A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I'm dating this guy whom i work with. We have been dating for two years now. Sometime last year we broke up and so apparently he has made another girl we work with pregnant. He says he doesnt love her, it was just out of frustration and he insists that he still loves me and would want us to continue with our relationship.I'm worried that won't he do the same to me if I also get pregnant, so I don't know what to do because I love this guy so much and apparently this other girl threatened me saying that she will do anything to get this guy back.What should i do? I'm worried.
View related questions:
broke up, I work with Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2007): IS it ok to say he is player, using or whatever? Maybe he has changed. Maybe what he did in his past was just a mistake. I think the feelings are most important. Just be careful with him and i agree with others not to let him treat you the same as the other girl. But you also love him so give him a chance but be careful
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2007): I agree with the last 3 bits rhythmandblues2 said. If he is acting irresponsibly with this other girl what does that show about how he would act with you and your relationship.if he wants to date you again you should talk through everything first. If he is being a part of this baby's life will that put a strain on your relationship? and are you going to be able to trust him again? people do make mistakes and it sounds like he was upset when he left you. but you dont want to get hurt even further so maybe it's best to wait a little and think things out first. If he really wants to get back with you he will wait, and it will give you time to think things over properly and not make a quick decision you may regret later. you know him and your situation better then anyone and you will do whats best. good luck!i proimise you this will get better and sort out somehow. Problems you have had in the past have and this will too. Nothing is permanent but change. Just make sure you get some help and remember, the bad thgins in life help us appreacite the good ones!
...............................
A
female
reader, penta  +, writes (4 June 2007):
 Run like your ass is on fire. Do not give this guy your time. He needs to have other priorities (the child) and encouraging him to be with you is a bad idea: (1) think of the child, (2) this guy is not being responsible for her, what makes you think he'll treat you differently?
If you lose your head and are with this guy, do not get pregnant with him.
...............................
A
female
reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (4 June 2007):
 Woah, stay clear of him!
I agree with rhythmandblues2, he's making the rounds at the office. As soon as he knows that you like him, he'll go and get with another girl, I personally wouldn't give him the satisfaction. He seems very immature and a player to me.
I say - Don't get wound up in him because you'll be worse off. Find someone who'll respect you and who'll be man enough to stick by you rather than play around. This guy is obviously tied down as he got this other girl pregnant, but he won't stand by her, so what makes you think he'll stick around for you?
Sorry hun, but by the sounds of things, he's not worth it.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2007): Okay you are dating a guy who is making the rounds at the office, sleeping with whomever....how does someone get someone pregnant out of frustration by the way? I always thought it was because two consenting adults had unprotected sexual intercourse and wound up with a baby.
You are worried that he will leave you like he left her, if you should become pregnant. First off, why would getting pregnant be on your agenda if you are taking birth control and using it properly, the pill is 99.99% effeftive against pregnancy.
Secondly, has he owned up to his responsibility where this pregnancy is concerned? Is he going to help the girl and support his child and be an involved father?
Your real concern is why is he telling you he loves you when he went out with someone else where the two of you work, he wanted you to hear about it, and he was careless enough and uncaring to allow pregnancy to happen. Two years is long enough to date someone and get to know their true character. Has he shown you his? It is your decision on how to proceed.
...............................
|
