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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hello, there is one girl called H that i loved for 1 year. And H loves me too. But right now H has a boyfriend called J and she is afraid to hurt her boyfriend J. And second thing H is afraid of is that other people will think that the reason for break up with my ex N and me is H. And i really love H and i want to be with her. But those 2 problems are occurring. What should i do?
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reader, Heartbroken in love  +, writes (26 January 2010):
He doesnt really want to be with you. If she did her bf would be already broken up with. And your ex? Like the one poster said u already broke up with her. All he is doing is blaming her internal feelings on external factors. In other words she making excuses cuz she doesnt want to tell you that she doesnt really love you like u love her.
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reader, Petra at home  +, writes (26 January 2010):
You will have many more problems in life if you are always worried what other people are going to think. Either do what you need to do or stop angonizing over it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2010): Leave them alone! She is with someone. You do not know her that well and in the end it may not be as you fought it will be! Is it not just plain lust perhaps? what you did to your girlfriend is wrong . What you both are plotting is wrong. My goodness why does the couple's always have to have a 3rd wheel? Please leave her alone and end it! you would not like it if that girl where your girl and you perhaps want to perpose to her....
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (26 January 2010):
 If H loves you but has a boyfriend called J, then she is not being very fair to him, in fact, unless she has told J that she doesnt love him, and that she loves you, she is living a lie, and thats not nice.
Meanwhile if H is the reason you broke up with N, and people already know this, what is the problem.
Of course, if J & H break up you will have to be prepared for people to say it was because of you!
However, your age is listed as between 16 and 17 and in the scheme of things none of this will matter very much once people find somebody and something else to talk about.
If H loves you she should do the right thing and break up with J. If you are really concerned about what people think I believe you and H should then have a break without girlfriends or boyfriends for a few months before you get together.
Good luck with it all ............
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