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When he leaves for long trips, I panic! How can I stay calm and relaxed?
Q. hi there Iv been seeeing my bf almost a year and think the world of him Im in my 20s and him his early 30s. He has kids from a previous realtionship and do to work doesn't get to see them often (once a month for a few days.) He is my first ...
A. 4 June 2007: Hun... Do you trust him? I mean REALLY REALLY trust him? It sounds kinda like you really don't know whether he'll stick around for you or not. I understand that it may be becoz he ain't around an awful lot, but if you really don't trust him then I'm ... (read in full...)
He says the phrase "I love you" is overused. So how do I tell him that I really do love him?
Q. Been seeing my boyfriend a year and wanna say i love you, but he has said to me in the past he thinks the words are overused. Now I don't know if I should say it. When is the best time to say something like that? I'm finding it a big deal because ...
A. 4 June 2007: You trust him right?
If you love him and trust him, then tell him.
I know... not as simple as that!
But, I suggest that you sit him down, maybe after a romantic date and say " I'm not asking you to say it back, and I know that you may not believe ... (read in full...)
I'm in love w/ my flatmate, but don't feel I can tell her as she's emotional from a break up! What can I do?
Q. I am in love with my flatmate. We have lived together for a few years and have known each other since we started Uni 7 years ago. She has been having emotional problems with her ex boyfriend who messed her around and is still trying to string her ...
A. 4 June 2007: If she's your mate, be there for her all you can. She obviously needs comfort.
I wouldn't tell her right now how you feel. Be there for her as much as you can, but what ever you do, do NOT see this as just a way to get into her - by being a frie... (read in full...)
My bf physically abuses me bc of anger issues! How do I get the courage to leave him?
Q. i feel as i am in the same cycle as my mom was. my mom was with my dad (whom was an alcholic) and has put up with abuse from him degrading her to beating her. one day, she managed to be brave enough and walk away with having nothing except taking t...
A. 4 June 2007: Because of the physical violence. You've forgotten your self worth. You have the power to do anything. As soon as he goes out, pack your bags and leave. You're worth more than this.
Walk outta there and DON'T LOOK BACK.
Your future will be so much ... (read in full...)
He wants to date me again, but got another girl pregnant! Now she's threatening me! And what if he leaves if I get pregnant, too?
Q. I'm dating this guy whom i work with. We have been dating for two years now. Sometime last year we broke up and so apparently he has made another girl we work with pregnant. He says he doesnt love her, it was just out of frustration and he ...
A. 4 June 2007: Woah, stay clear of him!
I agree with rhythmandblues2, he's making the rounds at the office. As soon as he knows that you like him, he'll go and get with another girl, I personally wouldn't give him the satisfaction. He seems very immature and a pl... (read in full...)
My new girl wants me to blackout the face of my ex on college photos... is she asking too much?!
Q. My gf wants me to blackout the face of an ex-girlfriend who i was very in love with from my college grad pics. she is in pics w/ myself, family, and other guests. i graduated in 2002. we broke up 4 years ago. i have the pics on pc and hard ...
A. 4 June 2007: Photos are from the PAST.
I think she is askin too much. Don't ruin your college photos because she says so. She needs to see that photos are from the past and that you arn't with this girl anymore.
She must have photos from being with an ex still... (read in full...)
She bullys me all the time. She made me start cutting myself because I'm small and ugly and now i feal like crying my eyes out.
Q. My friend is flirting with the guy I like. What do I do I love him so much.The girl who is flirting with him is really prettty and she sent me to hospital when I was in primary. She bullys me all the time. She made me start cutting myself because ...
A. 3 June 2007: Hun. She ain't your friend. YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN THIS. Don't make yourself agree with what this girl says! She's a liar and obviously an absolute piece of sh*t to be honest. ( I apologise for the bad language but I hate bullies) you're so much ... (read in full...)
He wants me to take a lie detector test to prove I haven't slept with anyone.
Q. i have bin with my partner 4 7 years, we have 3 kids about a year ago he found out I had kissed someone else, I have never done this before and it was only a kiss but he thinks I slept with him, he now wants me 2 take a lie detector test 2 prove i ...
A. 2 June 2007: I think it's just becoz you've abused the trust before and now he's finding it difficult to trust you again. I say take the test.... (read in full...)
