My family and in laws are trying to destroy my marriage!
Q. Hi everyone. I really need help and advice. I have been having some serious problems with family. I have a mother in law who claims she is a religious christian follower, but what a hypocrite she is. She is constantly doing things to make me feel ...
A. 15 October 2010: I can only repeat:
Four years is a long time for a situation to be dragging on, and I believe it is going to take almost as long to repair the damage that has been done.
Seek professional help, this issue is too big to be solved on your o... (read in full...)
Do women tell their friends EVERYTHING about their boyfriends???
Q. Ok, to all women, do you talk to your best friends and tell them everything about your bf. i mean everything, like dirty details?...
A. 5 October 2010: Nope, never have, never will, but some people do.
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Period lasting for 2 months??? Worried!
Q. hi my wife has had her period for two months now im getting worried, she's alway angry and stressed and working a lot how can u help me?...
A. 5 October 2010: Encourage your wife to visit a doctor or women's health clinic. The people on this site are volunteers, not trained medical professionals.
If you are unable to convince your wife she needs to seek a doctor's advise try calling the Family Planning... (read in full...)
I don't want to tell my mum about my period!
Q. Help. This is really weird and I don't know why I'm doing this but anyway. I'm 13 and I just started my period this afternoon. I have already had a "slight leakage" or watever so technically this is my second period. And my mum got me a box of pads ...
A. 4 October 2010: well, this random is okay with your being forced to speak with me .....
your hormones are going crazy .... and this could be part of the reason you are having problems communicating with your mum. It also explains the breaking down and crying. ... (read in full...)
Am I a nag or does my partner have a problem with drink and drugs?
Q. am i nag or does my partner have a problem? im 11 weeks pregnant with my 3rd child and been with my partner on and off for 9 years. i left him last year as he drinks 5 times a week and used to take cocaine spending 150 a week on it i just couldnt ...
A. 4 October 2010: Your boyfriend has a problem, and so do you if you are letting him look after the kids when he is off his face.
Do yourself, and them, a favour or they will grow up believing it's normal behaviour, but you and I both know it's not!... (read in full...)
What are some of the biggest regrets people have with relationships that go wrong?
Q. This is a huge question and the reason I ask is because I don't want to make the same mistakes that everyone else makes. I would be grateful if someone could give me some information about the worst regrets or mistakes people make with ...
A. 4 October 2010: I didn't know how to communicate well. I was unable to express how I felt about certain things, and when I was unhappy, I simply bottled them all up inside until it was too late.
Talk, talk, talk, talk, even about the little stuff that you migh... (read in full...)
How to deal with a friendship/FWB gone wrong?
Q. I never thought this would be me. I never thought I would be in this type of situation, ever. Especially not with someone who I thought was my bestfriend. Me and my "bestfriend" had sort of a fwb thing going on while he had a girlfriend. This...
A. 4 October 2010: This dude wants his girlfriend. He also wants to take a different girl to a big event. He also wants you to be available to help him with his work, and to open your legs when he feels the urge.
I am glad you put "best friend" in inverted commas, ... (read in full...)
My family and in laws are trying to destroy my marriage!
Q. Hi everyone. I really need help and advice. I have been having some serious problems with family. I have a mother in law who claims she is a religious christian follower, but what a hypocrite she is. She is constantly doing things to make me feel ...
A. 4 October 2010: I think these issues here are too big for this site to adequately cover. You and your husband need to consider some couples counselling which will give you both the tools needed to deal with these negative people in your lives, to deal with them in ... (read in full...)
My so called friend has been spreading rumours that I am leaving my husband for him!
Q. Hello, It has come to my attention from a reliable source that a male friend i went to school with and haven't seen for 22 years has said to someone that i am going to leave my husband for him!! he has also said he has met my children and tha...
A. 4 October 2010: I can understand your anger but don't confront him just in case your informant has it wrong. However I would discuss it with your husband,let your husband know how angry you are, and discuss between you what should be done about it.
The poor sap... (read in full...)
He will not go away!
