Is this pattern of contact wierd?
Q. Hey, I met a guy online a few weeks ago, we've webcammed and spoken on the phone numerous times, I've started to really like him, he's like 7 years older than me and we're both fine with it. We're planning to meet at the end of this week, I've s...
A. 15 June 2012: I get the feeling you are not going to listen to the little voice inside that prompted you to ask your question here.
The calling/contact pattern very much suggests he is hiding those calls/texts from somebody else.
Ask him for his physical add... (read in full...)
My LDR boyfriend is into anal sex and doesn't like the way my vagina looks
Q. This is kind of embarrassing but here we go. I have been in a LDR for several years. Not long after we started dating my boyfriend talked me into, um, pleasuring myself on camera for him. So I did and it's become a regular thing where we do it ...
A. 13 June 2012: You are correct, this man is selfish and only interested in what pleases him, your needs and preferences are not important to him at all.
It sounds very much as if he has been grooming you, please talk face to face with somebody you trust, I... (read in full...)
I'm 14, pregnant, my B/f has left me, my parents are druggies and I live in a foster home. What do I do now?
Q. Hi I'm fourteen. Me and my boyfriend have been trying to get pregnant for a while now! i finally got pregnant. But now my boyfriend (hes 16)left me. I really don't know what to do now. we were going to move in together and start a life. How should i ...
A. 13 June 2012: You need to talk to a responsible adult, a social worker or your case worker might be good places to start. They should be able to talk to you about the options available to you, and give you all the information you need to be able to make the best ... (read in full...)
Is this pattern of contact wierd?
Q. Hey, I met a guy online a few weeks ago, we've webcammed and spoken on the phone numerous times, I've started to really like him, he's like 7 years older than me and we're both fine with it. We're planning to meet at the end of this week, I've s...
A. 13 June 2012: To be honest it sounds to me as if he is already in a relationship.... (read in full...)
I was venting, and he tells me how to fix it?
Q. I was talking to my bf earlier and I was venting about something that happened to me at work today. I know that he really cares but it often turns into him telling me what I should have done or what I should do. And it's frustrating me because it ...
A. 13 June 2012: When faced with tough problems, men stop communication so they can work out how best to "fix" the problem, while women become communicative and deal with problems by talking about them, sometimes this is all that is needed. Men dont realise the ... (read in full...)
After seeing her ex, she called me his name during sex and now I'm very upset
Q. Ok... hopefully i can get some good advice on this and not people making fun. I have been seeing the most lovely girl for the past few months. Before she was with me, she was in a 4 year relationship with the most awful guy - he hit her, put her...
A. 11 June 2012: I've done that @ say the wrong name, and at the worst possible moment .... I was stone cold sober, and it didn't mean anything.
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If it's so great there how come I can't go too?
Q. I'm 31, my wife's 30, and we're from Seminole, Florida. However, she's recently been doing a disappearing act, going off to Duluth, Minnesota, and I cannot for the life of me work out why... and even worse, she's used my favourite car for this (my...
A. 10 June 2012: This does not sound good, contact your local police and find out what the legalities are with regards to your favourite car to see if you can have it impounded before she sells it or trashes it.
Have her charged with stealing if you can while yo... (read in full...)
Do I put up or shut up?
Q. Hi, guys. i will try keep this short but i really would like some advice. I have been living with my partner for 3 years been together for 4. He has 2 children from a previous marraige that spend a lot of time with us. We take them on holidays. Buy ...
A. 10 June 2012: Have you got somewhere to go? I doubt I would be happy to cook and clean up after kids such as those you are describing.
If you are sitting in different rooms now, how about if you come to an agreement that will be what happens when the kids com... (read in full...)
CAN SOULMATES OVERCOME THEIR OBSTACLES
Q. Does a soulmate relationship ever overcome the obstacles placed before it?...
A. 10 June 2012: For me the term "soulmates" suggests a predetermined destiny of some sort. Let's take it a bit further, if a predetermined destiny had been planned by "the universe" (for want of a better term) surely that predetermination would have included the ... (read in full...)
How can I get my boyfriend to leave?
