I got a friend to test him and now he has shut me out!
Q. i feel really bad, my on off partner of 18 years and i were in the process of what i thought trying to work things out. he has always been there for me until i messed up, i played a silly trick on him and now its kind of back fired and he refuses to ...
A. 4 July 2012: I'm happy to hear you And your husband are both willing to seek help together. Your marriage has already survived so much, there is no reason why it cannot survive this latest hurdle. Best of luck to you both.... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my husband's family recognize me?
Q. My 45 year old step-daughter forgot my Birthday again.I have been with her father for almost 7 years,we are married for 1.5 year.I was trying to do my part to be a good grandmother for her children.We even took her children with us to our honeymoon ...
A. 2 July 2012: Next year when its her birthday, let her know you will celebrate it with which ever of her family has a birthday next, and when you all gather "oops, I forgot, and I only have one gift"
Nah dont do it, just imagine the look on her face if you did!... (read in full...)
Husband of 28 years cheated with one of our friends before marriage. I just found out and somehow I'm the bad person in all of this!
Q. My husband of nearly 28 years betrayed me. He slept with one of our 'best friends' while we were living together (before marriage). I did not know this. Had I had known I would have left him. Over the course of 15 years she became emotionally ...
A. 2 July 2012: I recall your writing about this some time ago, I'm sorry the issue is still not resolved. I agree with writing it all down in a letter, especially the bullying you sustained over a period of time, and how you beleive he behaviour put a wedge ... (read in full...)
When I ask him how he feels, all he can say is "I love you"!
Q. My boyfriend of 3 years won't tell me how he feels. Yes he says that he loves me but when asked how he really feels about his words are "I love you", thats it. I know it should be enough but those words just seems bleh and too simple. Since...
A. 1 July 2012: You asked him how he felt, and he said he loved you. I don't understand why that is not enough, if you wanted somebody to spout words of prose you should have picked a poet for a boyfriend.
Many young men are uncomfortable talking about feelings... (read in full...)
He told me in front of his friends he could do better than me and that our relationship is over.
Q. I need some advice. I am aware I need to leave this relationship but I need input on how and whether it's really something I should do. I hae a 2 1/2 year old son who considers my boyfriend his "dad" bc he's been there since he was 2 weeks old. Last ...
A. 1 July 2012: I love him but ...
How many times have we read questions from women who are being abused, emotionally, mentally and yes, even physically.
Listen to what he is saying, honestly listen, he straight out told you, in front of witnesses your r... (read in full...)
She says she loves me yet she doesn't want to walk out of her bad marriage
Q. I have a lady who I have known for 20 some years,she is the wife of an ex-friend, who I had never gotten to know, because of him, he was real jealous and possessive. Well out of the blue he decided to cheat on her, she came to see me one day and ask ...
A. 1 July 2012: I have started to answer your question several times, but I keep coming back to your request for us to be gentle with you, so I keep deleting.
This is all a bit weird, you have known her for 20 years, but you didn't really get to know him?
... (read in full...)
I know my man is going to meet this woman tomorrow. I am going to confront them
Q. The man I have loved for the past 10 years is once again cheating on me. I confronted him and his lover last year , funny enough about the same time of year. Since he has promised not to see her or meet her. Last weekend I picked up his an...
A. 30 June 2012: Thanks for the update, it does sound like he would never change, I think you did the right thing, just keep on moving foward, Good Luck!... (read in full...)
Do I keep trying, or forget and move on? He treats our relationship like it's a chore
Q. I feel like my boyfriend doesn't love me anymore. We never really see each and if we do it may be only be once a week. He doesnt call or text me that often (like once or twice a week) and he always wants to hang out with his friends but never mi...
A. 30 June 2012: It's possible you are both outgrowing each other, or simply drifting apart due to the changes in your lives.
Tell him you feel as if he doesnt love you anymore, and the reasons for that. See what he has to say, if he can't see there is anything... (read in full...)
Asian guy with hot white girl. Never seen it in real life
Q. You rarely see a very hot caucasian girl with an asian guy (I'm not asking whether you've seen it. It happens, but it's rare). I've read that the best looking girls TEND to like more masculine guys, whereas more average girls TEND to like a bit less ...
A. 30 June 2012: I used to go to a nightclub owned by a very masculine asian man, his wife was a totally hot looking causican, despite having had three children, most of the bouncers were asian as well, what they lacked in height they made up for in muscles, as for ... (read in full...)
