told his friend that I thought I could trust, but he told the boy I ...
A. 1 November 2008: Well if he only likes you as a friend then you don;t have to do anything.
Move on and meet other people to try and get over him.
And don't trust your friend with stuff like this again if you are unhappy he told.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Is it lust or love?
Q. There is this guy at my ice rink who always keeps on looking at me, he would always skate in front of me, always look behind him whenever i was behind and always when im sitting down he would look at me. Even when he is with his girlfriend like ...
A. 1 November 2008: Well since you have never spoken to him I doubt it is love, you are just flattered that a boy seems to like you.
Remember that he is gawping at another girl in front of his girlfriend so he probably isn't a very nice guy.
Enjoy the self esteem ... (read in full...)
It's red and itchy around my testicles, what to do?
Q. It's red and itchy' around my testicles? I don't want to tell my parents....
A. 1 November 2008: You don't give any information about what kind of itch this is, if there is a rash, if you have been having sexual contact with anyone, if you have been using new detergent, or anything so it is hard to advise.
Try putting some basic moisturi... (read in full...)
If a person cuts class is it consider as a felony, crime, academic misconduct, or behavior misconduct?
Q. If a person cuts class is it consider as a felony, crime, academic misconduct, or behavior misconduct? Could a cut be cleared and erased? Will this go on my permanent record? I really don't want this on my permanent record. I cutted class only once ...
A. 1 November 2008: It very much depends on the local laws where you live.
Talk to a teacher or school career advisor and they will be able to explain it all to you.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I'm not LIVING my life, I'm just putting up with it.
Q. I am at this site because I am truly at the end of my rope. This has gone on for so long that something has got to give, or I am literally going to go crazy. I badly need someone who will try to help me with advice and not judge me. My proble...
A. 1 November 2008: I know money can seem like everything if you have none (trust me I've been there) but you can do a lot of things for free.
If there is a riding school nearby then ring up and ask if you can come in and work for free on weekends in exchange... (read in full...)
He doesn't show his love to me...
Q. Hi, I'm in love with someone that doesn't show his love... that means he never calls unless I do.. ans these stuff.. everyone is telling me to dump him but I can't... What shall I do and we've been together for 4 years...
A. 1 November 2008: Well have you asked him to change?
If you have and he won't then you can either put up with it and stay with him, or you can leave and find someone better.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Since my holiday I feel so alone. Please help!
Q. Sorry if this is long, I just need to tell how i feel to some one and them not judge me straight away or tell me what to do as it would be better for them. 3 weeks ago i went on holiday with two of my mum and dads friends familys, when we went i h...
A. 1 November 2008: Well do you really feel for your boyfriend or is he just there? Sometimes you can get with a person and just get really used to having them around for that constant good feeling and companionship. The fact you forgot him as soon as you saw a boy ... (read in full...)
He says all he has is me! How do I tell him I don't want to date him anymore?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for the past year and its been great but recently i feel i really resent him, i don't want to talk to him, text him, see him or anything. I feel as if i want to see other people and have fun. I don't know if ...
A. 1 November 2008: Tell him to go and do some volunteering work and to join some kind of sports club or writers group or something that interests him.
Get him out of his house and make him make some friends.
You can't stay with him because you feel guilty.
... (read in full...)
Why do these guys think I'm easy?
Q. okay.. here we go. for a few months now, guys i barely know have been coming up to me asking if i wanna make out, or worse! one even asked if i wanted to be f*** buddies! im 14 and im still a virgin, and plan to be for a while. the worst thing i...
A. 1 November 2008: What do you wear?
If it doesn't involve very many clothes then that might be your problem.
Other than that they just might be teasing you. If they know you are a good church going girl they might know it bothers you to be asked this stuff.
J... (read in full...)
She's so CLINGY I can't stand it! Should I break up or tell her I need some space?
Q. alright well iv been dating this girl for like only 2 weeks now...and we both live in a residence at our college. Well pretty much since the first day we met she is soooo clingy..we always have to be holding hands, hugging, rubbing or whatever the ...
A. 1 November 2008: I think you have to tell her that you need some space.
You need to see your friends and you need to do homework. Do it nicely though, just explain that you are feeling a bit smothered.
If she backs off and things get better then great, but ... (read in full...)
I don't want just sex !!
Q. Okay maybe someone can help me with my dillema, I'm 21 and gay, open about it. Now whenever it comes to relationships I always hit a wall. Most guys approach me and compliment me on my good looks and appearance and then immediately ask me for a ...
A. 1 November 2008: The gay scene is incredibly focused on sex. If you go out then that is pretty much what is going to be on offer.
What you need is to make some friends with other gay guys or girls that have gay friends. Then they could introduce you to someone ... (read in full...)
When he is sober he is fine and he loves me. He gets drunk(alot) then he hates me. I can't stand this anymore !
