What can I do to make him like me again?
Q. How do I make him like me again? I had been seeing this guy for a couple of months and things were going well. We have known each other for a very long time and there had always been a mutual attraction between us so when we finally got toge...
A. 30 October 2008: I'm going to give you the same advice again.
You clearly don't just want friendship. You want to be closer than that.
Back off and leave him alone. You keep chasing him and he's probably just saying "um yeah whatever I'm not [insert everythi... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to a man who's as old as my dad. What do I do?
Q. I have started a new job with a great position, I think my boss is a wonderful person he has an amazing charisma, strong and powerful but he is 26 years older than I am married with kids:( I'm so confused I admit I like him, I know it is totally ...
A. 22 October 2008: You sound as though you don't want him to stop.. but you say you do.
If you want him to carry on then let him continue, and if you don't then dress more conservatively and do not flirt of let him get you into a situation where he can make a move. ... (read in full...)
Possessive boyfriend that makes no sense!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have recently broken up but he seems to be really possesive over me. He always checks my texts and my phone call list to see who i've been talking to. When im out he'll call me up to see who im with and where i am. One day he'l...
A. 21 October 2008: He's obviously upset and confused about the break up so is acting strangely.
You need to be firm with him and tell him it's none of his business. Don't let him have your phone to check on your life and don't answer his calls when you are out.
... (read in full...)
Am I being unreasonable with my boyfriend?
Q. I really need some advice about whether I'm being unreasonable with my boyfriend. He broke up with his ex (who he lived with for a year)in June 2007 after a pretty rocky relationship - he says she cheated on him four times in the year and I know ...
A. 21 October 2008: I think you have to back off this one. He obviously felt he needed a mother figure in his life, and you know what boys are like with their mums. Don't try and get between them.
If she sends you pics of him and his ex then you can simply reply sa... (read in full...)
Am I taking the right course of action with this girl?
Q. I am uncertain whether or not I have been taking the right course of action with the girl I think I am attracted to in uni at the moment. Firstly, I have known her only a month now, and I am not yet suree how much I do like her, so I am being ca...
A. 21 October 2008: Well if you are unsure then you are doing the right thing. But just be careful that you don't leave it too long and then ask her out only to be told she only sees you as a friend now.
Or that she stop spending time with you because she thinks y... (read in full...)
LDR: What am I doing wrong?
Q. I am in a long distance relationship. Normally we send eachother text messages in the morning at lunch and in the vening before going to be. Lately I am increasingly feeling that I am putting more effort into it. Sending mor messages calling and ...
A. 21 October 2008: The problem with an LDR is that he could be in the shower or driving and you don't know that so you are freaking out.
Try calling less and if he doesn't call then it wasn't meant to be.
Why don't you find someone who is not far away? It sounds ... (read in full...)
Any ideas on how to handle my self centered girlfriend?
Q. A lot of my friends (mainly my female friends) hate my girlfriend because shes too self center (she is working on it and trying to be nicer to everyone). My female friends can be really mean maybe even almost disrespectful to her. They even star...
A. 21 October 2008: You need to stand up to your so called friends and tell them to back off. Starting rumours about you says to me that they are not your friends.
Tell your friends that if they say one word to your girlfriend at the party then you will want them to ... (read in full...)
Any ideas on what's up with him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year, and we've been talking about getting married next fall for almost 6 months. We've set a date, started looking at venues etc... We are great together, and we've started looking at houses... He ...
A. 21 October 2008: Perhaps he's saving up to buy you a huge ring... or waiting till a specific date to propose.
Do what I did and every time you walk past a jewellery shop window point out what you do like and what you don't like in terms of rings.
You don't wan... (read in full...)
Based on her past - can I trust her? Can she trust me?
Q. I'm 27, she's 23. We met six years ago and had a beautiful baby girl three years later while she was in her last year of high school. A year later we split up because of differences and infedelity on both our parts. The fight was so huge that both ...
A. 21 October 2008: Well she may be amazing, so don't you think she deserves someone who will love her and recognise that?
