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female
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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend who is18 slept with my best friend during our entire one year relationship . He says that he is sorry and doesn't know why he did it bit wants me to give him another chance
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reader, Serpico  +, writes (7 January 2014):
Surround yourself with people of high moral fiber.
Proceed accordingly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2014): Dump him without showing any emotion, work out and strut your stuff, show him what he lost :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2014): no way.. tell them both to get lost
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reader, Ciar +, writes (5 January 2014):
 He should have made better use of the first chance, especially seeing as he had a whole year.
Send him packing. No explanations are necessary and don't get into any discussions about the past. Just cut him completely out of your life along with your former best friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2014): i know you probably want someone to say its ok to give him another chance, especially if you are in love with him, but ive been there before and believe me once a cheat always a cheat. if there is the small possibility that he can change, and wont cheat again, firstly he needs to be man enough to give you a real explanation as to the hows and whys or it is impossible for you both to move forward, so he first of all needs to discus why it happened and why he plans on rebuilding your trust. the second issue with staying together is can you forgive him, will you always be looking over his shoulder, as if you agree to give him another chance you cannot beat him up about it daily, or you mistrust and paranoia isn't giving him the chance to prove himself.
I have been in this situation and was given every promise in the world that he wouldn't do it again, but im afraid to say he did again and again, until I woke up and realised enough is enough, and now Im in a lovely relationship with a guy I can trust 100% which is so much healthier than constantly worrying about what he is up to and with who, you deserve to be happy, and if you make the decision to stay I wish you luck, as it will be hard, if you decide to start again, the love of your life could be waiting right around the corner and theres no need to waist your time on guys who don't respect you enough to stay faithfull to you !
good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2014): He doesn't know why he did it? Then you don't know why you should stay with him. Dump them both, they're scum.
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reader, M Proops  +, writes (5 January 2014):
You need to dump your boyfriend and your so-called best friend.They're both traitors and deserve one another,don't bother forgiving them.
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reader, Brokenv +, writes (5 January 2014):
These are great lessons to learn early on. Both of them are not trustworthy to have in your life. Move on, look Great! and enjoy a new happier life without them.
You deserve it!
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (5 January 2014):
 Firstly I hope that so called 'best friend' is now your former best friend, because she ain't no friend of yours!
Why on earth would your boyfriend expect you to give him another chance, phooey to that and phooey to him.
You don't need people like these in your life, tell him you think your former best friend is probably more his type, ie liars and cheats, and have nothing to do with either of them, ever again!!
Honestly, why would you even consider giving him another chance!
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reader, llifton +, writes (5 January 2014):
 you tell your ex and your "friend" to get the hell out of your life. end of story.
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