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writes:I've engaged in a texting relationship with a business associate whom I've known for many years now. He has swept me off my "feet" with talks of foot rubs and beyond. He is an Aries man of a certain age and very married a successful business which keeps him on the "road" 75% out of the year. I've always assumed he has had "lovers" at every "port" so to speak and I've known me for a very long time, but I had no desire for him until 3 months ago when an innocent business text turned flirtatious. It happened for the first time a year ago, and I ignored it, thinking he was just being funny. But the 2nd time again, he wrote that he found me sexy whenever he visited the office and I had my shoes off. He has a thing for feet. He has promised me amazing and life changing foot rubs and pampering beyond the ankles. So the has sailed into town twice since and he is here now and still trying to squeeze me into his very busy schedule. I am starting to think that he is stringing me along. I have told him once that I think it's best we just continue as we were before because there was no harm, no foul, but he said absolutely not, that good things are worth the wait, and that we can never go back to before... so 2 and half months of texting and sexting and now he's here and we have yet to be together. He keeps telling me to have patience. Being a cancer it's difficult for me not to get my feelings hurt. Should I just tell him that I'm moving on for good? or wait? He'll be leaving in a few days and I just don't think it'll happen this time around and I don't know if he's just all talk now... and was never really serious about being with me. I'm a distraction to fill the void of his life on the road...
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust wanted to update that I was so encouraged by these positive responses that I finally had the courage to end my texting "relationship". I've always known it's a bad idea, but all your comments gave me the courage to let him go. What is it about random opinions? thank you. oh, i broke it off in a text. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionLadies and Gentleman, you all made me cry and smile, thank you! Although I have girl friends who have all weighed in on this, some for it, some totally against it, they all support me because they love me. But hearing from other women and the kind gentleman who can be more objective has driven all the things I've been feeling home. I agree with everything you all said, especially Human Male, I agree 100%. I will take everything you said into account. I am seeing him tonight at a work function. I'm afraid feelings are involved which makes it harder ... stupid cancer that I am ... but I am going to tell him to hit the road, no pun intended. Thank you!
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (11 May 2013):
 Ring-a-ling-a-ling! Does the fact he is married not ring the warning bells for you?
What are you expecting from this man who you describe as 'very married". An affair, a quick roll in the hay when ever he is passing through? Will you be happy with that, or are you also hoping some of the fruits of his 'successful business' will drop in your yard?
He could be stringing you along, or he may just be indulging in what he sees as harmless flirtation, if he was serious about hooking up with you it would have happened already. The fact he is in town and trying to squeeze you in suggests you are not a priority, this fish is not only not available to be caught, but also not willing. Let it go and find somebody who is not only available but interested.
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reader, Intrigued3000  +, writes (11 May 2013):
 I think you are right on all counts. His actions do not match his words. He is stringing you along for now until he has nothing better to do and then he'll come around. He probably senses that you are lonely and vulnerable and will keep you on the back burner for a time that's convenient to him.
Play the field and don't put all your eggs in his basket. He sounds flaky and will hurt you. He's probably good for a once in a blue moon kind of fling. If you want a good, loving relationship with a man who will spend time with you, look elsewhere.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2013): It's just the opposite..HE is a distraction to fill a void in your life.
Girl, you know better, he is a married man. Back off, your cancer arse doesn't want that karma.
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reader, human_male  +, writes (11 May 2013):
 I think you're right. People make time to see people if they really want to. I never buy the "I want to but I'm busy." Excuse. Sure we all have busy lives, but we find the time if we really want to see someone.
So either accept it for what it is, a bit of flirtatious dirversion, or block him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2013): Text lover boy and give him a time and place to meet you. If he cant do it then tell him to go pound salt. enough is enough. what the hell here? You deserve real flesh and blood.
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