Q. I was in a relationship with a guy, but I ended things with him for various reasons. He will NOT go away though. He cries, complains, begs, does whatever to have "another shot." I've been very honest with him telling him that I do not see him in ...
A. 4 October 2010: Contrary to what you say I believe it IS a case for a restraining order.
You say its been going on for months, how many more months are you willing to put up with him influencing your life in such a negative fashion?... (read in full...)
I don't want to cut my ex out of my life completely
Q. My girlfriend and I recently broke up and it's been 3 weeks, however she's already in a relationship with someone else a week after ending things with me. She just put a posting on facebook about how she is happy. Suffice to say that ripped my heart ...
A. 4 October 2010: Just ignore it, sucking up isnt going to cut it with her, the fact she dumped you and less than a month later has a new relationship suggests she isnt the most caring of girls around and saying she deserves a happy relationship with somebody else ... (read in full...)
His girlfriend is in the way!
Q. Okay, so i really like this guy, and he likes me too. But he has a girlfriend. What should i do?...
A. 4 October 2010: I hate to be harsh but its time for a reality check!
He has a girlfriend.
If he really liked you he wouldn't have a girlfriend.
You need to accept the fact he has a girlfriend.
you need to accept the fact if he really liked you instead of her, ... (read in full...)
Broken by a best friend
Q. Okay, so, in first grade, this girl and I became best friends in 1st grade. I thought we were still best friends and was pretty much oblivious, inviting her to swim and stuff. So, years later, we have a class together (finally, since it had been ...
A. 4 October 2010: I understand about being a chicken, so I am going to say, don't be like me and spend the next 40 years going bwark bwark in the corner.
Summon the strength from somewhere to ask her, face to face would be better than a text or email (just in... (read in full...)
Hinting as being gay, but messed up coming out completely
Q. Lately, I have been wanting to come out. on my calendar I wrote "National Coming Out Day!" And I am starting to record the l word. I am 13. and 110% percent sure I am a lesbian. So, I am trying to come out. But, really messed up. I told my mom I wa...
A. 4 October 2010: You are not going to like my answer, but here it is.
You might be a lesbian, you might not. You might be bi, I hope not, better one or the other in my opinion, but that's just me.
You are at an age where your hormones are going crazy and pl... (read in full...)
We are separating, but she means the world to me
Q. Hi I'm after some advice, my wife and I are seperating and she is going home to live in Canada with my 2 year old daughter. We have both had huge money problems while we have been together for the last 6 years and there's been big issues with my ...
A. 3 October 2010: Good on you guitar dude, I think you are making the right choice. Maybe one day your mother will come round, I hope so .... but in the meantime you need to build a future for your wife and child
good luck to you all with your plans for a new futu... (read in full...)
Partner slept with my best friend who is in a relationship with my partners brother! They don't know I know please help me
Q. It's so horrible it's eating away at me everyday i resent him a bit for it even though it happened before we were together but my friend told me before we even met. Basically my boyfriend has slept with my best friend,She then shortly after got into ...
A. 3 October 2010: You say you knew about your friend sleeping with your partner even before you met him .... if it didnt bother you then, why let it bother you now.
As for your partner not telling his brother, maybe he doesnt think its so important, maybe he doesn... (read in full...)
We are separating, but she means the world to me
Q. Hi I'm after some advice, my wife and I are seperating and she is going home to live in Canada with my 2 year old daughter. We have both had huge money problems while we have been together for the last 6 years and there's been big issues with my ...
A. 3 October 2010: Has your wife held out the olive branch if you do go to Canada, or are you just going in the hope you can get back together again.
Reading you question makes me think your wife must have had a miserable time of it with your family, I am happy to... (read in full...)
Twitter codes and teenagers
Q. Ok this is probably the rarest question submitted. But i am hoping someone knows the answer. I have a 16 yr old daughter and as a concerned parent, I like to know what she is up to. I notice from time to time on her tweeter page she would type a b...
A. 3 October 2010: As the mother of the perfect child who turned into a monster at 14 (just letting you know its not only youngsters on here), and because I can remember being a teenager, I would say they are simply being silly.