If you heart lies elsewhere then you have to follow it.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I am attracted to my tutor, fours years younger than me, I want to be closer, how do I keep this going, until we can move forward?
Q. Until last week I did a 10 week employment course which was so easy that I was bored. During this time I built up a friendship with one of the tutors who is 4 years younger than me. We'd have discussions about the course which led to flirty ...
A. 21 October 2008: Well as long as you keep doing courses then you can't have a relationship with her.
Till then you'll just have keep flirting and chatting.
Once you are no longer anything to do with the college then you can swap details and get together.
Goo... (read in full...)
What do I need to do, to make things right again? Help!
Q. My now-fiancée and I have been together for 4 1/2 years (We broke up one time for 6 months – back in 05) So actually only 4 years together. We had taken a couple small breaks in the past, but within the past year, we have stayed together and things ...
A. 21 October 2008: I didn't read all of this as it was so long but basically your relationship seems to be one that is not strong enough even to survive working opposite shifts for a while.
You can keep plugging away at it, and when there are absolutely no problems... (read in full...)
Vicious cycle: I swore I wouldn't let him in again!
Q. Some advice would be great guys. Until April this year i thought i had control of the situation with my ex. He would ring me, intitate the convrsation etc i never put myself in a painful position after he changed his mind about getting back tog...
A. 21 October 2008: You know you've been stupid and you are never going to get what you want for this guy.
You have to keep up the no contact rule and get a life and get over him.
He's still calling etc, because he can, there is no agenda in it. He's just in the... (read in full...)
Am I being stupid by making all the effort?
Q. Hi me and my boyfriend have been split up for about 8 weeks and hes now involved with someone else anyway we agreed to try and stay mates even tho the girl hes now involved with dosent like me one bit, so he says for me to ring him which i do but t...
A. 21 October 2008: Yep, all you are doing is causing his new girl pain, and for what?
Nothing.
Move on and stop calling.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How can I make my periods regular?
Q. I think I have irregular periods. I get my period every 2-5 weeks and last from 4-8 days. is that normal? what should I do to make it regular? its irritating because I never know when I'm gonna start and I hate starting when I'm at school!...
A. 21 October 2008: Unfortunately it's just something we all have to go through.
I really don't think swallowing hormone pills every day at your age is the best thing to do just because it's annoying.
Just make sure you have a little (new clean) pencil case at t... (read in full...)
I fell in love in the library - but is he just following me around?
Q. i met a guy in my school library, we interacted a bit and i fell in love with him, he also seemed to like me because he wanted us to chat for long, the problem was he was buzzy and i was buzzy as well. when the time came for me to go home i left ...
A. 21 October 2008: Ask him why he isn't talking to you. He may be nervous about it but if he knows he's upsetting you then he might get over that.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Would I ruin everything if I told him I love him?
Q. Iv been seeing my boyfriend for 3 months now and I have to say that I am totally in love with him, im 28 and have never felt this way before. He is such an amazing person and is so nice to me, my family and friends, I can hardly beleive that iv ...
A. 21 October 2008: Do it!
It's been 3 months now. It's not like you are proposing marriage.
If you are really scared then just do it at the end of the next phone call, as in "ok, see you then, I love you, Bye" then hang up.
The best way to do it is just wai... (read in full...)
Is he just trying to keep me sweet?
Q. HELLO guys A bit of a problam hear after spliting with my guy so he can go back to his ex the mother of his child, he said we could stay mates and that he would really like to, but not sure if she would let him be friends with me, He cheated ...
A. 21 October 2008: You are the person who asked the same question before and I think the advice you got then still stands.
I don;t think he's being calculated and keeping you as a plan B, but he is lying to his girlfriend by telling her he's cut contact.
He soun... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to a man who's as old as my dad. What do I do?
Q. I have started a new job with a great position, I think my boss is a wonderful person he has an amazing charisma, strong and powerful but he is 26 years older than I am married with kids:( I'm so confused I admit I like him, I know it is totally ...
