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writes:my girlfriend told me what she did before we met telling me how she let a guy fuc` her in the as` on the first night .she tell me this when we are fighting as she know it hurts me. she just told me she had 4one nightstands a guy told me she was easy .but she tell me she not a slu``i think she has had 2 guys at the same time as she let it slip what would you call a girl that dose what she did Reply to this Question
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reader, jeffone +, writes (7 August 2012):
jeffone is verified as being by the original poster of the questionher past was to much for me to handle its been 7 mouth now .when i broke up with her a found a nice girl as she has only had 10 bf but now she told me i had to stop parting when i do she we go out with me .knowing jo my ex gf let guys treat her like a sl,, but now i think that is all i can get . parties there are drugs so now iam hook .and finding it hard to stop.but the worst is she said she never come back
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reader, Echo85  +, writes (26 March 2012):
 I wouldn't call a girl that does those things anything because it's her life and I (and you) have no right to judge her or throw names around.
The problem isn't what she has done, it's what she is doing now, using what she has done in the past against you. That's not fair and it is that that you should talk to her about.
Good luck
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reader, Miamine +, writes (26 March 2012):
 How old is this girlfriend, and how long ago was she doing this wild sex thing?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (25 March 2012):
 you make it sound like she had no choice.... sounds to me like you couldn't deal with her being comfortable with her sexuality.
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reader, jeffone +, writes (25 March 2012):
jeffone is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwhen i found out she went to swinger parties it was to much know how she let guys use her so i kick her out was i write
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reader, jeffone +, writes (20 March 2012):
jeffone is verified as being by the original poster of the questionnow i can`t leave her as she got cerval cencer it would be a bad time it is hard knowing how she let guy treat her like a slu` she told me he took her to parties i think he would of made her have sex with some guys
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (20 March 2012):
 That seems to be an odd thing for your girlfriend to tell you while you were fighting.
What was the fight about? Were you slinging insults at her then, asking her if she was easy? Demanding she tell you all about her sexual encounters before she met you?
So, you visited a prostitute who wouldn't let you "stick your dick in her bum" why should she, she is a prostitute, would you expect a man who sells wine to sell you cheese instead?
Maybe your girlfriend let somebody do that to her because she was in love, or maybe he begged, or maybe she thought it would make him love her, or maybe he threatened her, or forced her. Maybe she had the one night stands for the same reasons, loneliness, looking for love, desperate for somebody to hold her ... I don't know why these things happened. I wasn't there.
What happens in this relationship is now up to you, can you accept she did these things, are you willing to look past her previous encounters and focus on the future?
If you can't accept your girlfriends actions in the past you need to do her a favour and break it off with her so that she has a chance to find a man who can love her for what she is, rather than somebody who is so focussed on what happened before he was on the scene, as you appear to be.
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reader, jeffone +, writes (20 March 2012):
jeffone is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni got with this pro and ask her if she would let me put it in her bum and she said no she think its degading yet my girlfriend let a guy put here dick in her bum on the first night knowing this make me feel mad know her she let guys treat her like a sl`` why do girls let guys treat them like that
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reader, Miamine +, writes (22 February 2012):
After reading a similar story, she could be called an abused and damaged woman who has suffered such terror as you have never known.
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reader, jeffone +, writes (21 February 2012):
jeffone is verified as being by the original poster of the questionto let a guy do what he did she must of had a bad name i think it was not her first time i just got to face it my girlfriend was easy
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (14 February 2012):
worried about 2 particular guys or worried about 2 guys at once...
either way it's her past... why is this such a huge problem for you is she not supposed to have a past?
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reader, jeffone +, writes (14 February 2012):
jeffone is verified as being by the original poster of the questioniam worred that iam going to find out she been with 2 guys knowing her past
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (10 February 2012):
 In my initial response to you, I wrote that if it were me, "I would probably not be calling her 'my girlfriend.'" I'll stand by that, but I have been "sexual friends" with many girls in my life. So, I would be a hypocrite to condemn your friend for her behavior. People do as they wish. I have enjoyed the friendship of many naughty girls, so I've been guilty of questionable behavior myself at times, but in more mature years, have mostly been responsible as a faithful husband, father and businessman much of the time. So, I might have had a "friend" such as your girl, but would not have been very serious about the relationship.
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reader, MRJONES +, writes (10 February 2012):
 To the guy who said:
Yes, everyone knows that all men have wild sexual histories...etc
Far from it. Admittedly most of us WISH we did.
I am not sure where you get that information from, I certainly havent and neither would it seem most of my friends. So it is not too much to ask for a woman to have some morals...
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2012): I have to agree with the first two responses. Yes, this girl is definitely easy. Her first mistake was participating in some of those things. Her second mistake was telling you about them. If it were me, that girl would be history.
And before I get attacked for being a hypocrite, I'm absolutely NOT. I don't do casual sex, such as FWB, threesomes or one night stands. Sex after a first date, when you barely know someone, is also casual sex in my opinion. So I hold myself to the same standard as I do women I'm interested in.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (10 February 2012):
the question is not IS she.... because that's a judgment.
she was honest with you and told you the truth
the question is what do YOU wish to do about it.
if you can't cope then you end it. and it sounds to me like you think less of her because of it so you should do her a favor and leave now... and tell her that it's YOUR hang ups not hers...
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2012): Does it really matter? Think about it, is your girlfriend still the girl you fell in love with? Or did that change when you found out that shes been with a few more men than you realized? Do you honestly care? Does it change her as a person? No, yes, no, maybe, and no. Your girlfriend is stil the same person you met all that time ago. Who cares about her past? Mistakes happen, people make bad choices, and people do things that people in their future will dissaprove of. But the great thing about the past is that you never have to worry about it unless you're ashamed. The past is in the past, keep it there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2012): Yes, everyone knows that all men have wild sexual histories. Therefore all men are hypocrites if women's promiscuity repulses them. That isn't unfair stereotyping or anything.
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reader, Deagan +, writes (10 February 2012):
 To directly answer your question: Yeah, your girlfriend is easy, and kind of an attention whore. She has no problem saying something vulgar for the sole intention of hurting your feelings.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (10 February 2012):
You could also call her "fun loving" or very "open minded." As for me, I would probably not be calling her "my girlfriend."
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