My boyfriend is hanging out with his ex tomorrow and I know he still has feelings for her
Q. Today my boyfriend picked me up from work and he seen his friend driving around they also dated in the past but agreed to be friends. That is fine with me, the problem I have is when they pulled over to talk I was going to sign my time out sheet at ...
A. 11 September 2012: If he still has feelings for her he hasn't moved on, if he has moved on he doesn't still have feelings for her.
But you are right to be concerned, if she has just broken up with her boyfriend she may flutter her eyelids in a helpless female w... (read in full...)
I feel angry that I have been left with my ex's debt and now he's expecting a child!
Q. i will try to keep this as short as possible I've known my ex since we was 13 we was best friends for years and finally got together when I was 21, we both worked hard , bought a house and had a baby during our 5yr relationship, the relationship ...
A. 11 September 2012: Forget talking to the mortgage company, they are only interested in getting their money, ask around for a referral to a good family law lawyer, even try the Salvos and any other reputable counselling groups/social workers.
Get legal advice o... (read in full...)
How do I call out my girlfriend for ignoring me?
Q. So recently my girfriend has taken to ignoring me. I have absolutly no clue why! But on thurdsday we had a nice conversation, then suddenly nothing for friday or saturday. So ive waited most the day, giving her a little space. Then she isuddenly ...
A. 11 September 2012: Not trying to be a cow here Kurt, but are you sure you are both on the same page, does she see herself as your girlfriend and you her boyfriend?
Unless you KNOW of a reason that may be keeping her away from answering the phone, such as family i... (read in full...)
How can he possibly understand how I feel?
Q. okay so my ex of 16 months and i broke up march 15th 2012, he is already married to a girl he'd been dating a month and they have been together 3 months. 14 days before they had gotten married he had told me that he wasn't over me and that he ...
A. 10 September 2012: This man does not have your best interest at heart, he wants his wife and he wants to have you dangling on a string and to have sex with. Is that what you want, to be the other woman?
If he loved you so much, and missed you so much, and respecte... (read in full...)
4 years of dating and I get dumped by a text message
Q. i have been with my girlfriend for 4 years, and today she dumped me via text. only recently we were all happy and romantic, but suddenly 3 days later she dumps me randomly. i have been working very hard, therefore have not seen her as much as i ...
A. 10 September 2012: I also suspect this was not a random dumping, you mention you have been working very hard and not seen her as often of late. If your contact with her has dropped right off and you have not had time to see her regularly or connect with her several ... (read in full...)
How do I call out my girlfriend for ignoring me?
Q. So recently my girfriend has taken to ignoring me. I have absolutly no clue why! But on thurdsday we had a nice conversation, then suddenly nothing for friday or saturday. So ive waited most the day, giving her a little space. Then she isuddenly ...
A. 10 September 2012: Ask her, 'how come we dont do xyz on Fridays - Saturdays like we used to"?
It seems to me you are both not communicating with each other, instead of sitting around waiting for her to contact you, why don't you contact her?... (read in full...)
He mentioned the possibility of us seeing others whilst we are apart. I don't know what to do.
Q. I have been in a committed, monogamous relationship with my boyfriend for about two and a half years. During this time we attended the same college, maintained relationships with mutual friends, worked together, lived together, backpacked Europe ...
A. 9 September 2012: If you want a monogamous relationship there are two choices, tell him you want a monogamous relationship that survives not having a sexual relationship for several months at a time, tell him if he want's something different now is the time for ... (read in full...)
Is my wifes best friend playing games?
Q. Over the last few months my wifes bestfriend has been going through a divorce. My wife and i have known this women for around ten years now and over those years have given her the support she needs during her rocky marriage, through texting, phone ...
A. 9 September 2012: She avoids contact with you, doesn't answer your texts, doesn't visit your wife unless she knows you are not there, and you are concerned she may tear your marriage apart?
Why? What have you done to give her such power over your marriage... (read in full...)