We broke up and now I find it very difficult to trust men.
Q. My ex boyfriend was really popular with girls and when I was with him people were always telling me that he was cheating on me. I used to get really upset about it, cry about it and was really disbelieving of them. But then when I broke up with him ...
A. 1 June 2007: I promise you, not all men are like that, you just picked a bad one, and we all have picked a girl or lad who didn't treat us right - it's just a scene of life I'm afraid.
I'm sure you just need time, I've been here too. I split up with my boyf... (read in full...)
I got on my boyfriend's PC, he was talking with this girl and they were saying that they liked each other and that I was a complication!!!
Q. Hello. Recently i managed to hack into my boyfriends internet account and found him talking to this girl at work. They were saying that they liked each other and that I was a complication! Although you can see nothing actually happened. In Januar...
A. 1 June 2007: YOU'RE WORTH MORE THAN THAT!!
Honestly hun, you can do so much better than that. Find someone who will love you and respect you.
This isn't respect or love he's giving you. He's abusing your trust and he'll say to this girl that your a complica... (read in full...)
Me and my girlfriend had a huge argument and she hit me!
Q. Me and my girlfriend had a huge argument and she hit me. I dont mean like a slap a full on attack. I dont know what to do i really love her, im walking round with bruises all over my body. This isnt the first time she has lashed out at me wha...
A. 1 June 2007: I suggest that you say "you sort out your anger issues or I'm leaving you" because she won't realise how much it's affecting you if you just brush it off everytime she does it.
After you've said this and if she hits you again, it's time to leav... (read in full...)
My ex won't let me see our little boy! I'm afraid our son will get the wrong idea if I take her to court! Help!
Q. Okay - my ex broke up with me. We've got a little boy that i love dearly. She moved about 400 k\m away from me. I pay maintenance, but she doesn't want me to see him. Now the thing is if I take her to court, my son might get the feeling that I w...
A. 30 May 2007: I should think that your son wouldn't think that you're trying to hurt his Mum but trying to see him becoz you miss him which is the case.
You have a right to see your son so do everything you can to see him. ... (read in full...)
Should the man have more rights than a woman in a relationship?
Q. is it fair when a guy gives him self more rights than a girl as to be more controlling or to give him self the privlige to do things that he would not allow his girlfriend to do?...
A. 28 May 2007: No. In my opinion it isn't fair. A relationship should be based on equality and treating eachother as equals.
A relationship where one person is dominant may cause one person in the equation to feel unloved and unfairly treated.
... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and pregnant but don't know if I want this baby... I'm not ready to have kids yet.
Q. Hey, so im 6 month pregnant and getting a ban on my ex for abusing me, i feel real bad as if IM in the wrong for him abusing me? but as many people said he was putting my baby in danger, im thinking about letting him come to the next scan with me ...
A. 28 May 2007: Do NOT make any more contact with this boy. I swear that he will mess everything up more if you let him back into your life. Yes, he may be the baby's father but he could never make a daddy. He has threatened to kill this baby. He should not be ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks I'm cheating on him but I would NEVER do that! I'm at the end of my tether with this, what can I do to prove I'm not?
Q. I am a 24 year old girl who is having trouble with my on off boyfriend i love him loads but he keeps breaking up with me because he thinks i am cheating on him i have never cheated and never would but he just doesnt believe a word i say, how can i ...
A. 28 May 2007: Trust is the foundation of every relationship. Tell him that if he doesn't start to trust you, you will have to leave him because you can't handle this much questioning. Does he have a reason not to trust you? Has he been hurt in the past by othe... (read in full...)
Gf is finished with me! How can I get her back?
Q. my girlfriend finished with me because she doesnt want a boyfriend nomore,what can i do to get her back...
A. 26 May 2007: I'm sorry but she's made up her mind. You have to leave her to it and walk away, maybe in a couple of years, she'll change her mind but do not live on this hope.
You need to step back and get to know yourself again and remember how you lived when... (read in full...)
I'm 14, pregnant, beaten and kicked out of home by my mom!
Q. hey, i have a real problem.. im just 14 and i was with this guy for a year then i found out i was pregnant and after 3weeks i told him, he dumped me and said he hated me, 2months later i told my parents, my mom kicked me out so i live with my dad ...