Q. Hey, thanks in advance for any answers. I live with my boyfriend, with a joint tenency but recently we've not been getting on well and we want to split up. He doesn't like living here and can't afford it on his own anyway. I, however, really ...
A. 10 June 2012: As you can see there are concerns from some that you are cohabitating with your boyfriend at such a young age, and that legally you are not able to be a signatory on the lease document.
Are you able to get a trusted adult involved, a parent o... (read in full...)
Do men sleep with women just for the sex?
Q. Will men really sleep with a girl if they don't fancy them? Not talking about beer goggles time when drunk. Stone cold sober, pre meditated chatting someone up in the expectation of having sex?...
A. 10 June 2012: There are lots of people, men and women, heterosexual and homosexual, who have sex simply for the gratification it brings them, and without the beer goggles!
A male friend once told me having sex with a woman he didnt feel emotionally attached... (read in full...)
I told him I didn't want anything to do with him anymore, and he hasn't contacted me since.
Q. sorry if this is long, but i really need some advice. my ex broke up with me 2 weeks ago monday just gone. we had an argument on the sunday night because he was too tired to come over and i felt that due to having commitments with work and events ...
A. 9 June 2012: I don't know what sort of EFFORT you put into trying to make this relationship work, but your EX BOYFRIEND quite clearly from your posts can either GIVE UP his job or his OTHER INTERESTS such as band and golf to put the same sort of EFFORT into the ... (read in full...)
Old flame from 33 years ago has written me, where do I want this to go?
Q. ok here goes, while in high school I was so in love with this guy, while we were super friends I don't think he really thought of me in the girlfriend way. After high school he went into the service. You have to understand I never forgot about him. ...
A. 9 June 2012: How exciting to be contacted after such a long time, I can imagine past feelings came flooding back, but they are an illusion, the feelings of the girl you were then, on the brink of everything that was yet to come.
What does the man you are with... (read in full...)
Should I get revenge? He went out with me then all of my mates!
Q. hey i got dumped a few days ago and this guy really broke my heart he went out with me 3 times then dumped me and went out with all my mates what shall i do shall i get revenge on him or leave it? please help!!!!!!!!!!!! ...
A. 9 June 2012: You need some perspective, as Aunt Honesty said, it was only three dates.
The best thing you can do for yourself is to acknowledge to yourself the three dates may have been fun, but that you are lucky you found out he wasn't the one for you unti... (read in full...)
I told him I didn't want anything to do with him anymore, and he hasn't contacted me since.
Q. sorry if this is long, but i really need some advice. my ex broke up with me 2 weeks ago monday just gone. we had an argument on the sunday night because he was too tired to come over and i felt that due to having commitments with work and events ...
A. 7 June 2012: Would you honestly have preferred him to put his health at risk and drive tired to visit you after he has worked long hours than for him to get the sleep he said he needed?
You told him you didn't want anything to do with him anymore and deleted ... (read in full...)
Should I try to work out things with my sometimes abusive/sometimes sweet husband?
Q. I am writing on here for help, please give me your honest thoughts. Can someone change I am 22 and been married for 6 months. My husband has always been emotionally abusive but I have always forgiven him, I left him once but went back. He has pus...
A. 6 June 2012: If you want your baby to grow up in an abusive household, learning the abusive patterns of his father or the accepting victim patterns of her mother, stay with him.
If you believe your husband has the potential to change, then yes, give it a go,... (read in full...)
I'm tired of being the bank for my gambling boyfriend
Q. Hello, So I've been with my bf for 4 years. Its been a battle to say the least. Some major control issues for the 1st 3 yrs on his behalf. He's finally loosening up over this last year except he still contacts me excessively. Which I find ann...
A. 6 June 2012: What do I think? I think the time for you to evaluate the relationship and the benefits it brings to you are well overdue.
Four thousand pounds a month on gambling and you are in the habit of forking out the cash to pay his rent?
I don't think... (read in full...)
How can I keep it a secret if I get involved with a married man?
Q. I posted a question earlier about a relationship with an older man who is married with children. I thought he was flirting with me and it turns out he was. We met to talk about the project we're both involved in and he drove me home (again!). I...