All my friends throw doubt and scorn on me for me LDR and say nasty things. What to do about their words?
Q. I have another question what do i do if my friends are giving ishh about my long distance relationship? like half of them would be like yeah you should give him a try and keep your realtionship and the other half is like you dont know what his doin...
A. 8 September 2012: Aged between 13 and 15 and already claimed to have been in love 50 times .... that's pretty quick work, just how often are you falling in and out of love, every two or three weeks?
You ask what to do about them, I say listen to them, you are too ... (read in full...)
How should handle really rude, mean nasty insensitive aunt?
Q. Last time I saw my aunt, I was in tears from being cruelly dumped by my boyfriend at the time. She ignored this at and proceeded to have a huge go at me for not futhering my education. I wasn't in the mood and depressed. Instead she yelled at me...
A. 8 September 2012: What was the occassion last time you saw her? Were you at a family gathering of some sort, how long had you been going out with your boyfriend and how long had it been since he dumped you?
Could her concerns at your lack of education be genuine ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend didn't invite me for icecream!
Q. recently my bf has moved to my city and our 3years of long distance has ended.we love each other and we were meeting frequently last week.today he went to mall without telling me.he didnt invite me though he knew that next week its not possible to ...
A. 2 September 2012: Wow, are you expecting your boyfriend to never do anything without you attached firmly to his side, so he went out with friends and ate ice cream, what did you expect from him, to say 'no, I can't eat ice cream or go to the mall unless my girlfriend ... (read in full...)
Should I send a text saying, I miss you so much, I don't want someone else, I want to be with you .
Q. hello i went on a date with a woman 5 weeks ago, she said it was lovley and i was a lovley man xxx . i wanted to give her a kiss at end of date, but did not want to risk it . i told this a few days later and she said she was not interested. but we ...
A. 2 September 2012: No, don't send the text, she already let you know she isn't interested in a relationship with you.... (read in full...)
Husband won't work and we are about to lose our house!
Q. I am needing some advice and am not sure what to do about my marriage. My husband refuses to look for work or get a job. First off, he is not depressed at all. He has seen the doctor for an evaluation and he is not depressed. He was lai...
A. 2 September 2012: The problem with ultimatums is that you have to follow through with them, if he is not depressed, and was happy to lose his job and is doing nothing pro active to find another, and you are looking down the barrel at losing your house, the first ... (read in full...)
Completely utterly totally besotted with her. What can I do? I will wait until she is free.
Q. So here I am once again asking for help from strangers, cause I simply can't take it anymore. I need help, because from an year or so I'm incredibly depressed. I know I'm young, but I just want to finally find the person I love. Please, I don't wa...
A. 2 September 2012: Its fin3 if you are prepared to wait for this girl to end her current relationship and be free to date you, I am personally acquainted with a man who fell in love with a girl when he was aged about 19, and decided she was the only one for him, and ... (read in full...)
Why disrespect my children?
Q. I am a proud parent of three children two girls and one boy .My son is the baby anyway my oldest daughter and son has the same father and he also has five other children and what I don't understand why he treats my kids different from them.He plays ...
A. 1 September 2012: If you want to shut him out, then don't do whatever it is he wants you to do. It sounds like he should have enough support elsewhere, either from his other five children if they are old enough, or from their mothers.
If he is looking for somewher... (read in full...)
Relationship is going down hill, after boyfriends comment about my weight!!
Q. Good day! Well what I am asking is down to this situation here me and my boyfriend of 8 month have decided to take a break after a long argument that blew the holiday to pieces. About a month ago we had wonderful holidays together. whiles watchi...
A. 31 August 2012: You asked, he said no. You pushed for an answer and got one. It sounds to me he didn't even mean it, but because you were wanting an answer he searched the memory banks and found something he thought would do, ie you mentioned you joined a gym once ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend feels like she has to chose between invitation from a large family or seeing me!