A. 26 May 2007: Hun, you need to tell your Dad about him beating you. If you don't, you are putting yourself and your baby at risk.
I suggest ( and I know this is probably something you don't want to do ) that you talk to the police. But even if you don't ta... (read in full...)
She cheated on me and left me for a player! I'm still in love with her. What can I do?
Q. Hi, Please help me, i was seeing a girl and we had some really special times together we really made a connection, i fell in love with her. However from word go there was another guy constantly on her case, he's the local desperado, he's ...
A. 26 May 2007: No problem. Glad to hear you're making progress. Keep those thoughts up and I assure you, you will get out of this situation better than ever.
My boyfriend and I were together for a long time, then we hit the rocks and we went on a break. The day ... (read in full...)
She cheated on me and left me for a player! I'm still in love with her. What can I do?
Q. Hi, Please help me, i was seeing a girl and we had some really special times together we really made a connection, i fell in love with her. However from word go there was another guy constantly on her case, he's the local desperado, he's ...
A. 25 May 2007: First of all, I'm sorry to hear that you have been treated this way. I happen to have been in the exact same position and I know how hard it is to listen to your head and not your heart.
I closed my eyes, visualised a box. I put everything into... (read in full...)
My friends thinks I have done something wrong..by liking a guy who has a gf already! Should I feel bad for feeling this way?
Q. Ok so me and my friend have fallen out cause of a boy in a way cause she doesnt want me talking about him and i think i may love him, but he has a gf and sometimes it seems as though he likes me. Now i feel real bad should i? when basically ive done ...
A. 23 May 2007: Hey!
I've just come out of that situation!
Well, you can't help your feelings can you?
I suggest you minimilise all contact with this guy... the likelyhood is that if his girlfriend finds out, she'll be angry at you, not him. - it's just the way... (read in full...)
A year on...and I cant cope without him!!
Q. About a year ago i fell deeply in love with this boy we went out for about 6 months. He asked me to do things i didnt want to do it scared me and i made an excuse and ended it. 1 year on i still love him and cant cope without him although his sister ...
A. 22 May 2007: Hey lovely,
I've been there, and I know how difficult it is to go with your head instead of your heart.
I promise you now that in a couple of years time, you will look back on this and wonder why on earth you still had feelings for him.
When... (read in full...)
I was molested and raped, how do I overcome my insecurities and start a relationship with a guy I like?
Q. I have been through a lot in my life. I was molested by my step brothers, and raped a while afterwards. I've only had one really serious relationship, and that was about 3 years ago now. I have a lot of insecurities, and I don't know how to overcome ...
A. 21 May 2007: Hey Hun,
I'm sorry to hear about all that you've gone through, it must have been terrible and you have the right to feel insecure with other lads.
I suggest you talk to this guy about it - say that you would love to have a relationship with him... (read in full...)
My friends think I'm trying to steal their boyfriends. How do I deal with them?
Q. All my female friends are annoyed at me becoz if I talk to their boyfriends ( who are close mates of mine) they automatically think I'm trying to take them off her. I've been cheated on loads of times and I would never dream of putting them into thi...
A. 20 May 2007: Hey.
Thank you for all the help!
I spoke to my mates about it and they seem to understand more about the fact that I spend more time with lads than girls and it's just who I am.
I think they now know that I'm not after any of their lads! I'll h... (read in full...)
My 22 year old BF cheated on me with his 41 year old neighbour with 5 kids and got her pregnant! Should I stay with him?
Q. Dear Cupid, i was with my boyfriend for 5 months. I'm 21 and he is 22. He cheated on me with my neighbour she is 41 with 5 kids. I dumped him on st. patricks day because he was spending too much time in my neighbours house. I was heart broken to ...
A. 18 May 2007: seriously, if he hadn't got her pregnant, he'd still be doing it.
He gave up on you, so give up on him.
If he loved you he wouldn't have left you in the first place.
Hun, for your sake, leave him and get with a real man who'll stand by you no ... (read in full...)
Why do people turn their noses up at me just because I take pride in my self.
Q. Why do people turn their noses up at me just because I take pride in my self. like everyone i wash twice daily and i wash my hands all the time. i get up at 6 on a morning have a shower, dry, dry my hair, straighten my hair, do my make up, get ...