However, my daughter and her friends ... (read in full...)
I'm scared the father of my baby is going to hurt me again
Q. i dont know wether i should stay with my boyfriend after all the lies he told me we dont even talk much anymore and he leaves me at home alone with our newborn baby all the time to be with his mum, before our baby was born we were inseparable and ...
A. 2 October 2010: There are no excuses for violence. Now you also have your baby to protect as well as yourself. Help is available but it wont come knocking on your door. You need to be pro active and seek the help you need to get yourself and baby somewhere safe ... (read in full...)
Could two unknown people have the exact same room?
Q. My boyfriend has been acting weird lately. Like he doesn't care and seems uninterested in me. So i started thinking he is seeing some other girl and decided to snoop in his email. I found pictures of naked girls i his inbox and outbox pictures ...
A. 2 October 2010: Deep down you must realise that he is lying, it was his email address and sure seems certain, his room.
Maybe he was just being a dill (drip or dope /fool) and is embaressed to have been caught out in such a silly, embarressing lie.
Ask him... (read in full...)
Why would a man stay with his girlfriend when he wants to come home to his family?
Q. What are some of the reasons a man would stay with his girlfriend he left his family for when all other signs point to him wanting to come back home? He knows hes welcome to anytime. I just really want some perspective on how a man might be feeling ...
A. 1 October 2010: From the small amount of information you give I would say he is keeping his options open. He prefers to stay with the girlfriend but is taking the line of least resistance at home so that he can continue to come and go as he wishes.
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Why would you say this too a taken man? I feel sick
Q. I found a text on my bfs phone [I realise I shouldn't have been looking] and it was from a girl that said "I am imaging us in the shower together". I feel sick. It didn't happen, she was just flirting. But all the same. Why would you say that to a ...
A. 1 October 2010: Shame you didnt think to respond, "gee that would be great, but what if my boyfriend finds out"
She could have said it for a number of reasons:
she didnt know he was already involved
she didnt care he was already involved
she hoped you wou... (read in full...)
He wants his ex-wife back, but wants to have sex with me?
Q. This is a really weird question but please help me. I have been chatting with a 40 year old guy on the internet for about a year. I am 18. We started talking about all kinds of things when we first met, but now it's pretty much about sex. I'm not ...
A. 1 October 2010: Simple. He wants his ex wife back to be his wife and he wants to have sex with a willing, young, firm, perky breasted, untried 18 year old female.
Is that all you want to be, a sexual conquest for some old sod that can't get over his ex wife and... (read in full...)
Married in love with another man
Q. I'm 22 years old. I got married in 2006 after me and my husband lived together for 5 years.. Prior to my marriage when I was 13 I meet my first love davey at church camp he lived a little over an hour away... Well we started dating talked on the ...
A. 30 September 2010: you are 22 years old. You got married in 2006, thats four years ago, you were 18. This was after you and your husband lived together for five years, that makes you 13 when you started living together ......
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I'm going out with my step-mums grandson, is this right?
Q. I have just started going out with my step-mums grandson he is 14 and im 13 but i dont know if it is right or not we're not blood related so that doesnt matter but i dont know wheather its right or not help me please!...
A. 30 September 2010: You need to talk to an adult and ask them this question. Do you have an aunt or a trusted neighbour if you dont feel comfortable talking to your step mum.
While its not illegal when you split up it could cause a bun fight in the family ..... it... (read in full...)
I don't want my sister inlaw and brother in my life anymore!
Q. 2 months ago my 9 year old nephew was bugging me to come down my home so i just said yes without figuring out my bills Iwas supposed to pick him up 2 weeks later but never did do to my mortgage being due .My sisterr in law had a fit and hasnt spoke ...
A. 30 September 2010: You said yes to your nephew and then you reneged. He was expecting you to collect him 2 weeks later, and you simply didnt show up.
Mortgage payments and other bills dont just turn up out of thin air demanding to be paid. They are expected... (read in full...)
Woman says she is pregnant with my husbands twins!