I got a friend to test him and now he has shut me out!
Q. i feel really bad, my on off partner of 18 years and i were in the process of what i thought trying to work things out. he has always been there for me until i messed up, i played a silly trick on him and now its kind of back fired and he refuses to ...
A. 30 June 2012: You need to do some serious grovelling. This silly trick as you call it was so totally unfunny, imagine if the shoe was on the other foot and some guy rang you up, I am sure if at first you weren't interested and he persisted you might soon feel a ... (read in full...)
Is there a such thing as a monogamous loyal man or is that a rare animal?
Q. A male older friend of mine and I had a conversation about infedility and marriage etc...My question to all you men and or women is do you agree with my male friend that ALL men if given the opportunity for SEX will take it married or not because ...
A. 30 June 2012: There are such things as monogamous, loyal men, I raised two of them, both my sisters are married to a further two, many women who i mix with on a daily basis are married to, or in relationships with, monogamous, loyal men. I refute the statement ... (read in full...)
She took the only thing my Dad left me
Q. Hey everyone I know this is not a relationship question but I need serious help from you guys. Ok 2 months ago my dad passed away and he had a car he was paying for but he didn't finish the payment, my dad's friend took custody of me and she fini...
A. 30 June 2012: Did your father actually leave a signed will leaving the car to you? If he did you can probably find a neighbourhood lawyer or legal aid to help you establish your claim on the car.
Why has your father's friend got custody of you if you have a m... (read in full...)
I'm trapped between my career and my personal life
Q. so im sitting in a predicament and yes i know its wrong but anyway. Ive been seeing this guy at the office and yes we are both married and one of the reasons that we started the affair is because our marriages aren't what they should be. (im n...
A. 29 June 2012: Common sense would suggest if your relationship and career and going to clash one or the other has to go.
You know your relationship is wrong, you know that it is no longer secret, you need to decide if your, and his, careers can handle any fall... (read in full...)
How can a single mom get a boyfriend?
Q. How can a single mom get a boyfriend? Im pretty active, I go to school and work 24 hours a week. I have a beautiful 16 month old son. The dad and me are still ok but he lives 4 hours away. It seems like the only guys I can attract now are guys who...
A. 29 June 2012: Are you looking for a boyfriend or a meal ticket?
Start working on becoming the woman men other than those you describe will be attracted to, get yourself educated, get a job that will give you real money and the ability to live the lifestyl... (read in full...)
Is it fair for my partner to blame me for looking at his emails when I found out he's cheating again?
Q. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for two and a half years. We have an 8 month old daughter together. We were starting new and moved recently to a new state because of a job opportunity for him. A few months ago I noticed him acting a ...
A. 29 June 2012: Of course its not fair of him to say its your fault, he is a lying two timing cheating arsehat who got caught and is now trying desperately to shift the blame for HIS behaviour onto you.
As hard as it is I think you need to pack up your baby and... (read in full...)
She has chosen to marry another guy because he is financially stable and can get her out of this town!
Q. I guese ill start by saying iv never had any thing like this happen to me and i don't have a clue what to do! Well iv been dating this very sweethearted girl for about 4 months, were great togeather, shes my bestfriend, feels like the one but im not ...
A. 28 June 2012: Oldbag is right, it all sounds very fishy, and four months seems a bit quick to decide you have found 'the one' ....you may have dodged a bullet here; As for the hell hole you are living in, sure there are some crap places in this world, but if we ... (read in full...)
Fiance owes too much money to ex and expects me to pay. How much is too much?
Q. Problems..... My fiancee (50) has just been served with a bill of $30,000 that he owed his ex on their divorce some 9 years ago. Due to ill health and circumstances he has not paid her and now she is peruing it.Their son of 15, visits in holidays ...
A. 27 June 2012: A further $10,000 in debt since you first posted your question here, thats just under $1,000 a week .... is he really worth that much to you, do you get $1,000 worth of enjoyment, satisfaction, quality of life from this man that you are willing to ... (read in full...)
He went to a strip club, I confronted him and he got mad, what do I do?
Q. I have been dating a new guy for about 4 months now. Our relationship moved pretty fast but we were both happy about it.He is a friend of my brothers, totally opposite of any guy I ever dated. I have a little boy who will be 2 in a few months and he ...
A. 26 June 2012: 4 months dating and you have already moved him in. That is fast work, and your little boy is only 2 so it cant be that long since you finally ended things with your ex.