Q. my girlfriend and i are in college together. lately we've been having problems related to her family. her parents both come from large families, and each of them was one of at least four siblings, so she has tons of cousins, many with their own f...
A. 30 August 2012: If your girlfriend has made plans, and one hour before those plans are to be put in place her extended family phone and say "we'll pick you up for blah blah" she needs to say, sorry, I'd love to but I've made plans to .....
Her family are correct ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's future stepmom complains all the time. And seems to dress inappropriately for her age. Is she after my boyfriend?
Q. I need advice! So, my boyfriend's stepmom just came here recently from another country about two days ago and she's already complaining about america (She will also be getting citizenship through this marriage, so I still don't know why she comp...
A. 29 August 2012: Instead of deciding whether to like or dislike her after only two days why dont you give her a chance.
I think you are making snap judgements based on biases, you are making judgments about her background and country, how she dresses, her fina... (read in full...)
Should I leave my daughter with a family I trust while I go away to university?
Q. When I was 16 I got taken advantage of by my then-boyfriend #Don who was a few years older. I got pregnant and had my little girl #Rosa but Don walked out on us. My parents kicked me out and Rosa and I went to live with my friend #Troy and his ...
A. 29 August 2012: Time for you to stand on your own two feet, and time for you and Rosa to start being a family. Check your university and make sure you can access creche facilities and then go for it!
These years are the most developmental for Rosa, if you leav... (read in full...)
I'm terrified to be alone in the dark!
Q. this isnt really a relationship question or what ever but im scared of the dark and want help with it please im litrally terrofide to be alone in the dark or even at night for a 15 year old thats not right. what can i do !!...
A. 29 August 2012: I am a lot older than you, and I don't sleep in the dark. I leave my bedroom door open and the loo light on, it gives me enough light to be comfortable. I do the same when I go away and stay in hotels etc, I leave the door to the bathroom open just ... (read in full...)
Why is it that I always wind up with cheaters? I've never cheated!
Q. hello, i used to write on here a while ago when i used to need someplace to talk about the fact that i was sure my boyfriend at the time was cheating on me (which he was with several people). Anyway i broke up with my ex because i met someone i ...
A. 28 August 2012: C'mon, you said it yourself, he was seeing this girl when you and he met .... you dumped your cheating boyfriend to give yourself a chance with somebody else ..... that suggests you were, if not sexually emotionally, cheating on your ex.
We ge... (read in full...)
My ex told his sister that he would date me. How do I get it across that there's no chance for us again?
Q. So here it goes.. My ex and I have not spoken much at all since I broke up with him last December. We had a roller coaster relationship, on again off again for almost 2 years. He was my first boyfriend. I did everything for him, I was the only ...
A. 28 August 2012: You tell your friend you understand she would like to see her brother settled and in a relationship but that you are not going to provide it. She needs to understand your relationship with her has nothing to do with her drugged fcked brother. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is selfish and refuses to change
Q. I met my boyfriend almost 7 months ago - the relationship moved super fast - and he loved me right away, in fact, he told me he loved me after 4 days, we moved in 2 months in. But everything is seemingly going downhill now. He used to be so caring, ...
A. 28 August 2012: If you were my daughter I would have to accept you are an adult who has to make your own decisions, but I would also advise storing your important papers away from home, ie at your bank, and having enough money stashed somewhere for an emergency get ... (read in full...)
Is he being a typical rat?
Q. Hi I have known this guy for quite a few years I fancied him when I was 18 but he was more into my mate, fast forward 9 years I bumped into him in a club he was like you look great do you want a drink etc, gave him my numb he tried to get me to take ...
A. 27 August 2012: The fact he was up for a one night stand when you first reconnected suggests he is in it for the sex and not interested in anything else with you.
... (read in full...)
How you heard of a long distance marriage? Do they work out?
Q. Hello! So, I'm going to have to move away for work for three years. My soon to be beloved husband and I have been discussing this and we've figured out we'll be able to meet 10 days a month on average (between his days off and mine), plus three ...
