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writes:hi all, i reali like this lad i go to schol wiv (yr 11 IN THE UK) we get on reali well nd love spendin time together but my best friend hates him and she says tht if i go out wiv him she will stop bein my mate and hate me forever i dont no what to do i reali like this guy and my best friend the same i dont wanna have to chose what can i do??? plz help xxxx
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reader, iesha_marie_030293  +, writes (4 May 2007):
first my question is how long have you and your so called best friend really been friends? do u trust her ? and to tell you the truth if she reaslly was your friend then she would let be with him cause it shouldnt matter who you date she should be happy for you and try to work it out with yor boy friend . to tell you the truth you best friend may just be scard to let you go she might think you are gonna leave ehr and spend more time with him
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2007): I can say i have been in this situation, but I've been your 'friend', only i'd say it's a bit different. However, you need to know that maybe your friend may be saying it for your own good but she shouldn't make you choose. That is childish and inappropriate. If this girl really is your friend you need to ask her why because she may just be trying to protect you. If, on the other hand, she's just jealous, take no notice- i can assure you- she'll get over it. Don't let you friendship get ruined over this though. Remember- friends- true friends will always be there and boys...well, they won't. Nothing lasts forever. I guess you could say that about a friendship too though...sorry, I'm Agony Aunt In Practice!! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2007): well i think that your friend is stupid for saying that seriously if she is a true friend she wouldnt say that and by the sounds of it you realy like guy so first talk to your friend and explain that you like him and that it is stupid that you have to choose between your best friend and your crush and then think about if she realy is a friend cause by the sounds of it she not a real friend but it is your choice and by the way i reacon you should talk to your crush and tell him how you feel and see how it goes cause if you dont make a move now you might miss out on some thing that could of been special
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reader, rammsteinfan +, writes (30 April 2007):
 You should ask your friend why she hates the guy you like. Maybe she knows something about him that you don't. If she doesn't tell you the reason why, then maybe she is jelous because your guy is taking your time...when she wants you to be with her. And before you met him, you two were together constantly, right? Regardless, your friend is so wrong to tell you to choose between her and your guy. That is not fair to you!
My sense of friendship is this: A friend is there for you no matter what the circumstances are. They give you a shoulder to cry on, a hug you when you need one, pick you up when you fall flat on your face, talk to you to lift your spirits...Not down-grade you or your choice of guys (One thing I came up with this when my friend introduced a guy that i liked to another woman!!...a friend like that is...taking the "r" away.....they were actually a FIEND (A Cruel Person)
Your friend will probably to the same thing with every guy you meet....jepordizing your love-life!!! That is so wrong!
I wish you good luck sweetie! Hugs and God bless!!
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reader, heartxbrokenxgurl +, writes (29 April 2007):
 if she was ur friend she wouldnt put u in this postition so if he makes u happy go out for him u dont deserve ur friend if she has to give u permission to go out wit him cuz that isnt right so do wut will make u happy
jenna?
*good luck*
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (29 April 2007):
 Well to be honest, if she was your friend, why is she putting you in such a position? Surely as long as your happy that's all that that matters to your friend?
I normally always say that friends come before going out with someone every time but you're friend shouldn't put you in this position.
I say talk to her about it and ask her why she's putting you into this situation. It's very unreasonable of her to do this but if she's going to get hurt by you going out with this boy, she should atleast talk to you rather than giving you the ultimatum.
There must be a reason why she hates him so much... don't go out with him till you've talked it over (in calm terms) to your friend about other ( more reasonable) ways to sort this out.
Good luck xx
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reader, cd206 +, writes (29 April 2007):
 Have you asked your friend why she hates this guy? It seems to me that it'll be one of two reasons.... either that she's jealous that you have a boyfriend and she doesn't or that she knows something about your boyfriend that she can't tell you because it'd hurt you, but wants you to break up with him because of it. If it's the first reason that's bothering her she needs to get a grip. Best friends should always put you above themselves. However it's my guess that it's the second and she owes you an explanation about why she hates your guy. While friends will always last longer than boyfriends, so far she's behaved really unreasonably towards you and if she can't give you a better reason for hating him than "I just do" I would be inclined to question why she wants you to break up.
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reader, Jaydalay +, writes (29 April 2007):
Ask your friend what her problem is. Maybe she fancies him herself and if you go out with him, this is her way of punishing you. If she doesnt fancy him then ask her why she doesnt like him. Unless the answer she gives is valid, I dont see why you should miss out because of her own selfish attitude. If she values your friendship, she'll come around.
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reader, Beki +, writes (29 April 2007):
 Your friend shouldn't have put you in this position, talk to her about how much you like this guy and make sure your spending loads of time with her aswell, don't always talk about him ask her how she is. She might come around but if not i would stick with the friend, but as i said she shouldnt have put you in this situation.
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