Maybe you have taken some old issues from your previous relationship into the... (read in full...)
My fiance's ex wife got to sit with his family at the funeral, and wore her wedding ring that day! Am I right to be hurt by this?
Q. I don't know what to think of this and would like opinions. My fiance's father died in Jan. Both his ex-wife and I attended the funeral and we were both civil. I was a little hurt by the fact that his ex deposited herself squarely in the front row ...
A. 25 June 2012: Your fiance's ex wife is the mother of the deceased person's grandchildren. That fact alone gives her more right to sit with the family than you, I am not trying to be nasty or take sides here, but the 27 years of marriage and the four kids gives ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend becomes a complete ass when he's drunk
Q. I don’t know what im doing or what to do….any comments welcome here I need it. Ive been going out with my boyfriend since December, and I moved in with him in march (yeah its quick but its just right) Anyways my problem is him drunk! When he...
A. 24 June 2012: He is one class act, especially the bit where he leaves his penis hanging out ..... I can totally 100% understand why you want to cling on to him and not let him go.
The only person who can change his behaviour is him, so your choices are
1: ... (read in full...)
Is it reasonable to feel hurt when my boyfriend was late with his usual anniversary gesture?
Q. My boyfriend and I celebrate 100 days, 200 days, and 300 days, 1000 days, etc. anniversaries rather than months/years which is important to our culture. There's even a smartphone app for counting d-days. Anyway for our recent anniversary I wrote him ...
A. 23 June 2012: Celebrating 100 days, 200 days, even 300 days would have been fun when the relationship was new and in the first rosy blush, but I imagine it could soon get tedious, are ou sure that software application wasn't designed by some clever marketing ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I are being forced to break up for a while... any advice on how to help the heart break?
Q. Okay so here is what's happening. My boyfriend got mad at my mom because she likes getting under our skin and doesn't want us together and posted a status on facebook about it and that set her off. Well I am 15 and he is 18 and by alabama law we ...
A. 23 June 2012: Anonymous Male seems to have answered your questions beautifully. your BOYFRIEND is a dumbass.
Spend the next twelve months pondering what may have happened if he hadn't posted that facebook status. And then direct any blame for this in the righ... (read in full...)
I find it it weird and disgusting that my mom posted an old pic on Facebook, of her breastfeeding me while I was a toddler!
Q. My mom posted an old pic of her breastfeeding me while I was a toddler on facebook. What should i do? I logged in on facebook today and saw on my home page that my mom had uploaded that pic. The pic was not in her album but on some facebook pa...
A. 23 June 2012: Jessica, I'm guessing the reason you dont like it is the thought of being breastfed by your mother ... ewwww @ your mother's boobie in your mouth.
You could try asking her to remove it, I can understand the embaressment value of such a picture.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is jealous when I dance salsa....
Q. So...7 months ago I started a long distance relationship with a man I met online. We talked on the phone for a month before meeting in person. We have a lot in common and he's very attractive. The problem is his jealousy. When we first started ...
A. 23 June 2012: I believe you did the right thing, you were dancing before he came into you life and he is aware how important it is to you.
He is trying to control you, you have already agreed to some restrictions on your life, and you suggestion for comp... (read in full...)
Boyfriend coming home to look after me, but...
Q. My boyfriend lives and works overseas and he comes home every 6 weeks or so. The last week I have been very ill and have spent two non-consecutive nights in hospital. He's coming back this weekend to take care of me. His condition, however, is for ...
A. 22 June 2012: Accept the fact he is not coming back to look after you and ask another friend or relative to stay the night your boyfriend wont be there.
... (read in full...)
My friend wants to bring another girl on holiday with us, I have a bad feeling about this girl and don't want her to come, but I don't want to lose my friend either! What should I do?
Q. I have a friend, let’s call her Laura, who I have known since we were 4 years old. She is a lovely person, but is also a people pleaser to the extent that she lets others completely walk all over her on a regular basis. She lets people treat her ...
A. 20 June 2012: Sadly it seems you only have two choices, invite Emily along on your holiday, knowing you are probably going to be playing third wheel while they do their thing together, or stick to your guns and lose Laura as a friend.
I think I'd be telling ... (read in full...)
I have to go to College but we want a baby together. What should I do?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been best friends since middle school. I am 17 and about to start my senior year of high school. We want a baby but I have to go to college. What do I do?!?!?!...
