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anonymous
writes:Please help us settle this debate. My boyfriend and I in a disagreement about when our official anniversary should be celebrated.Option 1: September 8th. This is the day we first slept together. We had been dating for two months before this date. Also, although we had not had the official discussion, neither of us were dating or sleeping with anyone else (nor have we since). Incidentally, we were dating exclusively, but had yet to have the conversation.Option 2: December 20th. This is the day we officially had the conversation where we established that we are boyfriend and girlfriend. What sparked the conversation is the night before, a friend of mine asked if he was my boyfriend, and I didn't know how to answer that question, so the next morning, he and I talked and made it "official". So....what day should we celebrate our anniversary????? Thanks for your input! We appreciate it (and we have a friendly bet wagered on your responses....) :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone for your input. I said September 8th, since that's when we were dating exclusively, he says December 20th, since that's when we made our relationship official. I've decided to celebrate December 20th as our official anniversary (should we decide to celebrate), and September 8th will be a day when we stay in bed and have lots and lots of sex to commemorate the event :)
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (21 March 2012):
 One of the nice things about living in a free society is that you don't have to look to anyone else in order to make decisions such as you have sought in this submittal.
It's my opinion that the two of you ought to celebrate AS MANY DIFFERENT ANNIVERSARIES AS YOU CAN AND WANT TO!!!! For example; you could celebrate: The first time you spent an overnight (even if you DIDN'T do nik-nik!!!), the first time you switched him with your riding crop, the first time you watched a chick-flick together, the first time either of you spilled red wine on a light-colored garment.
See? there are OOODLES of things to celebrate... AND, if you are creative, you can find special - even kinky - ways to "celebrate."
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (21 March 2012):
 I always went with the day they asked me to go steady (what us old folks called it back then).... but then we never slept together till we were going steady.... (and if we did then it never got serious)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2012): the Option 2. because that's when you decided you were actually in a relationship. With Option 1, you were for all intents and purposes just FWB, and no one makes an anniversary out of that..!
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (21 March 2012):
 I find the idea of celebrating your first bonk's birthday intriguing ....
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (21 March 2012):
 Just celebrate both, rather than fretting over it. Though I do think one should wait until you get married to start celebrating anniversaries.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2012): Our anniversary is our first date (even though he slept with someone after that and so did I :S). But now we celebrate our first date anniversary, our engagement anniversary, our civil ceremony anniversary and this summer we'll have our catholic wedding (and another anniversary). Ha! nothing is ever perfect!
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reader, Kyle007 +, writes (21 March 2012):
Celebrate both anniversaries. Two parties are better than one, aren't they? Just celebrate each thing for what it is. Umm, is this your only "real problem"? If so, you guys are actually pretty well off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2012): "Me and my boyfriend don't know which day our anniversary would be!"
The date of your wedding.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (21 March 2012):
 I think traditional is when you have The Talk and make it official. Personally think it's a little weird you'd have a boning anniversary, may I guess that one was his choice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2012): December 20th.
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