Q. Ok, I am not happy in my relationship. My husband is a drunk. Binge drinker to be exact. He may go 4-5 days sober, and that's if im extremely lucky. Then a week or more streight drinking. He's been drunk by noon at times. Sometimes 4, sometimes ...
A. 1 November 2008: He is an addict and he needs to stop drinking.
Tell him when he is sober that you can't go on living like this. Tell him you want him to get help for his drinking and to quit getting drunk.
If he's do that then it is not worth sticking with hi... (read in full...)
If she loves me shouldnt she want to live with me?
Q. I love my gf and she tells me that she loves me more than anything in the world but whenever I mention us living together she is not intersted. when we are together we have a great time, i can feel the love from her and we feel like we are in o...
A. 31 October 2008: You don't give enough details about you or her for us to be able to give you answer.
It could be that she is happy with things the way they are now and doesn't want you to have to see her all grotty and giving her legs a wax.
Or maybe like... (read in full...)
My mom told me two different stories about my parentage, I am having trouble accepting what she says is the truth, please help?
Q. When I was younger my mom told me that she had me with her ex boyfriend who had since left her. But when I turned 18 my mom said "Now that you're an adult, I need to tell you the truth." Turns out the real reason I exist is cause my mom got drunk ...
A. 31 October 2008: You did happen for a reason!
That one night stand happened and your mum got a beautiful baby boy who she loves.
I bet she is happy in life now and you have made her life better.
She's told you a happy little story before because kids need... (read in full...)
What do I answer to her sexual questions?
Q. If a girl asks you how bad do you want her and how bad do you want to go down on her what do you tell her?...
A. 31 October 2008: If you want her then tell her you want her lots and lots.
If you don't then just say not really.
It sounds like she was trying to have phone sex with you.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I have a funny smell coming from my vagina.
Q. Heya, this has only just started but me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and just recently after we have had sex and got up the next morning I have got a really funny smell coming from my vaginal area. What's wrong with me, help it's ...
A. 31 October 2008: Is this the first time you have been having unprotected sex?
If you've always used condoms till now then the smell might be his sperm.
Most of it comes out gradually after you've had sex so it's not pleasent until you have a shower.
Good ... (read in full...)
Diet advice needed!
Q. Hey aunts and uncles, I have quite an embarrassing question and I'm after a bit of diet advice? if thats right? I'm 16 and I'm 5 foot 4, size 10/12 clothes but I'm 12 stone, I have manly muscles in my arms and a four pack which really creeps me out, ...
A. 31 October 2008: They will go away if you stop exercising.
You shouldn't be embarressed of your body, your boyfriend will not be bothered if you are toned to the point where you can see a bit of muscle. He's going to be bothered about the fact that he can see your... (read in full...)
What's the best way to meet up?
Q. Hi guys, quick question, not immedialtely love related, but close enough. Only UK residents need answer due to obvious reasons Two people want to meet. One lives in Colchester, Essex one lives in Cannock, West Midlands. What's the best place a...
A. 31 October 2008: Also, you have to both take a friend and meet in public places etc etc etc.
Either or both of you could be a serial killer.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/chatguide/glossary/meeting.shtml
Here is the idiots guide to not getting murdered and rap... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to deal with my friend? She's getting very annoying!
Q. I have a girl best friend and a guy best friend. I hang out with the girl all the time but this past schoolyear I've gotten really close to my guy best friend again and now she gets really jealous and really mad about me talking to him. like I hung ...
A. 31 October 2008: Find her some other friends to hang out with.
She has to have more than one person to speak to in the world. She has to deal with the fact that you are allowed to speak to other people.
Ask her why she is being so strange.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
What's the best way to meet up?
Q. Hi guys, quick question, not immedialtely love related, but close enough. Only UK residents need answer due to obvious reasons Two people want to meet. One lives in Colchester, Essex one lives in Cannock, West Midlands. What's the best place a...
A. 31 October 2008: If you are on the train then London is the obvious choice.
If you are driving then Luton Bedford or Milton Kenes is about in the middle.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I work in a man's world here and I feel my work and accomplishments, are overlooked! Any advice?
Q. This is not really a romance question but I know there are some people here who could maybe help me with this. I am working on a government committee and I have written some resolutions which were voted the best in the area that I live in. I ...
A. 31 October 2008: Get the stats that prove you were number one, create a fake hotmail address and then send it to the biggest local press names with a little note asking them if they want to ask why the committee lied, and if sexism is an issue. Throw in a red ... (read in full...)
How many times do you call your partner per day?
Q. She works at night time and there will be days she works alone in her department. She text for me to call back. It happened few times so I guess she is lonely. I decided to call her everyday during her break time. The problem now is, she do...
A. 31 October 2008: She could have been busy!
When my hubbie is home I text him and sometimes he will not text back till he gets home because he's been so busy. Same with me. Some times he's bored and texts me lots and I'm just too busy to reply.