Q. Ive been with my husband for ten years we have three kids together ages 3,4,8. and he amitted that he cheated on me with his manager . He said he slep with her three times he claim he dont remember when because he was really drunk and she agreed ...
A. 30 September 2010: Before you can decide what to do you need to decide what you want, to stay and work on the marriage or to leave him to it?
If you decide to leave the marriage you need to work out what you will need to ensure you are okay once that happens,... (read in full...)
Does the pain ever go away?
Q. Hi, This may not be the right place for my Q but I thought I'd ask it anyway. My father very suddenly collapsed and died in my arms over 20 yrs ago although it feels like yesterday. Each year on the anniversary of his death (today) I a...
A. 29 September 2010: Yes, the pain will go away .... if you let it.
Think about what your father would want, for you to be miserable and unhappy or for you to celebrate his life, would he prefer to be remembered with tears or with laughter. Try and remember the happ... (read in full...)
Spousal Verbal Abuse?
Q. What is the advise out there to a woman who is married to a verbally abusive man? When anything goes wrong (flat tire, freezer not working, sports team lost?) it's because I'm a f-ing bitch. He shouts it over and over at me in front of our ...
A. 29 September 2010: I should say that I feel I'm a better, happier, funner person when I'm not around him.
seems to me you should not be around him, work out what you need to do in order to be safe and cared for (saving etc) work out your exit plan and then head for... (read in full...)
Embarrassed by my new boyfriend...
Q. I've been dating a guy for two weeks now, he's smart, cute, funny, sensitive and romantic, but there are two disadvantages: he's still in high school, but graduates this year and he's only three months younger than me, but he's still 18 (so he ...
A. 28 September 2010: you have already said he 'doesnt dress bad" so this means its the only two pair of shoes that are the issue.
Could it be a financial thing? When it comes down to the nitty gritty another pair of shoes are not high on my list of must haves. ... (read in full...)
He says she's just a friend!
Q. My husband has been sending texts to his "friend" at work that says things like - only if you caddy for me while topless and nice ass! He says that she is just a friend and that he's sorry and didn't mean to disrespect me, but what should I think?...
A. 28 September 2010: Tell Him. Tell him what you have just told us, tell him how it makes you feel to never have him compliment you or make you feel attractive and how you feel knowing he is the complete opposite with a work friend who you have never met.
He needs to... (read in full...)
How do I organize the household chores with my live-in boyfriend?
Q. I live with my boyfriend. As of late, we've been having issues splitting chores around the apartment. It's become a pretty big issue with us. I feel like he doesn't do anything as far as cleaning up when things are dirty, but he thinks if he makes ...
A. 28 September 2010: uh uh, YOU dont write up the roster, you both write up the roster.
And tell him, this is the way it is or I go live on my own and he can stay living in his own muck.... (read in full...)
He says she's just a friend!
Q. My husband has been sending texts to his "friend" at work that says things like - only if you caddy for me while topless and nice ass! He says that she is just a friend and that he's sorry and didn't mean to disrespect me, but what should I think?...
A. 28 September 2010: Have you met his "friend"? Dont husbands and wives usually meet their spouse's friends?
This aint no friend and he is acting very inappropriately. Keep an eye on him, and his 'friend'. You may need to spell out to him what is acceptable and what... (read in full...)
He's been in juvi, but we really care about each other!
Q. Hi, well I dont really know what to do. My boyfriend is what you would call a "juvinille delinquent" I guess. But i love him soo much! My parents dont approve because now he is in juvi. We've had sex alot and I really care about him. I know he would ...
A. 28 September 2010: so bud, he is in "juvi" how cool is that btw, and being in 'juvi' means he has a record, a criminal record, bud, and having a criminal record makes somebody a criminal.
... (read in full...)
Why wont he give me oral sex?
Q. Well, here's the problem. I have been with the same guy for 8 years...he's my first. we have literally done everything together and lately he hasnt been recipricating the favor....I give him oral sex regularly without question and he asks for it. I ...
