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writes:My girl said to me my heels higher then your standerd. Can anybody tell me wat does it means pplss Reply to this Question
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reader, person12345  +, writes (5 January 2014):
 She was saying you have very very very low standards.
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female
reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (5 January 2014):
 She insulted you...BIG time. She meant that your standards are really low and even the heels of her shoes are higher than your standards.
Did you have a big fight with her? Have you cheated on her? Something has really upset her to have made such a comment
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reader, Abella +, writes (5 January 2014):
 First of all it could be a complete misunderstanding and she may have repeated a throw-away line that she thought was cute and funny.
or not.
There may be a simmering issue that you have not yet realized is simmering and starting to cause some tension in the relationship.
Thus, if it is this latter scenario, then it all depends on what you have done to make her feel so let down.
Let me count the ways:
1. Have you lied to her?
2. Have you not met a promise you made to her?
3. Have you been spending too much time (for her) playing online games?
4. Are you especially messy at home?
5. Do you forget to shower occasionally and forget the deoderant as well?
6. Did you forget her birthday, Christmas present?
7. Did you discuss (with your guy friends) intimate details of your relationship such that it may have come to her attention that you did that
8. Do you gamble excessively (according to her)
9. Do you drive recklessly and too fast?
10 do you forget to pay your bills on time and that fact does not bother you
11. Have you been unfaithful in the last 3 months, or in the last few weeks?
12. Are you sometimes rude or you get drunk and act up badly and by doing so you embarrass her in public?
13. Do you eat in a sloppy manner
14. DO you invite all your guy friends around at the last minute and forget to tell her?
15. Are you constantly late for everything you agree to do?
16. whatever else you can think of where her standards are different to your standards
She is implying that you have upset her, whereby she has come to believe that your standards (of behaviour or attitude or your actions) are lower standards than the standards that are the norm for her.
Whatever it is that you are alleged to have done you have some fence mending and some bridge building to to. This is so that you can discover what it is you are alleged to have done. And once you know, to explain yourself to her.
And If it comes to pass that you did do something that has really upset her (as it violates trust or it makes her wonder if you are the guy for her) then you will need to consider your next action.
That action could be that you agree to differ.
Or that you explore the differences between you and work out where you do agree. And work on the areas where you do not agree. And come to some sort of agreement on the standards that will remain Core Values. Versus the ones where you agree to compromise or lift standards.
Or it may result in the two of you breaking up if you cannot work these differences out.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (5 January 2014):
 She meant you have very low standards, your girl is not impressed with some aspect of your personality or character. You need to think about whatever it was you said or did to cause her to make that remark.
If you are unsure, ask her!
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