I know my man is going to meet this woman tomorrow. I am going to confront them
Q. The man I have loved for the past 10 years is once again cheating on me. I confronted him and his lover last year , funny enough about the same time of year. Since he has promised not to see her or meet her. Last weekend I picked up his an...
A. 30 June 2012: Thanks for the update, it does sound like he would never change, I think you did the right thing, just keep on moving foward, Good Luck!... (read in full...)
I don't want my mom to wear a bikini on holiday, its so embarassing!
Q. Having some trouble with my mom. What should I do? My mom, my younger brother and I will be going to Hawaii soon. I'm 15 years old. I'm all excited about going to Hawaii but I'm not happy with my mom buying a two piece bikini. She's in her early 40...
A. 9 May 2012: A long, long time ago, when I was around 14 or 15, I made a snide comment about my mother's swimsuit, she never went swimming again. I still feel bad about this, not only did she miss out but we, her kids, all did too!
Full marks to your mum for ... (read in full...)
I'm concerned over boyfriend's behavior when he knew I was grieving
Q. Dear all, Last week I returned home and dicovered my beloved cat had died in his sleep. I was heartbroken and still am but was also upset was my boyfriends reaction. I texted him to let him know and all he replied was I'm sorry hope you're ok. ...
A. 8 May 2012: You text him, he responded with a hope you are okay, the cat didnt die a traumatic death, ie being run over or dog attack which would have been worse to deal with.
Sure, its sad when our pets die, especially when they have been in our lives fo... (read in full...)
What is your opinion about what the wife should pay for after marriage?
Q. Dear cupid, I wanted your opinion on after a couple is married what is the wife, should the wife pay for? My Hubby to be wants me to pay the mortgage and he would pay for everything else ie taxes,food, insurance,pet care, car care,everything....
A. 8 May 2012: You need to work out the total costs for everything you need to live ie mortgage, utilities, insurances, food, even things like special work requirments including uniforms or tools, as without these income would not be generated.
If this is a ser... (read in full...)
Boyfriend said "he's the boss of me, not me the boss of him!"
Q. Hello, I have a boyfriend we have been together for 2 and a half years hes and have recently hit some problems and we broke up for about a month, but after some talking we got back together. But yesterday he got annoyed at me for something ...
A. 7 May 2012: He is your boss? Do you want him to be your boss? What sort of payment will you get if he is your boss? Are you happy with those conditions?
If not, hand in your resignation.
Seriously, did you both discuss the reason for the breakup, and aft... (read in full...)
Why does this girl think I'm ugly?
Q. So I was on myyearbook and I sent this girl a message telling her she was beautiful, and shortly after that she posted a status saying "Dear guys, just becuz you call me beautiful doesn't mean I'm gonna get past how ugly you are, and cream in my ...
A. 6 May 2012: ewww what an ugly, ugly girl.
Why on earth did you even tell her what you thought of her looks when you know what she is really like.
Why bother with her, she sounds really shallow, just shrug and move along, and try to be a little more disc... (read in full...)
She broke up with me so why does she want to be friends now?
Q. Im having trouble understanding whats happened in the past four days. My girlfriend, well ex now, has decided to leave me for someone else.. someone she met the day before she told me it was over. For the last two weeks we had been arguing because ...
A. 6 May 2012: It is selfish. You did the right thing, I think the reason some people want to be friends with their ex's is so they can tell themselves, "see I wasnt so bad, I am a good person, if I wasnt a good person my ex wouldn't be my friend".
Just ... (read in full...)
She wants to move her dog in!
Q. my girlfriend moved in with me 5 months ago now she wants to move her dog in i think its a bad ideal dogs need to be kept outdoors or atleast thats how i feel about it help...
A. 5 May 2012: Where has the dog been living since she moved in with you? Did she move in, thinking she could change your mind once she had been there for a few months?
Why wasnt the fact she owns a dog discussed at the time of her moving in, surely you were... (read in full...)