Call her when... (read in full...)
Is it irrational to think this way about my therapist?
Q. Over the past 3 years I've gone through a lot of shit. about 2 years ago I met my therapist, he was one of the best people I would ever meet in my (then) so far 15 years. I most definitely thought of him as more than just my therapist... I thought ...
A. 31 October 2008: You were in a vulnerable state and he was there being nice and strong and listening to you.
But guess what - that was his job. This is why people go back to these therapists and pay them stupid amounts of cash to talk about how they feel about ca... (read in full...)
I can draw air into my vagina and make farting sounds...is this abnormal ? I'm scared it might make me infertile.
Q. this is going to be the most embarrasing question i have ever asked, and i am way to embarrased to go to a clinic or even my GP. ever since i was about 9 i could make 'farting noises' out of my vagina. At the start it was only tiny ones that s...
A. 31 October 2008: Air is not poisonous and cannot damage your insides. If you were blowing cigarette smoke up there it would be different.
Some girls who work in strip clubs do a similar thing by firing ping pong balls out of their vaginas!
If just means you h... (read in full...)
Am I getting upset for no reason or should I confront him and ask him about it???
Q. I was just wondering if I am overreacting. My husband left his email program up and so I was reading one of the emails and it was from an old girlfriend. She was telling him about her marriage and how things weren't so good for her right now and ...
A. 31 October 2008: Has he specifically promised not to speak to her any more?
If not then it's just some email advice - I'm giving you similar advice right now and there is nothing go on between us!
Mention that you noticed he was emailing her and chat to him ... (read in full...)
My long term boyfriend went to a strip club, got a lap dance...
Q. Long Term BF went to a strip club, got a lap dance (2 actually) sat around chatting with the strippers and says it's harmless. Let me give a bit of background, both divorced, in a ltr of 3 years, we've got a great relationship, very direct and ...
A. 31 October 2008: He rang you for permission and you said "what ever."
I think it's a bit unfair to have expected him to work out that you actually didn't want him to do this.
You go on about how much you love sex and that you are a sexual person - but he ... (read in full...)
My ex insists on coming to me for advice and it's driving me crazy!
Q. Hey. My ex insists on coming to me for advice. He is basically obsessed with my best mate (talk about rubbing salt in the wound),and he never shuts up. so i told him that id find out if she would ever go back with him to shut him up. i know fin...
A. 30 October 2008: Tell him to go away.
Tell him you are not his friend, and that you split up and are therefore not going to help him find someone to replace you.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
What does the word "emotionally" really mean?
Q. Hi, what does emotionally mean? I mean if someone says "I've never been close emotionally to someone before..." what does it mean?? I'm a bit confused ...
A. 30 October 2008: It means they have never felt like they really connected with them and had the same feelings and could be open.
It's like, you have some friends that you sit with and see some times but you have some friends who you can open up and really really b... (read in full...)
I think I'm ready for light BDSM but my boyfriend says I'm not! Is he right?
Q. There is something that I would LOVE to try with my boyfriend, and I've told him about this. I would love to try some light bondage, some light domination. (I say light because I've never done it before, so I'd just like to try it out and see if I ...
A. 30 October 2008: I don't think any amount of bondage makes you psychic.
Perhaps he's done some little things and you have not liked it so he's taken that as a sign you are not ready.
Perhaps since you want to be dominated he's just taking control of you a... (read in full...)
Suddenly she wants to use condoms... is she cheating?
Q. i think my girlfriend is cheating on me. we have been going out for just over 3 months and because she is on the pill, we dont use condoms. however, over the last couple of weeks, she has insisted that we use condoms. we are at different univer...
A. 30 October 2008: It's possibly a sign that she had to stay up all night because one of her friends just discovered she had some awful STI and was in tears over it and needed looking after.
Or it could be that someone on her course who was on the pill suddenly... (read in full...)
I had my period in school and now everyone makes fun of me.
Q. my name is mary and i almost died of embarrassment when i had my period in school and everyone called me bloody Mary for the rest of the year and some of them still do. i need help and/or advice!...
A. 30 October 2008: Of course they are going to keep calling you that - they know it bothers you.
As soon as you start laughing when they call you that as though you love the nick name then they'll stop and will find something else to pick at instead.
Kids ar... (read in full...)
My 100 pound girlfriend is trying to lose 20 pounds so she can be a model.I caught her throwing up, what do I do?
Q. My girlfriend (she's 18 and I'm 19) wants to loss another 20 pounds (she's about 100) with diet pills. That just doesn't sound healthy to me. I am willing to the gym with her but the pill idea has to go. I once came home early cause I didn't feel ...
A. 30 October 2008: Go to the papers about the agency, take her to a funeral home, keep taking her to counselling, don't let her change the subject, change it back.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
What can I do to make him like me again?