A. 21 October 2008: If you want to have an office affair then think hard about 2 things:
1: He's married. You will only ever be his bit on the side. You'll be a younger girl he goes to for fun and then goes back to his wife at night.
2: When it ends or a younge... (read in full...)
Why does he deny that he masturbates at all hours of the day and night?
Q. hi, im married to 48 year old man. we just got married just this summer. we have a very strong affection and love to each other as well as very active sex life. lately, i woke in the middle of the night that he is masterbating and he do it again in ...
A. 21 October 2008: Maybe because he's embarassed?!!
As long as your sex life isn't suffering then what is the problem?
Why do you need him to admit and tell you when he does it?
Leave him to it but tell him to wake you up some times too so you can join in! ... (read in full...)
Based on her past - can I trust her? Can she trust me?
Q. I'm 27, she's 23. We met six years ago and had a beautiful baby girl three years later while she was in her last year of high school. A year later we split up because of differences and infedelity on both our parts. The fight was so huge that both ...
A. 21 October 2008: You were just teenagers last time and probably not anywhere near ready for a serious relationship, let alone a kid.
You've both grown up a lot since then so why not give it a try once you are both single?
As long as you agree to take it slowl... (read in full...)
What's the strange smell?
Q. i have noticed a clear discharge that i get everyday, which is normal, but lately i have been noticing that it smells a bit odd, like smelly feet or something, but not really like sweat. its hard to explain. i am a virgin, clean down there every ...
A. 21 October 2008: If you are using a cleanser that is not designed for that area then your body could be reacting to it. No matter how mild it is, your body will feel the chemicals and release more fluids to try and clean them away from itself.
Just use water do... (read in full...)
Does hanging out with more than one guy make me a bad woman?
Q. hi..i have recently just hang out with three guys.we all had a drink together.i was told to hang with more girls than guys.but before i hang out with them i told them that I wasn't a hoe or a slut.they accepted that but i kinda felt left out at ...
A. 21 October 2008: Hanging out with anyone does not make you bad!
If they are just your mates and you get on with them then that's great. Lots of women have male friends.
The best situation is to have both male and female friends and then you can have all the adv... (read in full...)
How can I manage the practicalities of my long-distance relationship?
Q. I have an 18-year-old girlfriend (I'm 17) who lives in England, and I live in Nevada. I love her with all my heart; I truly know I'm in love with her and I can honestly see myself spending the rest of my life with her. The problem is, even though I ...
A. 21 October 2008: Well since you are in an open relationship and are leading another girl on at home what difference will there be when you hurt girls at college and sleep with them either?
Do what you like hun, you seem to want everything and you can't have it ... (read in full...)
Prob. saying no
Q. I have a small issue, there are quite a few guys that like me but i really don't date i prefer being single but with so many school dances and the like, the guys are pestering me to go with them, but i don't attend school dances. It's too loud and ...
A. 21 October 2008: There is nothing more attractive to boys than a challenge. If they think that one of them has a chance with you then they will keep asking you.
So simply say that you have an important family thing on the day of the dance and cannot go with any... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is bothered that I'm "beating" him in the career field. Is there anything I can do to support him?
Q. My boyfriend and I are in the same profession, and he's been having a bit of a tough time lately. He's someone whose self-image is closely connected to his academic and professional success, and for most of the time I've known him (we met in grad ...
A. 21 October 2008: This is going to be a difficult one to handle.
You risk doing nothing and being seen to be unsupportive, or doing too much and denting his ego even more because he feels his girlfriend has to give him a leg up.
I think you should try and h... (read in full...)
Want to reassure my autistic boyfriend of my ongoing love!
Q. I'm a seventeen year old with an autistic boyfriend. We've been dating for nine months and I've fallen head over heels, there's just one problem. Lately I've been having a hard time relating to him. He hasn't ever really talked about being autstic ...
A. 21 October 2008: It'll be hard to convince him since he does not understand love or emotion. He can switch it off and so has no concept of how you can't.
You just have to continue being there and prove you aren't leaving with actions not words.
Good Luck!! x... (read in full...)
My wife and my father do not get along! What should I do?