I want to live with my boyfriend, but because we have no money, he'd have to move in with me and my parents!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. We are VERY serious with one another and plan a future together (marriage, kids etc). We don't have any children or live together right now. However, lately I've been thinking we are ready to live to...
A. 5 May 2012: How long you you envisage this arrangment being for? Six months, 12 months, 2 years?
Have you considered the financial side of this arrangment, do you pay your parents towards the cost of living, towards food costs etc? Would your boyfrien... (read in full...)
She hasn't called, is this a bad sign?
Q. my girlfriend told me she will call back me, but from one month she didn't call me what can I do. I want to talk with her...
A. 5 May 2012: I think after waiting one month for your girlfriend to call you can safely assume this is a bad sign and the call isnt going to happen.... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my friends so that my life can be less stressful?
Q. hey everyone, here goes ( sorry its long) So ive been best friends with this girl ( lets call her A ) for about five years, soon we developed our own group, there were four of us. best mates, did everything together and shared it all. However ...
A. 5 May 2012: seems you are ready to move on to adulthood and these little girls are stuck in the schoolyard.
You've asked what to do, so here goes. You continue to help your family as they need you, care for your siblings and make sure everything is okay at ... (read in full...)
How can I get past my emotions to feel intimate with my partner?
Q. when i was a little girl i was abused by a family member this carried on until i was 17. I have spent such a long time feeling guilty because i never did anything to stop it even tho i knew what was happening was wrong i was so scared that nobody ...
A. 5 May 2012: You need to seek professional help to deal with this, its not something you can do on your own.
Contact a women's group or child protection group or agency to find out where and who is available in your area.
... (read in full...)
Is he cheating with me?...what's with the secrecy?
Q. I have been dating a man for 7 weeks. On paper we look great, same age, both solvent kids grown up, both working, similar interests and lots in common...there is just one problem...he hasn't let me see where he lives but has been to mine a few ...
A. 5 May 2012: You wait for next week, and if the visit is cancelled for some reason you know to listen to your gut and he is probably cheating on somebody with you.
... (read in full...)
How do I get my partner to do his share of work?
Q. Hey guys, thanks in advance for your answers Me and my boyfriend have lived together for a year (with his mum, in her flat). And now we have moved into our own flat just 4 weeks ago. Basically the problem is he is chronically lazy! He refuses...
A. 5 May 2012: If money is tight you need to put up with it for another 5 months.
Continue to eat out as much as you can, buy a few plastic basins that you store in your car when you are not home, these are for you to use to wash your face and your dishes. ... (read in full...)
I'm 23 and my parents control my life
Q. Hi,mine is going to be a pretty long story so please be patient and kind enouf to read it I am 23 years old,and in my final year of med school,throughout my life I have been controlled by my parents,not that they hit me or anything they give me ...
A. 2 May 2012: I repeat, your profile says you are in Australia, all major tertiary institutions have counsellors available for students, please make an appointment and talk to them.... (read in full...)
Husband putting oral sex above everything else.
Q. My husband and I have been married for 6 years, our sex life has always been great, but lately I feel that I am nothing more than a mouth for him. He wants oral sex everyday, and though I dont mind it, it seems that he has no emotions about it, no ...
A. 30 April 2012: Print your question off and give it to him to read. ... (read in full...)
He cheated, prom is only a week away and the dress is paid for. What to do?
Q. Help! I just found out my my boyfriend of 7 months has cheated on me. He kissed another girl while he was wasted at a party....and Prom is a week away. We already have tickets and i bought a $500 dress. My family is super excired to see us go. Im ...
A. 30 April 2012: Do you have to have a partner, is there a reason why you cannot go by yourself?
Go to the prom, put on the best face you have and go as a single, independant woman who doesnt accept cheaters in her life.
You have a week to make sure there will ... (read in full...)
I'm 23 and my parents control my life
Q. Hi,mine is going to be a pretty long story so please be patient and kind enouf to read it I am 23 years old,and in my final year of med school,throughout my life I have been controlled by my parents,not that they hit me or anything they give me ...