Q. How do I make him like me again? I had been seeing this guy for a couple of months and things were going well. We have known each other for a very long time and there had always been a mutual attraction between us so when we finally got toge...
A. 30 October 2008: I'm going to give you the same advice again.
You clearly don't just want friendship. You want to be closer than that.
Back off and leave him alone. You keep chasing him and he's probably just saying "um yeah whatever I'm not [insert everythi... (read in full...)
It's always me who rings.
Q. It's always me who rings!! I am keeping in touch with a guy I adore who is pretty down on his luck - his girlfriend has split with him temporarilly, he is out of work and hence does not have much cash!! This guy knows I love him and is happy fo...
A. 30 October 2008: Of course he is happy for you to ring him and boost his ego by being obviously in love with you.
The guy can't get a job even though there is HUGE christmas recruitment going on.
He'll probably be happy to get with you if his girlfriend doesn... (read in full...)
Porn distresses me!
Q. Hey, I have a question, mainly for the ladies, but anyone who can help me is welcome to answer. In short, I have a huge problem with porn. It distresses me, I constantly allow it to make me feel insecure, inadequate, ugly, unsexy, you na...
A. 30 October 2008: Why do you think that porn stars look better than you?
Porn stars are the male ideal of a DISPOSABLE woman. They look like the kind of woman you could have sex with halfway through the first date and then never call again.
They are plastic and ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for someone to fall out of love, basically overnight after 3 years?
Q. Ok, well, about 3 months ago, My bf and I broke up. So, that makes him My ex. He just decided 1 day that he didn't want to date anymore, and we have been together 3 years and never had this problem. I'm not too crazy about the friends he hangs with, ...
A. 28 October 2008: I think you are still hoping this will all get better some how.
He had probably been thinking about splitting up for a while before he did it.
You just have to cut him off and decide to try and move on.
Once you do that and stop hoping tha... (read in full...)
I slept with someone I consider my best friend.
Q. Well what happened was me and some of my friends were hanging out and the plan was for the night that we all were supposed to get laid.... me and my friend and my brother and his friend... it was going to be my friend and brother (he's not really my ...
A. 28 October 2008: This is very confusing. So you slept with a boy and the other boy who liked you is jealous?
I think you are just going to have to continue on and let things calm down.
I wouldn't worry too much, the jealous boy might even be your real friend... (read in full...)
The heart wants what the heart wants... and I want Brian!
Q. I need some advice. I'm in love with an 18 year old named Brian and I really want to let him know. I've come up with many ways to tell him but none of them seem like they would work out and I'm not brave enough to tell him face to face. Now you're ...
A. 28 October 2008: What do you hope to acieve by telling him this? Do you just want to get it off your chest?
Do you think he's going to say that he loves you too? As he'll probably be a little bit freaked out to be honest.
Why not just ask him if he has a girl... (read in full...)
I think she doesn't love him but is after his money!
Q. hiya today ive had my ex bf on the phone crying his eyes out basically the woman he left me for is treating him like crap,she says she doesnt trust him and that she loves him but not sure if its in a friendship way or a gf/bf way, i really feel for ...
A. 28 October 2008: Tell him to tell her to make her mind up once and for all or to leave as she's hurting him.
Why can't he leave her?
Does he not think he's good enough not to be treated like crap?
At the end of it all, if he stays and lets her get away wi... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is starting to ask my help in paying her bills
Q. I have a girlfriend who i love very much and she says she loves me, she works nights in people care and exhausts herself doing it to pay her mortgage and bills and the money is not going far enough so shes started asking me for money to make up the ...
A. 28 October 2008: You could always agree to lend her the money if you don't see her as someone you'll be with forever.
Or could you perhaps buy a share of her house and give her a cash payment?
If she can't manage her mortgage then she should talk to her bank... (read in full...)
My 100 pound girlfriend is trying to lose 20 pounds so she can be a model.I caught her throwing up, what do I do?
Q. My girlfriend (she's 18 and I'm 19) wants to loss another 20 pounds (she's about 100) with diet pills. That just doesn't sound healthy to me. I am willing to the gym with her but the pill idea has to go. I once came home early cause I didn't feel ...
A. 26 October 2008: Ask her who told her that she had to lose more weight to be a model?
It could be that she went into some agency and they told her she needed to lose weight. If so then go to the local papers about how this agency could be literally causing ... (read in full...)
What can I do to make him like me again?
Q. How do I make him like me again? I had been seeing this guy for a couple of months and things were going well. We have known each other for a very long time and there had always been a mutual attraction between us so when we finally got toge...
A. 20 October 2008: I think you need to chill out and stop over analysing things. It was a late night text... he is not going to judge you on this.
The guy obviously has issues of his own if he is too terrified to date a woman that he clearly likes.
If you freak ... (read in full...)
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