Q. My wife and father don't get along. Both of them are stuborn and I can't take it anymore. My father has a lot of issues. There is no love in his marriage, he doesn't have any friends, he feels like people don't acknowledge him for the person he is...
A. 21 October 2008: If he's been horrible to her and the said sorry but done exactly the same thing again, then she is entitled to not want to put up with him any more.
I think she will be happy to let the kids get to know their grand father but once he starts h... (read in full...)
Could she have liked me before and changed her mind because I was rushing things?
Q. She said she didn't like me, however before I asked her out she would try to talk to me all the time and whatnot. Could she have liked me before and changed her mind because I was rushing? And is there any way to get her to like me again?...
A. 21 October 2008: She liked you as a friend. Now you've asked her out and she's had to turn you down, she is backing off so as not to lead you on.
Once you stop liking her then you will be able to be friends again.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I want her to move in with me, is it too soon?
Q. I have been dating my girlfriend for about 8 months. Things are pretty serious, we are best friends, and love each other. I hold a full time job, currently live with my parents, and will be getting my own place soon. Is it too early to ask he...
A. 20 October 2008: Get your own place, pay your own bills for a while, make sure everything is in your name.
She can stay over most nights if she wants and she'll probably end up moving in eventually but have the place as your own for a bit first.
It's a big st... (read in full...)
I was only trying to help a friend!
Q. You guys recently rejected a question because it was a duplicate of one already accepted. I, however, didn't know it was wrong. I posed as the person who needed the advice when it was really my friend's story. She told me a week ago that she's ...
A. 20 October 2008: You have to at some point be cruel to be kind.
Tell her that you have done as much as you can for her, and if she is too weak to say "I'm not ready" to her boyfriend then she's going to regret it.
Tell her you think she's a pathetic idiot a... (read in full...)
What can I do to make him like me again?
Q. How do I make him like me again? I had been seeing this guy for a couple of months and things were going well. We have known each other for a very long time and there had always been a mutual attraction between us so when we finally got toge...
A. 20 October 2008: I think you need to chill out and stop over analysing things. It was a late night text... he is not going to judge you on this.
The guy obviously has issues of his own if he is too terrified to date a woman that he clearly likes.
If you freak ... (read in full...)
Would it be right for me to agree given the age difference.
Q. Hi I am 17 years old and I recently met this girl, we know each other reasonably well and I quite like her but she is over 3 years younger than me and has asked me for sex. Would it be right for me to agree given the age difference....
A. 20 October 2008: She's a 13 - 14 year old and she is asking you for sex?
She sounds like a nut case to me... let alone the fact that if you get caught having sex with her you'll be put on the sex offenders register.
Stay away. Find a girl with some brains and ... (read in full...)
This feeling of being smaller in size is very disturbing.
Q. My penis is just about 3.5" flaccid and 6" when erect. I feel it to be very small and feel like it has shrinked down with the passage of time. Currently I live without a woman for the past more than a year. However, I am not a failure with my women ...
A. 20 October 2008: 6 inches is perfectly normal.
It is possible for the penis to shrink over time, either because you have got fat, or you have taken certain drugs like steroids.
Stop worrying. It really is what you do with it that counts anyway.
Good ... (read in full...)
I was molested by my brother who passed away, should I confront my mother for not protecting me?
Q. Hello everyone, Here is my situation. I am a female, 31 years old who had been molested by my brother when I was 7 (my brother was 17 at the time). I remember it happening more then once. My brother had a jet ski accident several years ago and ...
A. 20 October 2008: I think "confront" is the wrong word here. Do you really want to accuse your 71 yearold mother of it all being all her fault?
I think if you are going to talk to her about it, you should do that. You should talk - tell her about it and tell her... (read in full...)
I don't want to turn up at uni as an unexperienced virgin, what can I do?
Q. im 17 and i havnt had a proper bf before. ive had one lousy kiss. no lad has ever called me pretty/cute/beautiful etc. i leave for university next year. i have no prospects for a bf before then but i really really dont want to turn up at uni an ...