A. 27 August 2012: There is a time frame in place, you both know this is going to end in three years. The amount of time you will be spending together and the time you are spending apart is not unusual in some industries, including mining, where a three weeks on, 1 ... (read in full...)
He's engaged, his fiancé is pregnant, but WE have feelings for each other. What should I do?
Q. I have a friend who is engaged to be married but is very unhappy in his relationship. We have recently discovered that we have strong feelings for eachother. The issue is his fiancee is 5 months pregnant (unplanned). We would never act on those ...
A. 27 August 2012: Get on with your life, remove yourself from his, unless you are prepared to accept he is a whole package, ie him and his pregnant fiance.
His confusion could simply be due to the unexpected changes in his life, a pregnant fiance whose body is ... (read in full...)
"This song is not about you" ?!
Q. Ive been dating this guy for about three years last night he turned on some music. He was particulalry playing songs from a personal play list. After hearing several songs. he search for a particular one and before the song came on he said, now ...
A. 27 August 2012: You'd be perfect if ..... I thought a string of words as I was reading your question, none of them nice.
Are you sure you need the plonker in your life, is he adding anything to it, enhancing your life in any way, does he bring joy and happines... (read in full...)
I looked into my dad's phone messages and think I've discovered he's having an affair!
Q. I am literally shaking with rage and I don't know who I can turn to right now. I think I have just discovered that my Dad is having an affair. My parents have been married for over 25 years now. I was having troubles with my phone so I looked around ...
A. 25 August 2012: In the UK at age 18 you can drink in public and not only vote but also stand for public office. Regardless of that when it comes to our parents all our childhood feelings rush to the fore.
As I said, don't approach your mother, neither you nor ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with someone who isn't my husband and think its time to walk away from my marriage
Q. I'm in love with someone other than my husband. What should I do?? My husband and I have been married for 6.5 years and we have two children. We only dated a few months before I became pregnant with our first child. I don't believe we ever got a ...
A. 25 August 2012: Back off from your relationship with another woman's husband. Down that road lies only unhappiness and sadness for many, including your children.
Your husband has had a wake up call, while he is still in this frame of mind get him to some cou... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is selfish and refuses to change
Q. I met my boyfriend almost 7 months ago - the relationship moved super fast - and he loved me right away, in fact, he told me he loved me after 4 days, we moved in 2 months in. But everything is seemingly going downhill now. He used to be so caring, ...
A. 25 August 2012: I fail to see how this man could be perfect in any way, he hurts you during sex and blames it on you, he uses you as a punching bag and blames it on you, he treats you like a sack of shit and its all your fault.
This man is very abusive. You are ... (read in full...)
Inappropriate txt from friends wife to my husband
Q. i just found out from my husband that she said ask your wife how she We have married friends that hang out with us. They have kids the same ages as ours. The wife is 12 years younger then me. She texted my husband a inappropriate message that my ...
A. 25 August 2012: Can't say what her intentions were in sending this suggestive text, but your comments certainly burst her balloon! Your husband, with his response, has let her know how much he loves you, your question to them both has let her know he doesn't keep ... (read in full...)
Our first date I offer to pay his says I can get the next bill..is that odd?
Q. I am looking for some advice. I was talking to this for like 2 weeks I came across online. We hit it off so much we had a date tonight. He wasn't what I expected to be honest. It's not that he's not good looking. He almost looks too good looking. I ...
A. 25 August 2012: That saying is quite common in the circles I mix in, amongst established friendships etc, it will usually mean, your turn to pay next time, but with people we hardly know its just an expression meaning we are happy to pay this time, but I ... (read in full...)
I looked into my dad's phone messages and think I've discovered he's having an affair!
Q. I am literally shaking with rage and I don't know who I can turn to right now. I think I have just discovered that my Dad is having an affair. My parents have been married for over 25 years now. I was having troubles with my phone so I looked around ...
