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writes:How can i make my girlfriend more committed. I feel frustrated showing her so much love while she does nothing. I have talked to her so much about it but nothing has changed. Should i walk away or what. Reply to this Question
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reader, Daewood +, writes (5 February 2010):
Daewood is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks,all of you for your answers. I wud just draw back by giving her some space and stop showing her so much love.
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reader, simsalert  +, writes (5 February 2010):
I think you need to show her how you feel instead of saying it. She probably feels overwhelmed by how you feel and maybe doesn't know how to react in words. If she is not commited then show your love to her and how commited you are, then take a step back and give her some space to see how she really feels. Every women need time to think.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2010): It sounds like you are putting a lot of effort into the relationship, and your girlfriend is not. You have spoken to her about this, and it is not making any difference. So she may not be as into the relationship as you are. Or she may simply not be the type of person to show affection. I am very sorry that you are feeling frustrated about this, and it is understandable.
There is not way you can make her more committed though. I guess you could try and give her some space for a while, and see if that changes anything. She may take notice if you are unavailable for a while. Sometimes we can take people for granted, and it is only when they back away a little bit that we notice what we have. But if she still doesn't make any effort, then I personally think you have nothing to lose by walking away. You sound like a very loving boyfriend, and you deserve to be treated that same way too. So if it isn't working between the two of you, then I think it might be best to walk away. Good luck. x
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (5 February 2010):
 You can't "make" your girlfriend more committed. You also can't "make" people feel more or less or bigger or smaller. If you have already discussed how you feel with your girlfriend, and nothing has changed either accept her as she is or find somebody who can give you the committment you seek.
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