A. 30 April 2012: Where ever you are studying there will be a student counsellor. I suggest you make an appointment and talk to them about the options available to you in Australia.
You can then either take those options, or use them as bargaining points w... (read in full...)
I've been waiting for her to leave her husband for me for 15 years! Should I confront her or should I let this go?
Q. I'm still in love with my childhood sweetheart and she said she is still in love with me and we have a child togeather but she is married to another man. I've been waiting for her to leave her husband to be with me for 15 years. What should I do. ...
A. 30 April 2012: Fifteen years of your life down the gurgler, glug, glug, glug.
Its time you faced facts, if this woman was in love with you she would not still be married to another man.
I would recommend strongly that you get some professional cou... (read in full...)
Should I stay with my boyfriend of 6 years even though the spark has gone? Or leave him for the schizophrenic, compulsive liar who I've only ever flirted with over the phone?
Q. I am falling for 2 men, I can't seen to choose who to stay with! one i have been with for 6 years we are both the same age 6 days apart even lol i loved but i have started losing my spark with him. he used to be romantic now he's not hasn't been for ...
A. 30 April 2012: Is there a law against you NOT having a boyfriend. What a choice!
have you considered the fact its a good chance the compulsive liar is lying about dying at age 33? It could simply be a clever ploy to get into your knickers. It would be very unus... (read in full...)
How do I get him to move on?
Q. sooo, im a single mother. and i should be happy for what i do have rather then what i dont. my sons father has never been there for me, and i always feel like im lost with adult company (a guy) im in my 20s, and because im a single mother i dont ...
A. 30 April 2012: You need to change the story you have in your head, at the moment it is telling you this man is wonderful, understanding and everything you ever wanted.
If he was wonderful, understanding and everything you ever wanted he would not be treating... (read in full...)
I'm 23 and my parents control my life
Q. Hi,mine is going to be a pretty long story so please be patient and kind enouf to read it I am 23 years old,and in my final year of med school,throughout my life I have been controlled by my parents,not that they hit me or anything they give me ...
A. 30 April 2012: Tell them they are the ones who chose to live in Australia, and their choice is giving you choice in how you live.
Remind them you dont need them to live, you can walk out of their house right now and find somewhere to live and recieve money to... (read in full...)
My ex wants to come clean about why he cheated on me,should I talk to him or let it go?
Q. my ex and I had a 4 year relationship that ended because he cheated on me. I cut off all communication after we broke up until he posted a long status on Facebook about our relationship, and how he made mistakes and his mistakes shouldn't be coun...
A. 29 April 2012: Is it REALLY going to make you feel better to know why he cheated on you?
The relationship ended because he cheated. There really isnt anything he can add to change that fact.
I advocate blocking him on facebook so that you cant be dragged ... (read in full...)
I'm engaged. But should I act on my powerful crush I have with my co-worker?
Q. I have been working with this married woman for about two years. I'm engaged. There was an instant attraction. She is this sexy hipster with a really cute face and a hot body. We started texting and the texts became heated. We decided to pull bac...
A. 29 April 2012: Sure you should act on it, don't forget to invite your fiance and her husband to join you for the post coital cigarette and debriefing.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is going on holiday with his ex wife and kids, should I just accept it or should I say something?
Q. Iv been dating a guy since January and he has just told me that at the end of may he will be going on holiday for a week to Tenerife with his ex wife and their two children. He says it's just to make the children happy but I still feel jealous and ...
A. 27 April 2012: Wow! This is a tough one.
How long have they been divorced, or separated? Was the holiday booked before they split. Is he going to help take care of the kids? Is it just then nuclear family or are there others going in the group?
When was the ... (read in full...)
I didn't trust him and tested him and now I've lost him!
Q. Dear friend, I feel quite sad in this two weeks, Iam craying every single moment , guess why!! It.s have been 5 months that I am in relationship with a lovely man, I think now clearly I am in love with him, but In last two weeks I think I made a b...
A. 27 April 2012: I think you did the right thing if you were suspicious. I would be suspicious to if a man who wasnt working accepted money from me to visit, or for the telephone.