A. 20 October 2008: Lots of girls turn up to uni as virgins.
Just be careful not to give it away to the first boy you meet there as there will be PLENTY of opportunity there.
Go to uni and have fun, sex should be the last thing you have to worry about.
Good L... (read in full...)
I just can't stand not knowing why my married lover doesn't return my calls, should I send him a card?
Q. I desperately need help. For the last 3 months I have been having an affair with a client of mine who is married and has been for 23 years (he has no kids). I have been married for 7 years and have a baby girl of 1 year. neither of us set out ...
A. 20 October 2008: His wife knows about you and now as far as she knows, you rang up to make her listen to you having sex.
It's no wonder he hasn't been in touch, his phone and internet accounts are probably locked up with his testicles on a shelf.
If you send h... (read in full...)
Forced to cancel my flight plans because she changed her plans. Should I talk to her about this?
Q. In June I flew to Florida to visit my best friend, M. from High School. We hadn't seen eachother in 10 years but we always kept in touch. We had a great time and were so happy to be together. I live in NY and she lives in FL. We both have ...
A. 20 October 2008: I'd let her call you.
$550 is a lot of money just to throw away.
If she doesn't call then she is not ready to be real friends again, she's just ready to let you run around and visit her.
If she does get back in touch tell her she can come an... (read in full...)
My ex husband and I live together in my house...
Q. My ex-husband and I live together in my house. We have been together for about 5 years he has a drinking problem and gets verbal abusive, he is in construction and hasn't had much work, I can't afford the house payment on my own so I am going to ...
A. 20 October 2008: So tell him you don;t want to be with him and sell the house.
Move into the spare room and be house mates till the place is sold.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Does internet dating when I'm already with someone count as cheating?
Q. Hello I am Roran Cullen (Not real name) and I need advice on a Realationship Problem that I am having right now. I don't usually use internet as my source to get advice. You see the thing is I've been dating my girlfriend for almost three yea...
A. 20 October 2008: If she is doing these things then you need to tell her that it's hurting you and you want her to stop.
I would never let a boy put his arm around me in front of my husband, it would hurt him.
Tell her how you feel and that you want her to be m... (read in full...)
Is my ex saying all this to try to make me jealous?
Q. When on the phone to my ex the other day he told me that he was with his kinda girlfriend and that one thing lead to the other, meaning did they sleep together? He said that he wasn't going to do anything yet after our split was so recent so why d...
A. 20 October 2008: He said it because he was talking to you and you agreed to stay friends. That is the kind of thing that friends talk about.
If it hurts you to hear about it tell him you don't want him to talk to you about his love life.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
What if he wants to get back with me... should I say yes?
Q. Hi all Bit of help please, me and my boyfriend split last week. He's saying he still had strong fellings for his ex, and that he liked me but didn't love me after 9 months together, thing is she's still with her current boyfriend. My ex and her ...
A. 20 October 2008: Do not get back with him.
You will be a miserable mess knowing that you are simply his back up plan, his second choice and that if she clicked her fingers he would come running.
Walk away with your head held high and leave him to do what he wa... (read in full...)
What do I say to tell him I really DO want to break up with him for good?
Q. Hi, I split up with my boyfriend about a week ago today because I needed space and he keeps texting me every day and it's starting to feel like he's smothering me. I asked him to wait for me while I sort my head out and now I think I have come to ...
A. 20 October 2008: You just have to tell him exactly what you've said here.
Tell him you don't love him, and you don't want to be with him. Tell him you always end up feeling guilty and getting back with him even though your don't want to and that you want him to k... (read in full...)
I slapped him and he left me! What can I do?
Q. I lived with my boyfriend for more than 3 years. For the period of time we lived together I am always the one initiate sex. I'm always hurt when he postoned to make love to me, coz he is always busy playing cards or playing with his Xbox. I know he ...
A. 20 October 2008: You hit him! Yes you should feel guilty! Find him and apologise for being violent. Explain how hurt you are that he ignores you all the time and it had just built up until you exploded. Tell him you want to try again but you want a boyfriend, ... (read in full...)
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