A. 28 September 2010: Stop giving him oral, and when he asks why say you dont like it.... (read in full...)
I want my lover's wife to know about us
Q. hi i would like to know how to get y lover's wife to find out about our affair without her knowing it is me he's having the affair with. I don't want him to know either. the reason is the more unhappy he is at home the more time he coes to me. ...
A. 28 September 2010: If this man truly is more unhappy at home that he is with you his wife will pick up the signs and, if she choses to do so, will act.
But let me assure you of this, if she wants to know who he is screwing when he is away from home she will find out... (read in full...)
Which person is the most insecure?
Q. This is a question for all to answer male/female young/old,single/married.who would you say is the most insecure person the female because she has realised that after 7yrs together,45yrs old and a child the man she loves and wants to spend her life ...
A. 28 September 2010: He is the most insecure because she is looking at moving on and he doesnt appear to be doing so.
There are a lot of unasked questions here, if these two people dont want the same thing for their future, and are unable to negotiate meeting somewher... (read in full...)
He's been in juvi, but we really care about each other!
Q. Hi, well I dont really know what to do. My boyfriend is what you would call a "juvinille delinquent" I guess. But i love him soo much! My parents dont approve because now he is in juvi. We've had sex alot and I really care about him. I know he would ...
A. 28 September 2010: Caring Guy seems to have the answer covered. I hope you listen to him!... (read in full...)
He's threatening suicide unless I marry him!
Q. When I was a fourteen year old freshmen, I met a boy who was absolutely gorgeous, and was a senior. He and I started dating a week after meeting. It was a really great relationship until he cheated on me so I broke up with him. He threatened suicide ...
A. 28 September 2010: Oh, what a jerk this person is. You need to talk to somebody with some authority, is your father capable of seeing him off with his tail between his legs?
Or a burly brother or uncle, or an older female who will put on a steely face and scare th... (read in full...)
Does he deserve this last and final chance?
Q. Long story short, the guy who i dated for a year and a half wants a last chance. Btw hes 20, if that makes a difference. He was the one who i gave multiple chances too and every time i did he would take advantage of it. He knew how much i loved ...
A. 27 September 2010: Run, dont walk, away from him.
How many last chances are you going to give him? Right up until the day you take your last breath?
Give yourself the chance, the chance to move on and build a life that will attract the sort of man you really want ... (read in full...)
I was trying to change but he's not listening
Q. I need help getting over my ex. He just broke up with me. He was my first everything. But its my fault because I was stupid and constantly accused him of cheating when I had no reason to. I didn't clean or cook cause I didn't know how to and I ...
A. 25 September 2010: You need to get some help from somewhere other than here. If you are depressed can you speak with a doctor or other health professional?
If he was demanding and had flirts and has told you he would like to "do" another girl he doesnt sound li... (read in full...)
My friend told me my crush and I would date and now she says we won't. Why the change?
Q. hi im Josie and in my last year of middle school well my friend morgan has a bf but she told me she likes slade my crush(she didsnt know)but when i told her she was happy for me but you can hear a little sadness in her voice.She told me earlier ...
A. 25 September 2010: Hi Josie, unless Morgan has a crystal ball or communicates directly with Slade about who he is going to date and who he isnt, it doesnt really matter what she says about it does it?
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I was trying to change but he's not listening
Q. I need help getting over my ex. He just broke up with me. He was my first everything. But its my fault because I was stupid and constantly accused him of cheating when I had no reason to. I didn't clean or cook cause I didn't know how to and I ...
A. 24 September 2010: see, dont make excuses, you needed to get up straight away, the baby is only 5 months old, nobody likes to hear a baby crying, especially when the mother is asleep in bed.
Maybe your ex has gone for good, and maybe a little bit down the track yo... (read in full...)
I was trying to change but he's not listening
Q. I need help getting over my ex. He just broke up with me. He was my first everything. But its my fault because I was stupid and constantly accused him of cheating when I had no reason to. I didn't clean or cook cause I didn't know how to and I ...
A. 24 September 2010: Your life sounds like it needs a massive injection of help. Where is your nearest Salvation Army, find their phone number and tell them what you have written here.
If you werent getting up to the baby that is not good. You need to learn how to l... (read in full...)
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