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writes:Im 18 and im pregnant. i have no idea how to tell my mom or boyfriend. He doesnt want a baby because of his baseball but i pretty much have my life set. i have a good flexible job i went to collage for and am currently doing it (Dog grooming). I dont know how to tell my mom, him or his mom. I know how to care for a baby but am stressing because what if its too much for him. Help!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2010): ok so i didnt even read what everyone wrote on here really but they are right tell your mom first.....i got pregnant at your age and it was really hard....really hard... and my boyfriend at the time freaked out and got really scared and almost left anyway what ever you decide to do youre going to have to accept that things arent going to go the way you want them having a baby that early in life isnt hunky dory you know the people you love and im sure you have an idea how they will react to whats going on...but even if he freaks or gets scared ..it will be ok he just might need time to think...remember guys have a harder time thinking about a family early in life
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reader, Courts4  +, writes (29 January 2010):
 Pls dont stress.
The baby is already there, You have to tell your mom as she is the one who will be there for you. I know how you feel and its not easy.
I think your mom already knows. Because they can see whrn something is wrong with their children.
Dont worry about your boyfriend he has to accept the baby.
Another thing , Pls dont even consider an abortion.
Good luck to you and may you have a healthy pragnancy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2010): Definately tell your mother first. You wont manage so well without her help and advice. And she will soon become suspicious anyway and ask. So do it before it gets to the stage where she is worrying and wondering. If i were you i would start with....Mum, i have something to tell you and i know its going to be a shock and upset you. If you say that she will get the picture and ask if you are pregnant. When you tell her be prepared for her to be upset. Its normal especially given your age. She might be angry with your bf for awhile but thats being a mum! Once your mum knows you can both decide what to do next and what order to tell people. If you know your bf didnt want a baby then its not a great leap to imagine he wont want to be involved much. But then again, he might totally change and be a great dad, who knows at this point. Just have a word with your mum asap and all the best x
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (29 January 2010):
It's best to tell your mum first, then your boyfriend. There isn't an easy way, but it might be worth having a friend by your side as you tell her, because no doubt she will be shocked, and it will be worth you having someone by your side. As for your boyfriend, once your mum knows, she'll be able to give you ideas about talking your boyfriend.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (29 January 2010):
 There is no easy way to tell your mother. You need to just track her down, and ask if she has 5 minutes, if she is busy ask her when you can have a quiet moment to talk with her,be persistant, she will get the message ... talk to your Mom first, boyfriend second. Its up to him to break the happy news to his mother.
If you are intending raising/keeping the baby you have to start making plans now, putting aside money to keep you and it until you can get back to work, saving for the essential baby stuff, if your gut feelings are correct and a baby is too much for your boyfriend you need to be prepared to take on the job by yourself .... I wish you well, parenting is not an easy task but it can be even more daunting if you are going to have to do it all by yourself
Good luck to you and your little one
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