I think this man knows you were suspicious of him, and he is a rogue, and tryi... (read in full...)
He told his ex he loves her then denied it with me!
Q. I just saw emails that my boyfriend sent his ex 2 weeks ago, that say how he misses and loves her. There was mention that he had a girlfriend but yet he stated he love her......why? Also he lied to Me by telling me he never bought her an engageme...
A. 26 April 2012: He is a liar, and telling somebody else he loves THEM makes him a cheater. Why stay?
This would be a deal breaker for me.... (read in full...)
My ex and his mother are both strangers to my son yet they expect me to hand over my son when they come to visit! How can I find peace with this visit?
Q. My son is 3 years old. He hasn't seen his father since he was 18 months old. Suddenly, his father wants to take a visit across the country to visit for a week, (with my ex-mother-in-law), none of whom have kept a relationship going via internet, ...
A. 26 April 2012: No. These people are strangers to your child. They need to be introduced gradually, starting with short visits of only an hour or so with you present.
If they dont like it they can take you to court, I'll be willing to bet any judge worth their sa... (read in full...)
Him and His new "girlfriend" like to taunt me
Q. A guy that I dated for years all of a sudden didn't want to see me anymore. It had always been kind of casual but we had always been really close friends, for over 10 years. When he said he no longer wanted to see me, he said that he just didn't f...
A. 26 April 2012: Just block him, and her. And anybody she knows. Facebook can be such a pain sometimes, dont let this crap get to you. It all sounds really childish.
Sometimes people act in ways that to us are inexplicable, you have already unblocked him once and... (read in full...)
I'm helping my girlfriend with her assignments and she's promised me bedroom-related action as motivation in return, but she keeps putting it off
Q. Hello everyone, I'd like some advice. Me and my GF are having some relationship issues but we talked and are trying to fix it. My question is about something else though. We're both in the same class and I'm making her assignments for her, I k...
A. 25 April 2012: You need to view this for what it is, an exchange of services, or product, and one of you are not keeping the bargain.
Would you do business like this, pay for a product (do the assignment) and pay again for the product (another assignme... (read in full...)
My husband is a control freak and abusive but I love him!
Q. I have been married for two years now. My husband is a very controlling man and extremely domineering. He becomes jelous or angry at me for the most absurd reasons such as me hanging the clothes out to dry when his brother is in the backyard. (his ...
A. 25 April 2012: You should stay where you are, with people who love you and dont abuse you, who trust you and care for you.
And if you can you should seek some counselling or therapy, to learn some techniques for dealing with this abusive man who is trying t... (read in full...)
I'm leaving my husband for having an affair and the strip clubs and partying. How do I explain to my children?
Q. I have decided to leave my husband of 22 years due to his recent affair, visiting strip clubs and partying at bars. I have two children ages 19 and 17. They have no idea what their father has done. How do I tell them we are divorcing without me ...
A. 25 April 2012: They are old enough to know why, it doesnt have to be sordid, just tell you feel unable to accept a third party in your marriage, and that their father's behaviour leads you to beleive he may be happier if given the freedom to act as he wishes. ... (read in full...)
I know my man is going to meet this woman tomorrow. I am going to confront them
Q. The man I have loved for the past 10 years is once again cheating on me. I confronted him and his lover last year , funny enough about the same time of year. Since he has promised not to see her or meet her. Last weekend I picked up his an...
A. 23 April 2012: I am glad you have put plans in place to remove yourself from this relationship.
I agree you need them, but him especially, to see you at the same place they are planning to meet. YOu sound a little like me, there will be no need to hit or slap ... (read in full...)
Should I divorce my husband? How would you feel about this?
Q. Hello, I'm new to the site. I would like to see what others think of my situation. My husband does not come home to me from work. He goes to his parent's every single night for 2-3 hours after work. Yes that is Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday...
A. 23 April 2012: Okayyyy
You dont want the marriage to end because you love him, and for now if you can accept the fact he is not going to come home, thats okay. You just need to switch your mind around a little to make this work for you.
