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writes:my best guy friend just got a new girl friend and none of our friends like her. she's just awful and she's cheated on every boyfriend she's ever had.we all love him and would hate to see him get hurt. we were wondering if there was a way to break them up before he gets hurt or a way to tell him we don't like her without losing his friendship.to top that he's constantly flirting with me but i have a boyfriend and think of him as a brother.how do i prevent that akwardness? and as if that wasn't enough my best girl friend has a huge crush on him, and comes to me for advice but i've run out of answers.i think he'sjust desperate and feels less expierenced than the rest of us thats why he's going out with her but how can we prove to himhe can do a lot better? it's just a huge mess and any advice would be greatly appreciated!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2010): hey guys its me! um, i just wanted to thank every one of you for your advise! it's really helped! everything worked out, he found out she was cheating and dumped her and now he's in a new releationship with this really nice girl! and my girl friend who had a crush on him even moved on, she's in a relationship also. looks like we can all be happy on valentines day now! again thank you! Thank You! THANK YOU!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2010): I agree with AuntyBimBim, I wouldn't try telling him.
She might the guy that she stays true to, and if she does then your friend will be happy. If she doesn't he will find out for himself, and he will have his friends to lean on.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (6 February 2010):
You can't do anything. All you can do is wait for it to end and then be there for him when it does. People have to make their own mistakes to understand themselves. Let him make his mistake.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (6 February 2010):
 I don't think you should be looking for advise on how to break people up, that is a very juvenille thing to do.
Why not try to be adult about this, and let the relationship run it's course. If this girl is as bad as you say she is he will soon find out for himself.
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reader, veronika +, writes (6 February 2010):
 My advice: just let him be. Don't interfere with his relationship no matter how bad you think it is, because it's something he has to figure out for himself. If it turns out bad, it turns out bad and if it turns out good, it turns out good. You can't make decisions for him. And breaking up a couple, no matter your intentions, could backfire and he could find out you did it (or attempt to) and you could lose his friendship over it. It's not worth the drama.
If his flirting bothers you, tell him and remind him you're in a relationship and so is he and that it's inappropriate. And every time your friend comes with you for advice about her crush on him, don't feel you need to give her advice. Again, let her sort it out.
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