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writes:If a woman throws her boyfriend out of the house and tells him to leave and then 6 months later sends him a birthday card is she wanting him back??I have been seeing a man who split up with his girlfriend but they have a child and still see each other because of this! However, the other day, he told me he got birthday cards from both his child and girlfriend - so what does this mean?
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (7 February 2010):
 I wouldnt worry, the child's mother is probably just teaching her child the correct thing to do, ie acknowledging people's birthdays. I also agree with Miamine 6 months is too soon to expect him to be totally ready for a new relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2010): Hi I was going to answer this question before but I wasn't sure how to phrase it and didn't want to give the wrong answer but 'Miamine' pretty much put into words exactly what I was trying to say! It is not the card that is significant lots of people swap cards, making occasions .. however I would say that if she gave him a separate card she might still care for him. Why did he mention it to you? Did he just want you to know and was being honest or did he want to see your reaction. Even after a year or so, if there has been contact, exes can still have feelings .. so talk to him openly and see what he says about his feelings for his ex. The child will always want to give her dad a card and she will need her dad in her life, especially if he is a good dad. Good luck x
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reader, Miamine +, writes (6 February 2010):
 Children give their father's birthday cards. If the child is young, they can't buy it, so the mother has to do it instead. Children are happy when they can stay in touch and do normal things with their parents, like sharing celebrations.
Six months is much to fast for you to expect this relationship to be over. He may be on the rebound, he may want to go back to her, he may miss his kid. However, the card means nothing. If you want to find out if there is a chance of them getting back together, well, you really need to ask him. I wouldn't feel comfortable until they'd been separated for a least a year or more.
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