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writes:I had many death lately in my family. Very close family members died, from different causes. So it is very difficult time for me, and I have hard time dealing with it. That got me thinking of death a lot generally. And its funny , but I can't find any comforting thoughts, not with eternal life ore without it. I'm actually afraid of death on a weird way, I feel nobody really knows what will happen, and all the different theories might be all wrong. What do you think about death? What do you think will happen? Reply to this Question
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (24 March 2012):
 Death has never frightened me... the lights go off and then your not there and you won't know any different. It's the living bit, the sickness, the illness, the unhappiness of life that is hard... The dead are not suffering, they don't cry, it's only the people they leave behind that cry.
Me favourite poem....
Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there; I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sun on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circling flight.
I am the soft starlight at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there; I did not die.
I sometimes curse the dead people... it's all right for them to leave me behind while they go to some place else to do who knows what.... and then I laugh, because I know that I aint got long before I go to where they go. You can be frightened of death all you like, because you can't avoid it. Only thing is that thinking about death is ruining this little short life that you've been given. Think about death when it comes knocking at your door to take you away, until then stay in the world of the living and make the best of what you have every single day.
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reader, Beerbuzz  +, writes (23 March 2012):
I am a aethist, so no after life for me!
My father died about 2 and a half years ago.
He never recovered from his stroke a couple years previous.
I had a much tougher time with the stroke than his death.
When people would try and console me after he died, I didn't need that.
I miss him tons, as I was close to him, but to me there is only life and death, no alternatives.
He lived large, had many friends and his family adored him, but his time was up.
One thing I miss alot, sitting with him having a rum and coke.
Enjoy while alive as much as possible!
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reader, dougbcoll +, writes (23 March 2012):
 only two choices , only two places to spend eternity . heaven or hell. a person can't get to heaven by being good , only from being saved ( accepting Christ in their life). aside from that a persons choice is made. every person has a hour , and a day to die. we know not the hour, the day, or how many years we have on this earth. i look at life as a gift that we have ,every day we get to spend with people we love. we get to show people we love gifts of kindness, and sharing.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (23 March 2012):
 I about half way through a book "between lives". It claims the life we have on earth is simply a learning time, much like a classroom, and when we die we are greeted by family members and friends and our teachers.
Its an interesting concept. My father had an out of body experience a few days before he actually died, he said it was all just like a dream ... but didn't elaborate.
I tend to lean towards the concept of this life not being the real one.
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reader, iloveblue +, writes (23 March 2012):
 I very much agree with Code Warrior.
I would say, it seems natural that as we age, more and more people we know and care will leave us behind. It's inevitable, I agree with everyone here. But also, remember that we welcome the birth of children in our lives, it really is a cycle.
Going back to death, I too am confused like you, many times. And you are right, as I too see deaths around me more frequently now then ever, I become concern about myself and concern about my family. However, I am presented with 2 options about what happens to me when I die. Will it be the end of my existence as a conscious entity which means nothingness? Or will I be entering another level of existence.
As I can see it, I have never heard anyone say in their deathbed: I am happy to die and am proud to say that I have accomplished nothing. I have hurt people and harmed them. I brought misery and caused conflict.
No one has ever said that. Everyone wants to die in peace and be in peace with everyone. People always seek to forgive and be forgiven at the time of their death. It seems to me that by nature there is goodness in us and when dying, people return to that naturally. Anything that is opposite to goodness causes us to suffer and live in misery and it leads us or gives us to another "not good" situation or result. This says that we are not naturally "not good". We feel it and we know it even if everyone would say otherwise.
However, if we are naturally good then there could a source for being naturally good. It just did not exist from nowhere. Whether this leads us to the conclusion that there is heaven is really up to our personal belief. And that will determine how we feel when we are dying.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2012): Death ? A long sleep.... peace after life, no more problems!
I have 'lost' people all ages, have also worked in nursing and seen many deaths of old people. I can honestly say its like a shell left behind and the 'soul' has gone.
Ime not scared of death, just hate to lose people close as we all do. It comes to us all though, rich,poor,black or white. But the ones we lose do watch over us, I am certain of that.
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reader, LovelyLemon +, writes (23 March 2012):
 Well, dear, it's true that no one knows what will happen. What we do know is that it is a natural part of life. Everyone has a time that they must go. It is hard to accept that you will eventually have to leave this world, but try to think of it as another phase instead of an end. Like an adventure. Going through a dark tunnel and not knowing what is going to be on the other side.
Try not to worry too much about it, hun. Some find solace and comfort in religion or philosophy. Some find peace in contributing to society so that they know that they have had a positive impact on the world.
I'm sorry that you are going through such a hard time right now. The pain may never leave completely, but it will get better. Try to find the beauty in life and celebrate it instead of dreading the end.
Much love and Best wishes
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2012): "What do you think about death?"
No way to avoid it. It's inevitable.
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