You say weekends are... (read in full...)
I'm constantly bombarded with messages from him on facebook!
Q. I started work at a local hardware store a couple of weeks ago as a part time job and have had some friend requests from my workmates of a similar age on facebook. I have accepted them, as they are all people I have had several conversations with ...
A. 22 April 2012: I've disabled chat on facebook, it was too annoying.
14 messages over 2 days ... that would have me rolling my eyes like crazy. YOu could try and make a joke out of it -- "wow, too many messages I cant keep up!" and dont answer any more until he... (read in full...)
What does "you looked fine" tonight mean when a guy says it?
Q. What does a guy mean when he says "you were looking quite fine to me last night" ? Like where does it rate know the scale it of cute and pretty and all that. ? and why would a guy say that rather then just say cute or pretty or hot whatever. So ...
A. 22 April 2012: Not many women appreciate being called 'cute' it conjurs up images of little kittens and sweet kids with frilly dresses ... as for 'pretty' its not really ablokey kind of word is it, and 'hot' is something to bonk, and snicker about whereas 'fine' ... (read in full...)
Should I divorce my husband? How would you feel about this?
Q. Hello, I'm new to the site. I would like to see what others think of my situation. My husband does not come home to me from work. He goes to his parent's every single night for 2-3 hours after work. Yes that is Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday...
A. 21 April 2012: It seems our answers crossed!
What is there in the marriage that keeps you there? It does sound like he doesnt care much and there is not much support in his family for his marriage to work.
A decade of this is probably enough. I know I would ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't want kids right now. What should I think?
Q. My BF of 4 years told me that he does not want kids right now. It always seems to be a touchy subject. All he ever tells me is that he may want them in the future. A friend of mine recently had a baby and the topic came up. He told me that if i wer...
A. 21 April 2012: Sadly it seems to be time for you to make the decision, to stay with him and probably not have children, or to break up with him and hope you find somebody who is more open to the idea of parenthood.
For him it doesnt matter if he doesn't decide t... (read in full...)
My husband has filed for divorce and doesn't want to work things out. Should I just accept it?
Q. My husband of two years is in the process of divorcing me. I really don't want this to happen but he will not communicate with me any more. He said prior to him telling me that he was divorcing me that I was selfish and was always difficult putting ...
A. 21 April 2012: Sounds like you can afford to get some counselling, go by yourself and then if your counsellor recommends it, you can ask your husband to come as well.
You need a professional to help you see how you may have contributed to this breakdow... (read in full...)
Could my boyfriend return to the man he was?
Q. okay here one i think everyone has heard, but I think phycological i need to hear the answer. My boyfriend of two years is distant. he says it is cause of my nagging him to make plans or for us to work together on this relationship. Well he no longe...
A. 21 April 2012: Honestly, I think the relationship has run its course. Perhaps try having one last talk with him, ask him if he wants to be in a relationship with you, ask him why he thinks you are together, tell him you feel untouched and unloved. If he isnt ... (read in full...)
Should I divorce my husband? How would you feel about this?
Q. Hello, I'm new to the site. I would like to see what others think of my situation. My husband does not come home to me from work. He goes to his parent's every single night for 2-3 hours after work. Yes that is Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday...
A. 21 April 2012: The situation, as you have posted it, is bizzare, it raises so many questions.
Have you asked your husband why he choses to do these things. If he has a work vehicle and a normal vehicle, do you also have a car? If yes, could he be parking ... (read in full...)
Really unhappy in this relationship, is it just me? Or is he actually treating me badly?
Q. So ive been with my current bf a year and this is my first serious relationship and we live together. He however is a divorcee who has been in several committed realtionships. (He is a decade older than me.) Ive been seriously debating whether...
A. 16 April 2012: Go home, ask your parents if you can move back home until you get back on your feet with a job etc.
I agree you do seem to have moved in with him before waiting to see what sort of man he is, you should pack up your stuff and leave him to his o... (read in full...)
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