A. 5 June 2012: Whatevahhhhh.
You will receive no help here, because there is no advise that you want, nobody can tell you how to make something work that is doomed before it even starts.
So give him his blow jobs, stuff up your chances of being taken seriou... (read in full...)
Boyfriend will be away for 2 weeks and I don't think I can cope with it
Q. Hi, My boyfriend of over 2 years is away to Europe for the next 2 weeks due to work commitments. We are extremely close, and best friends as well as a couple. This means that we see each other literally all the time and enjoy each other's constant...
A. 5 June 2012: 2 weeks. Its only two weeks for heaven's sake. What about those women with several kids at their feet whose husband's work takes them away for several months at a time.
If you dont have anything to occupy your mind read a book, crochet a blanke... (read in full...)
My boyfriend keeps cheating on me, but I can't stop loving him. What should I do?
Q. I have been dating a man for a year and a half. We are together usually every night, I sleep over his place, his family loves me and we say I love you but in Feb I caught him with a girl over his house. One night stand type of thing, we split and ...
A. 5 June 2012: You have already given him his second chance and he spat that back in your face. So, if you want to continue being in a relationship with a serial cheater, give him a third chance, and a fourth chance and a fifth even.
He will continue to cheat... (read in full...)
I told him I was sorry I created a drunken scene at his work, but I still havent heard from him in 2 weeks
Q. I have made some mistakes in my relationship with my last boyfriend. He is not perfect either. We were seeing each other for about 3 months. We rushed into the relationship. He is still legally married but separated. One day he said he wanted to ...
A. 4 June 2012: I think a drunken scene at a workplace would be enough to end most relationships of such a short time ~ 3 months you have been seeing each other and you do that?
I think you need to accept this relationship is deader than a dodo!... (read in full...)
My girlfriend of one month avoids physical contact.
Q. i have a girl i met a month ago..she is beautiful but there is one thing that she is lackin and that is been romantic.,anytime we are alone..she dosent behave like a lady..if i want to kiss her she removes her mouth..if i touch her she shifts..i ...
A. 4 June 2012: In my culture we say somebody isnt behaving like a lady when she lets boys kiss her and touch her. Its a language thing.
You have only known this girl for one month. Trust and feelings are not instant. It will take time for this girl to learn... (read in full...)
Fiance broke things off saying there's a 75% chance he'll come back. Is that good?
Q. Danny and I made a year May 27 and have been engaged almost a year. Tuesday he said he wanted to marry me and was in love with me and wasn't changing his mind. The wedding date was June 16. Well Wednesday he woke up to a small argument between my ...
A. 4 June 2012: Maybe he was worried about the cost of the wedding, if he left after waking to the sound of an argument between you and your mother about the costs involved he may have felt overwhelmed.
I don't think you are giving us the whole story, you say ... (read in full...)
I don't like boyfriend's arrangements if he should die
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm in my 50's, my husband passed away 10 years ago, since then I've dated but never found the right man. I recently began a relationship with a man a couple yrs older, I knew him for years. He made it clear that he would never marr...
A. 4 June 2012: You havent said if he expects you to put the proceeds from the sale of your house into his house. If this is what he wants then no, I wouldn't touch this arrangment with a barge pole.
He may not have considered all the options, try suggesti... (read in full...)
Drunk, hooker and emails to exes (
Q. Hi, I've engaged for 3 years, planning to married soon around this year. We have up and down relationship, as we have different culture (I'm Asian/Indonesian and he's an Australian), but so far, we're trying to get it through. 2days ago, i call...
A. 29 May 2012: I would also find it annoying if somebody kept talking about how much money it cost them to keep me.
He thinks he has you locked in, because in Bali no pension, no government money to help you, everybody must work very, very hard just to keep a r... (read in full...)
I told my husband I want to end the marriage and now he's acting all pitiful
Q. After being married for 12 years I've told my husband I can take it no more and I want out. He's been cheating which I found out and even after that I've put up for 3 years. We have 2 kids and I have been telling him since a year that I am not happy ...
A. 27 May 2012: Seek legal advise as soon as you can, you dont need to use a lawyer if you dont want to, but you should arm yourself with all the information you can.
