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writes:I'm not sure if this post has anything to do with a relationship, but I really could use some help. I had a really weird dream last night, and I'm not sure what it meant. I'd like to hear from anyone who knows about dream analysis. It's actually the most recent of a series of similar dreams. I had a similar dream months ago and wrote for advice, and got some really good advice, but the dream I had last night was weird and different. I'm also a little worried because someone told me that to dream you're a mermaid is a prediction of something bad. I question everything I read, but I'm still a bit freaked out. Over the years, I've dreamt several times that I was a mermaid. I love the ocean and I swim really well, and love Sin Bandera (they have a song called "Sirena") but I think that there's an underlying symbolism to this dream. I keep having this dream. The last time I dreamt this, I wrote for advice here, and got some really good advice and insight as to what it might mean. Last night's dream was different. In the past, when I had the mermaid dream, I was always swimming in a river or in the ocean, or sitting on a rock and singing. Last night, in my dream, instead of swimming in the ocean, I was on display in a sort of public aquarium. (This may be a coincidence, but I just returned to the US after a month in Barcelona, which is home to a famous aquarium similar to the one in my dream). People would come by and stare at me as if I were an anomaly, and then they would go home. I remember feeling frustrated at the people in the dream for staring at me and treating me like an oddity, and I felt isolated and ostracized. Human being boys came to see me with their human girlfriends, and I wished that someone would speak to me, but they just stared at me as if I were another exotic fish and then walked away on their... legs. Another common thread in the series of dreams is that often when I dream I'm a mermaid, the boy that I like (loved, for a long time really) always appears in the dream as a human being boy. I'll call him Fulano.I really love the sea (in real life) and feel comforted near the ocean but in this dream, it was depressing because I was captive in an aquarium.In real life, Fulano live in another country and he has someone. I fell for him years ago, and I thought he reciprocated my feelings, but things didn't work out between us. Many people attributed this to the fact that we're from two different cultures and people tell me to accept that it's natural for him to want a girl from his own culture, and that I should find a guy from my own culture. Some background info about me: I'm a North American, Floridian, and I have British, European Spanish, Irish, etc., ancestry. I'm not putting American culture down, but I always felt that I didn't belong in US culture. I always felt that I was meant to be Latin, and I longed to be Spanish or Mexican and live in an Hispanic country. Sometimes I feel a bit sad because I don't identify with my "own" culture but people from Hispanic countries always look upon me as an American. It makes me sad to feel like an outsider in the culture my heart's in. I would like to have a boyfriend, but I'm not attracted to "my own kind." I wish and wish I were Spanish or Mexican so that I could have a boyfriend from one of those countries. One of my close friends reassures me that a latin guy could see me as a possible girlfriend, and I believe my friend. I know it's possible, because he says so, but PROBABLE is another story. Sometimes it seems that most people want someone from the same background. I feel like people in latin countries see me as an outsider and i worry that my chances with a Mexican or Spanish guy are pretty slim.I doubt I'll ever love anyone as much as I loved Fulano, but sometimes I feel lonely and think it would be nice to share my life with someone. But, I feel frustrated. I've always been really interested in guys from latin culture. I have a few close friends who reassure me that a latin guy could see me as a potential girlfriend, and I trust my friends. However, I have noticed that a lot of people tend to pair up with people from their own culture and I feel discouraged. I know that it's possible for a latin guy to be interested in me, but I worry that my chances with a Spanish or Mexican guy are pretty slim. I guess I'm fortunate that this is my big problem in life, but sometimes it really gets me down that I don't seem to belong anywhere. It's like being locked out of your own house.I know I've digressed but I think that there's a connection between my weird dreams and my real life struggle to belong. I dream I'm a creature which is essentially human (human hands, human voice, etc.), but which can never live in the human world (I have a fish tail instead of legs). Could it be a symbol of how I feel I don't belong in waking life? Fulano is Mexican, born and raised. I loved him so much, but eventually moved on with my life. In spite of this, I haven't forgotten him. In my dreams, Fulano often appears as a human being boy. I wonder about the significance of that. Like I said, I have some insight into my series of weird dreams.However, what I'm really worried about is last night's dream. Is there a possibility that this dream predicts something bad? I can't shake that thought, whether it's true or not. I've done more research and people tell me that dreaming that you're a mermaid can foretell disaster because sirens are bad omens in stories (they foretell maritime disasters like shipwrecks, etc). What oculd last night's dream mean? Can dreams predict the future? Am I freaking out over nothing?Thank you if you can help me. Reply to this Question
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (28 January 2010):
 I dont have my dream book handy, it is the only one I recommend, its by Betty Bothards, an American.
Now, water is to do with feelings, and your being unable to get out of the aquarium and being trapped is just an extension of your longing to belong, please dont read into your dreams coming disaster or shipwrecks, our dreams are meant to help us, not scare the bejeezus out of us.
See if you can get the book, I had to send to the states for my last copy, but it was well worth it.
Good luck
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (28 January 2010):
 Ok.. Dream analysis.. I'll give it a try.
Sometimes dreams can be read as our mind problem solving whilst we sleep. It takes problems, feelings, and situations from our everyday life, turns them into stories and fills them with symbols.
Like you identified, your dream is about a mermaid who can never be human. Yes, I believe this is a symbol of you living in a culture that you don't really enjoy and longing to be immersed in a more Mediterranean/Latino culture, where you feel at home.
The stuff about people only marrying from within their own culture, well, that may be true in America, but is not true in Europe. We cross cultures all the time here, black marries white, Christians marry Muslims, for me it's not strange at all.
However, you is not in Europe, you is in America, and it's probably likely that men from Mediterranean/Latino cultures think like you do, and find it hard to mix. As long as you stay in America, I don't think you will stop having this dream, and I don't think that you will ever feel truly at home.
Dreams can also be guiding posts, telling us what the solution is, telling us how to find true happiness. You as a mermaid in a tank, is very unhappy, watching people walking by and looking at you strangely. But you as a mermaid in the sea, well then I think you might be happy and might find your true Merman, who is just like you.
Stop dreaming, start saving money and making plans to move. Move to Mexico, Italy, Nicaragua, Spain, Portugal.. the world is filled with many Mediterranean/Latino cultures that you would enjoy and where you would feel at home. You only have one life to live, when continue to be unhappy and to dream of what it could be. You like Barcelona, save money, research the country, find out how you could get to stay there for longer. Try to move away for six months - year a first, and hopefully you'll meet your Latino guy, get married and never go back to America where you are unhappy and sad.
ONE LIFE TO LIVE, STOP DREAMING AND MAKE PLANS TO LIVE YOUR DREAM....
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