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writes: I have fallen in love with a guy I met online. I have only spoken to him online. I really liked him and a few weeks ago I wrote to him on IM and he asked me would I write to him in a few days. He said if we kept writing to each other everyday we would get bored with each other and that he wouldn't even talk to his girlfriend everyday.I told him I didn't like the idea, and he unfriended me.I really want him to talk to me again! I wish he didn't say that.I sent him a message because I found him on another site I joined too. Should I have done that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2012): Your not in love with him,you don't even know him!Your infatuated with somebody who has a girlfriend in the real world.
For goodness sake forget him, get out and meet people you CAN have a relationship with
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (18 March 2012):
 HE already has a GF what in the world do you want with this guy?
Honey, there are other fish in the sea.
And stop cyperstalking him. It's creepy!
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reader, uroboros  +, writes (18 March 2012):
hello,
sorry to tell you, but what you've written here sounds childish. as far as i can understand your feelings about that guy (although i think you only think and want to believe you love him, more than you actually do), i really don't know why you behave like a stalker.
first of all even if you two have bonded online he is not your boyfriend or even a boyfriend material yet, if he wanted some space you should have given him as much as he asked for. not only for not to get "bored" with each other, but also because he has a life apart from chatting with you online.
you shouldn't be so pushy and needy because right now you just scared him off, and i really doubt that he will ever contact you again :(
i'd advice you not to leave him any more messages, just accept that he is not willing to continue chatting with you.
next time you meet someone you like online start with small steps, don't harass them with everyday messages, let them come to you.
good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2012): it sounds like pure desperation. get yourself away from the computer. see a doctor if need be.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (18 March 2012):
 No, you should not have done that.
Is your stated age correct?
When someone tells you they don't want to talk to you every day, you accept it whether you like it or not. You don't argue or push for more. Just because you like someone doesn't mean they have to like you back.
And you definitely don't confront them on another site after they have made it clear they don't want to talk to you again. He had every right to unfriend you. Now you've made yourself look like a desperate weirdo. Please don't do that again.
What you're feeling for him isn't love. It's a crush and it will pass in time.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (18 March 2012):
 Let me try and get this straight:
You fell in love with a guy online and wrote to him.
He asked you not to write every day, but everyfew days, he intimated there may be a girlfriend already.
You said you were not happy with his request.
He unfriended you.
You really want him to talk to you again.
You found him on another site and sent him a message.
Now you want to know if you should have done that?
Does any of the above sound okay to you? To me it says you are obsessive with a tendancy to stalk.
He doesnt want to talk to you. You should respect that and not message him anymore.
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