A. 19 June 2012: You go to college, and you encourage your boyfriend to also go to college. Before you go to college you go and see your friendly doctor and get birth control.
You acknowledge the hormones that are raging through your body and suggesting you have... (read in full...)
My wife drags her mother along with us on vacation.
Q. I am a 39 year old male. My wife of 20 years is 41. My problem is that my wife invites my mother-in-law along on almost every trip or vacation. Sometimes she is unable to go (thank the heavens for that!) but I'd like it if it could just be the two ...
A. 18 June 2012: Tell your wife you understand she wants to create some lovely memories of her mother because you would like to create some lovely memories of travelling to special places as a couple.
The suggestion by others that you book a few romantic weekends... (read in full...)
What can I do to cope with news that my daughter's in a Lesbian relationship?
Q. I have fear! Very fear! My daughter is a very smart and tough person. At the age of 19 she is already a bachelor degree. Please dont get shock you can do it really in my country if you dont take any break in the school and always take advance during ...
A. 18 June 2012: Think about what is so fearful here ... is it because people might judge for this, they might judge your daughter? Are you fearful because the future you dreamt about, wedding, grandchildren etc etc, is now changed? I understand the Phillipines is ... (read in full...)
He's not contributing financially in our live-in relationship...what should I do?
Q. hi, so i have a question..., i have been with my boyfriend for 3 years in a few months. we started out great, so loving, caring, and anything i wanted to do i got, but now its not like that, he doesn't give me a kiss hello when i see him, we sit on ...
A. 18 June 2012: Isn't he a lucky little boy, he swapped his old mummy for a newer version, he has somebody to cook his din dins, clean up after him AND who sacrifices her own financial needs to cover his living expenses so he can still have all the toys he could ... (read in full...)
Tired of waiting for love to return
Q. husband left me for a 24 year old with a 3 year old. they are now living together and are engaged. our divorce is not final, and i found out he has not payed my attourney yet. they seem to be getting along pretty good. but everyone tells me it wont ...
A. 18 June 2012: Don't wait, listen to somebody who had the carrot dangled for five or so years after he left ...
Don't let him bring the alimony money, tell him to set up a direct payment from his account to yours.
When he says he loves you tell him he has ... (read in full...)
I used my mom's phone and discovered she's getting way too friendly with a man. Do I confront her? Tell my dad?
Q. I need help! I'm 28 years old, and recently I went to my parent's house over the weekend and i discovered something that has my blood boiling right now. My parents are fairly older with my mom being in her mid 50's and my dad in his late 60's. ...
A. 16 June 2012: Unless you share the marital bed this is NONE of your business. Your mother is a mature woman in her 50s. She doesn't have to answer to you, you have already acknowledged her marriage isn't all that great. You don't know what goes on behind closed ... (read in full...)
I've been engaged for 13 years, don't see it going anywhere and have feelings for my friend!
Q. Hello, A while ago I put a couple of posts on here one about my relationship and one about loving my friend. I'm still struggling and just needed to tell someone. I've been in a relationship for 15 years, engaged for 13!? For a long time I've be...
A. 16 June 2012: 13 years engaged and feeling unappreciated.
Time to decide if you are prepared to be engaged for a further 13 years to to take control of your own life.
End the engagement, but to be honest I feel your friend may not step up to the mark once yo... (read in full...)
Ex wants post-break-up sex, is it right or wrong?
Q. My ex and I broke up 8 months ago, I am 18, whilst she is 16. The UK allows legality of this relationship. So she's decided that she wants 'post break up' sex. She never understood my reasons for leaving, although they were as long as your arm. So I ...
A. 16 June 2012: You are probably right ... she may be hoping to win you back with such fantastic sex you wont be able to walk away again. She hopes!
Or, because you dont say why you broke up in the first place, or what sort of girl she is, if she is a nasty so... (read in full...)
I used my mom's phone and discovered she's getting way too friendly with a man. Do I confront her? Tell my dad?
Q. I need help! I'm 28 years old, and recently I went to my parent's house over the weekend and i discovered something that has my blood boiling right now. My parents are fairly older with my mom being in her mid 50's and my dad in his late 60's. ...
A. 16 June 2012: Do not confront this man, it is none of your business, and I also hope you asked your mother if it was okay before you decided to use her phone ... but I guess you didn't. So there is your opening, Mum, when I was over last weekend my phone ran out ... (read in full...)
Why is my ex trying to create conflict between me and my best friend?
