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writes:Good Day all.Well you see my husband is very rude these 2-4 days. i did nothing wrong at all but he is rude towards me when he wakes up, during the day and after work . he is a bit friendly late at night but he doesnt say goodnight, hold me anymore or talks to/with me. This Morning he told me bye so i joked and said Cheers but then he just drove off i had to walk to work today 2hours long i sms him and said i did nothing wrong what is going on? is something bothering you? And dont worry about me ill just walk. So 1 hour later askes me if im at work i say no im still walking he drops the phone!! Earlier he wanted my ID number again. only that nothing else dropped the phone. We know each other 12 years married 2months. Oh yea i got a warning letter from work being late and a huge bad meeting about it. Now i dont know should i rather walk after work and tomorrow? Speak to him or just dont talk to him He have never ever treated me so bad like now. He would have never let me walk or be so rude towards me . He doesnt even show as if he is sorry or feel bad in any way . Told me also its he's way or get the f**k out my life. we differ 2years from each other
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2010): Hi there i did however foget the mension that we are trying to have children. And no succes as yet. Could that also be why he is like this? And im not being rude towards him. I only said that because i kept it inside me for a while you know. This morning he didnt let me walk. But i told me jump out off the car quickly. He leaves the house almost 1hour earlier then he use to...
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2010): Is something happening for him at work that is maybe causing him stress? Has your relationship changed since you got married? Quite often people change when they get married.
But all i can say is if i wss in your shoes i would try to find a good time to sit down with him and try and find out what is happening and explain that you feel he has changed and do not understand why. Marriages do take a lot of work and it is vital that you keep on communicating with him. Let him know that you dont know where you stand, but rather than say 'you' say 'i feel' so that you are not sounding like you are accusing him and hopefully he will open up to you. Good luck!!
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (26 January 2010):
 His way or get out? Has a car but refuses to drive you to work? Stopped talking to you?
If you have no access to public transport I would leave the house earlier to get to work, keep your job if you can. Sock the money away where he cant get it. Start saving. Phone a help line and see if you can get some legal advise.
If he doesnt clean up his act and his attitude leave him, life is too short to be bullied about like this.
There are places where you can go for help and advise, check in the front of your white pages for community services.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2010): First of, stop with the jokes. This has gone far enough for you to take it seriously. Don't joke around him or be sarcastic like the "dont worry about me I will walk" comment. He's already ticket off about something and that will make it worse. You need your husband to talk to you, not push him away. Yes it's his own fault for being so rude, but try not to be rude back. And then get to the bottom of this.
He can say it's his way or the highway, but you can say the same. Either he talks to you or you can get a separation, because if he keeps this up you are no longer married, just two people living together. You should tell him that you got into trouble at work for being late. He took off without you and he caused you trouble, very unnecessary.
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