He has had 12 years to be a decent husband and father, as for him trying to blame his excessiv... (read in full...)
Am I doing the right thing by washing my hands of his kids and focusing on my own son?
Q. What it is.. I have a baby son who is 6 months old. My partner the babys dad has 6 other children, one of them that we don't know cuz he didnt wanna meet... 3 of them, his ex-wife's ones, used to come to ours every single week as I was inviting them ...
A. 27 May 2012: Them kids, as you call them, are your baby's brothers and sisters, and while I can udnerstand you dont want to do all the work when they come to visit, I still think you should be encouraging a healthy relationship between you all, your baby, his ... (read in full...)
Drunk, hooker and emails to exes (
Q. Hi, I've engaged for 3 years, planning to married soon around this year. We have up and down relationship, as we have different culture (I'm Asian/Indonesian and he's an Australian), but so far, we're trying to get it through. 2days ago, i call...
A. 27 May 2012: Being engaged to a man who will get drunk and then pay for sex with prostitutes is not good for you. I have to say I think this man is lying to you and using you.
Where were you going to live after you married, has he looked into the legaliti... (read in full...)
My boyfriend stalks me by using fake FB accounts and it's getting creepy
Q. We've been together since 3 months. The first week we were dating I caught him writing to me from a fake Facebook profile (my friend noticed the profile's page on his Iphone). It was just a smalltalk so I asummed this is normal and wrote some stuff ...
A. 27 May 2012: He is a liar, a stalker and creepy. And the response he gave you on his fake ID is nasty. After only three months? Why are you still with him. His behaviour is not normal, please talk to your parents about this, so they are aware of the situation ... (read in full...)
How do I make b/f understand that I shouldn't have to change for him?
Q. My boyfriend and I has some disagreement lately due to religious issues. I am a free thinker. He is quite involved in his religion. He expects me to be a vegetarian and to convert to his religion when we are married. He says this is so that I can ...
A. 27 May 2012: Tell him that in order to prevent quarrels in the future you would like him to start eating meat and to drop his religion in favour of being a free thinker.
Tell him if he really loved you he would do this for you.
Tell him you think it is very... (read in full...)
B/f blocked me because I complained about his activity with ex on facebook
Q. My boyfriend and i hve been in a long distance relationshp for 6months now things have been ohkay but recently we fight a lot over his ex galfriend who calls now and than,and i told my bf that i hate it when the ex calls,he said he cant tel someone ...
A. 27 May 2012: He blocked you on facebook ..... the only thing really to do with a boyfriend who would block you anywhere, is to block him. Right Out!
I dont feel this relationship is going anywhere good, far better to end it now before it deteriorates into a r... (read in full...)
If you love someone will you change for him?
Q. If someone expects you to change for him, is it love? If you love someone will you change for him? My boyfriend and I have been in disagreement recently. He expects me to understand his religion so that I can understand why he is a vegetarian a...
A. 26 May 2012: This is a grey area, do you love them as they are now, or do you love the potential person they may become.
Does your boyfriend love you as you are, non vegetarian, non religious and a free thinker or does he love the person you may become (... (read in full...)
Is this man who I'm having an affair with claims to like me so much, then why is he avoiding me?
Q. Ok I can't believe I did this i never in the 21 years that I’ve been with my husband cheated on him. People on this page can’t think any worse of me then I think of myself. My husband is the first man I ever been with. I’m 38 now I take very good ...
A. 26 May 2012: He only lasted 2 minutes ..... the lying cheating bastard probably feels sexually inadequate and embarressed by his lack of staying power.
You've made a huge mistake, and you seem to realise that.
What happens from here on is your choice, per... (read in full...)
If a girl gives you her number but doesn't reply to a message does that mean she's not interested?
Q. Hi I have a question for the ladies. Say a guy has met a girl and they exchange numbers. She knows that he intends to ask her out at some point but he hasn't done so yet. They exchange messages and she hasn't replied to one anymore. Does th...
A. 25 May 2012: Maybe there was too much talk (messages) and not enough action (going out). How many messages and over what period of time?
If she was responding to text and has since stopped a quick VOICE message might be the way to go.