Q. Last year I dated a guy for 3 months until I found out that he's married with kids. It was his pregnant wife who found out about him dating me and telling me about it (so she was the one who uncovered him). I was devastated and I asked him to stop ...
A. 16 June 2012: I doubt he is trying to cause problems between you and your friend, I think he is probably more interested in getting into her knickers! I also doubt very much that your feelings in this even crossed his mind.
Why do you care if he asks after yo... (read in full...)
How can I make him see that there is a difference between an accident and an intentional reaction?
Q. I accidently kicked my husband in the groin (he was standing behind me) as I was explaining to my older son that it was unacceptable to constantly thump my younger son. My husband suddenly ran and lunged at me with his thick MBT shoes on and kick...
A. 15 June 2012: what an ar****le!
My first reaction was to tell you to move on, move on right out the door.
His logic is flawed, he deliberately kicked you and thinks you should just accept it?
And all this happened whilst you were talking to your chil... (read in full...)
Is this pattern of contact wierd?
Q. Hey, I met a guy online a few weeks ago, we've webcammed and spoken on the phone numerous times, I've started to really like him, he's like 7 years older than me and we're both fine with it. We're planning to meet at the end of this week, I've s...
A. 15 June 2012: I get the feeling you are not going to listen to the little voice inside that prompted you to ask your question here.
The calling/contact pattern very much suggests he is hiding those calls/texts from somebody else.
Ask him for his physical add... (read in full...)
Is my friend only criticizing my Bf because this friend has feelings for me too?
Q. Okay, so I'm dating a 26 year old and I'm 17 (I know it seems wrong but do not judge, there are FAR more WORSE relationships than this) and everything is going great but one of my closest friends (let's call him B) hates my boyfriend's guts for no ...
A. 13 June 2012: Next time your friend starts with the perv comments, ask him to either elaborate or keep his views to himself, in other words, put up or shut up.
If he is so snarky you have a boyfriend when that's what he wanted to be, unless he can accept y... (read in full...)
What can I do to discourage this woman who's been having meaninless sex with my husband for two years?
Q. Hello, I'm dealing with my husband's infidelity right now.He's the best hubby in the world and I love him to bits.. Only one tiny little problem.He's been having a meaningless sex fling with this floosy for 2yrs.It's a lady I have to see on a regu...
A. 13 June 2012: Yes I can blame him, good husbands don't accept mindless sex, regardless of who it is with and how it was presented.
Your problem is not with the so called floozy, your problem is with your cheating, lying, twotiming, not to be trusted, husband.... (read in full...)
My LDR boyfriend is into anal sex and doesn't like the way my vagina looks
Q. This is kind of embarrassing but here we go. I have been in a LDR for several years. Not long after we started dating my boyfriend talked me into, um, pleasuring myself on camera for him. So I did and it's become a regular thing where we do it ...
A. 13 June 2012: You are correct, this man is selfish and only interested in what pleases him, your needs and preferences are not important to him at all.
It sounds very much as if he has been grooming you, please talk face to face with somebody you trust, I... (read in full...)
Is this pattern of contact wierd?
Q. Hey, I met a guy online a few weeks ago, we've webcammed and spoken on the phone numerous times, I've started to really like him, he's like 7 years older than me and we're both fine with it. We're planning to meet at the end of this week, I've s...
A. 13 June 2012: To be honest it sounds to me as if he is already in a relationship.... (read in full...)
I know my man is going to meet this woman tomorrow. I am going to confront them
Q. The man I have loved for the past 10 years is once again cheating on me. I confronted him and his lover last year , funny enough about the same time of year. Since he has promised not to see her or meet her. Last weekend I picked up his an...
A. 23 April 2012: I am glad you have put plans in place to remove yourself from this relationship.
I agree you need them, but him especially, to see you at the same place they are planning to meet. YOu sound a little like me, there will be no need to hit or slap ... (read in full...)
Fiance owes too much money to ex and expects me to pay. How much is too much?
Q. Problems..... My fiancee (50) has just been served with a bill of $30,000 that he owed his ex on their divorce some 9 years ago. Due to ill health and circumstances he has not paid her and now she is peruing it.Their son of 15, visits in holidays ...
A. 12 April 2012: Yes, you should tell him to get a job. This debt is not your debt, what makes him think you should pay for this on TOP OF PAYING FOR CHILD MAINTENANCE!! WHAT?
Tell him to go for a reassessment! Tell him to shape up or ship out!
You are being... (read in full...)
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