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writes:Several years ago, I fell in love with a boy. A girl that I was friends with at the time liked him to and dated him behind my back. Both of them were aware of what they were doing to me.She was always jealous of me and had issues of her own at home and with eating disorders.When I found out what had been going on, I was crushed beyond belief. It still hurts when I think about it and even though I have feelings for him, Ive let go.Yet I have developed a hatred for her that is inexplicable. When I hear her name, it changes my mood. I obsessively check her facebook. If I see her, I am haunted by it for a week. Anything having to do with her makes me cringe. I dont understand what this feeling is. Why do I hate her SO much and cant let it go?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2010): I disagree with most of what Aunty BimBim has said. Your friend and the boy that you were in love with both knew that them two dating would hurt you and still decided to betray you and go ahead with going out with each other despite that. The reason why you still hate her is because you still have feelings for him. You need to get over him. Remember that he doesn't deserve your feelings for him. Once you get over him you might still hate her for hurting you however more likely to hate her less.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (6 February 2010):
 You really do need to examine what you are doing to yourself here. You dont say that your love was reciprocated. You say she went and dated behind your back, if you werent involved with him, whats the problem with them dating?
You were crushed? even though it seems he never gave you any reason to think he might love you back?
You say she had easting disorders, well it appears to me you might have some disorders of your own. Go seek some medical advise to help you get over this irrational hatred/
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