... (read in full...)
Should I ask my mom why she hates my boyfriend?
Q. Should i ask my mum why she hates my boyfriend? I’ve been him for 18 months however we were friends long before this, however she has never taken to him and is often rude to him and about him. She tells me not to get serious, accuses me of not ...
A. 25 May 2012: I would ask her, and be prepared to REALLY listen. She already says you should think for yourself. Maybe she sees something that you cant see, maybe he does all the thinking in the relationship, and makes all the big decisions.
She may feel tha... (read in full...)
My married man said I cant have no one else but him
Q. I have been with a married man for going on 8 months now and it seems that we go well together, meaning the relationship between us just keeps going, we dont seem to have any problems, yeah sometimes i get mad at him when i cant be with him but he ...
A. 24 May 2012: He loves you so much he is married to somebody else?
He loves you so much when he is with his wife he totally ignores you?
Honestly, what are you doing here, where is your head? Where do you think your relationship with this man is going? Ar... (read in full...)
Do I explain to my ex why I deleted him from my facebook?
Q. This is a long story, I will try to condense it... Split with my ex in December. We were together almost 4 years. In that time we were long distance 50% of the time due to me being in Uni. I visited him every holiday. He visited me once, begrudgi...
A. 22 May 2012: First, go to the post office and have ALL your mail redirected away from his address.
While you are there purchase a large pre paid post bag, or big envelope and stick lots of stamps and write your address on it. Send it to him, with a friendly... (read in full...)
I was expecting gratitude and thanks for saving her from eviction, instead I am almost being punished!!
Q. I have a friend who I have been pursuing for over a decade. Every year we get to a stage where we get really close and intimate but i just wait knowing that she will soon distance me. I have learned to accept that this will happen and come to ...
A. 20 May 2012: You have been there for 10 years in the role of back up friend, somebody who accepts whatever crumbs she deigns to drop, you have WASTED 10 years of your life on what? What has your patience over the past 10 years brought to you?
This woman is... (read in full...)
Why is my BF acting so mysteriously? he lied ,but then rushed back to see me. I don;t know where he was. Please help!!
Q. Please adive on my BF.Ok - so here it is.I've been dating this guy for 14 months, well I had a hunch last night.. actually, at 5 this morning, and I went round to see if his car was there. It wasn;t. I then called him at 5.45am. he did not answer. ...
A. 18 May 2012: Firstly, why on earth are you telling this man you may be pregnant, what are you hoping to achieve by telling lies like that?
Secondly I doubt if this morning was the first time your intuition tried to tell you something was up. I agree, h... (read in full...)
How often do you see or speak to your FWB?
Q. Hi thank you for reading this I am in a fwb arrangement I was just wondering how often you see or speak to your fwb as I only see mine once a month if that sometimes even though we live very close to each other I have asked him if he still wants to ...
A. 13 May 2012: FWB means a relationship that is for sex only. Apparently the sex without emotional attachment, or concern for each other is the benefit.
If sex once a month is not enough, and FWB is what you want, you need to either augment your current ... (read in full...)
How do I get my Bf to respect my opinions? And stop him telling unfunny jokes?
Q. Hi, thanks for taking your time to read this! So, I've been with my current boyfriend for a little over seven months now, and overall; he makes me very happy. We click very well with each other and we have a lot of similar interests. Th...
A. 12 May 2012: I'm going to concentrate on your final paragraph because that seems to sum up your situation:
"Also, how do I tell him that I need for him to lay off of the 'bitch' jokes without him telling me that I need to 'lighten up'? I understand that it'... (read in full...)
I don't want my mom to wear a bikini on holiday, its so embarassing!
Q. Having some trouble with my mom. What should I do? My mom, my younger brother and I will be going to Hawaii soon. I'm 15 years old. I'm all excited about going to Hawaii but I'm not happy with my mom buying a two piece bikini. She's in her early 40...
A. 9 May 2012: A long, long time ago, when I was around 14 or 15, I made a snide comment about my mother's swimsuit, she never went swimming again. I still feel bad about this, not only did she miss out but we, her kids, all did too!
Full marks to your mum for ... (read in full...)
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