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*ookiemon77
writes:My new husband is always forgetting his wedding ring. It drives me crazy and a little offended as well. I asked him if he doesn't want to wear it and why, he says that thats not it and I don't believe him. Why do you think he doesn't wear it?
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reader, MonksDaBomb +, writes (2 February 2010):
 I agree with the others that rings get in the way of doing work. While I'm not married, on several occasions I have gotten rings for Christmas from family or friends and have tried to wear. I would only last about three days before I'd get annoyed. My work consists of typing on a computer all day, so rings get in the way.
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reader, Keyshantasy  +, writes (2 February 2010):
 I can answer this on personal experience! My husband when he and I first got married did'nt wear his wedding ring. It annoyed me so much like everytime I looked at his finger without the ring I would cringe and it made me feel like he did'nt appreciate our marriage. So I asked him WHY? He said in his heart and in his mind, body and soul he knows he is married and true love is not defined on what is placed on a finger. He said his promise to love me and cherish me was with GOD and me not a ring, BUT for me he would wear it.Anyway to help you, If you know and trust your husband to the point you would bet your life on it, I would'nt worry anymore about why he does'nt wear his ring, maybe his (ring) is more sentimental than a piece of jewelry.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (2 February 2010):
 I think you should ASK him and trust his answer.
I don't wear mine, because it got stolen and we just haven't replaced it, my husband on the other hand always wears his.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2010): What type of job does your husband have ?? IF he works construction, Agriculture, Logging, Mechanics, etc.. wearing a ring will cost him a finger if not a hand someday!
When I was married the "wifey" was all up in arms cause I didn't "wear my wedding ring".... Well I damn near lost my finger in-fact my entire hand when the miserable G.D. ring got caught in a piece of machinery!! I had to have that damn ring cut off my very sore dislocated finger!! At least I still had a finger.....
If your husband is in any profession where he works with his hands, you need to get over your insecurities about whether he wears a wedding ring or not.
What is more important to you,, some stoopid concept of ownership or your husband coming home at the end of the day with all his fingers and hands ???
A wedding ring does not make any man "more married".
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reader, supermum  +, writes (2 February 2010):
 My dad never wears his wring, after 25 years, still no ring lol...it used to annoy my mum, but if you are not used to wearing rings, they can feel strange
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reader, Faraday +, writes (2 February 2010):
 I HATE wearing rings! Thee must be lots like me, so nothing to worry about. I used to work near live electricity, so that was my excuse for not wearing it to work and it has stayed off ever since - good, acceptable reason to disguise the real one that rings irritate me!
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (2 February 2010):
 When I was first married I never wore my wedding ring, it felt uncomfortable, and I didnt like it. It took a few years (like 20) to get into the habit of wearing rings. I doubt there is anything here to cause you disquiet, I wouldn't worry too much, its not really a biggie.
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reader, stephanie,jayne +, writes (2 February 2010):
Does your husband have a job were he has to use his hands alot or work with machinery? if this is the case then a ring is only going to get in his way and cause trouble for him so it would be alot easier for him not to forget it. Does he wear it at home and only takes it off when he is going out? if this is the case then there could be a few reasons why he doesnt wear it, 1, he isnt a jewlery kind of guy and a ring might make him feel uncomfortable, or 2, your suspicions are correct and he is infact taking it off so people dont know he is married. Or does he genuinlly forget to wear it most of the time? if this is the case remind him to wear it or ask him to keep it on constantly so he doesnt forget.. but remember that even if he leaves the house with the ring on, he can always take it off once out of sight, so try and remember that you trusted him before you were married and he never had a ring then so he is no more likely to betray you now that your happily married and he has a ring.. basically its just a ring, its not going to make him anymore or anyless faithful! :) xx
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (2 February 2010):
 My son's skin reacts to certain metals so wearing jewelry can be uncomfortable. My husband has gone through two weddings rings, one just cracked one, got caught in one of his tools and almost cost him a finger, now he only wears it on the rare occasion. No big deal to me one way or the other, HE knows he's married and that's what counts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2010): I personally don't like the feeling of jewelry on me, other than my watch.
My girlfriend once got me a cross necklace which I tried to wear for her. On occasion, I would take it off and put it in my pocket when it got uncomfortable to wear...until I put it in a pair of pants with a hole in the pocket. I feel bad about it, but like I told her, I am not one to wear anything.
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reader, Ravenxx91 +, writes (2 February 2010):
 In old traditions men never wore wedding rings, when my parents were married i never ever saw my dad or my grandad wear ther wedding rings, i cant see anything wrong with it.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (2 February 2010):
 We're not used to wearing rings and it takes us a while to get used to the unusual feeling - like putting a saddle on a horse or a collar on a dog. We get used to it in the end.
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reader, Not My Name +, writes (2 February 2010):
 May be nothing at all, My ex simply did not like the feeling of a ring on his finger. He found it uncomfortable and was always conscious of it - physically that is. Nothing sinister.
Instead of settling for 'that's not it' for an answer ask him for a specific explanation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2010): Does he have work that means he has to take it off during work hours? In that case I believe it is simple forgetfulness. Why does he take it off in the first place? If it is for any other reason that he is required to take it off due to work or similar things, he needs to get used to the ring! It shows respect to you and the marriage.
I don't think he has anything hidden from you, its probably just his forgetfulness and ditzyness that makes him not put it back on. But why does he take it off in the first place? Rather get to the bottom of that instead of trying to figure out why he doesnt put it back on. If he never takes it of, he wont have to remember to put it back on...
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