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writes:hello hope you all can help...ive been with my boyfriend for 3 years... he says im unaffectionate (i am such a loving person but gave up trying because he is non affectionate) ...if fact my question is this ..Ive always tried in the relationship, done what i can to help him, love him even when i didnt agree with his actions yet its always me in the wrong, ive supported him as much as i could throu hard times yet he picks at me , starts rows callling nasty names throws personalthings in my face, and has watched me struggle through very hard times of late only to tellmeits my own fault and worse still denys anything i ever did to support him,,....i broke down in my car other day and when i rang upset he sighed as wasgetting ready for bed, rang his mechanic mate but wouldnt come help even tho i was in dark for two hours on own terrified - then gettin home had no car to get to shop for food - still wouldnt come, when i said its like he doesnt care he went beserk and now isnt talkin to me .. im doin my best to get back on my feet but i feelas if he preferes me desperate and skint..he could of helped so many times but chose not to... we broke up a littletime ago and he promised he'd show me the side i once knew, but it soon faded and hes back to pleasing himself.. I thought it was supposed to be differnt than this, is it worth continuing?please share your thoughts im so disappointed and dont want to waste my time :-(
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (27 October 2010):
 He can't support you through the best of times let alone the worst.
This jerk cuts you down, stoops to name calling, throws personal matters in your face, couldn't be bothered to pick you up when your car broke down and offers you no pity or a shoulder to cry on when you've had a bad day. Isn't that part of a boyfriend's job? Or have I got the wrong idea here? I'd say a big NO he doesn't care about you or the relationship you're still hanging onto. Get rid of him because he will only tear you down when you're trying to get back up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2010): thank you to both of you, you both have made a lot of sense to me. . He is totally self centred and time after time hurts me only to come back after ignoring me for say two weeks. Thing is he is never sorry as dosent believe he is ever wrong. I'm gutted as i stupidly thought was changing. . Thank you for your coments just hope i will not be daft and carry on this pathetic game. X
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (27 October 2010):
 This relationship is lost. There is no more affection and not even the slightest hint of care. As he left you in the dark that night, so has he left you in darkness now. Alone and afraid because he will never be there for you. That is exactly what your relationships seems like now. There is nothing left for you with him. Leave him and move on, perhaps find someone who does care and will never hesitate to be by your side in times of need.
I hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2010): To me it sounds like he doesn't care. He sounds like the type of person that's always me me me, and takes no thought about pple who care about them. If I were you I would put the just friends wall up until he grows up. Then date him when he is ready to be in a relationship
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