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writes:Hi i have a son who is nearly 5 his dad has never seen him he told me to have a abortion or he was going to get someone to make me miscarry i had my son and brought him up alone but his dad has tried to get in contact with me he has nit paid a penny towards maintenance and his name is not on the birth certificate does he have any legal rights thank you
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (17 May 2013):
 IF he can prove he is the father he will have legal rights AND responsibilities.
Personally you should not have to go this alone. His parents may want to embrace this grandchild anyway.
I would contact a lawyer and find out how to get a paternity test and court ordered child support garnished out of his wages. THEN if he WANTS to see/meet his child, I would make sure based on his THREATS to make you miscarry that he have ONLY court supervised visitation if he wants it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2013): Talk to a lawyer. He threatened to make you miscarry and has never paid any support and is not on the birth cert. If he should one day decide now suddenly he wants to be acknowledged as the father he shouldn't be allowed to but you need to talk to a lawyer how to ensure that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2013): I doubt if he does. It would take a paternity test for a court to change anything from the way it is now. He would have to catch up on back support if he pushed it.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (17 May 2013):
 He would need to prove he is the father, via a court order, if he wants contact.
He may decide to apply through the courts, if he is seriously wanting to be acknowledged as the father, but I doubt he will do this, unless he has very strong reasons.
He needs to be aware that if he does go down this path there will then be court orders put in place for him to be paying regular maintenance, and that you will be seeking legal advise as to how to claim back payments, as well as compensation for his treatment and threats when you first discovered you were pregnant.
If he is the sort of man who would threaten to cause a miscarriage I would strongly suggest you seek legal advise regardless of what he is doing, to find out what your rights and responsibilities are, and to ensure you and your child remain secure and safe.
Let us know how you get on.
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