A. 17 May 2007: TBH hun, it sounds like they're jealous and I wouldn't classify them as mates if they're gonna think that about you.
If they are your friends they should accept you as you.
Stand up tall, do what you want to do and don't take anyone's sh*t coz you ... (read in full...)
Can I still trust my friend?
Q. Hey there, where to start... im 17 and im having problems trusting my best mate as i recently found out she slept with my ex boyfriend twice when we were still together. me and my boyfriend split up around 2 months ago over a row we had because ...
A. 16 May 2007: Woah hun, get rid!!
You can't consider your best mate as someone who deliberatly steals your boyfriends!
She sounds like a vicious cow to put it nicely.
Tell her that if she was your best friend, she wouldn't be doin this to you.
I'm sorry, bu... (read in full...)
What songs are good for kissing to?
Q. I know this may sound like a bit of a stupid question but here goes: I'm curious as to what songs are good for kissing to. I've figured that "Truly, Madly, Deeply" is a good one along with "Don't Wanna Miss a Thing" and when you're 8 years o...
A. 16 May 2007: Kissing you - deseree - it's from the Romeo and Juliet soundtrack. Works wonders ;)
Umm...
Somewhere only we know - Keane
I know you by heart - Eva Cassidy
I will always love you - Dianna Ross?
Hallelujah - Jeff Buckley
Please Forgive Me - R... (read in full...)
I dont know how to end it... what have I done?
Q. What can i do?I had an affair last year with a close friend..He swore that it was only a bit of harmless fun on the side and that no-one would get hurt but i began to fall for him. i knew that it could nt go on so i finished it but recently he ...
A. 16 May 2007: Each time you see this guy, remember your kids.
Think -how are they gonna react if they find out?
When you look at his face, think of how hurt they are gonna be.
I really don't mean to make you feel anymore guilty, but you have to think about ... (read in full...)
Why can't I find a boyfriend?
Q. can anyone tell me what is wrong with me? i've been in search for a boyfriend for 2 years and i can find him!! i do have a couple of options but i don't know how to get them. i get so jealous when i see my friends cuddling and kissing their boyfri...
A. 13 May 2007: First of all, tell yourself you don't need a man to be happy.
Walk tall and let them come to you. If ya stop looking, then you're more likely to get one.
Make yourself feel good while you walk past guys by saying "This is me. Take it or leave it... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and this 17 year old guy has been all over me lately I really like him but I know all that he wants is sex.
Q. I'm 14 and this 17 year old guy has been all over me lately I really like him but I know all that he wants is sex. What should I do?...
A. 12 May 2007: You need to realise that you have more worth than that. Sex is for couples who really love eachother. Don't do something you'll regret for the rest of your life and if you're a virgin, make sure you're first time will be memorable and with someone ... (read in full...)
Does anyone have any idea why my periods are so strange?
Q. hi its just a short question, does anyone have any idea why my periods r strange?? i dont ge period pains but they kill me with pain it doesnt hurt or give me stomach pains but i get a pain i can not cope with when the blood actually comes o...
A. 12 May 2007: Hey. Poor you! My best friend gets these problems and she went to the doctors because the pain was so bad that she was physically being sick. I suggest that you go to the doctors, there's probably nothing wrong at all. Some women get unbareab... (read in full...)
I don't know whether I should put all my trust and respect toward him because I might end up heart broken
Q. I'm 15. And I'm in a relationship with this boy for the second time. I don't know whether I should put all my trust and respect toward him because I might end up heart broken. What Should I Do? Am I Being A Little Insecure?...
A. 10 May 2007: I don't believe you're being insecure, if you have been hurt in the past by this boy he needs to buld up your trust. You arn't doing anything wrong.
Remember - you're young and you should just have fun... Don't fall too deeply and if he's real... (read in full...)
I am possessive and he has abused me physically. Should we end this relationship?
Q. I am in a relationship with a guy who is 2 years younger than me.We've been together for a year and a half now.He abuse me physically but i keep forgiving him bcoz i love him.I once had a miscariage.I am very possesive as a result we fight quite ...
A. 9 May 2007: Hun, I'm sorry to hear about this but you need to get outta there.
I've been in that kind of relationship and it really doesn't get you anywhere.