A. 23 August 2012: Believe me, telling your mother is not going to save their marriage. I do not understand why another Aunt says you must tell for your sake, your siblings sake etc. Telling your mother is not going to make it all better at all!
My advise is to no... (read in full...)
His feelings are "complicated," and I'm heartbroken. What should I do?
Q. His feelings are "complicated," and I'm heartbroken. What should I do? I dated an older guy for 6 months. I'm 38; he's 60. He told me we were made for each other and he didn’t know sex could be as special as it was with me. He sent sweet text ...
A. 21 August 2012: I am trying not to be too blunt or too hurtful but you have been played by this man, played like a fiddle and he is still manipulating your feelings for him, being so nice, the old its not you, its me routine, and when it got no response the follow ... (read in full...)
I am concerned about the young man living in the house with my Cortland.
Q. I am 60 dating a retired 54 year old woman.she has a 22 yo son and his best friend age 22 year old friend living in the same house. I could accept her son in our relation but I am concerned about the male friend living in the same house in terms of ...
A. 21 August 2012: Why on earth are you assuming your girlfriend will have sexual relations with her son's friend? What are you basing this assumption on? Have you any thing other than the fact he is male and she female? Do you really have such a low opinion of her ... (read in full...)
Is it bad to not go home to visit parents except during holiday season?
Q. Is it bad to not go home to visit parents except during holiday season? I am getting static from my family, my mother mostly, because I didn’t go visit them this summer. A friend of mine’s family has a beach house and I spent time there but I wasn’t ...
A. 21 August 2012: Is it so bad to visit your mother, is she really such a pain in the backside you wont bother going to visit even if she pays for the ticket. Is the life you are living right now so full you can't afford to give your mother one lousy week just ... (read in full...)
Does being a stay at home mom mean I have no say in this relationship??
Q. Do I have no say over anything because I am a stay at home mom and I don't make any money? Does that give my husband the right to act anyway he wants because he is the sole bread winner and I just have to except all the things he does.. He can ...
A. 21 August 2012: NO! Being a stay at home mum does not mean you have no say, nor does it mean you are a lesser being than your husband. A marriage is a partnership, sometimes the balance goes this way and sometimes it goes that, but on the whole you are both equal. ... (read in full...)
I don't understand his lack of communication.
Q. My husband and I have been separated for three years and are currently going through a divorce. We have no children, and just before my divorce began, I met a man about 20 years older than me who asked me out. I wasn’t looking for anyone, but we hit ...
A. 12 August 2012: Woops, divorce papers filed, time for him to do a runner, just in case you get any ideas!
I think he is one of those who prey on vulnerable women,for them the thrill is spinning a story to suck you in (my wife hurt me real bad, please don't be... (read in full...)
He says I scare the hell out of him!
Q. What does it mean when the man your interested in says to you, "you scare the hell out of me"?...
A. 11 August 2012: Depends on the context, but maybe you are trying to hard to 'get him'. You could scare him a little more by asking him for clarification.... (read in full...)
How can I stop my ex asking me for money?
Q. hi. my ex girlfriend keeps asking me for money for fags and food because i live at home and have no bills to pay and she has her own place with bills and rent but isnt working, she on benefits. she is an ex who i have never lived with and wasnt ...
A. 11 August 2012: don't lie to her, don't tell her you can't because you are busy, tell her the truth, print this off and next time she contacts either text or tell her this:
I am not a charitable institution, I owe you nothing, if you can't afford to buy cigarett... (read in full...)
My timing has always been off. I think my married friend has feelings for me. How can I best handle this situation?
Q. I find myself in love with someone who is married. he and I have known each other for 15 years and I felt something the first time I met him, but I was engaged. When I got separated he had just gotten married....and so on...timing is awful. I wa...
A. 11 August 2012: Is the man you are currently with nice enough to deserve a loving relationship with a woman who loves him? If the answer is yes, you need to leave and give him the chance of being loved, its only fair.
If that then leaves you free to pursue a... (read in full...)
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