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writes:can anyone tell me what is wrong with me?i've been in search for a boyfriend for 2 years and i can find him!!i do have a couple of options but i don't know how to get them.i get so jealous when i see my friends cuddling and kissing their boyfriends.I NEED A BOYFRIEND.but I'm not desperate. i wont take the first person i see. he has to be special.so umm any tips o getting a boyfriends.anything will help. (i feel kinda embarrassed)
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2007): Well, um, if you say you need a boyfriend then, yes you are desperate and boys can smell this from a mile off.
If you want a boyfriend then that is something different, if you are first happy spending time alone with you, but you just want someone by your side to share the good times then that is cool. Being jealous of others who have boyfriends spells desperation, too.
Why be jealous? You are really really young, and girls mature faster than boys at your age, most boys don't make great boyfriends, they are kind of dorky, have sexual hang ups, are mostly interested in exploring their own bodies with the help of a girl for sexual experience, and not all that interested in being a good boyfriend.
Wait a couple or a few years, and go on to college, and I bet then you will be beating the potential boyfriends off with a stick, that is if you seem independent, self contained, and self reliant and self confident.....notice all of the self words....the bottom line is you have to love yourself first before you can love someone else.
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (13 May 2007):
 First of all, tell yourself you don't need a man to be happy.
Walk tall and let them come to you. If ya stop looking, then you're more likely to get one.
Make yourself feel good while you walk past guys by saying "This is me. Take it or leave it."
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reader, Enzian  +, writes (13 May 2007):
 Hi Dear!
There is nothing worng with you, if you have not found Mr. Right yet! It is very wise to not take the first person you see. A boyfriend really needs to be very special - but find someone very special, you need to be patient. If you just take anyone, just because you need a boyfriend, you will not be happy for long and you only will get hurt.
I know how you feel, because I also had to wait a long time to find my Mr. Veryspecial. But try not to get jealous when you see others cuddling and kissing their boyfriends. Did they really already find their Mr. Right? Maybe they are just happy to have any boyfriend now, but will it last? Maybe they just took the first person they could, because they were not patient enough to wait. But are they really happy for a long time? It doesn't really matter a lot, because it is their life, not yours. But don't believe there is something wrong with you, just because you are patient. Because that is not true! You are doing well! So try to do what is best for you and don't let you force into something. It really is worth to wait for someone special! And also don't search to hard, let men pay attention to you and let someone find you.
In the meantime you can try to prepare yourselfe for your Mr. Right. This would meen, you work on your personality, learn how to have best consort with males at your age, cultivate your friendships with your female friends, with your family and so on. You can also go and buy some books about dating and relationship. Ask couples which are happy together for a few years or are already married for a couple of years a lot of questions how they got to know each other and how they manage to have a happy relationship. Talkas much as you can to your friends and older women you can trust and ask them questions to find out what makes a boy special and what would be important for a relationship. To know this things will help you to find Mr. Veryspecial and to have a good relationship with him that will last.
Be patient and I'm sure that in a few years, when you look back, you will see that it was the best you could do!
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2007): why do you NEED a boyfriend?? Maybe if u stop LOOKING 4 one, the right one will just come along. but remember a guy can never and will never complete you more than you complete yourself.
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