Abuse is not love.
I know you love him... but he doesn't deserve you.
Find a way to get outta the... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my best friend - should I tell her before she leaves the country for good or just enjoy our time together?
Q. In love with my best friend... Should I stop seeing her? I went out with a close friend for a while and eventually she dumped me and broke my heart. We stayed friends, though it was really hard for me. She's currently got a boyfriend of 7 m...
A. 9 May 2007: Very tricky situation... but going against a lot of what has been said... I believe you should tell her.
1) Because if you don't you'll feel a shadow over you for a long time saying " what if?..."
2) Even if she rejects you, you will be able to ... (read in full...)
He calls out his 17 year old daughter's name in bed and he likes underage porn! What is going on with this guy?
Q. My boyfriend has a giant porn collection that i discovered recently. he watches them when i leave the house even if its for a few minutes. some of the dvds are underage porn. i am worried because his 17 yr old daughter is coming to live with us. ...
A. 8 May 2007: WOAH! For the safety of that teen, you need to watch what you're doing here.
If there's one thing I've learnt, it's that most ppl tell the truth when drunk and if this guy is calling out his daughter's name in bed... it suggests worrying ideas.
Th... (read in full...)
I'm besotted with a guy at work, now he's leaving and I don't understand why I'm so torn up about it!
Q. How can I get someone out of my head? A guy at work has been flirting continuously with me for the last several months and I love the attention, however, he's leaving in a week or so due to promotion and I think I'll miss him terribly. He doesn't ...
A. 5 May 2007: As the saying goes : If you can't get someone out of your head, maybe they're supposed to be there? I agree with Mitch. Ask him out, if he says no then at least you won't have to see him again after that and you can move on completely... not tell... (read in full...)
If he's no longer my bf, then is doing things with him sexually..a wrong thing to do?
Q. My ex bf and I broke up about a year ago because he was moving to a state up north and I live in the South. We really loved each other and now he goes to school in the south (still not in my state tho) and we have met once since to hang out. We ...
A. 29 April 2007: Rule one of breaking up : No sex with the ex.
You're only gonna hurt yourself more if you carry on this way. My friend was in the same position and then he found someone else and she hurt a lot more than she had to because she was sleeping... (read in full...)
My friend wants to make me choose, it's either the guy I like or my friend, what do I do?
Q. hi all, i reali like this lad i go to schol wiv (yr 11 IN THE UK) we get on reali well nd love spendin time together but my best friend hates him and she says tht if i go out wiv him she will stop bein my mate and hate me forever i dont no what to ...
A. 29 April 2007: Well to be honest, if she was your friend, why is she putting you in such a position? Surely as long as your happy that's all that that matters to your friend?
I normally always say that friends come before going out with someone every time but you'... (read in full...)
He said he can't cope with work and our relationship at present.
Q. We're in love with each other but we can't be together... Me and my boyfriend Alex* split up this week. The reason we split up - he couldn't literally cope with the stress of work as well as the relationship. I told him that if he didn't love ...
A. 24 April 2007: Thank you for all your help. It's very much appreciated.
I've decided to take your advice - leave him to it and see what happens. I will only talk to him when I need to and if he does change his mind, he will have to try because HE gave up on me... (read in full...)
Any good advice for vaginal dryness?
Q. hi everyone, i need some help plz. Vaginal dryness is becoming an issue for me and my partner; even when i am tuned on, nothing happens. this is a recent problem and i have been fine before. Im wondering what could have caused it? stress maybe for ...
A. 19 April 2007: My mate had the same problem and she asked me about it. I think it might be to do with being de-hydrated. Maybe you should try drinking more water? Stress could also be a factor in this but for now, just try to hydrate yourself a bit more. :)... (read in full...)
My boyfriend still talks to his ex-girlfriend almost every day online. I don't like it..what should I say to him?
Q. My boyfriend still talks to his ex-girlfriend almost every day online, and while I know he doesn't have feelings for her anymore, it makes me uncomfortable. Should I say something to him about it?...
A. 18 April 2007: Hun, I've been there and got several t-shirts!
It's a horrid place to be in.
You do need to tell him. But whatever you do, don't yell at him or accuse him. It will just lead to arguements, don't use the phrase "you've been doing..." and "I know ... (read in full...)
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