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*iggles1992
writes:My husband and I have been married for 2 years. We aslo have to kids. Recently I found out that he has been talking to my sister. He told her that he doesnt love me anymore. He loves her. That he wanted to be with her if she would give him a chance he would leave me and go with her. My sister doesn't want anything to do with him. She doesn't text him back and she deleted him off facebook. If he didn't love my why would he married me and had kids with me.
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (13 May 2013):
 Honey, pack your bags and leave and dont look back. He is just not worth analysing and trying to figure out why. He is reall an a$$ to go after your sister. Just make sure you get a good lawyer and make him pay fianncially.
The longer you stay in this relationship you will constantly need to be checking up if he seeing another woman.
Goodluck
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2013): As iAmHereToHelpYou stated, this is your THIRD post in THREE days:http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-doesnt-my-husband-want-us-to-stop.htmlhttp://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-husband-is-using-money-he-used-to.htmlI'm sorry, but nobody can tell you whatever it is you so desperately want to hear. The cold harsh reality is you are a naïve, gullible, misguided, guileless young woman who tragically rushed into a disastrous marriage and quickly conceived two children with an immature, self-absorbed jerk who is simply incapable of behaving like a responsible husband and father. Or else you're a young woman with a very active imagination.In either case, you need professional help to resolve your long-term, deep-seated issues.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (12 May 2013):
This is about as serious as it gets. IF it’s true, it’s hard to see how your marriage can survive. Even if he apologises and says it was all a mistake, you’re not going to trust him so you’ll make yourselves utterly miserable. So it’s really important that you are 100% sure of the facts. Have you seen these exchanges? IS it just your sister’s word and could she have any reason to make it up or not tell you the full story?
Don’t do anything drastic unless you’re confident about this. It’s hard to advise you because you don’t tell us how you found out about this and what evidence there is. If it’s playing on your mind but you’re not sure, talk to your husband. Explain that you’ve become aware of some things and just wanted to clarify with him what happened. Don’t accuse, be calm and listen.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (12 May 2013):
 Are you 100% absolutely sure your sister, providing she is the one who told you, is telling the truth??
Being as young as you are you probably dont have many savings or assets, but first things first, protect what ever you can of any money or assets you do have, cancel any credit cards you share with him, or have his name taken off them. The reason I suggest this is because this man is not in a committed relationship, and on top of that he is dumb, what sort of man tries to hook up with his wife's sister?
Once you have done all you can to protect yourself and your kids financially kick his sorry arse to the curb! Change the locks and don't let him back in. Make sure friends and family know just what sort of jerk he is, be strong.
Grieve a bit, weep a bit and then decide what sort of future you are going to build for you and your children, your husband has shown himself to be a loser, as opposite to a keeper, and it is now up to you to be the role model and leader.
Sending you peace and light!
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reader, human_male  +, writes (12 May 2013):
 Get proof of what he said to your sister for the lawyers, so you can get a good divorce settlement.
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