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writes:Hello. I am trying to find advice regarding facebook. My boyfriend and I have been together for two years, we live together and I am pregnant. It took him a year to change his relationship status from single to in a relationship, and thats only because I said something. My concern is that we are not facebook friends. I know he doesnt have pictures of us up. I dont want this to sound childish. I dont need to be his facebook friend, I just feel as if he is hiding something. Ive never had a boyfriend that didnt add me as a friend, and put up pictures. Im concerned he wants to keep his options open or something, he hasnt even told all his family im pregnant! Please share your thoughs. Should I just let it go?
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reader, llifton +, writes (13 January 2014):
 I would prefer not to be friends on fb with the person I'm with. So much less drama and needless, petty arguments.
Do you know how many divorced are caused, or are indirectly related to fb issues and fights? It's insane. Google it.
Anyway, I don't find it weird at all. But to each their own, I suppose. But if he gives you no reason not to trust him, I say you're definitely over-reacting
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reader, like I see it +, writes (12 January 2014):
 I agree, something is up. The only partner I've had who didn't want Facebook to know he had a GF was also "keeping his options open." Telling prospective dates you already have a girlfriend kind of cuts into the caliber of girls who are still willing to play ball, you know?
Have you actually met his family, before you were pregnant? Has he given you an explanation as to why he won't add you as a friend? If no to both of the above, I'm afraid he may be with you to pass the time while looking for someone "better."
Ask him about it. Be direct, and be prepared to stand up for the emotional and financial well-being of yourself and your child if you find out he's seeing other girls behind your back.
Good luck and best wishes.
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reader, Adeboyefa  +, writes (12 January 2014):
 He has a lot to hide. He should not only add you as a Facebook friend but list you in the Relationship section.If you know his family members,please send someone to do an underground research for you. Alternatively,look out for any female bearing his surname on his friend list ,add her as your friend and regularly exchange messages with her. He may be married and wasting your time. I hope you know some couples live apart because of job transfers. But whatever happens, please don't abort that baby. At worst, you may give him/her up for adoption in the event of a break-up. Don't destroy that child or endanger your life and/or fertility.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (12 January 2014):
 If you life together and you are pregnant, why isn't he telling his friends and family .... I think your concerns are valid.
Ask him when he is going to announce your pregnancy to his friends and family, and ask him what he is hiding from you on facebook.
It is very important that you remain calm, but on track. If he wont, or cant answer these very valid questions, don't back down, it does sound as if he is keeping his options open!
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